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How I Took Revenge On My Mistress

By bettycrocker August 15, 2020 29 answers Last updated August 15, 2020

I write provoked by the many stories I have read here - most of them about infidelity. I will not go into details about what happened in my family because it is something common and common - a relationship at work - my husband and his colleague. I pretend to be a broad-minded person, I know that there are no sinless people, but believe me, it hurt me like hell. I'm not so angry with her that she fell in love and fell in love - the most painful thing for me was that she pretended to be my girlfriend. He didn't leave the house, we drank our drinks until midnight, we talked. I shared the problems with her, I cried on my shoulder because it is clear to everyone - is there a third person involved in how things are going. She "comforted" me. I will miss these things, it is still very painful for me. As people say, there are no hidden secrets under the open sky. Of course, last, but I learned. Only someone who has been through this knows how it hurts. For a long time I walked like a halo with a hammer on my head. Pishman, my husband's lover, writhed like a mollusk, explaining to me how this "patchwork" never meant anything to him, how much he loved me and our children. Every man caught in adultery knows what it is about and what is said in such cases. -I think a lot about what to do. Divorce is the easiest solution - he beats the jester and that's it. However, he would not give her that pleasure. I told my husband that I would stay with him only if he told me everything about them. Every disgusting detail hit me right in the heart, but I stoically listened to everything. I called her to talk and told her everything he had told me, along with the qualifications at her address. I was as correct as possible - I did not change or add anything to what I had heard. But even that was enough to land her from the clouds. She realized that it had simply been used and discarded. I know that I will be spit on by unfaithful women, I am ready for any comments - mostly negative. But I also shared my pain and I'm really curious what people think.

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ayacolada answered · August 15, 2020

   In a few months, and only if you're sure your husband broke up with her and found out she was and will always be a fun whore, kick him out. Let him fall from two chairs to the ground. And if she wants to take it home. She lovers are content with remorse and have no respect for themselves. I guess I don't need to tell you to cut off contact with her.

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kimsmell1 answered · August 15, 2020

   My personal opinion is that in such situations she takes revenge on her husband / s. It's a bit like the pie and the crazy one. Why? Well, the lover may be a victim in this case and may not even know what he or she is getting into. Who knows what your husband told her, that it's almost a matter of time to divorce, that you don't let him, that you're a witch, you know the excuses on duty. And even if she does it informedly, she's not fucking because she didn't promise you anything and doesn't owe you anything. Look, her husband has the right to make fun of her, but how does she owe her to you? If your husband has decided to cheat on her or her, he will. I do not excuse her, but she has made her choice, no matter how disgusting it is, but the point is that she does not owe you anything to take revenge on her. And I'm convinced that's how your husband turned things around,

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exploreindonesia answered · August 15, 2020

   And now here, when some beauties go to explain to us how the topic is invented and in life such things do not happen that way, I want to laugh. Do not pay attention to them. Otherwise, you did well only because I don't know how you can tolerate this mollusk - your husband. Mine threw it out of my mind and my life. Fuck you and fuck your whores. If you are brave and drop it, you will only win. If you know what kind of dude I am now, no matter that I have two children, your legs will soften. Good luck

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rivaldooficial answered · August 15, 2020

   I fully support number 2. You "avenged" your mistress ... With what? When you told her what he had said about her in front of you? And will anyone ever tell you the truth about what he said about you in front of her? With this decision you punished only yourself to live with a person who cheated on you. Certainly, in order to put her in this role, he presented you as a vicious and unpleasant woman who suffers only because of the children. All men in such a position are absolutely the same - they chatter in front of both what the woman expects to hear, and get what they want. I hope you come to your senses and continue your life without this man.

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ivyqueendiva answered · August 15, 2020

   I agree with comment 1. In your case, your mistress was a friend and I can't justify her at all, while if she was a stranger, 95% of the blame would be on your husband, because he swore allegiance to you, not her . Here the guilt is shared, not to mention that you yourself noticed how pathetic he was after you revealed it. He didn't have the balls to admit as a mature man, but started insulting her as if she was forcing him. In such situations, anger is directed mainly at the woman, and the man somehow remains in the background. I can't understand why ... the two ladies hold each other's hair as if the gentleman is innocent. It probably comes from the notion that a man's job is to melt the pepper as much as possible, and somehow we close our eyes. Let him think that he has tied his pants and when he least expects - goodbye! Not different from your "girlfriend",

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showandmoan2 answered · August 15, 2020

