Hello, I am a student of 20 years and I have no experience with girls. At university, however, I met a colleague and since we met I can't stop thinking about her. She is kind, modest, not a muffin and I like her a lot. Since we've been in a group, my feelings for her have grown stronger, even though we haven't seen each other outside of the university until once, when we stumbled upon each other on the street. So my question is how do I know if she feels something for me? How can I hint to her that for me she is not just a colleague from the university and that I am interested? I was thinking of sending her flowers or some other gift at her workplace (I know where she works) and telling her that she has a secret admirer, but I don't know if the idea is good. What do you think? How can I reveal my feelings to her? Please give me advice. Thanks in advance. Please edit the topic.
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He forgot about it with the flowers. If you don't like it, it will be confusing and then you won't be able to watch each other. In general, body language and posture make it very easy to know if you like them. If you can't understand, then you probably don't like it. To be safe, you can try to talk more personal things with her and try to somehow break away from the company for a while, to talk to her a little more personal things and the reaction and, the speech, etc., immediately it will be clear whether there is a chance or not.
Author: And what is body language? She smiles at me every time she sees me and also claims that if I'm not in the group she'll freak out because she's new and I'm the only one she talks to. Besides, with the flowers, I said I intended to be anonymous.
There is a lot of information about body language on the net. And as for anonymity, how exactly will anonymity help you when she won't know it's you?
Author: When I admit to her that the flowers are from me, she might have seen me in a different light. As for body language, I think it's a bit of a fabrication. Besides, nowadays communication between young people is so free that even if a girl kisses you on the mouth, there is still no guarantee that she likes you. Of course, not all girls do, but that's my impression.
Body language, from personal experience I know that quite often gives contradictory signals, especially in women. The easiest and most humane way is to simply invite her out, and start courting her slowly, because you have no experience, I will give you advice to slowly shorten the distance between "just friends" to get to the other. Casual touches, hugs in greeting, careless compliments, casual kisses on the cheeks, after these gestures become part of you, then you kiss her and admit what you feel. Because I don't know the girl and I can't give you an exact approach and there is no such animal, and the fact that you have no experience is the option for you. It will take time and patience, but this is the way for you. I see that a lot of people have difficulties with "dumps" and I come across similar topics many times. People flirting is like the job of getting the paper at the end of the month you put in some effort, it's the same here you can't stand aside and just hope and do nothing or almost nothing about it and wonder what's wrong and the girl / boy by the time you try to do something has already found a person next to him. In general, I never admit what I feel, but show it, and the above path is passed with exactly 2-3 meetings. As long as it comes to the first meeting at all. If you don't get up, don't bother, because tomorrow a person will come who will clearly and clearly show her that he is interested and you will hang up and regret it. Act! And such women, at least according to the brief description, are gold and hard to find. it's the same here you can't stand aside and just hope and do nothing or almost nothing about it and wonder what's wrong with the girl / boy until you try to do something he has already found a man next to him . In general, I never admit what I feel, but show it, and the above path is passed with exactly 2-3 meetings. As long as it comes to the first meeting at all. If you don't get up, don't bother, because tomorrow a person will come who will clearly and clearly show her that he is interested and you will hang up and regret it. Act! And such women, at least according to the brief description, are gold and hard to find. it's the same here you can't stand aside and just hope and do nothing or almost nothing about it and wonder what's wrong with the girl / boy until you try to do something he has already found a man next to him . In general, I never admit what I feel, but show it, and the above path is passed with exactly 2-3 meetings. As long as it comes to the first meeting at all. If you don't get up, don't bother, because tomorrow a person will come who will clearly and clearly show her that he is interested and you will hang up and regret it. Act! And such women, at least according to the brief description, are gold and hard to find. and the above road is traversed with exactly 2-3 meetings. As long as it comes to the first meeting at all. If you don't get up, don't bother, because tomorrow a person will come who will clearly and clearly show her that he is interested and you will hang up and regret it. Act! And such women, at least according to the brief description, are gold and hard to find. and the above road is passed with exactly 2-3 meetings. As long as it comes to the first meeting at all. If you don't get up, don't bother, because tomorrow a person will come who will clearly and clearly show her that he is interested and you will hang up and regret it. Act! And such women, at least according to the brief description, are gold and hard to find.
So this flower can be a double-edged sword. Believe me, if you don't like it, flowers won't change anything at all, they can even make them worse, because it can be taken as a strain, buying approval, and so on. Separately, he may decide that they are from someone else and make the situation worse. And since you'll tell her they're yours anyway, why send them anonymously at all? When I say body language, I don't mean to be obsessed with it. I'm just saying that if a person likes you, it's more or less obvious. If he doesn't like you, he just won't pay as much attention to you at least. It's just a guide to where you would be allowed to act. In this line of thought, you can resort to flowers if you feel that you would accept them well. Otherwise it is a double-edged sword. It can really help, but it can also make things worse. Otherwise 5 has given you good advice. I will only add that in the process of this rapprochement, you will feel how she accepts it. If he pulls, then it will not happen and you have to give up. If you accept them, you can gradually move towards better rapprochement. Don't rush too close with the rapprochement, but don't bother too much, because someone can really act before you. That's what happened to me when I was a student. You just have to feel how much she wants you to step on and how much you want to step back. In principle, this is learned to feel with experience, but no matter how much experience you have, you can still feel it more or less. but don't bother too much, because someone can really act before you. That's what happened to me when I was a student. You just have to feel how much she wants you to step on and how much you want to step back. In principle, this is learned to feel with experience, but no matter how much experience you have, you can still feel it more or less. but don't bother too much, because someone can really act before you. That's what happened to me when I was a student. You just have to feel how much she wants you to step on and how much you want to step back. In principle, this is learned to feel with experience, but no matter how much experience you have, you can still feel it more or less.
For me, this with flowers is super annoying when the idea is to say through them, you will like the girl for more than a friend. I would accept them just as flowers, and knowing that obviously for some men it is hardly a proposal ... offf. Invite the girl for coffee / walk, etc. and talk. So without giving her a chance to get to know you and wishing it was like counting on your wrist to do the "dirty" job because you don't even have anything to talk about. Such a tactic would repel me if I didn't know the person well enough.
Talk to her about textbooks and learning. Then he offered her coffee. Touch her hand as if by accident .... From her reaction you will understand what she thinks of you. If he hesitates, be persistent. Invite her to a coffee or a movie again ...
She has already given you a target. "Besides, she claims that if I'm not in the group, she'll freak out because she's new and I'm the only one she's talking to." - find an occasion for the conversations to continue outside the university, ask for a lecture that you missed, give a flash drive with materials on a given problem, invite her for coffee to get your things back, etc. Flowers, especially in the workplace, can cause a confusing situation, and I don't believe you want her to feel uncomfortable. And don't believe that someone else will deceive you, if she has noticed you she won't look at another, and if she is one of those who weave on 2 looms you don't need it. Just find a way to sit down for coffee - eeeh this coffee, how many legs it has spread!
If a woman smiles at you. There are two options - One is that he does it out of kindness and culture. The second is that he likes you. You need to be able to distinguish between the two options. It is understood when it is flirtatious and when it is out of politeness.
I just go to her by accident, you need a sheet or a pen. Sit next to her and ask her directly. I have a similar case with a colleague of mine who liked me since the first lecture but then he didn't come to me and told me on Skype in a ridiculous way to tell someone that you have sympathy for him / her, I don't know if he exists.