How I Overcame Loneliness

   I like your story and the way you think! I also like that you run away from clichés. Good luck!!

   By that logic, let us not live, we will die. Let's laugh at the problems of the living and rejoice how good we are - the dead :) You may have a multimillion-dollar business for which "there are no impossible things", but with it you will not buy love or friendship - it will are the impossible things for you. Yes, then there will be women who "love you", but will it really be so ?! If you are smart - and you will remember ... "... it will give you clear and good results" - LOVE, my friend - this is the result you expect from life ... from a woman, from a man, from a child .. FROM A HUMAN BEING, and neither the money nor the "successful business" will bring it to you ... to return it to him. Your friends who form couples may be funny to you, but they experience, they gain experience. Even if they screw up - every time they do things better and more fully than the previous one. And experience and knowledge are extremely important ... not only for this life ... Still, I wish you success! In any case, one day you will come to this conclusion yourself, but if by then you have "laid" with the desired success - even better! PS And I'll tell you a secret;) Women are really more than men in the world, they even live longer, but on the other hand they have a much more limited shelf life, for which they have to do certain things. .. That's why sometimes they are in a hurry, nagging ... You have to learn to accept and understand them if you want the Human Race to see a sequel in your face. There is always a balance in Nature! they may be funny to you, but they experience, they gain experience. Even if they screw up - every time they do things better and more fully than the previous one. And experience and knowledge are extremely important ... not only for this life ... Still, I wish you success! In any case, one day you will come to this conclusion yourself, but if by then you have "laid" with the desired success - even better! PS And I'll tell you a secret;) Women are really more than men in the world, they even live longer, but on the other hand they have a much more limited shelf life, for which they have to do certain things. .. That's why sometimes they are in a hurry, nagging ... You have to learn to accept and understand them if you want the Human Race to see a sequel in your face. There is always a balance in Nature! they may be funny to you, but they experience, they gain experience. Even if they screw up - every time they do things better and more fully than the previous one. And experience and knowledge are extremely important ... not only for this life ... Still, I wish you success! In any case, one day you will come to this conclusion yourself, but if by then you have "laid" with the desired success - even better! PS And I'll tell you a secret;) Women really outnumber men in the world, even live longer, but on the other hand they have a much more limited shelf life, for which they have to do certain things. .. That's why sometimes they are in a hurry, nagging ... You have to learn to accept and understand them if you want the Human Race to see a sequel in your face. There is always a balance in Nature! Even if they screw up - every time they do things better and more fully than the previous one. And experience and knowledge are extremely important ... not only for this life ... Still, I wish you success! In any case, one day you will come to this conclusion yourself, but if by then you have "laid" with the desired success - even better! PS And I'll tell you a secret;) Women are really more than men in the world, they even live longer, but on the other hand they have a much more limited shelf life, for which they have to do certain things. .. That's why sometimes they are in a hurry, nagging ... You have to learn to accept and understand them if you want the Human Race to see a sequel in your face. There is always a balance in Nature! Even if they screw up - every time they do things better and more fully than the previous one. And experience and knowledge are extremely important ... not only for this life ... Still, I wish you success! In any case, one day you will come to this conclusion yourself, but if by then you have "laid" with the desired success - even better! PS And I'll tell you a secret;) Women are really more than men in the world, they even live longer, but on the other hand they have a much more limited shelf life, for which they have to do certain things. .. That's why sometimes they are in a hurry, nagging ... You have to learn to accept and understand them if you want the Human Race to see a sequel in your face. There is always a balance in Nature! not only for this life ... I still wish you success! In any case, one day you will come to this conclusion yourself, but if by then you have "laid" with the desired success - even better! PS And I'll tell you a secret;) Women are really more than men in the world, they even live longer, but on the other hand they have a much more limited shelf life, for which they have to do certain things. .. That's why sometimes they are in a hurry, nagging ... You have to learn to accept and understand them if you want the Human Race to see a sequel in your face. There is always a balance in Nature! not only for this life ... I still wish you success! In any case, one day you will come to this conclusion yourself, but if by then you have "laid" with the desired success - even better! PS And I'll tell you a secret;) Women are really more than men in the world, they even live longer, but on the other hand they have a much more limited shelf life, for which they have to do certain things. .. That's why sometimes they are in a hurry, nagging ... You have to learn to accept and understand them if you want the Human Race to see a sequel in your face. There is always a balance in Nature! ) Women are really more than men in the world, they even live longer, but on the other hand they have a much shorter shelf life, for which they have to do certain things ... That's why sometimes they hurry, they find fault. ... You must learn to accept and understand them if you want the Human Race to see a sequel in your face. There is always a balance in Nature! ) Women are really more than men in the world, they even live longer, but on the other hand they have a much shorter shelf life, for which they have to do certain things ... That's why sometimes they hurry, they find fault. ... You must learn to accept and understand them if you want the Human Race to see a sequel in your face. There is always a balance in Nature!

