I have been working in an IT company for 3 years. The team is good and there are no petty intrigues or things that irritate or create problems, but one of our colleagues, who falls for the man after the boss in the company, openly does not like me and hates me. With his head held high and disgusted, he passes me and ignores me for every single thing. And there is no real reason. Always treat him politely. He behaves in a similar way with almost all colleagues. He teases me with trifles and makes an elephant out of a fly. He tries to put a lot of guilt on me, for mistakes that my colleagues make, he doesn't even make a remark to them, but he gets annoyed with me. I have no problem with any of the company. Everyone does their job and even he works a lot, he is quite good for our field, but as a human relationship he is not good for anything. He always wants him to be the center of attention, he wants to rob all the sheep, he should command what will happen and everyone should be silent and agree. And if he sees serious competition in front of him, he behaves in a similar way as he treats me. There is no elementary approach to people. He treats everything with command and imposition of opinion, with shouting, with nerves, with malice. Not only does he show them to his older colleagues, but it is obvious in his eyes that he feels the same way about them. Talking to him will not fix things, because even when he makes mistakes and they are obvious to everyone, he considers himself right. He doesn't like anyone to know more than him. He always wants him to say what will happen. There have been situations and the whole company opposes something, but with force and malice he imposes his own, just to become his own. Ego to the sky. How do I deal with such an idiot? When I don't pay attention to him, I'm better. There will be no conversation with the boss either, because he has authorized him, and our boss is such that he doesn't care about anything. The important thing is that his work and business go well. A bit striking for a company in our industry, but a lot of work and when we do it everything goes well from a financial point of view. It is clear to me that there is one everywhere among people, but whether this big ego, if I answer with indifference, will get worse or it doesn't matter. I have been working for the company for several months after its establishment. Before that, another person was in his place, but he left and went abroad. Then they put this idiot, who rose to the sky and thought he was the greatest. but a lot of work and when we do it everything goes well from a financial point of view. It is clear to me that there is one everywhere among people, but whether this big ego, if I answer with indifference, will get worse or it doesn't matter. I have been working for the company for several months after its establishment. Before that, another person was in his place, but he left and went abroad. Then they put this idiot, who rose to the sky and thought he was the greatest. but a lot of work and when we do it everything goes well from a financial point of view. It is clear to me that there is one everywhere among people, but whether this big ego, if I answer with indifference, will get worse or it doesn't matter. I have been working for the company for several months after its establishment. Before that, another person was in his place, but he left and went abroad. Then they put this idiot, who rose to the sky and thought he was the greatest.
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He is afraid of you because he obviously thinks you are his competition. Use this against him as you crush him, ironize him, laugh at him, shout well and stay calm - he will be eaten by malice. If you are too high-pitched, you go to the boss very upset and explain to him how such behavior oppresses you and prevents you from doing your job, to sit down to talk to him without telling him, you complained to me, otherwise he will ruin you. I did so with the boss when he harassed me and stopped unexpectedly. Remember, I'm afraid of you :).
Prosot, say you don't want to talk to him. When he is at work, ask him for short, accurate and clear communication. When it comes to something side, ask what this has to do with work, and if it continues, go and tell your boss that it slows down the work process and money is lost. If your boss doesn't care, then my advice is, unless you're waiting to get some shares (which you should get if you're with the company as a startup), then get out of there right away.
As you described them, you have no way of fixing your colleague's shoddy attitude toward you. At least do you get paid well? Do you get what you think you deserve for the work you do? If so, then "stay grandma ..." because there are no perfect things in life. If not, then it is not worth both to suffer humiliation and not to be given good money. In the second case, he showed little dignity and opposed simplicity and whatever the sword showed. There is a demand for staff in your field, after all.
Why not say how many people work in your company and whether you are a man or a woman. You sound like a woman because a man is not capable of such complaints.
At my old job, the "boss", who was a clean face, but pretended that the company was his ... anyway, so he crushed me in the same way. But I'm a woman ... I was flawless, but I was crushed hard. I ignored him and worked and pretended not to see anything. He was furious at this. So I know that the best solution is not to have a reaction on your part, so you won't feed him as he is called and he will be sick that he can't touch you ... It doesn't matter how many people work number 4, everyone is a man and deserves a normal attitude ... Author, ignore and if it doesn't work out, consider changing jobs. Just away from this nasty guy.
People said, "Kill the idiot in silence." This one is obviously one of the common idiots who are everywhere. Try to ignore it for a while, but completely and see how things turn out. Usually this is a decent solution, because those who are ignored at some point see that their number does not pass and give up. If he no longer gives up, you have to take more serious measures and go to your boss, because it is obvious that you are doing a good job, and you are certainly a valuable staff. I have never understood people like this - they went to work somewhere and intrigue, irritate, etc. No work and elementary culture.
If your job is expensive - last and pretend you don't notice. Don't tell him or anyone else, because the exposed coward becomes a scoundrel. That's how I lost my job. What is it for you to do justice. There will always be a lot of leadership positions, but at least as long as you last, there will be no reason to work against you.
Boys and girls, you have described your problems well, but it is usually those who adjust, not those who care, who succeed in their work. I will give you a piece of advice that you can use if you want to grow. Go to the boss and ask for his opinion on everything you do. The duller he is, the more someone needs to ask and praise him. Everyone loves flattery, even if they know it is not true and is not sincere. Ask about everything, show what you did and ask for his opinion. Do what he says and you will be fine. Your hour will come. A bigger boss will come, ask why and ask for your opinion, then you will find what you need. But now, so you don't have a problem, caress the fool. He will be happy. Tell him he knows better that you did something, but his opinion is important to you, etc. And try to look honest.
Nemer 4 toya on ...!? If you are a man, can't such an attitude hurt you? The man obviously has dignity and does not like anyone to undermine him. This is not a complaint, but a sharing for advice. Clear?
ignore and email communication. Minimum contacts, clerk behavior, do not discuss it with anyone even spit it out. Still, you can always approach it with humor. This will make him even more powerless. The time comes for such people and they find their master. You will only watch the circus from the sides. We had one as a boss. One day in the open office, right in the middle with a colleague, one did not fight. He left a month later.
Do your job properly and everything will hurt. We do not go to work to like and love each other, but to work.
Or just give BGN 300-400 to Anna to some neighborhood brothers so that their hands will break ....
"Go to the boss and ask for his opinion on everything you do. The duller he is, the more someone needs to ask and praise him." Yes, Salingars Ltd. may have similar tactics, but beyond such excuses for companies, normal people expect employees who do not need auxiliary wheels. We call such employees interns and they usually have a manager in charge of them.
Dear visitors, do you pay attention to the text. At the beginning the author says that she has been working in an IT company for 3 years and describes the working conditions in this company caused by one of her colleagues, who with her head held high and disgusted bypasses her and ignores her for every single thing. This same colleague treats everything with shouting, with nerves, with malice. He is an idiot in her eyes. I do not believe that such a company has such an employee as described by the author. But once he sees serious competition in front of him, he behaves in a similar way as he behaves with it. Well, if he ignores you in disgust and ignores everything, then he ignores them and others like you. Then what are we talking about, nerves and malice? It seems that the author wants to present that she is his big competition. For me, this story is made up, the author wants to point out that she is better than him, and at the same time he wants to humiliate him as much as possible. Remember that the author is a great feminist.
There is one in each company. You don't pay attention to him and that's it. Avoid him. In the morning, when you see him, you say "Good morning" and that's it. Accept that your salary includes putting up with him :)