Hello, I am interested in couples who have a serious relationship with regular and good sex, how quickly do you lose interest in your sexual partner? Maybe this is more typical for men than for women or not? And if you are really happy with sex with your partner, is it possible that it will just stop arousing you over time?
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And I'm interested .. It is clear that there must be diversity, but it always ends someday
We have been in a relationship for a year and three months, this is my longest relationship. I didn't imagine it could happen to me, but for about two months now I've been feeling like I'm getting bored. It is even clear to me that if something falls to me I will do it with her without thinking. I have absolutely no explanation for why it happened so suddenly, given that our relationship is seamless. I have never cheated before. I have been with 6 girls before her, although she is the best in bed of all, sometimes I think of the others. I don't know what women think, but we men seem to be nasty. And she seems so madly in love with me, she's proven it many times. I seem to have realized only now, at the age of 25, that I am not a person for a long serious relationship, I just want some sexual jokes with different girls. At least at this stage of my life. But it's better to admit it openly and separate than to do something stupid and ruin it, because it doesn't deserve it at all. But I don't want to do it without being sexually assured in advance, and in order for that to happen, I have to cheat on her. Now I'm tired of her, but if I get up for a month without sex, it won't do me any good. Complicated situation.
I haven't lost interest for more than 20 years, I haven't been with another woman since we got married. Interest decreases with age, as does libido in general. But if the couple tries, the interest can be maintained. We need to find out how far the diversity can go and be careful not to overeat and run out too quickly. Talk, discuss, experiment. In addition, the relationship must develop. Grandpa Torbalan
40 years old.
Very interesting topic for me too. I am 30 years old and my longest relationship was 2 years, and I got tired of having sex with this particular girl at the age of 4 months. I wasn't attracted enough physically, I had sex for a long time imagining others ... Torture. I don't know how to deal with this. At the moment, I try not to have a serious relationship so that no quality woman suffers.
Emmy guys. Have sex less often. If you eat chocolate every day, you will normally get tired. Don't cheat but remember what good things your partners have done for you and how much they love you and are yours
I am 31 years old. with a ten-year relationship, with us things are in stages, there are moments when we have very ordinary sex and there are moments when we burn with passion. I can't say that the man next to me has ever gotten bored, at least for now. In order not to get bored, you have to make an effort on both sides, you can't run away to look for another one at the slightest call with your partner. It requires discussion and experimentation, as Grandpa Torbalan has already said.
For 4 years and several months I have not got tired at all. But we don't live together and we don't have sex every day. He gets really tired quickly, if it's every day. And since there is nowhere, there is even more thrill, in the winter it happened once a week that sometimes we have a normal place and atmosphere for sex. Then the desire is strongest. Summer, of course, is more common. BUT if we lived together and did it several times a day, maybe in less than a year we would be tired. Otherwise, I have always looked at other women, I was with all my friends, no matter how beautiful they were and no matter how much I loved them. Instinctively I look at myself when I meet a beautiful girl, sometimes I don't even feel it, it seems like all men are like that.
My advice: If you get bored - diversify, if it doesn't happen again - talk, if you can't after that, then maybe you're not compatible, but most importantly GIVE YOUR TIME and don't cheat on yourself, in the end it will be clear you are together or not, ie whether you will sleep only with this person or not.
We have been with him for almost 3 years. We're both not bored. I have moments when I just don't feel like it because of various problems and thoughts in my head or lack of sleep, but he always turns me on and says that it's the same on my part. I think the secret is in the experiment and the variety.
n3 Grandpa Torbalane ... define (this connection must be developed) what examples can you give about the developments please?
n10 can't define, he just wanted to give himself importance
I've been having sex for 35 years. I have been married for 20 years. I'm 51 now. I'm not tired of sex yet. I even like it more and more. I'm bored only with a certain partner. In other words, if the woman is a "tree", ie. does not show any initiative and does not do certain things that I want.