   Thank you friend, that's right, it's not worth wasting on someone who doesn't care about you at all, very often such women end up alone.

   You haven't fought anything. You gave up. When you find the person, you don't care if you run after him or he runs after you. The desire to do it comes from within. Many times they will hurt you, but that is no reason to give up. Many people go through everything and close themselves out of fear. I will tell you a secret: Open your heart. If one day you will cry, then at least know why. Give what you can in a relationship, take as much. If it stays lasting you will feel the most wonderful thing. You will have a person next to you, you will miss him, you will love, you will get angry, you will dream. If it happens, then at least you will experience something real.

   There's nothing wrong with that - aren't men the same? They say what women want to hear ... It's all just a fake ... And don't put all women under a common denominator - I'm not looking for money and they've never been a priority in my life. For me, the greatest wealth of this world is to love and be loved, but not in words but in deeds. I've always believed that a man should be rich at heart ... but I began to wonder - are there such men or does everyone think only with their lower head when it comes to feelings and love?

   I fully understand and support you !!! I'm also from the group of singles, even recently I posted a topic about it! №1 You are somewhat right, but how to get love when no one gives it to you! I was depressed too, but when you really get to the bottom and stay there, you stop caring if you're alone, you may get dull from time to time, but you get over it quickly and that's it! And all this is due not because I'm ugly or simple, but because I'm not the fun type, the soul of the company, I do not like discos! Everyone says well, change, friends, in this life almost anything can change, but not that, you are born with it and you go with it, I tried it doesn't work! We just obviously pulled the short stick in life or women have changed too much! Author, well done and success, people like us have a lot of free time and you have found the best way to use it, namely by developing professionally! Do not regret the choices made in your life, they were for the good and always look at the positive side of life, there is always one! SUCCESS!

   Read comment carefully 2. I can add a few things: 1. Even if you do not want love at the moment and consider it superfluous and funny, there will come a time when you will need to love and be loved. Then millions will not find your love, nor will they replace it. 2. There are no perfect relationships, just as there are no perfect people. In every relationship there are problems and annoying little things, everyday life. But people are together when they love each other. Then they are ready to compromise, they are ready to work together to solve problems. If they are not ready for this, then there is no love 3. Love exists! I say it from experience. When you are ready to do anything for someone, when you are ready to turn the world upside down to make someone smile, when that someone is the reason you smile and feel good, then you LOVE. If you haven't felt that way - self-denying, true, sincere, pure, so you have not experienced anything. One day you will understand. I just hope it's not too late ... Good luck in life! F27

   See now you will hear many answers like the first and others. I will only tell you that life is a complete illusion, I can defend a doctorate for this statement of mine, but very few people will realize it someday, and others - never. For this do what you have decided, and I hope you are SOMETIMES.

   Number 1 was right. Well, you are focused on working on yourself and more precisely on your dreams, profession, etc. But won't you have children? Don't you want to have? Because, you will do a lot of business and you will have a lot of money, but what will happen? They will rob you, they will blackmail you, they will lie to you that they are your friends and the women will start to stick to you, but not decent, but pure users and what will happen? In 20 years, say, you will write your farewell letter here, stating that there are no real people, no honest people at all, and you will tell us how you make and prepare a suicide plan. And since you will have a lot of money, you would have invented this suicide of yours quite avant-garde. Don't you think it's stupid to have money, not to know it and just wonder what to spend it on. Won't you get bored? And what would you do in life in general? Nothing. You have developed a business ... most likely harmful to people's health and that's it. You haven't told a clever and instructive story to anyone, you haven't loved a woman, you haven't made or raised a child ... In the eyes of women you won't be a man and just a bastard with money. You have been well disappointed with love ... 2, 3, 4, 10 times ... and what happened? You gave up ... What about your business, which you plan to do, to create? Not 10, but 20-25 to 30 times will disappoint you ... until you reach your goal ... but what do you say? Will you achieve it? And why continue? See love-10 failed relationships, for example, you have had and given up. With your business goal, there are a lot of disappointments to suffer ... and there ... so why don't you give it up? After 10 unsuccessful times in love are large enough, that you give up love with the words "Love does not exist" Tell me what will you do after you get 10 unsuccessful attempts in developing your business? You will obviously give up ... Think what you want from life, God will never give you something on a baking sheet. You have to fall, get up, fall and get up until you reach your goal. ;) One Boy-20y.

   It's good that you've come to a conclusion about what makes you happy. However, keep in mind that over time you start thinking and what makes you happy will change. And this is not possible for the multimillion-dollar business. And just a hard push still doesn't work. It must be written for you. And a lot of money creates problems. Everything needs balance. You're obviously small and your pussies don't tie you in because you're not interested in them. In time you will learn not to worry :-)

   Well done, number 2.!

