Hello. For some time I have been trying to find a girlfriend and I have focused on the age group 23-29, which I consider the most suitable for my age (around 30). One problem is that it doesn't work. The other problem is that I last had a girlfriend 8 years ago. Before we became boyfriends, we were 17-20. Then I was much more creative and able to flirt. I am no longer. Maybe I'm not, because it's easier to flirt with a 16-17-18 year old girl than with a 23-25-27. The other possibility is that I just don't know how to do it with older girls. I am aware that the smaller ones are looking for more fun and the bigger ones for security. From here, I conclude again that either I look like an insecure man or I don't know how to pretend to be. I live alone on the floor of a house and work a stable job. I do not have a car. In face and body I am not who knows what, but this is hardly the main problem. So .. How do I flirt with girls who are over 22-23 years old, have completed their education or have a stable work experience? These are the main criteria that tell me that I will be able to rely on it. What should I tell them? Or not to talk much, but to take them to different places, after a short flirtation? How to act? I met a girl at 27 online, we wrote a little and a month later we went out. Then again - a month and going out, but in the end nothing happened. Maybe I was wrong not to start over with the personal questions "What are you looking for?", Etc.
It doesn't bother me that I'm wrong, it's even better because I'm learning. I tolerate criticism, give boldly. have they completed their education or have a stable work experience? These are the main criteria that tell me that I will be able to rely on it. What should I tell them? Or not to talk much, but to take them to different places, after a short flirtation? How to act? I met a girl at 27 online, we wrote a little and a month later we went out. Then again - a month and going out, but in the end nothing happened. Maybe I was wrong not to start over with the personal questions "What are you looking for?", Etc. It doesn't bother me that I'm wrong, it's even better because I'm learning. I tolerate criticism, give boldly. have they completed their education or have a stable work experience? These are the main criteria that tell me that I will be able to rely on it. What should I tell them? Or not to talk much, but to take them to different places, after a short flirtation? How to act? I met a girl at 27 online, we wrote a little and a month later we went out. Then again - a month and going out, but in the end nothing happened. Maybe I was wrong not to start over with the personal questions "What are you looking for?", Etc. It doesn't bother me that I'm wrong, it's even better because I'm learning. I tolerate criticism, give boldly. but in the end nothing happened. Maybe I was wrong not to start over with the personal questions "What are you looking for?", Etc. It doesn't bother me that I'm wrong, it's even better because I'm learning. I tolerate criticism, give boldly. but in the end nothing happened. Maybe I was wrong not to start over with the personal questions "What are you looking for?", Etc. It doesn't bother me that I'm wrong, it's even better because I'm learning. I tolerate criticism, give boldly.
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You have rightly felt that after one age women start looking for much more stable partners en masse. Not having a car can be a problem for some women, but there are certainly some for whom it doesn't matter so much if you compensate in other areas. After all, there is no universal recipe - as women are different, so each recipe is different. But there are basic principles - a well-maintained appearance with clothes that they enjoy; confidence in behavior and, accordingly, confidence in voice, gait, etc .; desire to lead as a whole and not to be led; a sense of humor ... and here we start with the personal attitude: it is important to be interested in it. Women are even more narcissistic than men by birth and they like it when others are interested in them and when they notice details (for example, notice what her earrings are like, how she is dressed, etc.) ... It is important to attend the meeting, not to be somewhere mentally. If necessary, meditate. Keep in mind that there are often women on the sites who have problems communicating, bonding, and men in general. And I've dated women on sites - including those who at 35 haven't had serious relationships yet. The very behavior of the woman shows that she is still crazy and is not looking for a serious man, although she claims the opposite. She goes to a disco to get drunk and push. Then she complains that the men were only looking for sex and therefore she was not engaged. Just as there are men who run away from commitment and talk about how bad women are, so there are women who also run away, subconsciously, from commitment and talk about how there were no decent men. That's why it's important not to get so depressed if you don't get one, but to move on. He also draws conclusions about his behavior from the meetings. Give yourself feedback.
First you need to know that everyone is different. There is also a big difference in character between a girl aged 23-24 and a woman aged 28-29. The latter are already people with built characters.
You are not entirely right that women over 22 are looking for security and women under these are looking for fun. It can apply to a large part of the female class, but it is also strictly individual. Some people are destined to be family-oriented, while others spend most of their lives looking for fun. Black Sabbath
I directly offer sponsorship, we go out for a few weeks, I also buy phone rags and expensive perfumes, and when I'm tired of changing. I have three companies that I manage almost alone and I just don't have time to flirt ... Surely if I find my partner I will behave differently, but so far I haven't come across any that is a real thrill for me.
You're just tanned and you're wondering what to talk to someone about. You are not really looking for a connection, but just to fulfill your needs. Nothing bad. But don't hide behind this facade and convince yourself that you are looking for a serious relationship or something like that. Be honest with yourself about what exactly you want. Being with someone for an evening or a really serious relationship. Because if you were looking for a serious and deep relationship, you would know what you require, how to behave and what to talk about with your potential girlfriend X.