Neither my ex, with whom I have been for 4 years, nor the current one, with whom I have been for 9 months, have bored me. There is nothing better than having sex and then kissing and hugging the person you love. I am a 28 year old boy. I really hope that I have come across such a girl now. I don't like sex without feelings, sex without a relationship and I'm hellishly jealous of course. I can't get bored. My ex and I got together every time with sex and every time I fell in love anew and anew in it as if it was something different, what you want to experience with others, I could and can experience it with only one and I am very nice so.
With both hands I agree with №6. I have been in a relationship for 8 months (not the longest so far). In sexual terms, I experience things that I have not experienced so far. But not at all. The passion is great, in fact now with the development of the relationship I think it is even greater, because we already know each other much better and we know what someone likes. There is no lack of diversity, but we also discuss sex. We talk about how far we would go, what we would do and, accordingly, what we would not and what would make us uncomfortable. After all, communication is also the key here. Like everything else, this should be discussed. There is no other way.
If two people only ride it on a boyfriend, the end is inevitable. The initial wild passion lasts for about three months, then the bodies stop being attracted only by the fact that they are together. If the relationship continues without development, the attraction disappears completely and finally the two wonder what they saw in the other. What is relationship development? The most logical development of the relationship is the creation of a family and children. Think about it, how many couples do you know who have been together for 20 years and have no children? The creation of a generation is an instinct that pushed man before he came down from the trees. Of course, children grow up, which also makes them a stage of the relationship. People who stay together and then are happy learn to do things together. To travel, to go to the theater, to play bridge and what not. If the relationship cycles at the boyfriend-girlfriend level, write her runaway. Of course, there are couples in which development can have another dimension. General business relations are a very stable factor, at least as long as the business is going well. Artistic natures can also maintain relationships based on spiritual growth together. Grandpa Torbalan
Until number 11, Grandpa Torbalan's "development" was expressed in the transition from vaginal to oral to anal "libof". Sexual evolution, scientifically speaking.:D
From 17. You explain well, Grandpa Torbalane, but the topic is about getting tired of sex, not how to make a stable relationship. My previous comment was sarcastic, I hope you weren't offended.
There is no universal diagnosis! If you stop being in love with your partner (you are only looking for sex emotions from porn movies), if his presence does not arouse a positive emotion in you (you are petty and not tolerant) and at a later stage, if you do not have common plans (separated family cash register), if you do not live your life together with all the good and bad moments (you go on vacation alone, drink until the morning with friends), if you give up your partner because of bad emotions (when you do not have a positive spiritual connection, you hate the body , sex and everything), then the end of the relationship is predestined ... !!! - M52 who has been living his life with his wife for 23 years.
Number 17/18, I haven't been offended in the least. Well, I answered the topic under comment 3. Then I clarified with comment 16, but a stable relationship and good sex are closely related. By the way, in comment 17, you said something very true. Namely, that the interest in sex in a long-term relationship is maintained with diversity and gradation. Grandpa Torbalan
I would like to get bored, but for almost 2 years a man has not touched me ...
n21 Why so? don't you go out somewhere with friends or at sea or ....? !! don't tell me that you're not pretty or that you're full or all sorts of nonsense, you'll always find your train somewhere, just change the environment in which you move and dig or the city, if you sit alone without acting and 10 years there is no one to you touch. ACT BOLDLY.
(21) To wonder and wonder why those from Mitoo roar to God that someone touched them on the knee, and that was a short time ago;)
We do not get bored, because we have sex less often, but with quality. We have been together for 22 years.
it was different with my different partners. with some I got tired after months, even earlier, others did not get tired for years. I think it's all in the head. I have noticed that the more emotional, passionate, even jealousy and other such violent emotions a relationship has been, the longer I have been excited about having sex with a person. monotonous and boring relationships have led me to a faster sexual cooling. I have also noticed that good technique and whether a man is a good lover also do not matter. my leading feeling was the man during sex. I will give an example - I had a lover who brought me to many orgasms every night, but I felt it just like a race of his ego ... and it rather repelled me. my current lover doesn't have these technical skills, but I feel him so fully and so mine,