   "Understand in this world - women are more than men. They need to understand once and for all that they now have to run after men, because the choice decreases, not men to run after them." I hope you have any link as proof of your words? I am a man, but first I want to be sure that I will not listen for two weeks to a fruitless transition from empty to empty and for the final preservation of the status quo. So, author - first substantiate your words with evidence and only then I will be interested to hear what the dear ladies think about it. I use the word "ladies" as a gesture of respect for my potential interlocutors, but feel free to refute me if you don't feel like acting like a lady! I don't need to treat you like bad and unworthy creatures from the beginning, but in time I will begin to treat each of you as she deserves to be here. And from experience I think that this topic will quickly swell to at least 100 comments and there will be plenty of time. :)

   Author I have a few questions for you and everyone has commented. What is love? Why do those who do not always have money distinguish love from possessions, saying that if one has money he cannot have true love? And since you claim that “Today there is no love.” Then please tell me, when, in what time in the past was there anything other than “cohabitation on account”? Looking at Romeo and Juliet, we know that they came from Shakespeare's fantasy, but they are also of equal financial and power descent. If you mean falling in love and thrill, then each person falls in love only with a person who has achieved more than himself, in his own dreams. Proof of achievement is money and it has always been, except in the time of primitive people, but then achievements were measured in strength and hunting skills. Nature is like that and has always been like that, in the right to create a generation, only the biological units with the best expressed qualities and genes useful for the generation will have an advantage. In humans, the useful quality is the ability to make money and health. Of course, every female of the human species will want for the father of her children the "most racial" male / healthy man with evidence of making money /, it is possible for her children to inherit the genes and more likely to learn from the father. your qualities. Like anyone who has made enough money, he chooses the most beautiful and ingenious mother of his children, subconsciously with the idea of ​​his children inheriting her beauty. And let me tell you something, author, don't hope so much that there were more women. First, if we look at the population as a whole, male mortality has always been earlier, and you, I believe, are not looking for a free retired widow. Second, see "Data on the demographic indicators of Bulgaria" in Wikipedia, the table "Characteristics of the birth rate" there are always more newborn boys, and there is in vitro, without sexual intercourse with a man, children can be created. And keep in mind that there are no wars and male mortality is significantly reduced. Every year in Bulgaria for every 1000 female babies 1060 males are born. In fact, if we look at your whole topic, author, I understand that your goal in life is to become a multimillionaire, and you have given up the goal of creating a family and a generation, you have left that goal to luck. If we look at this, then your goal is to make a lot of people poorer than they are at the moment / because the world's money is as much as it is and if a large part of it is yours, then someone else will lose it /, at the same time, you will not create heirs to this property and you will not agree to share it with a lady who will share her womb with you accordingly. Your purpose in life is mercantile, the tendency to materialism in you author is strongly expressed. At the same time, you are looking for a lady who is radically different from you, who is not mercantile, but at the same time preserves your wealth. You sound like "I'm looking for a young lamb to protect my flock from wolves, because if I take a guard dog I have to feed it from my bread. Besides, the dogs already have a lot of requirements, they want you to solve them with a brush, you feed it, nor will you solve it "Have your whole author, nobody bothers you, but why do you share this with us? Maybe because it weighs on you that so far you have not been able to impress a desired lady with your abilities and data.

   You will find love in the United States. Like everything in this life, love is not an easy job. Don't just expect to receive, you need a lot of giving. Efforts are often in the wind, but that shouldn't stop you. No one can give up love, it comes and you will, something will overwhelm you. If you look for it by force - it is not love, but an accountant's story, as long as you are not alone. And you have already stopped looking. But you will find love. Or rather, she will find you.

