Hello to all visitors to the site, I have been following it for many years, but here I happened to ask for a little help from you. I am a 30-year-old married man. My wife is 25 years old. We have been together for 3 years. We have been married for 1 year. We also have a wonderful daughter of the same age. We have a dispute about how often it is normal to have sex during the month. We currently do it about 4 to 5 times a month which is too little for me and it weighs a lot on me. I think that 3 to 4 times a week is normal, not to mention that I had a partner with whom I did it 3 times a day was very good but it was a little hard for me because of work, otherwise there was no other problem for me and so on. And according to her 5 6 times a month. I am releasing the topic because of it, it is up to date and we will follow the comments together. I will ask various haters to skip a comment. We will be happy to receive answers from broad-minded people, thanking us in advance !!!
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For a couple with a small child 3 times a day is difficult, not to say fantasy. Work, child, I just do not think you will be able to achieve this norm. I'm about your girlfriend's age, but unmarried. With one of my ex-boyfriends we observed 3-4 times a week. However, the child changes things, so I think that the proposal given by you is a little above the easily achievable. On the other hand, 4-5 times a month is once a week, which is a bit real. In my opinion, the best option is for both of you to step back a little and meet in the middle. About 2 times a week is a realistic prognosis for people with small children, but it is also satisfactory for young people. In conclusion, I vote twice a week for the case and I will follow the topic, because I will be interested to see the other opinions.
If you have a partner you like, of course - once a day is ok. In a sense, my husband and I have a good night, so to speak. Sometimes it's instead of good morning. Then I flutter like a butterfly around the house and at work. Sex is the cement in a marriage / relationship.
An interesting topic, Dirty Daddy will be involved: - for starters I'm not sure that the opinions of people here in the forum will be useful to you ... let's imagine that the majority are of the opinion that sex every day is normal - and what ? Does your partner start having sex with her more often because of this? Or just one can say to the other "did you see, I was right"? In my opinion, you have found yourself in the classic situation, when after the initial euphoria things settle down, the woman has received what she is genetically programmed to want (child) and sex is no longer her priority. A very common phenomenon, unfortunately for men. In addition, the number of sexual contacts per month depends on the "quality" of sex - it's one thing to slip it for 10 minutes lazy after work before bedtime, it's another to take a break for four hours and have a muscle fever the next day. In short: it is normal as much as you both want, that is, the common denominator. If one of you is short of this, you can try to break the situation by talking about it: if you tell your wife "if you see a woman, most people have sex three times a week", for example, do you think she will have tomorrow desire for more sex? No, there won't be. But you can try things that diversify sex and increase the desire for sex: talk openly about who has what sexual thoughts / ideas / dreams. It often turns out that there are unshared sexual thoughts - some dream of rougher sex, bondage, toys, couples-threes-fours, home-sub, roles, whatever you can think of ... unleash your imagination, everything you like it's ok for both of them, no matter how unscrewed or "perverted" it is in the eyes of a third party. The secret is in diversification, then the desire comes by itself. Dirty Daddy
Between 2 and four times a week.
There are partners who, in the beginning, because of this, to be with you, pretend to be what you want - that is, you do it as much as you want. As a result, you left the previous one. Now, however, your new one is not about sex and you already understand it. Either you resign or I don't know. People do not change, and the masks fall off after 4 years of living together. It's normal to do as much as you want with a woman who wants as much as you do. But you already have a child and I don't know ... will you make this sacrifice for life.
When a woman cannot have an orgasm during sex, for her sex becomes a burden or a tedious obligation. Instead of asking how many times it is normal to have sex, try to get your wife to have an orgasm or at least enjoy it, not just getting in and out. No woman will refuse if something is nice, right ... It's just awkward for her to tell you the harsh truth that you're not worth it in bed. If you want sex often, try - at least 10 minutes of foreplay, try not to finish in 1-2 minutes, otherwise she thinks off, I just undressed to serve my husband to satisfy his instincts ... Put yourself in her shoes - if it didn't end during sex or you felt used only for getting in and out, would you want to have sex often ... This comment would serve everyone,
Hello, my friend and I, for example, have sex 3-4 times a week, sometimes 5, depending on our daily routine, of course. When we have sex less than 3 times a week (for certain reasons) we both do not feel well and we accumulate.
