I am 18 and I have been dealing with a boy of 21 for a month and a half. In short, for him - a recidivist, a current drug addict, unemployed, abandoned by his mother very early. Our relationship is literally a clash of two different worlds, because I am lucky to be from a stable family, I am insured. I also have a clear perspective on my future life in terms of education and career. I personally do not reach for drugs and I am adamant about that. I'm not in love, but I like the boy. I was attracted by the fact that he is not really a bad person, and he is really terribly smart in spite of everything. Maybe it's to some extent my fault that I haven't asked him to clarify so far. But even if I had done it in the first days of our acquaintance (when we first kissed), I know that I would have hit a rock (maybe) and given up even then. In fact, a less engaging relationship also suits me. What do I mean? Well, almost a month ago, at a friendly gathering, his friend saw me for the first time, saw us kissing, and asked us, "Since when have you been together?" I remained silent, but the boy said the date instead. That's how I understand that we kind of "walk". However, none of us is monogamous. The boy has money, he doesn't have it, he relies on his old schemes or he risks a small amount in the casino to make a living, so to speak. There is no mobile at the moment. That is, even before I was introduced to him, I was warned and I am still aware that this will not be a relationship in which we will see each other regularly, in which we will hear each other 2-3 times a day and finally in the evening for "Leka night "... The boy is not a man to introduce to my mother and father, without keeping silent about what he is and what he does. That's why I didn't take off my guard and I didn't allow myself to become attached and fall in love (and it's impossible to be attached, although I rarely see it). My friends reproached me that I was to blame for not setting any conditions or requirements in the beginning, but I myself was looking for THIS - no requirements, no tensions, no ultimatums and deadlines. The unpleasant thing, however, is that not only he and I went out alone for a long time - several times our appointments failed, the last time my girlfriend took me to the apartment where he lives for 5-6 days (to his friend).
He had told me to see him that night, but he might not go out. If it was about money, it is understandable. At the moment, I feel trapped in a vicious circle. Maybe I was internally hoping that things would get to a more serious level all the time, but I explained the rest to you ... It's my fault that I got involved, but all the time I knew what I was doing, not that I'm stupid, I'm just gambling type, so to speak. Whether I really like him a lot or I'm just drawn to the danger, the thrill of the unknown ... I'm terribly hesitant about what to do - I don't know when I'll see him, at the moment he seems to be penniless, as far as I know. The boy is a pleasant interlocutor and even a friendship on Facebook suits me. And most of all - I don't get along with most of his friends, and they are boys, they are from different backgrounds, so I want to see him in private. You must think I'm crazy after everything that's been written. I read a number of stories of girls who dared to get caught with a drug addict, and that it is absurd to get rid of such a man. This is very clear to me. What do you think could come out? And if by chance I want to deepen things - is it possible, is it right, or is it too late?
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You're a great filmmaker. What are these scenarios, nonsense, she was educated, I don't know what, but prom. Rather, he should ask himself this question. Don't get into movies, watch your learning that you will suffer. You are very naive, you live in a world of your own. I fell right while reading. Tighten up ...
author: 1, give more specifically. I'm just confused. As you can see, I can guess a number of things on my own, but there is still something about trying to try.
I went with such a person for a year and a half. Yes, he was very kind and intelligent and wonderful. Now what? He stole what he could from me, I started shaking too, he treated me like garbage ... but still five years later I can't forget him and replace him. Give up while it's time, there is NO future that will turn your head cruelly afterwards.
There is a maxim that "opposites attract" or "good girls like bad boys" is the first thing that came to my mind when I read your story. I also remember the movie "Just Friends" and let me tell you that such an animal does not exist as "we walk without commitment, without requirements", and even if after a while you already want or do not have feelings. which is better for a connection without requirements
Girl, don't make your life difficult. Run away from such people that there will be a roar afterwards.
How far will you go? Finally, he can go to the grave.
Your questions are rhetorical - you don't have to delve into a relationship with a boy who can't just be insured, let alone a drug addict. Do you remember that if you get together (for example, to live together), he will start stealing your money to buy drugs. It is also very important what kind of drug it is, because it will soon (if not already) begin to affect its appearance and soon only he can repel you. Don't deal with such people !!!