How Many People Understand Love?

   I have no words to describe how right you are. Very few men will admit that they are to blame for the change (for the worse) of women in most cases. I hope there are more people who think your way and I hope one day true love prevails :)

   I am commenting on another topic: Love and affection are 2 different things. Almost everyone goes through the first. Falling in love, generally speaking, is a state in which we see ourselves in the other. When falling in love, reason is absent, and everything is emotion. Then even chemicals are released in the brain, to which some people become addicted. When a person is in love, he does not notice or rather does not pay attention to the shortcomings of the person he is in love with. It is quite possible that she does not even suspect what the other is really like (this explains why very often women fall in love with complete idiots and men lose their minds over, say, a whore). However, when the love is gone (and this inevitably happens), a relationship routine occurs (some incorrectly call this exhaustion). Then we clearly understand what the other is really like. And here's the key, that is, here is the role of love, which will either come or will not come. If after the period of falling in love, which can last from months to years, depending on the development of the relationship, does not come lasting love, then there is alienation, indifference, indifference, and sometimes even hatred for yesterday's object of our feelings (our love ). In love we accept the other next to us with all his shortcomings. Some clichés say that love is blind, but this is not true. Love is not blind, love is blind. Love is aware of everything about the other and accepts him as he is. Many modern people have never known her, simply because their love has never been transformed into true love! This is the reason for the breakdown of relationships and marriages today, for the many infidelities, divorces and suffering children. Basically, people, who are always looking for the strong emotions characteristic of the initial stages of a relationship, always fall into the same trap, that is, always get bored over time (year, 2, 3, 5, etc.). They cannot achieve lasting happiness and doom themselves to constant search. Such people in most cases cheat or simply end their relationships and marriages even after many years. They just don't know how to love truly, selflessly, without looking for their own in a relationship at any cost.

   According to most, there are many here, but I can't believe it. It's all bills

   What the author wrote is true. But I don't like the comment. This is exactly the type of people we are talking about, who are beginning to share the love of falling in love, love, sex and other divisions. But this is not the case - love is unique, no matter when, how, in the beginning, in the end. Love is in the soul, and when you lose your soul or do not find it at all, then love becomes just a word or a shiny gift for Valentine's Day. And in order not to kill your soul, sometimes it is enough not to kill your culture.

   She love, if it was to be understood - fun ... yes, but no! She is a feeling that is neither described nor anything, and if it goes with attraction and falling in love, then she is a mother! I support the opinion of number 2 (in practice 1). Falling in love is blind and naive, but what remains after it is called love. Either he has it or he doesn't. Either it remains or it has never been present. When you are in love, you make a lot of mistakes and nonsense. When you love, you hurt yourself, for the sake of the other and ... Honestly, I would like to love my biggest enemy, no problems. Because he won't care about the problems, but to love means to care too much, so much that you tear at the seams. And yes, I would like him to love someone truly, no matter what kind of person he is. Because out of love, he will first suffer, and then he will change.

   I am an expert in love and I can definitely say that most people have no idea what it is. If they had known, there would not have been so much drama and torment. There should be classes in school to study love, because it is much more than butterflies in the stomach and a pleasant time with someone.

   Eh, eh ... What does boredom lead to, huh? !! To understand mathematics, to understand Bulgarian, to understand engineering .. But, come on, explain to me how feelings are understood? !? Here is the mistake .. We have love, we have some feelings, and we immediately take on the difficult and impossible task, we must name them somehow, we must draw the film what, how and when it will happen, etc. Or in short - the mistake is that instead of feeling, we sit and think .. And for what? !! It's as if the thought changes our emotion. No, it changes the decisions we make, but not the emotions inside us.

   It is not true that women think only of material things ... we think of both sex and love. You made us look like puppets, and men like fuckers and runners ... People are individual, but as a woman, I can tell you that women also think about sex all the time.