   Number 2 was absolutely accurate. It's good to shake off loneliness, but the solution is not to separate yourself completely from people. You yourself say that you will continue everything on your own - you will do business and you will be a multimillionaire ... this is not the real happiness in life. And one more thing - I have always said that men are much more loyal friends than women, that most of us are hypocritical and intriguing, simply because I have more boy friends than girls ... but I have never underestimated the opposite sex - men. And you do it ... and you bring women to such lowliness, which cannot be simple ... A woman gave birth to you in this world - respect the fairer sex a little! You only have them for flirtations for one night and more and more after each following day .. you shake off just that, but this expression of yours "They have to understand once and for all that now they have to run after men" not correct, wash. Not only men run after women and women are not cold-blooded creatures and cut them off for no reason - not at all. They cut you off because they see that you only look at their buttocks and breasts and you fall in love with that, not themselves. You are not right. "I don't care if I'm alone anymore!" - is that how you shake off loneliness? When he stops napping that you are alone in this world ... in order to shake off loneliness, it is not for his mother to stop caring that you will be lonely and to pretend that you are not like that, but to find a person who is forever with you and deprives you of the feeling of being lonely, that is .. Even though I am only 13, I see things from a different angle and think maturely about my age .. I hope you realize that you are wrong! :) I wish you success! Not only men run after women and women are not cold-blooded creatures and cut them off for no reason - not at all. They cut you off because they see that you only look at their buttocks and breasts and you fall in love with that, not themselves. You are not right. "I don't care if I'm alone anymore!" - is that how you shake off loneliness? When he stops napping that you are alone in this world ... in order to shake off loneliness, it is not for his mother to stop caring that you will be lonely and to pretend that you are not like that, but to find a person who is forever with you and deprives you of the feeling of being lonely, that is .. Even though I am only 13, I see things from a different angle and think maturely about my age .. I hope you realize that you are wrong! :) I wish you success! Not only men run after women and women are not cold-blooded creatures and cut them off for no reason - not at all. They cut you off because they see that you only look at their buttocks and breasts and you fall in love with that, not themselves. You are not right. "I don't care if I'm alone anymore!" - is that how you shake off loneliness? When he stops napping that you are alone in this world ... in order to shake off loneliness, it is not for his mother to stop caring that you will be lonely and to pretend that you are not like that, but to find a person who is forever with you and deprives you of the feeling of being lonely, that is .. Even though I am only 13, I see things from a different angle and think maturely about my age .. I hope you realize that you are wrong! :) I wish you success! not in themselves. You are not right. "I don't care if I'm alone anymore!" - is that how you shake off loneliness? When he stops napping that you are alone in this world ... in order to shake off loneliness, it is not for his mother to stop caring that you will be lonely and to pretend that you are not like that, but to find a person who is forever with you and deprives you of the feeling of being lonely, that is .. Even though I am only 13, I see things from a different angle and think maturely about my age .. I hope you realize that you are wrong! :) I wish you success! not in themselves. You are not right. "I don't care if I'm alone anymore!" - is that how you shake off loneliness? When he stops napping that you are alone in this world ... in order to shake off loneliness, it is not for his mother to stop caring that you will be lonely and to pretend that you are not like that, but to find a person who is forever with you and deprives you of the feeling of being lonely, that is .. Even though I am only 13, I see things from a different angle and think maturely about my age .. I hope you realize that you are wrong! :) I wish you success! who is forever with you and deprives you of the feeling of being lonely, that is .. Even though I am only 13, I see things from a different angle and think maturely about my age .. I hope you realize that you are not right! :) I wish you success! who is forever with you and deprives you of the feeling of being lonely, that is .. Even though I am only 13, I see things from a different angle and think maturely about my age .. I hope you realize that you are not right! :) I wish you success!

   You're right about someone's business, but know that no matter what millionaire you become, you will lose the real thing. You will live in luxury, but for what? Will you be alone or maybe fake friends will come to you to use you? !! You will drive a 2014 car, but you will drive it alone or with fake friends who will use you again. Love is not sought, it will come to you on its own when you least expect it and I have not found it yet and I will hardly find it soon, but this is life. There are passengers for each train.

   You want to become rich, but with money you will never buy happiness, you will always think that something is wrong, it is funny for others, maybe you are funny and strange for them in the way you think. Don't you want to doom yourself life without happiness to know that many women do not know what they want but I think they are just confused and not sure they will choose the right choice, but there are no others (though few) who know what they want from the man next to them and I hope it's not his money because in your case if you really plan to do what you set out to do it will be money so again I tell you to rethink your plans and think good whether you want money or happiness. You say you want money but they not so important there are far more important things than money. M 15

   The result that awaits does not necessarily have to be love. The target result is different for each. And how can there be pure friendship and love after a person is guided and governed by his ego and interests ?! Even in a parent-child relationship, you do not find understanding from your child about the work you have done to ensure his peaceful existence. People have different worldviews and it is often difficult for them to understand the foreign inner world. Think positive and pursue your goals, and people can always be false and hypocritical and no one blames them, a matter of survival.

   Even though I'm a boy ... A man's hug for you, bro. You wrote unique things. It can't be more accurate and clear !!!

   I don't think that the author has given up on love, it's just that at the moment the idea of ​​material success is something like a vent. And we want love, we don't want it, it catches up with us and if it is written to be mutual, it's great. Every thing at a time . At least my experiences have taught me that.