In my opinion, it is not how many times it is normal, but how much you can reach a compromise that suits both of you. Normal is a relative concept, for some it is normal once a week, for others three or four. By the way, to answer your question, I am one of those for three or four times a week, although lately we do it much less often, because we are facing big exams and in the coming months we have a very tight program of learning. Good luck and I hope you reach an agreement with the woman :)
A 32-year-old man, a 28-year-old woman, and a 1.3-year-old child. We have been together for 7 years and have sex almost every day. In the evening, if she is very tired, in the morning. Now, as we sleep naked, it is difficult to miss. On Saturday night we must leave the baby with one of the grandmothers and go out together, or with company, drink, dance and then play all Sunday, full program. In the evening we take the child home, happy with life. After giving birth, my wife started playing sports and became sexier than before, she buys various laces, socks and wants it. That day he sent me such a nice photo and wrote to me at 9 pm I became a mother in pajamas and I almost tore my flip-flops. Almost everything depends on the woman, whether she is a temerud. But not everything! She has a joke from a poem. If you don't set the stage and raise the curtains, how can I dance, favorites? So when he says what he wants, I do it, I watch the little one at sports, on Saturday and I help to clean the house, or we go out with the little one to fix it. Saturday and Sunday do not cook, this is the law from day one. I have no problem, we go out or order for home, and she takes care of me. And I make gestures to her, she calls me that they are Neanderthal, but she has a lot of fun pouring her a whiskey and I tell her to go and adjust, that I will put a pickle to sleep. Make a day without the baby and without work, like our day and you will see how you can hardly wait for it and during the week your appetite will improve. It appetite comes with eating, as they say. Yours is very little sex, my wife will scold you. She shouts that sex is very important for women's youth and health. or we go out with the little one, let her fix it. Saturday and Sunday do not cook, this is the law from day one. I have no problem, we go out or order for home, and she takes care of me. And I make gestures to her, she calls me that they are Neanderthal, but she has a lot of fun pouring her a whiskey and I tell her to go and adjust, that I will put a pickle to sleep. Make a day without the baby and without work, like our day and you will see how you can hardly wait for it and during the week your appetite will improve. It appetite comes with eating, as they say. Yours is very little sex, my wife will scold you. She shouts that sex is very important for women's youth and health. or we go out with the little one, let her fix it. Saturday and Sunday do not cook, this is the law from day one. I have no problem, we go out or order for home, and she takes care of me. And I make gestures to her, she calls me that they are Neanderthal, but she has a lot of fun pouring her a whiskey and I tell her to go and adjust, that I will put a pickle to sleep. Make a day without the baby and without work, like our day and you will see how you can hardly wait for it and during the week your appetite will improve. It appetite comes with eating, as they say. Yours is very little sex, my wife will scold you. She shouts that sex is very important for women's youth and health. but she is very happy when I pour her a whiskey and tell her to go and adjust that I will put a pickle to sleep. Make a day without the baby and without work, like our day and you will see how you can hardly wait for it and during the week your appetite will improve. It appetite comes with eating, as they say. Yours is very little sex, my wife will scold you. She shouts that sex is very important for women's youth and health. but she is very happy when I pour her a whiskey and tell her to go and adjust that I will put a pickle to sleep. Make a day without the baby and without work, like our day and you will see how you can hardly wait for it and during the week your appetite will improve. It appetite comes with eating, as they say. Yours is very little sex, my wife will scold you. She shouts that sex is very important for women's youth and health.
For women, the normal norms are as follows: between 20 and 30 years - 2 times a day; 30-40 years - 2 times a week, 40-50 years - 2 times a month, 50-60 years 2 times a year; after 60 years - nothing. It's different for men.
My girlfriend and I do it either every day or every other day. We have been together for a year.
I do it every day, but I also had a girlfriend with whom we did it three times and I felt even better.
As in everything, it is good to plan time for tenderness. As there is a luff, Tuesday, Thursday and weekly Sunday. It is important for the child to sleep separately, not because of sex but because it is right and good for the child. You can read more on the subject. It is important to sleep in one bed. Mass families sleep apart, which I do not understand. You may not have sex, but it is important to be hugged every night, to have communication. Everyone has a different need. But the more often the better. I recently read an article about why we should have sex every day. Read it online. Very interesting. Read also what interferes with a relationship and what should not be in the bedroom. The important thing is to maintain your relationship, otherwise you will be immersed in the mass family, where they have sex even less often and someone at all.
"I will ask various haters to skip the comment. We will be happy to receive answers from broad-minded people, thanking us in advance !!!" oh my God!
I am 22 years old and my friend is 30 years old. We have been together for 6 months, we do it every day, sometimes 2 times, and sometimes 3 times when he rests. I think it matters when you've been together and how much you want each other. The more the better. Nothing strengthens the relationship between a man and a woman like sex! My previous friend and I did it once every 2-3 months ... it didn't lead to anything good.
