I am 24 years old and I want to tell you how porn totally ruined my life. It all started when I started watching porn, or more precisely 11-12 years ago. When I was a student, I didn't seem to pay much attention to watching porn often. We commented, of course, with my classmates at school who watched what, BUT then I also had a social life. In my last school years, 11th and 12th grade, I also had girlfriends. I was with one for 5 months, and with the other less, but in both my relationships I never had sex. After graduating from school I started studying at the Technical University of Sofia. And maybe that's the key to being in this hall now. Somehow this environment at the university was very stressful for me and I started to shut myself in a little less and limit my meetings with friends and acquaintances, even with the people I was in a group with and we studied together. In addition, I was very annoyed that my peers and even those younger than me were working, making money, and I had to study. in fact, I was studying, not just going to university, but trying to learn something that would be useful to me in the future. In parallel with the fact that I closed myself in, I started watching more and more porn. I started reading more and more about the porn and porn industry in general, and so on until I reached a point where I was just waiting to go home to watch another video and another photo with pornographic content. It was my parallel universe anyway.
There were no problems to solve, no tension and no stress. I became so addicted to porn that different styles and groups of porn movies, which I never thought I would like before, I watched them with pleasure (it's about different orgies, BDSM, fetishes, etc.). And so I started fantasizing more and more that I was with young and old with many at once, that I was participating in orgies and so on. And after I entered this vicious circle, of course, came the mental and physical problems. As for the psychics, I can say that I am already an absolute sociopath, without friends without any circle of acquaintances, even with my colleagues at work I do not communicate much. All I have in my head is porn and sex. As for the physical ones, they are many. Starting with a lot of hair all over my body, up to erection and ejaculation problems and penile curvature. Over the years, my self-esteem has been declining more and more, and now I'm even ashamed to look a girl in the eye, let alone talk about anything else. At the same time, I want more and more to be with a woman at last, but I just don't see how that will happen. I am also aware of the fact that over time it will become increasingly difficult and confusing. Finally, I didn't write my story to seek advice, regret, or anything like that. I just wanted to tell my story for a while and I want to make older people who will read it think and pay more attention to their children during puberty and even after that, because it's not nice to fall into my situation (I say it from experience). sorry or something. I just wanted to tell my story for a while and I want to make older people who will read it think and pay more attention to their children during puberty and even after that, because it's not nice to fall into my situation (I say it from experience). sorry or something. I just wanted to tell my story for a while and I want to make older people who will read it think and pay more attention to their children during puberty and even after that, because it's not nice to fall into my situation (I say it from experience).
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In my opinion, you yourself are not aware of the genesis of the problem. Yes, you definitely started watching porn very early (WHERE WERE YOUR PARENTS ???), but you definitely have some kind of neurosis or problem that a psychologist / psychoanalyst / psychotherapist can help you with. I'm not saying you're crazy or anything, I'm just saying you definitely have a problem that you want to work on. In your place I would look for a psychologist, I would stop (limit) porn to the maximum, I would look for hobbies related to meeting people - whether it will be going to church, whether it will be a language course, cooking, sports, participation in non-governmental or political organization - it doesn't matter. I would just go out and look for people, meet people. You don't write if you're still a student, but that doesn't stop you from looking for a part-time job - like a security guard at a disco or a club in the evening, something like that. I myself have studied regularly and I have worked, the Technical University of Sofia is difficult, but I have studied at Sofia University and you will also succeed if you decide to study. Good luck
The crux of the problem is that porn has become a "vent" to your problems. Something that doesn't make you happy has totally ruined you. What is this thing? Think about it.
How did it occur to you that porn affects your hair? If this is true, you are a genius, you have made a scientific breakthrough!
I also think you probably had some anxiety that combined with libido led to a passion for porn. In general, there is a psychiatric obsession with people on the Internet. No matter what the topic -comp. games, websites, etc. It is very easy and lazy for people to tickle on some interests without doing anything else. Since you are unlikely to go to a psychologist to talk about porn, try to get rid of this asociality yourself. Little by little, replace the computer with real life - communicate with parents and relatives, do something at home, play sports, go out with companies, if you will - hang out on the streets, just to get back to real life.