   Dude, I'm so sorry you gave up so easily. Haven't you wondered why today's male-female relationship has come about? I think it's because of men's thinking, which you've come to, "women have to run after us." The man was supposed to be a hunter by nature - yes, but he is no longer. Women seemed to be accustomed to having to fight for men by any means - to strip naked, to offer themselves to everyone, to lie, to "eliminate competition". If not, then the woman just thinks she is not enough woman and soon no one will look at her. Most men like all this mostly out of laziness (because there were more women on earth) - what to be suitors for, as they can have sex anywhere and now for free. How many men like their partner to be courted by others and flirt with others? I think that now almost everyone - only so the woman could keep his interesting. This is how the modern man nurtures his self-confidence - the woman is liked, she may even be a bitch, and he sits and does nothing to keep her and yet she does not leave him, ie he is the most the best of all. I think I'm very carried away, but I wanted to say that everything is very wrong already in this world and especially the gender differences. I read your previous story and I think you just didn't come across the right ones, and that's largely due to the fact that you were looking for a "princess," and you really wanted to be a princess - literally. One must also be realistic. Looking for the best in someone is not wise. It's just that if a person (man or woman) hasn't made a living or has the self-confidence that everything is the best, or is just a bitch or a bitch, you can't expect that your love will change it. It's just in fairy tales. It's a pity you refused to be nice and romantic, because there are still women who would appreciate it. You just haven't found one - real, feminine, earthy. You will be a millionaire / billionaire and what? How long will you develop? We will all die one day and development, our achievements will be somehow meaningless, because they will go with us. One favorite quote: She: We take oaths that we break ... Why do you think people get married? He: Because of passion. She does not. He: I found it interesting. I thought you were romantic. Why do you think we are getting married? She: Because we need someone to see our lives. There are billions of people on this planet. What does life really mean? ... But in a marriage, one promises to take care of everything ... For the good things, for the bad, for the terrible, for the disgusting ... For everything, all the time, every day. One can rest assured that one's life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. His life will not pass without a witness, because I will be that witness. He: Mrs. Clark ... I was right. You are romantic. I want you to first stop being "offended" by life and then to "encounter" your wife and not let your life go unnoticed.

   You are not the only one who does not have a human life and decides to replace it by becoming a slave. Nobody is happy about accumulating money either - look at the US billionaires tearing the skin of the whole world, they don't even use their money, because they have no idea what, they just accumulate until they burst into a den of overdose, desperate, failed, worn out because of their dead souls NOT-people. I think this is more depressing than not having a wife. But you know.

   From the author: A lot of comments have been collected in recent days. In general, I agree with most of them. But not with everyone. The fact that I mentioned that I have ambitions to invest my efforts in another direction, and not in the removal of women and the search for love, has wrongly left the impression in some of the commentators here (I mean from the ladies) that this is almost the goal to find a wife. Sorry you got it wrong. This is not the goal - to find a wife with a lot of money. My goal is to realize my sword. I have decided that instead of trying to look for something that at least does not exist for me - love I can try to achieve something that exists - business. Again, if I meet the right woman for me during this time, fine. If I don't meet her well again. I have relatives. I will not be alone. Some even tell me to take care of my heritage. Even if I have a big one and I don't have a wife and children - I have a family that will get it. I'm just tired of dealing with women who don't know what they want, who only run after malnourished people and then look for people like me to cry on their shoulders. It's a pity, but I'm not that kind of person anymore and I don't want to be a mop of women's tears caused by a garbage boyfriend. One of the comments even mentions that the woman chose the man because of his good genes. Total nonsence. We do not live in prehistory. If that were the case, women would not run after bandits who are robbers, women, drunks, drug addicts and any such scoundrel, but would look for a man who would provide them with a normal and peaceful family who would respect and honor them, not beats and insults them. However, these women are already very few. The others are exactly as I described. That's why I follow my dream. It will be difficult, but at least I know that I will persevere in achieving what I want. Even if it is not a multimillion-dollar business, it will still be a business (quite decent). That's why I advise all men who feel lonely instead of constantly beating themselves on how lonely they are, why they can't find a wife, etc. - to do like me. To follow their dreams and put their efforts elsewhere. And if fate has predestined them to find a mate - even better. I don't know why you all think that if you make some effort, only then will you find the person for yourself. If fate has decided to leave you alone, if you want to turn the earth, your efforts will be in vain. That is why my philosophy is different. I will not make an effort in such a thing. If it happens it will happen. I prefer to direct them there, where my dreams are. And yes for the number of women - I have not found official statistics globally. I read this in the media. As well as the fact that at the moment in Bulgaria there are more women than men by about 250,000, which will be maintained at least until 2050, according to sociologists. Who does not believe to check on the net.

   Hahaha, hey author, thank you, .. so I laughed .... Are you small or just naive. Men will continue to run after women, and women will continue to choose who will run after them! No matter how much you reduce ... um ... men, it is more likely that we are honest lovers of a married real man than of meek housewives, of someone who ... well, does not meet the expectations. And no, it's not just about material things, there's nothing to lie about, we live in a material world, but we're looking for something else. Find out what! Yes, you are obviously naive. But, good luck to me!

   I'll ask you something. When you lose your loved one years later, God forbid, will the money come to embrace and comfort you? !! My grandfather always said that you can't live without money, but they are not the most important thing!

   Dude, I'm a little like you, but I've noticed that it's cyclical. Until 2 months ago, I was shaking at how lonely I was. Now I'm talking about how I want to do business and give all my efforts and time to it (I'm in Bulgaria, but I still want to). But I remember you know what ... that in 2007 I was shaking how lonely I was and I wanted a boyfriend ... I found a boyfriend only in 2010 and we went for 2 years. When we broke up, I was shaking again that I was lonely, but after 3-4 months I started thinking again about how I want to advance in my career ... And so. And in general, I've already seen that you need both: a career and one to have. Calm down, I'm almost sure that it will be the same for you as it is for me - these are two life topics that are mutually exclusive and at one moment one is more active, and at another moment - the other. And so they turn - now you want personal development, now you want a girlfriend.