   Look, it just didn't make sense to have this conversation with your mistress. I understand you, you indulged in emotions, but you wasted your time. Before your husband told you a chamber of insults to his mistress, that woman had heard various qualifications about you from him. Surely he told her something like that, that he is not happy with you, that there is no passion in bed and you are good roommates, but that's it. I was not a mistress, but I know some personally and I have read topics here. Usually lovers have suffered and been lied to many times. You met her and told her what your husband had said. So far so good, but he'll talk to her later. He will tell her that he lied to you, that he did it because you are a family and he wants to be around his children. Something like that will always come to his mind. There are not many scenarios, this is the option for him to balance on two chairs. If this woman is not his mistress, she will be different. It is not specifically her fault, but the infidel in your bed. You helped her heart break, if she had any feelings at all, but it saved her from wasting time with a man who would never be hers. It is a pity that the price is for you to live with this man who is no longer yours.

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whichis.sebenarnya answered · August 16, 2020

   The presentation seems rather one-sided to me. I see nowhere even an attempt to ask the question "Why?" it got there. Did you create the coziness at home so that he would return home more happily than drinking beer with friends? Did you meet him only once with perfume? How many times have you told him that you love him and feel good next to him or in his arms? And more, and more ... And it's easiest for us: a jerk from behind, revenge ... Let's look in the mirror ....

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littlestargirls answered · August 16, 2020

   You got revenge ... but another time. He will catch her again, and maybe a new and younger one. As he gets a little older, the child will kick your ass. This is what happens when women cling to their husbands for support. Apparently the man doesn't want you anymore, and you cling to him like a straw drowning man. You are a pity ...

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lucahaenni1 answered · August 16, 2020

   You, who wrote above, do not seem to read history or read very selectively. It is not mean that she slept with a married man. The mean thing is that she pretended to be a friend of this man's wife. I quote the author: "I shared the problems with her, I cried on my shoulder because it is clear to everyone - is there a third person involved how things are going. She" comforted "me This is to sleep with her friend's husband and look her in the eyes and you comfort her when she confides in you that her husband is cheating on her with another.

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jj_lin answered · August 17, 2020

   The author writes again. The story is not made up, I am a real average woman and every word I have written is true. First I will answer №2 and №4 - when we talked and clarified with her, the first thing she said was "I felt that that's how things will end, he never said a word against you "And I'm sure of that, but not because I'm perfect - I'm not, of course, he's just such a person - whatever happens at home is not taken out - His parents were like that. You probably don't believe it at all, but he would never say such words, but never against me - that I am a witch, that he is with me because of the children, etc. I am not angry with your comments, I just explain .And if I use the word "revenge" it is because I had her as a friend, I loved her children, I shared with her. If it had happened to a woman who was harassed in her family,who just steals good moments, but does not interfere in my family in a completely different way I would treat her. Yes, you are right - I have the right mostly to keep track of him - what happened happened to his tacit consent. Somewhere you read a word with which I defend him? He paid, and he still has a long time to pay. But from everything I learned - and she did not deny it - and her guilt is not at all, but it is not small. 1 and 3-thank you for your support.Numbers 1 and 3-thank you for your support.Numbers 1 and 3-thank you for your support.

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joaogui answered · August 17, 2020

   Author, you have a good heart once you have forgiven infidelity. Did you do it for the children or for your husband? Are they the reason you stay with him? 1017

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saltatio888 answered · August 17, 2020

   You got your revenge on one whore - okay, now kick the other one out of the house - the nastier one. It would be good if you had written down your husband's story and released it to her husband. And he has the right to decide if he wants the scumbag in his house.

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lalivolt answered · August 18, 2020

   Author, the writers above are right. In this case, the whore is your husband, not that woman. How do you still stand with him, was she a woman ??? How do you meet him, how do you lie down next to him ??? At the moment he's kicking in the back and that's it. My ex, for example, directly said to himself "if I'm not with this one, I'll find another mistress", but he doesn't move out, he stays at home, can you imagine what insolence !!! I kicked him out and then we divorced. Why such a miracle at home, think about it. You don't live like that.

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nathanramos answered · August 18, 2020

   Gather all your husband's rags in a suitcase and leave them in front of the front door. Let him go to sleep on the payroll. Have more respect for yourself, author.

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elisamarchisoni answered · August 18, 2020

   Why didn't you catch him for a threesome ... And just make him happy and run away ...

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invitehard2 answered · August 19, 2020

   You look like an intelligent woman, falling to such a level I don't think suits you. I wouldn't think of a jerk in your husband's ass.