Sedentary young women in this range do not tolerate various clichés and scenarios. There were often men around me who tried different tactics to "catch" me. He is rude and definitely tells me that this person just has nothing to show me, so he tests various learned tactics in the name of getting the desired piece from me. To impress a woman like me, you will need several qualities and skills: - to be authentic and to be yourself in any situation - to be a good person and to be kind to me - to take a keen interest in me and my life - to be stable and not in a hurry for anything - sex, cohabitation, marriage, etc. - to have fun from the heart and to be calm when you are with me This is in my case, in general. Every woman is different and the woman you like may want completely different things. So just talk to the lady, listen to her, find out what she wants and see if you can offer her what she needs. Could she be the woman next to you too :) Share your interests, do things together, get to know each other. Tactics and nonsense will not work, they go to teenagers and immature women. F27
In my opinion, there is something childish in each of these girls who have set foot on Earth, developed and worked hard. Rule number 1 - make her laugh, something fun, amusing. See what your common interests are. Go to different places (not just boring restaurants). Places that would intrigue both. Talk about different topics. In general, the topics should come from within. Not struggling with what to say to make contact. I am 22 myself, happily engaged. But won quite hard. With a lot of gestures, crazy ideas, and then a certain amount of compromises. I wish you success with the ladies. Just be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you are not just to please yourself. Don't have expectations and just (in the beginning) go out to have a good time. Serious things happen slowly and easily.
To 6 - With these pretensions and arrogance I would not deal with you even if you were the last on earth and the most beautiful ever born. Such an attitude is disgusting.
Your problem is that you are looking for some algorithm. To say this and that and the work to be done. The truth is that such an algorithm does not exist, or at least is not universal. Just feel at the moment what to say and follow the reaction and then correct if necessary. The basic idea is that people in general are much more emotional than rational. They themselves do not know exactly what they want, incl. and men we are, but they to a greater extent. Abstain from such things as number 6. Believe me, no one will appreciate that you have or do not have a car or a house or that you are not the first handsome man more than to provoke emotion in her. I'm not saying that the former don't affect, but emotions do much more. So it doesn't matter what you say, what you have and what you look like, but to have a normal casual conversation, to make her laugh (that doesn't mean telling stupid jokes, and to have a sense of humor and to be inventive), to provoke in her some sexual tension (physical touch helps me) and all sorts of things. Of course, you have to feel when the time is right. For example, you can't barely know each other and you touch her hair. Well, unless it's one that requires a very direct approach. It is also very important not to get stressed or to look like a niece. Just relaxed, natural, calmly confident, without too much philology, you have to give yourself a little weight, without being too much, because it becomes both artificial and ridiculous. What matters is what you radiate, your energy. If, for example, you complain or are internally afraid of being fired, or, for example, your salary has been delayed and you feel internally depressed, it probably won't happen. If you want to like yourself too much and are constantly worried about whether this step was good or you failed, it will not work either. They feel this wonderfully. They want to be guided, not a pet that takes them too seriously. In principle, it is not easy to explain everything to you in words, you just need a sense and improvisation on the spot. I'm just throwing it at you in the way I can think of. Much depends on the situation itself. If it is a chance meeting, you should be more direct, for example, and look for a quick solution, because then you will not have the opportunity. And if you get her phone, you just stop there and then call in a few days, you don't dig too deep, because you value your time, and you risk screwing things up, and she has to stay with the feeling of something unfinished, but still to have engaged her enough, so as not to ignore you later in the call. If you are colleagues, for example, it is completely different. There you have to start a normal conversation, then gradually move on to more personal topics, trying to separate her from the herd and talk in private, because otherwise she will dreamlessly play it inaccessible to people and she will believe that she does not want anything. with you. He needs to relax in your company. Then you watch how it reacts and where it allows you to enter. Then already physical contact and constant change of gentlemanly behavior with slightly matchmaking. Otherwise you enter the column "nothing special" or outright "boring". You have to stand out from everyone else and keep your emotions and alert, because otherwise you will just mix with the general background and you will be erased from her consciousness. There are many more things, but I can't explain them to you in 2 words, because I have realized all this in the course of my experience. It matters, for example, whether it is free and from when, and why it broke with its front one. These are guidelines for you in which direction to look for emotions. If he is a more active dynamic person to look for more fun things, if he is a more serious type to look for a way to assume that you are serious. For example, if she is more passionate and open, you should have hotter conversations. BUT whatever it is, it shouldn't be too direct, because it turns out as if you are looking for its approval, you brag about such things yourself. What will repel her, you have to know how to tell her both to tell her something else and to manipulate her to think for herself, and so it will seem that she actually falls in love with herself, without you pointing out. Did she feel that you were trying to impute something to her, up to there. You have to be careful while looking natural.
Women want someone with money, an inflated father. That's what they want.