   I don't understand why you are attacking the author !? The man chose the business not because he is greedy, but because women are inferior users and the man decided that business is better than someone to poison his life! What to do that women choose the "right" man by some very interesting criteria! Let's tell the truth, nowadays women are a commodity for sale, an object and they know this very well, because they perceive themselves that way !!! Everyone is looking to sell at the best price while they are young, no wrinkles and cellulite! And even the stupidest ones are looking for the "real man" who, when he turns over 2 glasses of brandy, turns their teeth from a fight, but they naturally enjoy it, he is a real man !!! And then they roar that the men were pigs and were useless, and their men call them whores !! Dear ladies, if you want, ok, look for the "real" ones men and "fall in love" with them, but we "false" men will not pray to you, we accept this decision of yours, we will invest the energy that we would give to the woman next to us, as the author of a business or some other activity, maybe and lonely to the grave to stay who knows! But we will live our lives with dignity and in an attempt to leave something behind, it will not be an heir, but at least we will try to do something in our lives! While you will remain just some objects and ornaments (until the wrinkles and sagging skin come), with which the "real" men will have fun and will eventually replace! I know now you will all rush to refute me, how things are not so and everything is fine, live well with this illusion, the truth is ugly and unpleasant, I understand your reaction! Some men are in love now and will also deny it, but love blinds! Of course, there is always another exception, but I'm talking about the majority !! About whether there is love - YES! And do those who deserve it get it - NO! Good day!

   Although I fully support the author (I am a man like him and have exactly the same thinking), I will post something that can make him think a little. Not to change, but just to think. "It is madness to hate all roses because you stung one of them, to abandon all dreams because one of them did not come true, to give up all attempts because one failed. It is madness to condemn all friendships, because one thing betrayed you, not to believe in any love, just because one was unfaithful to you, to throw away all possibilities to be happy, just because something didn't happen right, there will always be another opportunity, a new one force. After each end there is a new beginning. "

   You accuse the boy of "greenness," but in fact I was like that before, then I changed my mind and took the other side of the coin, and then I realized that I was building windmills and turning them ... like a balak, I must be a balak, that's why I turn windmills like a balak, isn't it? One side of the coin may be beautiful, but some people have it printed on the other.

   Dude, everyone has had failures and disappointments in love, but even if you give up completely, no. my relationships have also not been successful for the most part, nor have they been long, I still don't have a family, and I'm 31. However, to say that love doesn't exist is to lie. It has been written to me as well as to you, and I have had similar thoughts, but I have always believed that there is love. Yes, many people live together simply because it gets rid of them and they don't stop cheating on each other. However, there are others who love each other and are together. Concentrating on your work is not bad, but it cannot replace the rest. Basically, I come from a poor family and I know what you don't have money for. Later, when I started working and making a lot of money, things changed dramatically, but I can't say that I'm happier than before. True, you don't think about tomorrow, how will you raise money for this or that, you are calmer, but by no means happier. Even now, I'm seriously considering pulling the manual and getting out of all this stress and strain. As for the fact that you have become a friend to someone to cry on your shoulder, the reason is in you. You can't choose muffins for boyfriends and then expect them to become princesses. Muffins like to be cursed, beaten and humiliated. Since you are not like that, it is very clear that you will only be your eternal friend. And I really can't understand some men, they like one girl, she doesn't pay attention to them and at the same time she goes with another. However, they continue to dig and turn around. Finally, the abandoned go to roar on their shoulders because they are always at hand. I'm sorry, but you do it yourself, what are you looking for there anyway? This happened to me once and since then I know that after it doesn't happen to a girl, I move on. There is love, there are decent women too, one should not give up.

   And how exactly will you meet this love someday, if you are prejudiced to the Nth degree. You will have some kind of account, as you put it. Then you will not be dissatisfied again. I don't know how old you are, but it's good to think not only about the prosperity of business but also about children. They are the most important. There will always be women with whims, but you create beautiful, smart children, enjoy them and even abroad, the important thing is that you have found what makes you feel in your skin.

   You are largely right, I will say for the rest that the man should know that by running after the woman, he does nothing good except get depressed! Why should we run after women, actually? To raise their self-confidence, pride, to crush us, to have psychological superiority over us, just to be with us! For me personally, this is hellishly stupid, one must respect oneself and put oneself above everyone else!

   to 42 by the author: How can I create children when she doesn't have the right one, the one who wants me to be the husband and father of her children? My statement is that there is no love. Let fate disprove me if it is not so.