Up to number 1. There can be no question of a psychologist. I just can't go alone, but I wouldn't tell my parents about this problem either, and they can't help me either. I've limited porn to such an extent that I've only watched it 4-5 times since the beginning of the year, but that doesn't mean I don't think about it all the time. Regarding studying, I have a bachelor's degree and I have intentions for a master's degree this year and my work is quite dynamic, non-part-time, striving when I can stay extra work, but very often almost every day I wait to go home to watch porn, respectively, and all day thinking about what to watch when I get home. I still can't imagine this with the meetings and the people, because I'm very shy, and to walk the streets and stop people and ask him if they want to be our friends doesn't matter much to me, I don't communicate very much with my colleagues. To number 2. I think that this thing is studying at university, because in reality only the last months of my studies were interesting to me and I had the feeling that I was not doing it out of obligation. Up to number 3. Well, it affects the endocrine system and the production of hormones and from there the hair and not only it, I can also say that I'm starting to get emotionally unstable in some way. From the author.
Go to an endocrinologist and check your hormones. This hair is not from any porn.
It can't be, but you're just a psychologist, if not a psychiatrist. A typical picture of addiction. As alcohol addicts go for treatment, so do you. I just didn't understand what your parents had in common. You are an adult and you can go alone.
I think that if you find a girlfriend, these things will return to normal. And you will get into a rhythm and you won't even think about porn, because you will be on dates, going out, etc. And find another hobby;)
Go to the site nofap there writes about the consequences and give a bag of tips on how to deal. I heard.
Hair does not affect because I am 25 and do not have a beard and I am in the industry of 3rd grade and not to explain. Brother, we need to stop this scabies. 110 days is my record but I still lied to watch. This year I did 37 days and started again: @ Now I've been clean again for a week. Like you, I have had these symptoms: @ I recently arranged a meeting with a girl and she liked me a lot, she even suggested and I didn't go; @ Guess what? From SHAME ... I want to tell you that porn is to blame. We are normal ... it's just a nasty sin. Nothing important is when you fall to get up. I have been struggling with this for 3 years after I realized how much damage it does. I will succeed, I'm sure. It's just that your time and attention must be engaged in something. How did it happen, but once I stopped for 70 days and went to watch porn and it didn't work for me .. Bach, I'm shouting that it doesn't attract me anymore .. there is no sense in this tickling and this fervor ... the demonic attraction is gone. But unfortunately I fell again after a while. Anyway. If you want to stop porn and chikii you shouldn't beat. They are even more angry.
Strange how I entered the site to write the SAME topic, but as if through synchronicity it popped up in front of me. In exactly the same situation I am an author, with small differences - I am 2 years older and recently I have been actively trying to fight the problem. The problem is rooted in the already crushed psyche and must be fought on all fronts at once, you will need a hell of a strong will to fight. Read in the line for nofap, as someone already mentioned, start training something, whether it will be a sport or fitness you have to move, it is both useful and you develop the will. It's not bad to pursue a long-term goal, ask yourself what exactly you want from life (and no, it's not women or money). I am sure that no matter how difficult it is, if we manage to fight, it will be worth it, because we will have developed qualities and character that will last a lifetime. Recently I was deprived of the opportunity to have sex with a girl, due to anxiety and lack of experience, I was just shaking and ran away, a complete parody of whether to laugh or cry. I began to gnaw at some regret of how much time and opportunity I had missed and how far behind I was, but there was no way I could bring it back, I could only use the lessons from it and build a better future. Do not regret the time, missed opportunities, etc. These are just fantasies, the fact that you are here and now and you have a chance to fix everything is enough. I even began to find some romance in the whole thing, this is our inner adventure and challenge that we have to overcome, and the suffering we go through is just the interest we pay for the unnatural life we have led so far. This is your personal story, your personal myth, and whether the hero will emerge victorious is up to you. As a grand finale, I want to recommend you a book that I have not yet mastered to the maximum, but it helps me a lot with the internal struggle. It's called Eckhart Tol's The Power of the Present. It is available for free on the net and is worth reading. Good luck, I believe we will succeed.
Go to a prostitute a few times to boost your self-esteem a bit and finally take responsibility for yourself. He was angry that others were working, he MUST study, I wish you had a work ban, you chose to study, you chose to watch porn, you, you, you. You are the main actor in your life. When you recover a little, invite a colleague after work for a beer, preferably more people, because otherwise you have to actively participate. If you are invited - go out, be among the people. And with the psychologist, I don't know why you deny it. When you break your leg, do you wait for it to pass or do you go to the doctor? Well with a psychologist it's the same. Choose a man if you are ashamed of a woman.