Several times a week I think is completely normal. M28
I am a 30-year-old woman with a 3-year-old child. My husband is 29. When the child was one year old we started contacts about 1-2 times a week. I was very tired and had no desire. For the first 10 months after the birth, we didn't have sex because I was so stitched up that he couldn't penetrate. Now over time, things have returned to normal, about 5-6 times a month. It is small, but we are tired and very busy. He doesn't have enough, he is ready every day. But after quality sex, I don't need it for a week. I want to ask something else. For several years, my husband has not been able to repeat after a short period. He gets aroused, but softens. And before, after it was over, he could do it again in 20 minutes. I'm not complaining. I'm not dissatisfied, I'm just asking how are you? I am interesting to him, I am attractive with a beautiful face and sexy body. I turn him on, but then where is the reason? in your opinion? F 30
We have a 6-month-old baby and we have sex 3 times a week, but in the interest of the truth, if it wasn't for him at the moment, 1 time is enough for me. The reasons are many. Number 1 reason is that I do not feel supported enough in caring for the child. Everything remains on my back and I feel betrayed. For women, the emotional is very important. The second reason is that he didn't wait long enough after the birth, but forced me to have sex almost at the 2nd week, which was very painful for me and since then I have been constantly afraid that it will hurt me, even though the wounds have healed and I'm really like before birth purely vaginal. However, the expectation of pain remains. Third - I breastfed until recently, which leads to hormonal problems and I could not get enough moisture. I was prescribed a special cream that is used during sex, which offended my husband ... haven't I aroused him already. Again, because of him, I use cream with a guilty conscience ... and accordingly the pleasure is destroyed. Fourth and last reason, at least for us - he wants a second child right away, and I'm not ready either physically or emotionally. In short, as a woman with a baby, I more or less honestly described to you how things are, at least a little, maybe for your wife, so that she doesn't want you. In addition, I have raised my child to go to bed early and we have the whole evening for us, we live alone, we have no problems with isolation. I just don't want it like before because of the above points. The child doesn't play a role at all, except that I'm more tired, but otherwise it doesn't bother us. My husband's behavior, lack of understanding bothers me. I also support number 17. QUALITY instead of quantity is important for a woman. I prefer to turn a whistle 1000 times and end up with mechanical shaking and pain. ж33 Again, because of him, I use cream with a guilty conscience ... and accordingly the pleasure is destroyed. Fourth and last reason, at least for us - he wants a second child right away, and I'm not ready either physically or emotionally. In short, as a woman with a baby, I more or less honestly described to you how things are, at least a little, maybe for your wife, so that she doesn't want you. In addition, I have raised my child to go to bed early and we have the whole evening for us, we live alone, we have no problems with isolation. I just don't want it like before because of the above points. The child doesn't play a role at all, except that I'm more tired, but otherwise it doesn't bother us. My husband's behavior, lack of understanding bothers me. I also support number 17. QUALITY instead of quantity is important for a woman. I prefer to turn a whistle 1000 times and end up with mechanical shaking and pain. ж33 Again, because of him, I use cream with a guilty conscience ... and accordingly the pleasure is destroyed. Fourth and last reason, at least for us - he wants a second child right away, and I'm not ready either physically or emotionally. In short, as a woman with a baby, I more or less honestly described to you how things are, at least a little, maybe for your wife, so that she doesn't want you. In addition, I have raised my child to go to bed early and we have the whole evening for us, we live alone, we have no problems with isolation. I just don't want it like before because of the above points. The child doesn't play a role at all, except that I'm more tired, but otherwise it doesn't bother us. My husband's behavior, lack of understanding bothers me. I also support number 17. QUALITY instead of quantity is important for a woman. I prefer to turn a whistle 1000 times and end up with mechanical shaking and pain. ж33 and accordingly the pleasure is destroyed. Fourth and last reason, at least for us - he wants a second child right away, and I'm not ready either physically or emotionally. In short, as a woman with a baby, I more or less honestly described to you how things are, at least a little, maybe for your wife, so that she doesn't want you. In addition, I have raised my child to go to bed early and we have the whole evening for us, we live alone, we have no problems with isolation. I just don't want it like before because of the above points. The child doesn't play a role at all, except that I'm more tired, but otherwise it doesn't bother us. My husband's behavior, lack of understanding bothers me. I also support number 17. QUALITY instead of quantity is important for a woman. I prefer to turn a whistle 1000 times and end up with mechanical shaking and pain. ж33 and accordingly the pleasure is destroyed. Fourth and last reason, at least for us - he wants a second child right away, and I'm not ready either physically or emotionally. In short, as a woman with a baby, I more or less honestly described to