   As a woman, I would say to all men the following: If you want a woman not to be mercantile, not to love gifts, attention, etc., then do not try to give at the beginning of a relationship, to show what kind of gentlemen and gentlemen you are. in a year, two or more to show yourself the real "I". A woman expects you to always stay the way you were at the beginning of the relationship. However, many men make the mistake of pretending at first just to win the woman over, and then let things happen on their own. It is normal when two people love and hold each other to have the desire to demonstrate and prove their love for each other constantly. Another thing I would add is that a man cannot want a "princess", but in fact his deeds and words are like those of a "maid". . Good luck to the author and hopefully he will soon find true love.

   The truth, friends, is that if you don't have money, women don't look at you if you want to look like Alain Delon, no matter how good-hearted you are!

   haha above all others, 44 you obviously believed a lot, it's great self-confidence, great thing! Every woman needs attention, as well as the right approach, which of course few know how to do!

   Author, (45), you have to wait for Saturday to refute you when you don't see it! She has already denied them billions of times on this Earth, when babies conceived with love were born! Do you want a rebuttal! ??? Look around - some percentage of (not to say most) most walking human beings around you are the RESULT of love. And many lived in former times. Let's be EXTREMELY pessimistic and say that only ONE percent of the people living NOW (forgetting to look at the times and lives since the beginning of Homo sapiens) are conceived with love. 1% of 7 billion is 70 million! Well, in the worst case, fate has refuted you 70 MILLION times. Isn't that enough for you! ???

   Number 46, do you realize that now most women would crucify you because it opened the eyes of their future boyfriends and spared them the so-called "trying at the beginning of the relationship"? You have my admiration and respect because you allowed yourself to tell everyone here (albeit anonymously) as well as a 5 star rating for your comment. Unfortunately, the average score is 3, because some "genius" or the first of the angry women described above gave you a 1. :)

   From the author to 49: Fate has not refuted me even once so far. Fate will disprove me just when I give ME love from a woman and when I give HER love. Just because people are born into the world does not mean that there is true love. People are born, but their parents separate and less and less stay together until their death. This means that love is no more. There is everything but love. Even many long-term marriages are no longer bonded with love, and people are just used to living together. Look at how many people around you there are who have gathered, given birth to 1-2 children and separated after that. You will find that there are many. And they become even more. Because there is no love. There was some resemblance between them, but only this.

   Hahaha, author, you are naive! Love has it, but now that we have free will, we can choose! Before, you get married and come on - what a divorce, it's a shame! And now there are sections, yes, but why do they happen? This is because people meet another "love", so please without such nonsense: D The important thing is to be happy, not to live a lifetime with the unloved :) Not to mention that from my environment, everyone is married over 30 years, yes, they may no longer hold hands and kiss, but they have realized that this is their man and after a while, when you turn 50-60, and there is no one to spit on you, then you will understand what in fact, it is loneliness and even if you have millions, in the evening there will be no one to warm you in bed, but not with sex, but with understanding! And one more objection: D You run after the women, because the dry statistics are DRY, do you remember? Of those 7 billion, women are more, YES! BUT think that women also live longer, so grandparents live up to 60-70 and grandmothers live up to 90-100, so this is where the imbalance comes from. By the age of 40 per person, there are more men, and over the age of 40 the number of women rises sharply, for the reasons described above :) So I wish you success in life, and I hope you find love, because better than that - THERE IS NO :)

   50. Number 46, who knows what she said. Everyone knows these. I support the author. I believe that women are to blame for the lack of love. Their narcissism and high self-esteem prevent love from happening.

   H 50, you did not understand the comment of 46, I am a woman and not only that "I would not crucify her", but I fully support it. Her idea / thought is that if the man does not lie at the very beginning of the relationship, presenting himself in a completely different light, (cavalry, romance, surprises) he will probably have no chance, no chance. .. that's how it's going to last. On the contrary, as time passed and the man thought that the cut was "tied in a towel" and showed his true face, which turned out to be the opposite of what the woman liked and wanted, quite naturally followed by separation, because he saw, because ... that it is not at all what we thought .... And from there, lost time, mistrust and more research with the next one, based on the experience gained so far ... it becomes more and more difficult for every next one!

   The diligence at the beginning of a relationship is on both sides - the man and the woman. There is no way to avoid this - attention, passing obvious things, etc. I'm not talking about any drastic transformations, which is a living theater, and some do very well, but the truth is that everyone tries to show basically the good your country. It is a pity that it could be the same most of the time, when the relationship has entered a routine stage, but ...

   Abe, family is the best thing! Neither money nor a career can give you what your family can. Besides, I don't see why you have to run after women so much and kind of belittle someone's dignity. When there is mutual desire, things happen super easily. The run is after the muffins and the folk girls.

