Hi, I'm a 19 year old boy. And I have a lot of problems, I have been leading a closed lifestyle for a long time. I almost don't leave the house, unfortunately I don't have any friends, I went to school, I went home and stayed on the computer, if I got tired of sitting on the computer I watched TV and I still don't know how long I will continue like this, in the Old School where I studied from 1st to 7th grade, the boys and girls made fun of me all the time, and I stood and kept quiet, so they crushed me as they wanted and I felt terrible when I was still in the old school, I always thought that when I entered high school things would they change but I was the same there, the boys in high school also made fun of me, the girls didn't pay any attention to me and when I came home from school I was ruined every day. I rarely go to a gym to train but I'm sure they think I'm weird there too because I don't communicate with anyone there, I train ok. half an hour and I go home, I also have a lot of problems at home with my family. I've never been to a coffee shop and since I have no friends I'm not anywhere, I've only been to a disco and it was at my prom. Unfortunately, I have never had a girlfriend, but no girl is able to like me, firstly, because I do not have a nice body, secondly, my whole face is in pimples and thirdly I am hellishly congested and this prevents me from communicating with people. I also can't find a job for the simple reason that it's hard for me to communicate with people. I don't know how long I will be so antisocial, I want to socialize in society, I don't want to continue living this boring and closed way of life. I will be grateful to the editors for publishing my story.
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The good news in your situation is that you are not the only one, there are others like you, for example, I am like that, with a few exceptions. The bad thing is that if you continue like this, it will really prevent you from finding a job, more precisely, your communication problems will make it difficult for you. I'm the same as you, I have almost no friends, but if someone talks to me, I don't keep quiet, but it still depends on the person, if I'm ashamed of him or I don't like him, I'll be silent and naughty towards the other person. And I don't go to discos because I just don't feel like it, I generally suffer insults because I don't talk to others and I'm a terribly limited person according to them, or some people think I'm arrogant. I don't see what they can talk you about, because you have the right to do whatever you want, if you want you will sit at the computer all day. It's normal for me, it is unacceptable for me to wonder just who to sleep with, to pretend to be famous, to smoke and drink and such nonsense. Don't worry, you'll find a girlfriend, you haven't turned 40, so you can't, you just have to look for a girl with whom you have something in common, because if you look for the easy and the artificial, you won't succeed. Such girls like the so-called walking and family, so my advice is to look for a more modest girl and if you like one, to act, because people like us will never be lucky nowadays. You know how many ugly guys there really are, but they're open, they know how to fit in somewhere and they like them, which is stupid, because the others are like outsiders. You have to have a better opinion of yourself, because there are really ugly people, but they still like them. Once you go to the gym, so you're in shape and you shouldn't have a problem with that. Try to socialize a little, first you can do it through the Internet, it makes sense to meet there, gradually little by little to go out more, to enroll in sports, clubs or something like that. It's really hard to do, especially since that's your character and that's why I understand you. Personally, it would be more pleasant for me to meet a person like you than with a family who does not know what world he is in. w 18 than with a familiar who doesn't know what world he's in. w 18 than with a familiar who doesn't know what world he's in. w 18
The good news in your situation is that you are not the only one, there are others like you, for example, I am like that, with a few exceptions. The bad thing is that if you continue like this, it will really prevent you from finding a job, more precisely, your communication problems will make it difficult for you. I'm the same as you, I have almost no friends, but if someone talks to me, I don't keep quiet, but it still depends on the person, if I'm ashamed of him or I don't like him, I'll be silent and naughty towards the other person. And I don't go to discos because I just don't feel like it, I generally suffer insults because I don't talk to others and I'm a terribly limited person according to them, or some people think I'm arrogant. I don't see what they can talk you about, because you have the right to do whatever you want, if you want you will sit at the computer all day. It's normal for me, it is unacceptable for me to wonder just who to sleep with, to pretend to be famous, to smoke and drink and such nonsense. Don't worry, you'll find a girlfriend, you haven't turned 40, so you can't, you just have to look for a girl with whom you have something in common, because if you look for the easy and the artificial, you won't succeed. Such girls like the so-called walking and family, so my advice is to look for a more modest girl and if you like one, to act, because people like us will never be lucky