you how things are, at least a little, maybe for your wife, so that she doesn't want you. In addition, I have raised my child to go to bed early and we have the whole evening for us, we live alone, we have no problems with isolation. I just don't want it like before because of the above points. The child doesn't play a role at all, except that I'm more tired, but otherwise it doesn't bother us. My husband's behavior, lack of understanding bothers me. I also support number 17. QUALITY instead of quantity is important for a woman. I prefer to turn a whistle 1000 times and end up with mechanical shaking and pain. ж33 Fourth and last reason, at least for us - he wants a second child right away, and I'm not ready either physically or emotionally. In short, as a woman with a baby, I more or less honestly described to you how things are, at least a little, maybe for your wife, so that she doesn't want you. In addition, I have raised my child to go to bed early and we have the whole evening for us, we live alone, we have no problems with isolation. I just don't want it like before because of the above points. The child doesn't play a role at all, except that I'm more tired, but otherwise it doesn't bother us. My husband's behavior, lack of understanding bothers me. I also support number 17. QUALITY instead of quantity is important for a woman. I prefer to turn a whistle 1000 times and end up with mechanical shaking and pain. ж33 Fourth and last reason, at least for us - he wants a second child right away, and I'm not ready either physically or emotionally. In short, as a woman with a baby, I more or less honestly described to you how things are, at least a little, maybe for your wife, so that she doesn't want you. In addition, I have raised my child to go to bed early and we have the whole evening for us, we live alone, we have no problems with isolation. I just don't want it like before because of the above points. The child doesn't play a role at all, except that I'm more tired, but otherwise it doesn't bother us. My husband's behavior, lack of understanding bothers me. I also support number 17. QUALITY instead of quantity is important for a woman. I prefer to turn a whistle 1000 times and end up with mechanical shaking and pain. ж33 In short, as a woman with a baby, I more or less honestly described to you how things are, at least a little, maybe for your wife, so that she doesn't want you. In addition, I have raised my child to go to bed early and we have the whole evening for us, we live alone, we have no problems with isolation. I just don't want it like before because of the above points. The child doesn't play a role at all, except that I'm more tired, but otherwise it doesn't bother us. My husband's behavior, lack of understanding bothers me. I also support number 17. QUALITY instead of quantity is important for a woman. I prefer to turn a whistle 1000 times and end up with mechanical shaking and pain. ж33 In short, as a woman with a baby, I more or less honestly described to you how things are, at least a little, maybe for your wife, so that she doesn't want you. In addition, I have raised my child to go to bed early and we have the whole evening for us, we live alone, we have no problems with isolation. I just don't want it like before because of the above points. The child doesn't play a role at all, except that I'm more tired, but otherwise it doesn't bother us. My husband's behavior, lack of understanding bothers me. I also support number 17. QUALITY instead of quantity is important for a woman. I prefer to turn a whistle 1000 times and end up with mechanical shaking and pain. ж33 I just don't want it like before because of the above points. The child doesn't play a role at all, except that I'm more tired, but otherwise it doesn't bother us. My husband's behavior, lack of understanding bothers me. I also support number 17. QUALITY instead of quantity is important for a woman. I prefer to turn a whistle 1000 times and end up with mechanical shaking and pain. ж33 I just don't want it like before because of the above points. The child doesn't play a role at all, except that I'm more tired, but otherwise it doesn't bother us. My husband's behavior, lack of understanding bothers me. I also support number 17. QUALITY instead of quantity is important for a woman. I prefer to turn a whistle 1000 times and end up with mechanical shaking and pain. ж33
It's all about time, at the very beginning of our relationship with my husband we did it when we saw each other, every few days, then we lived in different cities, then we lived together and there was a period when we did it every day, in most cases several times. When I got pregnant we reduced it a lot, later when I gave birth maybe from time to time maybe from another but the time when we did it every day didn't come back. Now after 10 years of relationship we do it about 1-2 times a week at best 3 times. F 30 years
Number 18, don't do it when you don't want to, tell all this to your husband, to me he's a bully. Be careful not to do a second one without you knowing we have been together for 7 years, married and we do it once a week, sometimes 2. As boyfriends on holidays we have reached 3-4 times a day. It's different for every couple, we don't like it every day
to 18. I'm wet and we use lubricants. These products are for increasing pleasure, not for angry Talk to your partner. Let someone else help you, not just him. Relax and demand from him. 9 well done to you. And we are almost like that. Only a child has no one to rely on to be alone, otherwise what you do is great, but few people do it. Not one or two girlfriends have told me how to have sex 1-2 times a year. But everyone has already found someone outside. In the beginning the sex was great, but then.