   I do not agree that only men hurt. I know men who have been badly hurt by women and have become angry with them and started using them for no reason. Girls and women also get hurt, they are not always the ones hurt, remember that! Both men and women are hurt, and they are hurt. The whole problem is that just the injured have come across the wrong people and that's why they are actually hurt .. the bad thing is that even after only 1 such "hit" of the wrong, the "crook" immediately decides that there is no real love, stops to believe in it and thus become the one you are talking about - thinking only of money and sex. Yes, some people happen to be hurt more than once, there is hardly a person who has not suffered from love, but we, the people, just have to accept that it happens that we do not always get that, which we want to find our way elsewhere, but it's not that easy, of course. Sometimes the next attempt is unsuccessful. If we are never in love, we will have to look for the shortcomings in ourselves as well - whether we are looking for the right place, whether we do not have extraterrestrial criteria that we do not meet, whether we approach the object of our feelings correctly, whether we do anything at all. to make this love shared .. Another way not to suffer from the love I remember is to love without expecting anything in return, not to be afraid of unrequited love, but this way is almost impossible to apply .. Maybe I deviated a little from the topic, but anyway. In general, I wanted to say that we should not give up on 2-3 unsuccessful attempts. Sometimes good things happen when we least expect them. Sometimes, if we're obsessed with something, it still doesn't happen, and when we don't, then it even happens, there was even something like that with me. At one time it was a fixed idea to have a person next to me, but it still didn't work out. Then I started doing other things, I had started to pay more attention to myself and my friends and hop - I found a friend, but we broke up at my request, because I got bored: D. So ... we just shouldn't give up, we may just not be destined to meet the Man at this stage, but that doesn't mean it won't happen in time. True love is really rare, but it is still there, isn't it? 400 I had started to pay more attention to myself and my friends and hop - I found a friend, but we broke up at my request, because I got bored: D. So ... we just shouldn't give up, we may just not be destined to meet the Man at this stage, but that doesn't mean it won't happen in time. True love is really rare, but it is still there, isn't it? 400 I had started to pay more attention to myself and my friends and hop - I found a friend, but we broke up at my request, because I got bored: D. So ... we just shouldn't give up, we may just not be destined to meet the Man at this stage, but that doesn't mean it won't happen in time. True love is really rare, but it is still there, isn't it? 400

   I really liked what the author wrote. I also believed in love and loved with all my heart. I gave my best, I put all my energy into the person who is special to me. I believed that love was eternal, that nothing could stop and obscure a true burning love that I experienced. But, alas. There is no love for me anymore. After more than 4 years I was devoted to my friend, I loved him more than my life, I gave everything for him, I neglected my friends, he was the center of my whole life ... in the end I received from him only disgusting attitude and insults. How does love exist then?

   Wonderfully said number 2 and very true. I have written such comments more than once in various topics, but many people are not interested in what love is and leave it with the belief that it is romance and butterflies in the stomach. And it really should be taught in schools, as suggested by number 6. I've always wondered why children learn so much nonsense that they don't really need, and the basic and important things in life are not learned. There is a science of love, it has been studied for many years and it is nothing new under the sun. I have books on the subject and I can publish excerpts, but the material is not for everyone. It is for the more prepared and advanced. That is, in order to understand the science of love, you must have at least a good level of knowledge in psychology or have studied psychology, otherwise the text will remain misunderstood and foreign. K-Man

   Author: This is true about falling in love. Jorge Bucay also wrote it in his book "Making Love with Open Eyes". I recommend it. :) One Boy-20y.

   Unfortunately, don't explain things to me from left to right. The meaning that even butterflies disappear, falling in love is transformed into even stronger feelings such as love, respect, etc. For some it doesn't even change anything and the passion is as strong as when they first saw each other, but when I said that I meant the time now. I know people are quite confused, we are not aware of ourselves, let alone talk about such issues as forehead. Unfortunately, at the moment life revolves around money and sex and all the equivalences of it. We humans have become quite confused, uncharacteristic mourners, and we don't fight, and at the slightest difficulty we give up, and that speaks either of a lack of character or of not caring enough for this person. We live in a supposedly advanced time where everything is ready for us and we have no incentive to fight until the people before us do not talk about Bulgaria but the whole world have fought even for their lives for their loved ones for their family somehow then everything was better strong I am not talking only about positive feelings such as fidelity, love, respect, etc., but also, unfortunately, hatred, anger and thirst for power, although these feelings are a hundred years strong and now, while others are much weaker. Sea everyone says I love you at 1 week just so we are not able to feel such strong feelings for some reason why few are the lucky ones who experience these feelings and have met people who respond to them with the same feelings. It even respect in a relationship lacks mercy what to talk about love. A person goes with someone who doesn't like him and promises to go with him so as not to hurt him, thinking that he will fall in love with him, in some cases this happens, but in most people he is hurt. The hill is gone, I just don't know, something has changed inside us, I can't explain it to myself. It is true that people like and make sense a person behaving be it a boy or a girl like a whore or a whore in some cases it is understandable not all people are born ready ones and in both cases some made them so hurt them deeply with their actions maybe not only a person but also a situation, for example, to lose a loved one whom he really loved and to lose a part of himself and change, but this is a separate topic. in fact, they are completely innocent puppet sheep that many people manipulate us from the media to outsiders in power or some influence over us, many of us do not have their own thinking or their views are wrong and do not admit that they are wrong about anything. The bad thing is that we don't hate or anything like that, even though it's not good, but the bad thing is that we are indifferent. Now I don't know if my ideas are wrong or if I'm too naive romantic, but just imagining what it was like then and now what it was, I wonder what we're alive for. Not that the people before us were perfect, but we still live in a time that is a hundred years old, but we harm ourselves.