   "From the author to 49: Fate has not refuted me once so far. Fate will disprove me just when he gives ME love from a woman and when I give HER love. Just because people are born into the world does not mean that there is true love. People are born, but their parents are separated and less and less stay together until their death. This means that love is no more. "That it happened to YOU, sorry, but not the slightest does not mean that it does not exist !!! I'm sorry, but it happened to millions of others !!! As I have already calculated very roughly mathematically, even if we assume that ONLY 1% of the people living now (and forget ALL who have ever lived before !!!) are the fruit of love, then the number is at least 70 million, ie 70 million times AT LEAST love has happened !!! I'm sorry, you deserve it,

   Hello! I am a young woman of 21 years. I think you and I are on the same page. I recently released the topic "Unsuccessful love - a source of self-development." I will hopefully publish. I want to tell you that you will go through this stage several times, because internally you will continue to hope to meet her, to succeed and to be able to develop with a person next to you. Such uncertainties, however, we instinctively feel are not good ground for development. I am like you. Intelligent, upright, ambitious ... with dreams. But the last few years, to put it mildly, I have fallen into disrepair. A series of unsuccessful attempts at love. I know that I will meet the man with the main "M", but in the meantime I think it is more correct for me to focus my attention on my career. On the realization of my dreams, on my self-development. I think you're still in the emotional stage where you can't accept that things won't turn out exactly the way you want them to or when you want them to. While I was like that ... I was angry at the fact that it didn't work out. There were times when I angrily scrambled forward. I literally gritted my teeth and acted. I am much calmer now. For me, accepting the situation and continuity in general is one of the main factors to gradually develop a mature attitude towards myself, my love and my future. In my opinion, you are also angry that you are pulling back in search of the beautiful girl who will listen with interest to everything you say to her. He will look at you with warmth and sparkle in his eyes. One that gives you the strength to make your dreams come true. It is no coincidence that you compare the two things - career and love. In my opinion, they are absolutely connected and not closely. Love is one of the most natural sources of motivation, energy and vitality. What I want to tell you is to calm the ball ... Act to make your dreams come true. She will appear. You remind me of one I didn't get along with. He looked exactly like a "woman's eternal friend" to me. I'm a little more aggressive emotionally and I took the man off, I didn't give him any choice. He reacted negatively. A wonderful boy, good, responsive, ready to help and attractive on top of everything. My advice is if you get fired, which is very likely to happen ... don't panic, relax ... you have to accept your sexuality and just allow yourself to show her that you are attracted to her. This is the difference between a friend and something more. Another thing I want to tell you is ... try to accept that love is a natural thing, for which you do not have to fight. Of course, the more you improve as an individual, the more they will fall for you. This made me very angry. Sounds ridiculous, I know, but yes ... it's because I wanted love here and now. Since I love and take care of myself, follow the plan for the realization of my goals and dreams, there is no more anger. I am calm. I have unpleasant moments from time to time, but they are a way of self-growth. I really liked your topic, I really liked that there is another person like me who sees the connection in the two things and sees it in such a large-scale way. In order to plan to be a multimillionaire for me, you have to equate with this the significance of love for you. You can't help but hear "you're as big as your dreams are." I'm sure you have a huge soul. That you give people more than you receive. Such a soul also needs great, true love. Falsehood has no place here. I wish you not only to make your dreams come true, but also to meet a TRUE woman who also has her own dreams and together you are a support for each other!

   62. You've seen a lot of movies. How come all of you women are long-suffering and rejected? Think about what you did and what you should have done but you didn't have the courage. About why that boy reacted negatively. It was not negativity, but uncertainty about your intentions towards him. The woman has a problem when she wants to tell you, I like you, I love you, she does it cowardly and too discreetly, which for the man is frivolous behavior. Men are often left with the contradictory impression that you are playing with them.

   Ohh and I do not trust women, now I have a relationship for the first time in my life in 4 months, I am 23 years old ... I have run away from such relationships with women because of doubts whether he will use me, whether he will cheat on me, whether forever we will keep our relationship as it is .. just love is very complicated, and I like special women (visually), and they in 95% of cases are either light or users, now I have a girlfriend who I think is none of the two, but he is very stubborn, he wants her to dominate our relationship, even in sex to determine what I like (and I do not like that), we get to scandals out of nowhere, I'm afraid not to cheat and never hurt me (because I'm going to ruin my life, I'm vindictive), I'm afraid he won't use me, I always want to love each other ... and maybe I was more balanced and on the spot,now I constantly doubt, think badly and I'm happy only when she's with me, when she's not with me I'm unhappy, when we quarrel I'm unhappy, when she's not gentle I'm unhappy, when she posts some stupid things on Facebook I'm unhappy when they flirt with her or she behaves more lightly I am unhappy when I hear something about my exes and I am unhappy, I know the numbers and I think they are quite for a 23 year old girl, I am unhappy when she does not pay attention I am unhappy again and I am always unhappy, always , and the girl is honest, open and does not use me (I guarantee what), I study her constantly, I have no confidence and whoever was in her place would be the same, I pray to God that we never cheat (including including ourselves), not to lie, not to lose our love and affection, but sooner or later something bad will happen, a fact ... life is nasty,