I am 24 .. I ended my first serious relationship 1 week ago because the man was not for me. Our relationship had no future, we just tormented each other. Then he told me that he would not look for me, but if I needed to I could always call him. It's very difficult for me, I cry every day, I miss him very much, my hand is on the phone all the time, I haven't called him yet, but I don't know how long he will last. I hate being so weak. Some people say when it's over - it's over, and I ... And the worst thing is that if he was the one to dump me, maybe I would feel better ... But in this case it's me. I took the first step and I ended the relationship, I want to move on. How long does it hurt? When will I be able to look at another again, because at this stage I have the feeling that I can't even accept the fact
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And why did you split up? From what is written, it seems that you love him very much.
"Love lasts three years," Frederic Begbede. Many truths are told inside, although it is written in a relatively "light" style.
Damm, it will hurt, it still hurts me, after 1 year. 5 m even though I took the step to end the relationship, if you loved him it will hurt you, the mind has prevailed over the heart, but the heart will bleed
Don't be fooled, you may not feel sorry for him for the rest of your life. But, if you hold on, up to 1 year max, you will look again and you will have feelings for another again. That doesn't mean you'll forget it!
You are a 24-year-old woman, and you ask questions like a little girl. No one can tell you "love lasts so long" or "it will hurt you for another 2 months", for example. It is different for everyone. The value of something / someone is understood when you lose it. You got into a relationship without development, as you say, he obviously didn't love you enough, then you ended it, now you're roaring. Well, don't do that as a lesson. Things in life are sometimes learned the hard way. If you can, at least keep some self-esteem and will and don't look for it.
There is a book "Love lasts 3 years" :)
I do not know exactly how you understand "love", but falling in love lasts 2, maximum 3 years, some people report for 5, but personally I do not believe .. If during this time you do not create a stable partnership, friendship, mutual respect - write work ran away!
These things happen gradually and without time. You may be fine in a month, or you may dream and think for another half a year. First you stop crying, then you stop remembering moments every day, then it hurts less than the memories ... and finally comes the night you go to bed and suddenly realize that you haven't been in pain for the person in question for a long time and you actually feel good. Time passes, you meet someone new and you feel all the love tremors as if for the first time. You embark on a whirlwind of silly smiles, awkward touches, waiting for the next meeting and you realize that you are ready to give yourself.
Love lasts forever if it is right.
Time heals
Do you feel what nonsense you are writing? The man was not for you, and now you miss him a hell of a lot. And again, nonsense, you know you did the right thing by ending your relationship, and now you can't accept the fact that you're not going to kiss and hug this person. You are not weak-willed, you are weak-intelligent and too weak to be felt. Your friend must be very happy that you ended your relationship, but he is reasonably silent. If I make the mistake of having, albeit briefly, a relationship with someone like you, I will tell all my friends that I got rid of a woman with an empty head. I won't even think about you
It hurts, it hurts, but it will pass. Find the person for you instead of wasting your time suffering for the wrong one!
For some it lasts a lifetime, for others it is temporary. Many factors affect whether two people will separate or be together forever.
From the author Thanks to everyone who commented, thanks for the advice. I read this book years ago "love lasts three years", I had forgotten it, thanks for the reminder. It is good to have people, albeit strangers, who respond in some way to a person in need. To number 13 - I do not understand how falling in love determines my intellectual abilities, but for God's sake, how will I know, being 'weakly intelligent'. One piece of advice - intelligence is defined by the words 'low' and 'high', because it itself is measured in numbers. Now, in addition to being weak, he realized I was witty. Thank you for the comment, drink with friends, obviously you did only that at school, if you can't build a phrase.
At 24 you are not small, between love and hate there is a very thin line between your age and people who make a connection with the main one know that love has no interests and sometimes it is confused between love and hate. You're not 12 to be there to explain how things are. Please post my answer