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mealticcet answered · August 19, 2020

   Author: Are you relieved after taking revenge on your mistress? -I wonder? I guess your husband got rid of a little scandal, a conversation in which he said he insulted his mistress and a few days of frowning on your part. I also guess you're aware that this is hardly his first infidelity, you were just lucky enough to catch him. Be also aware that it will not be the last, now it will make you kind eyes for a while and again the old song in a new voice with a new mistress, the difference will be that it will be much more cautious and careful, will not allow her to have touch you and pretend to be your girlfriend. I know this because I have an acquaintance who often catches her husband in adultery. I ask her why she is still with him and she answers that she is a child of divorced parents and does not want her two girls to grow up as such, she would do her best to save her family. So far so good, but she doesn't realize that it doesn't depend on her, she doesn't realize that her husband will find someone to play with and turn his head so that he will forget both her and the children. I do not understand her, I would not tolerate such an attitude. I am writing this to make the Author aware that if her husband had never insulted her and said bad words about her, no woman would ever have thought of approaching him, let alone becoming his mistress. No woman comes to the man and says "look now, you are very happy with your wife, she is very good, but let me become your mistress". This is not how these things work. You see, the author loves you very much, respects you a lot, she is not with you just because of the children, but by the way, she raises the legs of others. After all, in order to let him go, the other one has to win it somehow, first he arouses regret with his role as a harassed husband, then he acts when a few crocodile tears catch him, as if someone with a knife in his throat has made him cheat. He suffers a lot and feels sorry for the man, but until next time. Author, I hope that yours has learned a lesson and does not deviate from the right path again, I wish it from the bottom of my heart! Ж32г

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robin581000 answered · August 19, 2020

   Author, after your comment, your story begins to sound more and more dubious. First, what man would tell everything that happened, knowing that he would only interrupt him more, unless it was to manipulate you? Then the mistress also sat down to talk, and listened to all the insults against her, and admitted how good you are and how much he almost protected you all the time while he was in her garden. And you stand here and explain calmly about him and about her, although if she was so calm, you would hardly be in a hurry to get it back. Someone is lying a lot here, whether the man is spitting at his mistress to come out clean, whether she is smearing your eyes to cover him or from guilt, because otherwise what mistress would not say a ton of shit in such a situation, even if she invented them? Or you're lying, maybe to yourself, even though instinct tells me, that you are lying to us. Too clean and tidy is this story about something as ugly and full of guilt and hurt feelings as infidelity. Infidelity is a nasty thing, with many consequences and many hurt, but safe from "recipient" stories.

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elikababe answered · August 19, 2020

   I didn't understand how you got your revenge. When you told her you knew? Is this revenge? And your husband told you things, presenting it in the worst possible light to make you like what you hear. The truth is, he slept with her because he liked it. And you have hurt yourself the most with this "revenge".

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suckmelola69 answered · August 20, 2020

   I wouldn't act like you. In any situation, people must maintain a good tone. I was in the role of mistress before my husband divorced. When his wife learned, even though she herself had a lover and their marriage had been formal for years, there was real horror. He used to throw pirates after me on the street, once he stoned me, shouted, made ugly scenes, went into the yard at night and plucked the flowers - hell. This hysteria of hers had the exact opposite effect - my husband and I became friends from lovers because we had a common opponent against us. He finally moved out, leaving her the house and everything. Today, years later, we maintain a completely normal relationship with her, she stays with us if there is a problem, we drink coffee together, we exchange recipes, etc. And she apologized to me at least three times for her behavior then. She says: I didn't love my husband, I didn't want him at home, I had a relationship aside and I have no explanation for why I acted like an idiot, especially now that I see how compliant you are. What you are doing, author, is an attempt to create an intrigue between your husband and his mistress, which is quite flat. In her place, I would not believe you, and that the gentleman is lying is one hundred percent. Naturally, he will call it "patchwork" to blur your eyes. The result will be that they will now set out to clarify the relationship between them, which could have unpredictable consequences. If you want this plasmodium at all costs, the tactic must be different: stay above things. Just don't deal with this story anymore, don't open a word about it. If my husband's ex-wife had been more diplomatic, she had shown that she cared about her family, we would certainly break up so as not to hurt her. But she dug up the tomahawk and declared war, and so we rallied to defend ourselves.

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amaz answered · August 20, 2020

   A woman with dignity and self-respect had never wanted to be told the details of her husband's love affair. There is something wrong with this story. I don't know if you took revenge on your mistress, author, but you yourself fell very low. But you don't understand it, and you even brag about your fall.