F 43, M 51 with 19 years of marriage Our minimum is three times a week. Even when the children were small (and they are a small difference, and we watched them alone according to the classic scheme, I - at home with them, and he at work) we did not stop having sex. № 6, I don't know if a man or a woman is very right !! Whenever we have sex, I get multi-orgasms. So how do I refuse such a thing? !! :) My, no way! Tired, with a headache, angry ... whatever I have, sex fixes everything! If it is quality! W 420
I remember a joke reading this story: Man and woman talking to each other, the woman sighing .... Oh, how long we haven't had sex. The man answers: YOU did not do it. This is a joke. In my opinion, for young people - a man of 30 years and a woman of 25 years, it is normal at least two or three times a week and on weekends every day. My husband and I do it once a week, but we've been married for 23 years, out of sheer laziness. We are supposed to agree, for example, to go to the evening, but when I come home tired from work, my request has already passed. Not that I don't like sex - on the contrary. But I have a desire usually at noon, and then I'm at work during the week. During the weekend we sign and so on. But when we were a young family, painting was daily.
from the AUTHOR to number 6. I am the initiator of foreplay and caresses before sex, our sex lasts an average of about 40 minutes which I think is normal, my wife has a hard time getting an orgasm but in over 90% of cases she has always had an orgasm. Therefore, if you are in a similar situation, find another vent, not my topic, and if you want to be useful in this case, READ the topic of the topic CORRECTLY and answer it. We keep some indicative statistics from the visitors of the site, you don't need to guess whether I get up or not in bed ... !!!
Author, your question to me personally sounded like: "How many times a day should we drink water?" Well, when you are thirsty, people! If we draw the line and it turns out that most couples have sex 4 times a week, then what? Will you circle Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday with a circle in the calendar? My husband and I had sex in the morning and in the evening yesterday, for example, the other day only in the evening, and we missed it all last week simply because we were both overworked. It is a matter of desire, condition, opportunity and most of all reciprocity. If we are on vacation - no matter at home or on vacation - we have sex every day, we just want it. If we are overwhelmed with commitments, we fall into bed immediately after dinner and fall asleep. We do not look at sex as an obligation, fulfilling a norm or reporting an activity.
Hello, young people, I read every single comment and even laughed at someone, hey people, what are you talking about ... but this is sex is not an obligation or a job in the field, please don't do that ... but if not sex what was people bringing you the greatest pleasure ....? !! just don't tell me work, at home, it's a necessity, people were supposedly sexually mature, what numbers are you talking about, what schedules - Hear, our people are living beings, sex is like air and water, if not then there is a problem and help is sought, people, so now if you find an excuse not to do it and avoid, when you get to how old ... 50, 60, 70 ... if you have survived, ... don't deprive yourself of something that is a balm for the soul and the body, ... give yourself pleasure, talk, don't think about what you give to receive, this is not a business, this is a thrill, don't lose it, if you are together it means not by chance, but children, but commitments - apologies thousands, live, make love often and do not spare much, this is the key to a stable marriage and relationship, the rest is just frequent arithmetic and interest if there is no sex! , think and think smart! F50 / with two great sons and a man who during 25 years of marriage has shown every day that she is wanted and loved - and true love and sensual sex! /
Every other day. In other words, 3 times a week is within my opinion. 4 times a month you ask to get your husband a mistress. : D
To the Author, from number 6. I didn't want my comment to sound like an insult. I will answer you like this: if a woman likes sex with her husband, she will do it every day. If she doesn't like it - and once a month she has a lot. It's yours to say somewhere in the middle. Instead of keeping statistics, speak normally, discuss it, discussion is the most important thing in a relationship. As soon as she reads the comments, let her be honest with you and tell you what she doesn't like and what she likes and why and how you disagree on how many times you MUST have sex .. And you accept what she has to say to you calmly, and not as it reacts to my possible assumptions in my comment above. Critical thinking leads to progress, not complimenting and sweeping problems under the rug. Good luck.
From the Author to number 6, today you sound quite favorable, they obviously let you go (I'm kidding). By the way, maybe the title of my topic should have been HOW OFTEN YOU HAVE SEX, because otherwise it sounds as if we have to make my mistake on schedule. Regarding the topic, my wife told me that some time ago she asked other friends and mothers how often they did it, but they answered 1-2 times a month, which is not possible, I think they are ashamed to admit it so as not to help them. for nymphomaniacs, I've been with a lot of girls but 1-2 times a month they can't stand me, that's why I wanted you to share how often you do it ... let her see ...
Author, answer if you can honestly the question if you continue like this, would you find another woman who is only for you for sex? I think this is quite important and then you could hear other opinions.