I doubt anyone will give me answers, but at least I hope there are people with similar problems. So it's all about the fact that I've never had a relationship in the true sense of the word. I'm 20, I've dated all kinds of boys - older, my age, rich, beautiful, not with many opportunities, not so attractive and so on. I was myself while I was with them, I pretended to be anything - accessible, inaccessible, funny, silent and so on. I slept with them in the beginning, I didn't sleep with them, I always responded when they had problems and I helped - emotionally and financially. I have given support, listened to problems, paid bills, been sincere, or restrained when necessary. I told them I liked it at the beginning, in the middle or at the end, sometimes I didn't mention it to have intrigue. It became clear to you more or less, I hope. Oh, and I fell in love, if that matters. And here comes the problem - they almost always responded to all this with ingratitude, and I do not tolerate such an attitude. I CAN'T TOLERATE to do good, not to be appreciated and even to be reciprocated with bad, I'm sorry. That's why I dumped the boys when they didn't, of course. :)) Why, given that I behaved in almost every possible way with them, I have not had a relationship so far? Is there a problem in me? How the hell do 17-year-olds have relationships and I can't? All my friends are or have been engaged. It is NOT cool to be 20 and not have had a relationship longer than 1-2-3 months.
I'm NOT dumb, fat, or ugly, at least they haven't told me before, and I don't think so. Come on, you're fine. I'm waiting for ideas for an explanation :)) And here comes the problem - they almost always responded to all this with ingratitude, and I do not tolerate such an attitude. I CAN'T TOLERATE to do good, not to be appreciated and even to be reciprocated with bad, I'm sorry. That's why I dumped the boys when they didn't, of course. :)) Why, given that I behaved in almost every possible way with them, I have not had a relationship so far? Is there a problem in me? How the hell do 17-year-olds have relationships and I can't? All my friends are or have been engaged. It is NOT cool to be 20 and not have had a relationship longer than 1-2-3 months. I'm NOT dumb, fat, or ugly, at least they haven't told me before, and I don't think so. Come on, you're fine. I'm waiting for ideas for an explanation :)) And here comes the problem - they almost always responded to all this with ingratitude, and I do not tolerate such an attitude.
I CAN'T TOLERATE to do good, not to be appreciated and even to be reciprocated with bad, I'm sorry. That's why I dumped the boys when they didn't, of course. :)) Why, given that I behaved in almost every possible way with them, I have not had a relationship so far? Is there a problem in me? How the hell do 17-year-olds have relationships and I can't? All my friends are or have been engaged. It is NOT cool to be 20 and not have had a relationship longer than 1-2-3 months. I'm NOT dumb, fat, or ugly, at least they haven't told me before, and I don't think so. Come on, you're fine. I'm waiting for ideas for an explanation :)) not to be appreciated and even to be treated badly, I'm sorry. That's why I dumped the boys when they didn't, of course. :)) Why, given that I behaved in almost every possible way with them, I have not had a relationship so far? Is there a problem in me? How the hell do 17-year-olds have relationships and I can't? All my friends are or have been engaged. It is NOT cool to be 20 and not have had a relationship longer than 1-2-3 months. I'm NOT dumb, fat, or ugly, at least they haven't told me before, and I don't think so. Come on, you're fine. I'm waiting for ideas for an explanation :)) not to be appreciated and even to be treated badly, I'm sorry. That's why I dumped the boys when they didn't, of course. :)) Why, given that I behaved in almost every possible way with them, I have not had a relationship so far? Is there a problem with me?
How the hell do 17-year-olds have relationships and I can't? All my friends are or have been engaged. It is NOT cool to be 20 and not have had a relationship longer than 1-2-3 months. I'm NOT dumb, fat, or ugly, at least they haven't told me before, and I don't think so. Come on, you're fine. I'm waiting for ideas for an explanation :)) and it doesn't work for me? All my friends are or have been engaged. It is NOT cool to be 20 and not have had a relationship longer than 1-2-3 months. I'm NOT dumb, fat, or ugly, at least they haven't told me before, and I don't think so. Come on, you're fine. I'm waiting for ideas for an explanation :)) and it doesn't work for me? All my friends are or have been engaged. It is NOT cool to be 20 and not have had a relationship longer than 1-2-3 months. I'm NOT dumb, fat, or ugly, at least they haven't told me before, and I don't think so. Come on, you're fine. I'm waiting for ideas for an explanation :))
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She's not too old. At 20 you will still find connections and people, it is not good to be so young and already disappointed. It's a matter of luck if you come across the right person. Unfortunately, there is no strategy to provide you with a connection. Some people over 25 start to get seriously involved and this does not prevent them from creating quality relationships. It seems to me that this has become a fixed idea and maybe out of so much desire to happen at any cost, something goes wrong. Don't just look for a relationship, but wait to find the right person who will give you what you need.
