Hi, I'm a 24 year old woman. Half a year ago I broke up with my ex-boyfriend, with whom we were together for 2 years. He is my first big love. He is 33 years old, if that matters. I loved him and I still love him. We parted many times, but then we always got together. I will not write details about the reasons why we cannot be together. In short - we have both made a lot of mistakes, we have forgiven each other, but I now realize that I have no future with this man. He hurt me dozens of times, after which I always forgave him. The last time we broke up 6 months ago, I suffered a lot. I always hoped that he would look for me and change, but alas. I always hoped that one day he would realize what he was losing. Yes, but we have never met to this day. We kept in touch, we wrote to each other from time to time, but up to there. And I always shuddered in anticipation that everything would change. But I never saw a change. I tried to look at things realistically, I thought a lot and decided that it would be best to do my best to forget it. I just woke up one morning and decided I would stop all contact with him. I changed my phone number, deleted all the applications that can write to me. I just decided to disappear suddenly. The first days I felt some relief, I thought it would be easy for me, but it's not like that at all. Every day I go to bed and wake up thinking about him. I have not closed myself in, I am constantly finding something to do. I'm trying to fill my time. I work a lot, and when I rest I play sports, go out with friends or find some other activity.
But when I get home alone, only I know what's wrong with me. We live in a small town, where it is inevitable not to get caught. I have to see him from time to time. It is very difficult for me, I cry quite often. I want to forget it with all my heart, but I can't. I tell myself I would never go back to him, but I'm just lying to myself. I am afraid of myself, I am afraid that he is my weakness. I'm afraid he'll find a way to contact me and go back to him. And I don't want to. It hurts a lot, and since we broke up, I feel like part of me is missing. I feel a void that no one else can fill. Otherwise, I have no other problems, I have a good job, a good salary, I am independent, but I am not happy. I feel like I'm in a vicious circle I can't get out of. I don't know how much you can help me, but I just needed to share. How long will I need, to stop thinking about him all the time? Will my heart ever stop beating hard every time I see it?
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You will forget it. Look around for a new man.
T'va with "I'll never forget" are total nonsense that people say who can't find anything better. And it mostly happens because your depressive tendencies do not give you the opportunity to improve. There is no woman who has not decided to become more and not find a better, prettier and generally bigger man than her previous one. Usually people who are stuck on one level experience this painfully attachment to the consuming bad. Because if a handsome man appears who takes a healthy dose of bad, garnished with real interest and concern for you ... you will say to yourself, no ... I'm in love with that mold. We don't ... it's just that they obviously don't enter your space, because nothing attracts them. Self-knowledge and self-improvement are rooted in a person being happy. Because as you are your most wonderful version, the most wonderful person will appear who wants to be a part of your personal and wonderful ecosystem. The most altruistic thing on this Earth is to take care of yourself. Brother.
It took me a little over half a year without meeting another person. From May to December. In February I met a new person.
Yours is a little itchy and it hurts. Nowhere do you write what you did to change something in your relationship. Talk about problems, look for a way to change. You only write that it hurt you a lot. What would your ex-boyfriend say? Did you mention to him what you were expecting or just shivering in anticipation? If you think it didn't happen after you told him about your wishes, then it's best to separate. Otherwise, you can get together and share 100 times.
Beloved is never forgotten. And even if you think you've forgotten it, when you see it, your legs sag.
Well, I've been going through my separation for 9 months now .. I can't say how I feel about the woman I was with .. Maybe I miss her maybe not ... I don't know anymore ... I just know that I still don't want another .. I can't give advice, I can tell you what I do - a lot of work, a lot of books and a lot of training as much as I can every day, this is my recipe. Is obviously not working or is too slow
You can overcome, but not forget a loved one. No matter how much better you find it, sometimes you will still remember the feelings and emotions experienced with the previous one. It may be rare, maybe once a year, without even meeting him or hearing anything about him, but the questions "How is it now? Is it good? What else would you experience together?" Will always come to your mind. etc. For this is true love does not pass with time. The ice
I have no intention of forgetting my love and giving it up. It is not the most beautiful, on the contrary, it has many shortcomings, but I just came across it and I'm used to it. And she goes from trash to trash, but I decided to waste my life on her. Shirdor
I don't know, I haven't yet ... probably many years, and probably never!
Hey, you can't forget it. It takes a while and you get used to the thought of it and the habits you have built. Then a little more time passes and someone appears who will take you away from these memories for longer. I don't think the problem is with you. And I don't think these things should be forgotten. Just as you gave a part of yourself to this person, so he left something in you. He taught you something, "how to overcome great love." Remember the good moments with a smile and learn from the bad ones. Disney
Who knows?
I forgot my first love. He was bad, he never had time for me, he lied to me and insulted me, and for many years I thought I would soften his heart but in vain. We hadn't supposedly separated, but we rarely wrote and hadn't seen each other for more than a year. So I met another man who is exactly what I dreamed of. And I love him much more than the first. I have only bad memories of my ex