Man, there is no range of years that determines their character, priorities and clarity about what they want. Women are illogical creatures and hyper-serious manipulators. There is no woman who knows what she wants to wear or what she wants from life. Today he can want you, seeing in you potential, security, protection, tenderness, kind attitude, etc., and tomorrow he will literally replace you with some MOLD or a brainless peasant! I have the feeling that they are extremely emotional, but how to say it, it's kind of windy. I don't think there is a woman who truly believes in love and is capable of it. Especially if she is beautiful, then she will receive a lot of false attention in most cases, which will dilute her sober judgment of reality. Confused creatures who don't know what they want. They easily allow the next and the next into their soul and heart, to cloud their thoughts. I am extremely disappointed with women in general. The specific advice I can give you on the subject is to behave in the beginning PULL and at a distance, as if you are not as interested as you like a woman! If you feel that you are tied in a towel - you will have no chance with her, neither for sex nor for love! A sense of humor helps a lot in the beginning to break the plaster, but do not overdo it. Mandatory withdrawal at the beginning, but not indefinitely, of course. Once you've established a relationship, NEVER tell her how much you love her, NEVER. Show with actions, but refrain with words. Do not open yourself to the bottom of your soul in front of her, unless she herself has done it and proved in time many times her love for you with ACTIONS, not words! That is, she bore you several children, she hasn't let go of your hand for a second, she doesn't go to parties alone, she slows down, she doesn't give you any reasons for jealousy and you feel that you really are her husband. Good luck man, I'm 37 years old and I've been physically with over 100 women and emotionally with about 5 (they all crashed and I had a very painful experience).
Don't write with just one with more and go out with them ... The one that stays ... Don't bother to pretend to be something you're not looking for a serious girlfriend after all .... There's no point in circuses, but it's for the purpose nice to buy a car for yourself ... To go out of town from left to right to make memories. These things bring people together.
As a woman of 30, I will tell you that if a man sticks to me to rely on me, I will beat his jester immediately. Many men have learned to lie on a woman's back and look for the security that a woman can give you through work, income, housing and the like. Everyone is for themselves and no one owes you. And even before you touch one, you expect to rely on it - slowly the author
Number 11 told you very correctly. Their words don't matter, actions matter. Don't let them unwind or train you for a boyfriend for too long. I don't know why so many people enjoy some of these games. Watch body language. Impose your model, but never be 100% proactive. All general talk, but after 2-3 you will surely understand what it is about. But first you need to find out which of the two age groups you will "play" in. At a basic level, the ways are similar, the difference is in the details. You know each other best, decide for yourself which of the two zones will be more comfortable for you. It doesn't apply to everything, but in general, those over 27 play it like a modern independent woman. Surely you have such acquaintances on Facebook - open a few profiles and see where they go, what they have fun on Friday and Saturday nights. At least they are supposed to already know what they want, as far as possible. With those of 23-26 prepare for a light element of grown teenagers, more parties, drunkenness, etc .... in which there is nothing wrong of course. But still try to understand why they are singles, and for how long. Avoid those who continue to bear the trauma of their previous relationship. Or they decided to take him to the male part of the population, because their ex couldn't stand his nerves and he was a jerk. Most of them are frigid neurotics who will only waste your time. And as you were told, don't deal with just one. Thus one begins to become imperceptibly attached in the beginning and loses all connection with reality. as far as possible. With those of 23-26 prepare for a light element of grown teenagers, more parties, drunkenness, etc .... in which there is nothing wrong of course. But still try to understand why they are singles, and for how long. Avoid those who continue to bear the trauma of their previous relationship. Or they decided to take him to the male part of the population, because their ex couldn't stand his nerves and he was a jerk. Most of them are frigid neurotics who will only waste your time. And as you were told, don't deal with just one. Thus one begins to become imperceptibly attached in the beginning and loses all connection with reality. as far as possible.
With those of 23-26 prepare for a light element of grown teenagers, more parties, drunkenness, etc .... in which there is nothing wrong of course. But still try to understand why they are singles, and for how long. Avoid those who continue to bear the trauma of their previous relationship. Or they decided to take him to the male part of the population, because their ex couldn't stand his nerves and he was a jerk. Most of them are frigid neurotics who will only waste your time. And as you were told, don't deal with just one. Thus one begins to become imperceptibly attached in the beginning and loses all connection with reality. and for how long. Avoid those who continue to bear the trauma of their previous relationship. Or they decided to take him to the male part of the population, because their ex couldn't stand his nerves and he was a jerk. Most of them are frigid neurotics who will only waste your time. And as you were told, don't deal with just one. Thus one begins to become imperceptibly attached in the beginning and loses all connection with reality. and for how long. Avoid those who continue to bear the trauma of their previous relationship. Or they decided to take him to the male part of the population, because their ex couldn't stand his nerves and he was a jerk. Most of them are frigid neurotics who will only waste your time. And as you were told, don't deal with just one. Thus one begins to become imperceptibly attached in the beginning and loses all connection with reality.