Hello :) After all the topics and recently, and in general, I thought that I thought about the families that have visitors to the site. I am more excited about married families, also those who have lived together for more than 5 years, but without marriage (if you can share why you are unmarried). I wonder how you get along with your spouses and children if you have them (if you don't - why don't you, do you plan to have them)? How many hours a day are you together, what do you do together, are you in a good relationship (what do they mean), or if you are in a bad relationship - why do you think you do not understand each other? In fact, what do you think is a good family and do you have it? Do you have wishes and ideas on how to improve the relationship with your partner and your children? I don't have a husband and children, so it will be interesting and useful for me to read the comments of those of you,
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Hello! I have a topic here and I guess you're targeting me too! My story, as you can guess, is not very good, but I generally believe that there are families who respect and appreciate the feelings of the other! In fact, it is very important to have empathy. I also think that both partners should work for the family, that is, when one is too tired, the other helps him and vice versa, when the other is too tired or it is not a day to show him that his partner is next to him! Selfishness, impudence, nervousness and disrespect lead to alienation. Also, the diversity that you both create, even a small walk in the park and the care with which you treat each other is very important! And let's not forget the way you solve the problems that arise between you, that is, you argue, but you respect the person on the other side and as a reader screamed, "
It is very sad that you do not comment on my topic, but it can be so useful with your comments ... Sorry, really :( Number 1 - you did not write on the topic, but some common thoughts ... I do not know your story, nor I know your family.
As a child, I did not have a nice family. Ours had and still have good financial opportunities and their own property, but they did not take any special care of us. We did not receive gifts, on our birthdays they invited their friends to celebrate with, did not play games and did not talk to us. We were just scolded for having bad grades or we had done what our mother had written and pasted on the fridge for the day. Separately, ours did not understand each other, and their conversations were spitting at other people, as we got older they switched to how stupid we are. Accordingly, my father does nothing household sitting at the table and you carry, and he says what to bring while you put everything he wanted he is hired and you pick up and wash. For a long time I was looking for a man with whom I could communicate, talk to me, be smart and treat me as an equal. And I found it! I and my husband have a good life, we can do everything at home. Either we clean together or one of us, cooking is the same, I can start something and if I have to go out he will finish it. We both take care of the child again. I think everything is good for me because even if there is something, we immediately discuss it, argue and make decisions together. We spend almost all the time we are not at work together. Sometimes we sit next to each other and read or surf, but we are together.
We have been together for 10 years, we have been married for 7 years and we have a one-year-old child. We get along well, even more than well. We spend all our time together (free). We are only divided by work or some other obligation, we are always in a hurry to go home and be together. We love to buy delicious food and eat the three of us and talk all night. We love to travel together. I have a wonderful family, I just pray they are alive and well. I come from a nice family, although poor, my husband had a slightly naughtier family, but he is a perfect father and husband. I just want things not to go wrong, but to always be that way.
Thanks to numbers 3 and 4 for the comments, I hope your families are filled with love, health and life satisfaction. Comment people, otherwise I would think that the majority here are with bad families who do not even want to share, but you are wrong if you think like that. I think if you share, first - you will take time to think about the questions - are you happy in your family, if so - share experiences to inspire or to be useful, and if you are not happy in your family - share why is that, what do you think needs to be improved, can you get good advice or take an example from the commenters in the topic.
Author, Tolstoy's novel "War and Peace" begins with the following sentence: "All happy families are alike, but every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." If you are looking for a recipe for a successful marriage or how to avoid problems, you will not get it here. You jump deep and learn on the go. Each pair is different and there are no universal models. I know an absolutely happy family in which the woman is forbidden to go to the supermarket alone, her husband drives her to work and then takes her from there, no friends, just the two of them. I know another one (they live in the USA), where the husband works in one state, the wife - in another, and they meet at home only on weekends, and they love each other a lot and are completely satisfied. Third couple: he cooks and cleans, she runs her business and - complete harmony. My case is simpler: I make money, working in three places, cooking daily, cleaning, maintaining a city house and a villa with a huge garden, shopping for food and clothes is my concern, I even buy my husband's condoms and toothbrushes, pay all the bills, I'm responsible for social life , I welcome guests, I study for a doctorate at the university, I take care of an elderly mother and whatever else you can think of. My husband works and uses his salary to support his ex-wife and daughter. In one year, BGN 150 came from his home, apart from the beer he buys himself, but also drinks it himself. And I love it! I'm studying for a doctorate at the university, caring for an elderly mother and whatever else you can think of. My husband works and uses his salary to support his ex-wife and daughter. In one year, BGN 150 came from his home, apart from the beer he buys himself, but also drinks it himself. And I love it! I'm studying for a doctorate at the university, caring for an elderly mother and whatever else you can think of. My husband works and uses his salary to support his ex-wife and daughter. In one year, BGN 150 came from his home, apart from the beer he buys himself, but also drinks it himself. And I love it!
The author is very lame in your upbringing! You will have a problem if you do not take measures and do not correct your attitude towards people!