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faith.nketsi answered · August 20, 2020

   Now you are still affected and your anger is directed mainly at her, but when you calm down ... You told her everything he told you together with the qualifications. She is hurt, but she will forget it, she will find another. However, you are married to him and have children from him. Don't tell me that while he was telling you these things, the thought didn't pop into your head, "Lord, I'm married to this one too!" For me, such traits in a man, for which there are clear signals much earlier, are a reason not to reach a deep relationship or marriage at all, and not for divorce. So he didn't just sleep with her once drunk, they had an affair, and when he put the knife to the bone, his wife revealed it and immediately began to see that he was insulting. I do not like such men. He could have told you the truth. What did he miss? that he resorted to this or what caught him (sometimes men cheat not because something is missing in their marriage, but in their lives, their male complexes of fears, etc.). He could have stopped there because it didn't mean anything and it was stupid of him. I have many, many funny men who become poochies by catching them. When I see indications that a man is such a mouse and I lose my sexual charge towards him and I don't want him to hug me, to touch me, I lose interest in his words. Almost always permanently. It's a pity, but a hell of a pity! I don't know what advice to give you, but your story is sad, very much. After marrying such a pathetic man, you still demonstrated, albeit bypassed, that you were defending your territory from your mistress. It's sad that you love such a pathetic man. their there male fear complexes, etc.). He could have stopped there because it didn't mean anything and it was stupid of him. I have many, many funny men who become poochies by catching them. When I see indications that a man is such a mouse and I lose my sexual charge towards him and I don't want him to hug me, to touch me, I lose interest in his words. Almost always permanently. It's a pity, but a hell of a pity! I don't know what advice to give you, but your story is sad, very much. After marrying such a pathetic man, you still demonstrated, albeit circumventingly, that you were defending your territory from your mistress. It's sad that you love such a pathetic man. their there male fear complexes, etc.). He could have stopped there because it didn't mean anything and it was stupid of him. I have many, many funny men who become poochies by catching them. When I see indications that a man is such a mouse and I lose my sexual charge towards him and I don't want him to hug me, to touch me, I lose interest in his words. Almost always permanently. It's a pity, but a hell of a pity! I don't know what advice to give you, but your story is sad, very much. After you were married to such a pathetic man, you still demonstrated, albeit bypassed, that you were defending your territory from your mistress. It's sad that you love such a pathetic man. When I see indications that a man is such a mouse and I lose my sexual charge towards him and I don't want him to hug me, to touch me, I lose interest in his words. Almost always permanently. It's a pity, but a hell of a pity! I don't know what advice to give you, but your story is sad, very much. After marrying such a pathetic man, you still demonstrated, albeit bypassed, that you were defending your territory from your mistress. It's sad that you love such a pathetic man. When I see indications that a man is such a mouse and I lose my sexual charge towards him and I don't want him to hug me, to touch me, I lose interest in his words. Almost always permanently. It's a pity, but a hell of a pity! I don't know what advice to give you, but your story is sad, very much. After you were married to such a pathetic man, you still demonstrated, albeit bypassed, that you were defending your territory from your mistress. It's sad that you love such a pathetic man.

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apnews answered · August 20, 2020

   You did not take revenge on her, your husband took revenge on her by being intimate with her and then insulting her by doing so below. You can't be sure that he told the whole truth, he certainly saved you the most important thing, namely that he felt something for her, be it a temporary sexual attraction. I don't justify my mistress, as long as it's mean to sleep with your husband and pretend to be your girlfriend, they're both a bit of a jerk in my opinion.

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princessotm answered · August 21, 2020

