How Is Great Love Lost?

   A woman's "great love" is just an expression, a word. They say it to blind you and generally think so at the moment. Does the hormone shock them, do the butterflies attack them, do they itch (simply put) and .... that's it;)

   Another man, of course. More powerful than you. In a higher social position than you. With more money than you. More beautiful than you. Smarter than you. Better than you. What are you so wondering? Do you think you are perfect? When she told you these things, you were the best prospect for her. Now that she's found something better, why not replace you? Do you have all the qualities that a woman considers irresistible - balance, self-confidence, optimism, efficiency, perseverance, courage, determination, intelligence and ambition? These are the qualities that help a man to rise in his profession. These are the qualities that are attractive to women, because even if you are not in a high social position now, these are the qualities that will guarantee you a future one. And a high position means more security for the woman and her children.

   Great love, no matter how great, is lost when the other party constantly disappoints you. This is a kind of mental harassment, which for me personally affects me physically. Constant lies lead to a loss of confidence, the repetition of mistakes (even after being told and shown) - ostensibly their conscious repetition and repetition, etc. - lead to more disappointments. As much as I love my friend, as much as I gave of myself for him - be it money, support, time, neglect of my loved ones even! etc., he continues to disappoint me, for example: we have agreed to spend the evening just the two of us, but at the last moment he is called by his best friend (who even forgot his birthday, but anyway) , and this one of mine immediately spins the opposite, the appointment with me falls away and the next moment we are with his best friend. More examples: I'm at work, we talked on the phone, we agreed to see each other when he took me from work, everything exactly ... BUT, stuck in a cafe with his best friend to drink beer, it's time to close the restaurant in what I do, it rains, while I put everything away I became a pool of water, I call him and ask him if he will come to see me, the answer was "let's finish our beer" - which means it won't be soon. And I told him I would go home alone. He just said "okay." He left me tired, wet to the ears and dirty to go home for 15 minutes in the rain. Well, he showed me terrible love ... And only to have a beer with his best friend over coffee. There are more examples: 1) lurking on a Facebook profile (by lurking we mean every day without a pass to log in to her profile and like photos as if he is not even his friend. And when I ask "do you know Eddie Who you are" he looks dumb and wonders what to lie that he doesn't know her. Knowing he's lying again. He made up a ridiculous lie and I decided not to argue because I got tired of lying. 2) flirting with every babe (as he calls them) who he likes 3) staring everyone's ass even if it's with me 4) I learned from his best friend that when they're both on Beer mine shows him this and that and together they cling to their cool asses and comment on them. And on top of that, he explains to me that this was perfectly normal. Well okay. And I have many, many more examples. They are so, dear friend, the great love is lost. I even started dealing with other men out of the resentment and insult I had accumulated during that time with him. I will follow the topic if you have any questions

   The only possible reason I would do that is if I don't think he wants me. The line between fighting for someone and chasing them can be quite thin. But believe me, a woman who truly loves you will not dump you lightly. In most such cases, the answer is very simple - he just doesn't like you, no matter what he says.

   Love is not lost.

   She definitely loves only her mother. Every other love is deserved, there are conditions. You cannot expect anyone to accept you as you are, if you are terrible, on the shoulders of "great love." If you do not try to change and eradicate your bad traits, which you realize yourself, and you wait for her to get used to them ... This is not love and the moment I realize it, I will cross it out forever.

   Great love is lost when even greater is found.

   When you don't pay attention to the relationship. When you destroy yourself in is everyday. IN.

   The fact that two people have strong feelings for each other does not mean that their love alone is enough to stay together. What would make me end my relationship with someone I otherwise love very much? 1. If he stumbles on gambling and gets too caught up in time without wanting to be helped. 2. If he starts drinking or taking illicit substances (on the same principle). 3. If you cheat on me (repeatedly) physically or emotionally. 4. If his attitude towards me changes and becomes colder and more withdrawn, more silent, more closed and without a desire to share, and this continues for a long time with no prospect of change. 5. If he becomes a workaholic who notices nothing but his profession. From work - home, home - work again. And the partner turns out to be part of the furniture. Invisible. 6. If he insists at all costs to have children from me in case I do not feel ready for such a step. 7. If he tries to restrict my freedom as a person under the pretext that this is best for me, behind which is classic jealousy and a strong sense of ownership. 8. If he insults me harshly or severely or touches me. 9. If he cares more about his family or friends than he does about me. I will give as an example a real-life couple, where the man is non-stop in restaurants with his avers, and his wife takes care of their sick child all by herself and wonders who to look for to take her to the hospital. When this is not the case, the man in question always considers his mother and father right, and blames his wife for absolutely everything. He never protects her, he never even tries to look at things objectively. And she keeps washing, rubbing, cook and wash. And he cares for his sick parents with devotion and warmth, despite the insults and accusations. 10. If he becomes sexually (and not only) selfish. If he starts thinking only about his pleasure and systematically forgets that I am also a living person who needs tenderness - physical and emotional. 11. If he stops working (not due to illness or caring for a child, an adult, a temporary situation, etc.) and lies on my shoulders at the absolute opportunity to make some money alone, and this lasted more than 6 months. 12. If I learn from him a secret which he has refused to share with me so far, and the contents of which are too painful and insulting for me to accept. 13. If his development (mentally, emotionally, intellectually, professionally) freezes at the same level for years and so to speak, my partner blunts brutally, does not want to develop, he does not care about the future and has decided to live only in the present moment. 14. If over the years he recognizes me as his mother and leaves me to take full care of the home (washing, cooking, cleaning, ironing, raising the child) while he finds new hobbies and activities. If he becomes a consumer who goes home just to throw a ball of dirty socks and eat a portion of chicken with rice. This is something I would not accept, despite the beauty of our common past and the strong feelings we have experienced. If a man changes and starts behaving the way he described above, and if talking to him and my patience, my love, and my attempts to help him deal with himself don't work, we'll have to break up. And I won't wait years to see change. If a man loves, he does not make his partner feel lonely, betrayed, desperate and at a dead end. Love is not just a feeling. Love is mostly action. Either you (re) tell someone how much he means to you, or you lose him.

   My feelings would fade if the person changed. Often at the beginning of a relationship we say and do things just to please the potential partner. I would be repulsed by something that in the beginning the man did or said he liked to do, and later when we live together he does not. Broken promises too. I don't like it when I feel underestimated. So what did you do all day at home, or what do you do so much as you look after the child, or what do you do so much at work ... To tell someone that he loves you, you did things for him that caused such feelings.

   Great love, as long as I'm fed up with these obscene nonsense.

   There can be many examples. But even if you don't lose it in any way ... - After a while the feelings fade away, they are not eternal. New objects appear, beautiful, crazy and playful ... etc. You see how many beautiful men there are, for example. You may not love again, but you fall in love with many more people. Or rather, you want them physically.

   See number 9 how briefly, accurately and clearly she said it. She is not very picky, she is just aware of herself and knows what she wants from the life ...