nowadays. You know how many ugly guys there really are, but they're open, they know how to fit in somewhere and they like them, which is stupid, because the others are like outsiders. You have to have a better opinion of yourself, because there are really ugly people, but they still like them. Once you go to the gym, so you're in shape and you shouldn't have a problem with that. Try to socialize a little, first you can do it through the Internet, it makes sense to meet there, gradually little by little to go out more, to enroll in sports, clubs or something like that. It's really hard to do, especially since that's your character and that's why I understand you. Personally, it would be more pleasant for me to meet a person like you than with a family who does not know what world he is in. w 18 than with a familiar who doesn't know what world he's in. w 18 than with a familiar who doesn't know what world he's in. w 18
It is best to consult a professional (psychologist)
Not all girls judge only by their appearance;) F, 16
Change must come from you friend! I was in a similar state and I continue somewhere. But I started studying and now I go to work part-time and generally I'm constantly busy and communicating with more people. So I built more self-confidence. I'm also lame with my girlfriend because I have problems at home and I don't want to burden anyone with them. Maybe it's a mistake because I'm already 23 and I haven't had a girlfriend so far, but that's how it turned out. Don't despair about that! If you are not studying or you do not have the opportunity, be sure to find a job in the first place. You have to dare because you will start communicating with people and then it will be easier for you. Then it will not be bad to enroll in a university or a course. Success!
Why don't you get to work? You seem to be big enough already!
Find a hobby to fill your time and if you want to enroll in higher education. There is no guarantee that you will immediately find friends, but at least you will be among people (whether you like it or not) and you will have more chances. And now when you think of it and just regret it, the chances are zero. Success! And head up!
I'm the same as you. The difference is that I became one in high school. By 7th grade I went out more and stayed in the yard with the others. But from 8th grade school and then home television and computer. I'm the only one in my class who doesn't have a boyfriend. I only go out in the summer with 2 girlfriends. I'm in 12th grade and I don't know what I'm going to do when I go to university in the dorm, how I'm going to get along with others.
Look for a job or enroll in college and go to a brigade in the United States, you will meet many people, you will gain experience.
You just have to help yourself. I don't know what you are interested in, but look for people with common interests and start making contacts.
To the author and n 9. I have news for you - you are not congested, but just a little insecure. So was I, but when I finished and started working - everything changed in a positive direction. I'm not beautiful, and my self-esteem is gone, but I realized one thing. I realized that no one but me knows how insecure, anxious, and what shortcomings I have. Be more determined and confident and you will see a positive result. Good luck. :-) Emanuela 25y ..
I can not believe. It's like my story, except I'm 18. My advice is to visit a psychologist. I've been doing it for 4 months somewhere and it helps a lot. You also need to find meaning in your life. You can study or focus on fitness. You just have to have a reason to get up in the morning, and that reason is not in other people, but in yourself. Otherwise, do not expect someone to help you, unfortunately people nowadays are only interested in themselves. We are still young and things are really in our hands. And for the face, consult a dermatologist. I had very severe acne, which was not affected by anything, and finally I drank roacotan for 6 months and currently I don't even have a pimple, but this is a severe and a little expensive treatment for a really severe case.
bro I am now 22 years old and in this case i was too, however in high school the first two years. I did not communicate with anyone and, accordingly, my classmates teased me constantly. I was the outsider of the class, but for the last two years in high school I started to communicate more and they stopped teasing me, they started to pay more attention to me and from the quiet and meek boy I became open and sociable. Dude, if you don't help yourself, there is no one to help you, you have to go out more and not shut yourself at home, you have to meet people, if you sit at home you will not find any friends or girlfriends. The girls are not wanted at home but outside or in a dating site, that's why it's Facebook, make a registration, start uploading your photos and accordingly you will start dating is not so difficult. Good luck and head up!
Don't despair, there are other people like you who are not the only ones with this problem. But the worst thing is that it will be difficult to find a job after it is difficult for you to communicate with people. Meet people on the Internet Go to the gym more often, don't waste your time just at home in front of the computer and in front of the TV, you will make a body and meet guys your age and around your age, and so you will start making friends. You will always find a girlfriend, you will not be left alone for life because do not despair! F 20