I'm 16, I'm small, but I understand you. I can describe myself as a very good-natured person. When someone needs my help, I always help as much as I can. They don't thank me for help either, but they take advantage of my help and use me, so to speak. But unfortunately I have never had a relationship, and because many people use me, I do not have many friends. It follows that my kindness is a bad thing. I have thought about this and here is the conclusion I come to
You have nothing. Be natural, don't force things. You are young, one day the bird of happiness will land on your shoulder. To fly a few years later. That's life.
Your consciousness is waiting for its "awakening". This is the answer to your question! The beautiful moment will come when you will meet Him, but be patient - in time everything falls into place. Success! M36
So how can they not have it by doing so, so as not to be left behind by their peers. The very word - My boyfriends sounds frivolous.
Most people don't have real relationships until at least their 23rd birthday. This is normal. But when I read you, I don't see that you were yourself, all the time you play a role and you are different with everyone, you contradict yourself somehow. But whatever the truth, I want to tell you that you can't keep in touch with a peer. Boys in their 20s and 25s aren't looking for that, they're looking for sex and fun, and rightly so. I advise you and you to live and not to rush into serious relationships. And for 17-year-olds, something seriously went wrong. Maybe you mean they're holding hands with someone and they think it's a relationship. Few of them have sex, no matter how open-minded they look and how skillfully they lie. The other possible answer is that you simply have not met the Man. This rarely happens in the lives of all of us anyway, and you are so young, you are even small. At least for today's conditions and life of the 21st century, aren't you in a hurry to get married in the 21st? Live your life, go out, have sex, and when the time comes, you have nowhere to run :) - woman, 41 years old
The fact that a relationship lasts 2-3 years does not mean that it is super complete and everything is OK. Especially at 16, 17. In your place, I would be glad if I didn't waste my energy and potential in pseudo-relationships, because in such a green age, in most cases, as someone said, things are: one day to pass, two to come. From another point of view, this is a valuable experience, and this is not to be underestimated. I think you focus too much on this, maybe the "men" feel it and run away. Most likely, when you turn your attention to something more beneficial for yourself and stop delving into why you are not succeeding, someone will appear. Bad
You demand a lot from men ... You think you give them everything, and they don't reciprocate, but none of that is true. Just by saying that you went out with everyone you can guess that you didn't wait for the real one! I am 21 and I had only 2 relationships - the first taught me how to love and what it means to hurt, and the second appeared almost 5 years later and I know that this is the right person for me. You don't just need a boyfriend, find love. If you have to wait a little longer, but do not go with everyone who offers you and more or less it happens ... Greetings and good luck! :)
From the author: To number 6, read more carefully, because I wrote that I was myself. You may be right that no one has a serious relationship until they're 20 or so, but believe me you have no idea how bad it is when they ask people how long you've been with someone? And when I give an answer - on the other side I always hear, aha, clear. It's like I'm a whore, or a second-hand person, just because I haven't been with anyone in a long time.
I agree with 4. I am 25 years old and I have been in my first and only serious relationship since January. And I asked myself this question for a long time, until at one point I just stopped looking for the answer, he found me himself. I will tell you only one thing - do not force yourself with the wrong people, everything with your time :) Good luck!
From the author to 8- I found the so-called real, he just didn't want me. I go out with different people to see if something different will happen - the answer is NO. If one thank you is too much of a requirement, it is thank you- I don't want to live on this planet anymore. Thanks for the wish for success :))
Rather, you have not found a suitable boy. Meaning, 17-year-olds and younger are more frivolous ... you can talk to them about all sorts of nonsense, and they take every joke too personally. You may be more serious. At 20, you obviously have some goals, ambitions that you want to achieve ... you do not want meaningless flirtations that would not lead to anything serious, except sex, but you want a serious relationship. I don't think the problem is with you, it's with the fact that you haven't met more serious guys. Or it may be in you ... if you take things too seriously. Nobody likes flirting with such girls. Relax, maybe something serious will come out ...