   Just to add something a mistake is that people looking for love are in such a hurry to experience these feelings and emotions that we do not pay attention to ourselves to improve in some respects. One should not seek love and demand before saying that he wants to meet love he should be able to give what he wants and not to state why there is no love and so on as he himself is not able to give such sincere and strong emotions. somehow to feel him capable of making a mistake would be if he couldn't and getting into such a person would make him unhappy. It is fashionable for everyone to have a boyfriend or girlfriend nowadays they have not seen each other live and I say I love you very wrong is what it feels like a two day chat to swear that you can not do without him or her just because you liked his opinion about things and views I think these people are lonely frustrated suffered frustrated in this aspect and desperately want to catch themselves like a drowning man for a straw which is pointless. For liking as well as for attraction but please do not confuse this with love there is a difference.

   Author! Love is not a science to be accepted as an object of understanding and study. It is a feeling that you can maintain, cover up or show and to some extent control (a matter of experience). It is impossible to plan your feelings for a certain person. Many women do, but it is an unsuccessful attempt to cover up interests. Once you're 20, I can tell you: Welcome to reality! . You have to be ready for what awaits you in life, and you will not like it at all. What you read in romance novels and watch "love" movies is a fantasy built on an ideal but at odds with reality. Love exists and the feeling of being in love is called happiness and harmony, but it is too short and is called momentary blindness. The ability to maintain it is the formula for success, but no matter how experienced and smart you are, it will always disappear. Hardly anyone is to blame for this. It's just that man is not monogamous by nature. He is created to see, compare and want what he likes or can have. Being faithful to a grave is a pure illusion. If you live with this thought, you must be blind to what surrounds you. If you are aware that everything is on time and nothing is eternal, it will be easier for you to accept reality.

   Love is not for understanding, it is for living

   Comment number 15 ... you think very wrong. "Being true to a grave is a pure illusion." It's the dumbest thing I've ever read or heard! If all people were as smart as yours, how far would we get ?? To nowhere. With these words of yours, you mean that life is only sex and temporary use. What happiness can such a way of life bring ?? One must raise children in this life and bring them up is the most important thing. And if a child does not have a mother or a father, then how will he be brought up properly ?? It's hard. And a child needs both a father and a mother;) But if it's an illusion to be faithful to someone to the grave, then the children will be either orphans or semi-orphans and just ... I don't know what they will have a future if they have parents thinking your way ... A 20-year-old boy.

   I recently watched a show with Djoko Rosic, who said, "When you see a woman grabbing your attention for days, you can't stop thinking about her and thinking about her, it's sex." We are all drawn solely by our sexual attraction to the opposite sex, and when things settle down and a couple begins to feel just mutual respect and love, it's completely different. But sex is sex and sooner or later we start looking for it where it will give us the necessary emotion and "butterflies in the stomach". This is the simple truth, we humans were not born to be monogamous.

   I completely agree with comment number 17! So many people all over the dark world find happiness in eternal love .. so many lives and destinies are saved by this eternal true love .. I will not say my years, but I will say that I have experienced it and it is much more innocent and different way .. The first love is pure and true, the sweetest, but in most cases unfortunately it is not eternal ... even if it stays in our hearts forever, even if we remember it for life, in most cases we part with people, in which we fell in love for the first time in a year, two, three or whatever ... But I can't say this about the next (conscious) love with which you create a family and children. This love CAN be eternal ... to the grave! Number 15 thinks terribly wrong. No matter how ruined and hurt a person is, this great love is able to save him (him, his soul and destiny) and be with him for the rest of his life .. it's not all sex and money. There are many lies and bad things in the world, but love is one of the few feelings that adorns all this pain and grayness ... It is a pity that many of us have not loved and do not know how to do it .. and are not just guilty their culture, feelings and hearts are light years away from the truth; e The author is also right, thank you that he even sat down to think and write these things .. May love continue to live among us. :)) e The author is also right, thank you that he even sat down to think and write these things .. I hope love continues to live among us. :)) e The author is also right, thank you that he even sat down to think and write these things .. I hope love continues to live among us. :))

   Bravo @ 7 - I think you perfectly described the real state of affairs. And when I read K-Man and start searching / through Google? / in which university can this SCIENCE be studied. Or in this case it is a matter of slight artistic exaggeration in order .... ?? And let's not forget - thank you Author - you are right about many things, keep it up !!