   From the author - When I wrote my story here, I was aware that there would be all sorts of comments - including unpleasant ones. The only thing I can say for sure is that there is not a single lie or fabrication in what is written. I just missed a lot of important details - after all, people read a story, not a novel. For example, I missed the fact that this woman, also married, also with two children, had many love affairs before my husband. Shortly before she caught up with him, she was caught in a scandalous way with her son-in-law, her husband's sister's husband - I think in a mold. From her husband's sister. There were rumors, beatings, scandals, but I, as her "friend", sincerely and believed that she was being accused unfairly. Her husband had left her for a while, but he came back because his story was similar, which I read above-he is a child of divorced parents and from a young age wanders around other people's houses. He knows her very well - he just buries his head like an ostrich. I think that the one who commented under №9 is in the top ten. And when asked if I was relieved when I told her everything - yes, I was satisfied for myself. Because she was very deeply hurt, and as much as you blame me, I think she deserved it. I am not a man, but I am deeply convinced that if a man holds on to his mistress, he will remain silent, but will not expose her in this way - let me not go into disgusting details. Do not put words in my mouth that I am defending the main culprit - my husband. Just because I'm with him for now doesn't mean I've forgiven him. Yes, I'm with him because of the kids ... for now. And I loved him, oh how much I loved him. No longer. I'm sorry .... that most accurately, in the tenth is the commenter under №9. And when asked if I was relieved when I told her everything - yes, I was satisfied for myself. Because she was very deeply hurt, and as much as you blame me, I think she deserved it. I am not a man, but I am deeply convinced that if a man holds on to his mistress, he will remain silent, but will not expose her in this way - let me not go into disgusting details. Do not put words in my mouth that I am defending the main culprit - my husband. Just because I'm with him for now doesn't mean I've forgiven him. Yes, I'm with him because of the kids ... for now. And I loved him, oh how much I loved him. No longer. I'm sorry .... that most accurately, in the tenth is the commenter under №9. And when asked if I was relieved when I told her everything - yes, I was satisfied for myself. Because she was very deeply hurt, and as much as you blame me, I think she deserved it. I am not a man, but I am deeply convinced that if a man holds on to his mistress, he will remain silent, but will not expose her in this way - let me not go into disgusting details. Do not put words in my mouth that I am defending the main culprit - my husband. Just because I'm with him for now doesn't mean I've forgiven him. Yes, I'm with him because of the kids ... for now. And I loved him, oh how much I loved him. No longer. I'm sorry .... that if a man holds on to his mistress he will remain silent, but will not expose her in this way — let me not go into disgusting details. Do not put words in my mouth that I am defending the main culprit - my husband. Just because I'm with him for now doesn't mean I've forgiven him. Yes, I'm with him because of the kids ... for now. And I loved him, oh how much I loved him. No longer. I'm sorry .... that if a man holds on to his mistress he will remain silent, but will not expose her in this way — let me not go into disgusting details. Do not put words in my mouth that I am defending the main culprit - my husband. Just because I'm with him for now doesn't mean I've forgiven him. Yes, I'm with him because of the kids ... for now. And I loved him, oh how much I loved him. No longer. I'm sorry ....

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virgilabloh answered · August 21, 2020

   God! And your scumbag, where is he in the whole thing? Or is he pure as a tear? !! She doesn't owe you anything. She is not married to you, nor has she promised you anything. Get revenge on the man. And now you don't need to qualify me as a mistress. I have never been and never will be, and I do not deny her action, but yours to her is incomprehensible to me.

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pokerstaples answered · August 21, 2020

   25, I understood everything, only one thing I did not understand. Where is your husband in the whole thing? Will he just get away with it? And will you keep banging it? Or do you say, he is the victim of the one who almost put him to bed despite his disagreement and he did not actually participate in the infidelity?

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alexa_and_jake answered · August 21, 2020

   Author, you're married to a lower mouse. Your husband spat on his mistress to blame her — something no decent man would do. Decent moss would also not hurt his wife to listen to details of his relationship with his mistress. Even though you insisted. He didn't spare you, he did it just to get away. And you are comforted that the swindler did not hold on to his mistress! Well, he doesn't care about you either. He realized that he had to lower himself a little while the storm passed, and he would continue again in the same pathetic and lowly way! It's good that at least the mistress showed common sense, so she didn't tell you what he told her about you! Because, be sure that this is there too! I just don't know how you tolerate such "men"!

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wonderfuli answered · August 21, 2020

   It seems to me that you are trying to transfer all the pain of your husband's betrayal that you are feeling to your girlfriend in question. She betrayed you. Yes. But were your expectations of her higher than of your own husband? I do not think. I was not a mistress, but they tried to make me like that more than once. And here's what everyone says - we don't understand each other, we just fight, we've become like roommates, I don't love her anymore, the woman is not a bunch of compliments to me. I'm smart enough not to believe these words (except for the compliments, of course: D). But more naive and lonely women are definitely attached to these tales. My point is that your anger is directed at the wrong person. Maybe you even realize it and that's why you wrote this story, but you still don't want to accept it. Anyway ... Good luck ..

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forestlynx777 answered · August 22, 2020

   Abe women, can't you understand that the author's husband just fucked a whore. She slept with her son-in-law and whoever. Now he will sleep with a few more and will not stop. Tomorrow, if this woman is offered again to the author's husband, he will fuck her again. What is your wife's fault, she is not an ordinary mistress, she is "lift your legs". Tomorrow is another day with others and so on as long as he can. If the author can't forgive, she can lose her husband. It is! M45