I'm calling you more pozhivurkas .. Go out and have fun. At the age of 20, it's not worth straining your head for such things. These people have rightly said, “When you expect the least and it will happen to you.” You may just have to be patient and not think about these things. I had a girlfriend who was very beautiful and a really smart, well-mannered girl ... she doesn't drink alcohol, she doesn't smoke ... Abe's dream, but she was really bothered that no one wanted a relationship with her - real and stable. But she had a very nasty behavior towards men - they almost owe her something, because she is beautiful, and smart, etc. She was also slimy ... This repelled men. In the end, she rejected most of her friends, but that's another topic. Maybe something in your behavior that you yourself don't realize is not right to demonstrate. I don't know you to help you objectively ... otherwise I would suck! Good luck and don't work hard. I believe that everyone finds their soul mate when the time comes;)
It is good that you are looking for someone else's opinion, because I immediately understood your problem / I do not claim that it is certainly so, I just come to this conclusion from what has been written /. I think the problem is that you behave in every possible way, instead of the same with everyone. If you behaved the same way with everyone, one would like you for who you are and another not for what you are. That is, it is now possible that it happened to you that you behaved like a person who would like someone in front of another who would not like the same behavior. For example, in front of a good, romantic boy you were an open-minded party girl, and in front of a party boy like a modest girl ... this is a very simple example, it is clear that you judged what to be, and you would hardly behave in an extremely inappropriate way. I was just giving an example, to understand what I mean. Just be yourself, and act on your views.
Oh, enough dramatization. This is childish nonsense. Someone at 20 should ask you how long your relationship has been and what do you expect to say - 50 years or maybe 5? These are such nonsense that in 4-5 years you will wonder to yourself how they even went through your head. What do you want, at 20 you had a 10-year relationship, a man, children, lots of boyfriends, with whom you were also 1-2 years old. Girl, where are you in a hurry? You're not a gypsy after all, are you? Be proud of your youth and your innocence in this regard. Believe me, in time there will be a relationship and you will be very angry that while you were free, you deal with such problems instead of having fun and enjoying your freedom. I want to be free now and not have a past behind me, but I can't, so don't miss the moment.
From the author - Number 14, thank you very much for your opinion, there is a lot of logic in what you said. Thanks for the advice, I will definitely keep it in mind :)))
By my 20s, I was with at least 100 girls. Only then did the first serious relationship come. So, calmly look for Your Man, whoever says anything :)
You've been and slept with everyone - don't you feel like a slut? That you even want advice.
Number 18, by the author - Don't you feel awful like another illiterate woman in Bulgaria? Read what I write, don't make it up, okay? quot- I slept with them in the beginning, I did not sleep with them
From the author - Oh, and I said that I went out with all kinds, NUMBER 18, if you go out with someone and go to bed with him, it does not mean that the others do the same, clear?
I am 29. Male. I'm still waiting for my first girlfriend, but alas - I'm still alone. I've always been alone. Where are you pretty, gentle girls? Come and explain to me the adhesion forces, let's talk about quantum entanglement, the nonlocality of the universe, and formaldehyde. Let's discuss the sexual perfection of the distal phalanges and the incredible properties of catechins, or just the boundary of Chandrasekar and the PN junction in common emitter transistors. Ah, empty hopes ... I will grow old alone.
Next to the author I went to bed / slept with everyone - I am a man!
I slept with them in the beginning, I didn't sleep with them - what did you mean I didn't understand you? Not that you understand ...
29- If you expect beautiful girls to talk about such things, even after sex, you are wrong and very much
From the author 23, if you do not understand what I mean, it does not mean that I and all other readers have remained unaware, got it ???
Explain to me at least what is the difference between sleeping and going to bed, please ...
From the author - 26, These are synonyms and their meaning is understood from the context in which they are used. It is taught in the 3rd grade at school that it is not good to repeat the same word too many times. Did you understand already?
Why are you so fixated on this? Because of public opinion? Bad idea. When I was your age, not only did I not have a relationship, but I had not dated anyone and I was a virgin. It's just that no one around me caught my eye. Only a year later, however, I fell in love so much that ... Well, thank God, I made sure it became mutual :) My idea was that you should not look for a relationship as an end in itself. Relax a little, watch your life and don't bother. When you stop winding up, then it will happen. At the most unexpected moment. And who looked at you, saying that you didn't have long relationships ... 'why don't they go ...' let's not say where. If you pay less public opinion tax, you will get rich :) BM
If you tell me I want to sleep with you or sleep with you, how should I interpret it?