What is your opinion - which people are more successful in life, which are happy and which unhappy - those scholarly, exemplary, those with ambitions and goals or those open and thugs with high self-esteem, hit it on life and fun (girls, discos, drugs). This topic may seem a little silly, but I don't know of any people who have succeeded only in learning (except at school and university). What is the difference between these two types of people - let's say both work with a small difference in pay from approx. 400 - 500 BGN and this is not an achievement. The difference is that some have pulled hard from life, they have not lacked parties, boyfriends and dramas, given them lessons for the future, and others have stuck their heads in the textbooks have missed so many "adventures" ... I wonder you on what opinion do you have, what do you regret and what do you not, what did you miss and how would you change your youth? And one more thing - what is happiness for you? Thanks to those who posted their opinion!
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Both have advantages in life, and others. Some have fun in their youth, if you can call it fun to shake, drink and fuck indiscriminately, but then in old age they suffer because they do not have a normal job and are often alone. In youth, you can easily find "friends" for a table, but then things are different. And it's not just a question of salary, because it's one thing to earn them by mixing concrete, with unregulated working hours and the cost of operation, it's another to be a doctor, for example. Authority is different, opportunities for development are different, consciousness is different, mentality is different. The others in their youth ahu-ihu, then when both mom and dad skinned, they turned off the tap "oh, life is nasty, why do I have to mix concrete, why are there only carpets around me now". This is more or less the case, judging by my observations.
I would write a lot, but I will only tell you that you have a lot to learn about life.
Author, you have asked many questions, but I will try to answer them. And I want to clarify something, first. To me, a bully is a person who manages to make a living, even if he does not have a good education, thanks to relationships, luck, insolence, etc., and not one who drinks, smokes and fucks at the age of 15. This second one is not a bully, but a future loser who will fight for BGN 500. Last year we had a jubilee, 20 years since the graduation of our high school, and almost our whole class, that is, a class, gathered and I can tell you that I and the other excellent students are much more successful. Diplomats, programmers, doctors, professors, sea captains, successful businessmen, lawyers - people who have succeeded in Bulgaria and others who have succeeded abroad. Positive people, with families who travel the world and enjoy life. Ah, those bastards who at the age of 15 drank, smoked and fucked on the kenefs, now they are general workers, drivers, shopkeepers, farmers, builders and yes, as you think it is very difficult for them, they look sad, old and definitely can not afford a cruise to the Norwegian fjords or a holiday in the Canary or Hawaiian Islands as excellent with good incomes. This is the financial and career part of things. The excellent ones are more successful purely materially. And whether they are happier is already a matter of luck, but in most cases, the excellent ones, at least in my environment, are happier, yes. My conclusion is the following, there is time and place for everything. When you are 12, 15 or 17 or 20 years old, your main occupation should be your own development, which includes strong learning and reading, unless you are a talented athlete or musician and this does not mean that you miss the cool life and pleasures. , on the contrary, that you are just building a solid foundation so that your life is sweet and full of pleasures a few years later. When I was in high school, I kept reading books and studying, and my cousins and neighbors smirked at what a hollow toothpick I was and drank, smoked, and fucked. Now, however, I have an income of over BGN 7,500 per month, I travel where I like, I have a wonderful family and when I drink, I try only the highest quality drinks. And those who pretended to be thugs at the age of 15 now have an income of BGN 500-600, are poisoned with cheap alcohol and complain about their family life. A classmate who, at the age of 16, boasted about a new boyfriend every month, 20 years later complained to me that her husband had beaten her, had not had sex for months, and eventually divorced. Well, I ask you, author, who then is the bully, the one who thinks at 15, that he lives the life of his dreams only because he drinks cheap beer and brandy, smokes cigarettes and fucks drunken teenagers like him, and 15 years later, as a warehouse worker, he can't afford to take his wife or the one he has to a romantic dinner. He only studied for 15 years, but 15 years later he drinks French cognac with his wife while enjoying the view from a coastal restaurant on the French Cote d'Azur or Australia ?! If you think about it, author, you will understand that those who are very arrogant now and consider themselves thugs live carefree and enjoy cheap pleasures for 5-10 years maximum, but then usually live in misery all their lives in a slum. . Ah, those dwarfs who have missed those 5-10 years, in your opinion, then catch up very quickly and live much more fully.
I think that education and surrounding with intelligent and cultured people, building effective contacts and opportunities is the better option. By 'tarikatluk' I mean an offensive violation dictated by anti-social behavior and selfishness.
"How to break through in life" The right path, in my opinion, is in the middle with fives in school and with accumulated social experience, but without drugs. To apply for a doctor you do not need to have a full six in all 12 years, and to be successful and happy you need to have some social experience. To know how to study and to know how to communicate with the society, to have experience in contacts with both the excellent students and the thugs.
I don't know, everyone is responsible for themselves. I studied, I worked in the beginning for no money (BGN 300), I followed the news over the years, and now I get a little over BGN 8,000 for my work. Family, two children. I am paying for a third home, so there will be one for the descendants. Excursions 2-3 times a year around the world. I have never considered myself a bully. In my opinion, if a person finds his place in life, he can live well, develop and prosper without doing wrong things or breaking any written or unwritten laws. Otherwise, the various thugs there - Vasil Iliev, Emo Macarona and others, we all know, but few of them have lived to 40.
Happy are those who are happy with what they have and do not scratch for more;)) The bad thing is that most people do not know what they have; ((
both, Grandpa Pope, as the joke says :-) there is time for parties, there is also for learning, one can combine them successfully, I don't know why you oppose them. Study and party wisely, there is time for everything And realization in life is something relative, it depends on many things - skills, education, responsibility, social skills ...
You have to find a way to strike a balance. If you close just to study ahead in time you will make them unhappy. But if you hit him only at parties, you will still be bad in years. Also - do not rely only on the educational system, be sure to educate yourself about the things that really interest you. The most important thing is to set clear goals and do things that you really like, and at least through one of these things to make money - YOU decide whether it will be mixing concrete, medicine, accounting or not. .. photography;) You will feel happy when you start to achieve your goals and if these goals were really in your heart. Avoid (if possible, because they are everywhere) negative people. If you don't have such an opportunity, just DON'T TIE THEM to the stories! Do not be influenced by human opinion - each of us is a unique person with a unique soul, feelings, family environment in childhood, genes, etc. A woman.
I don't think I missed anything in my school years, strange as it may sound. I studied, which delayed my going out by about 2 hours. I skipped 2 hours outside every weekday, it's not a big deal. I went to parties, it just didn't happen every Friday. People are important to me, otherwise the noise is unpleasant to me. In fact, I missed the discos, but of my own free will. On the other hand, I had no problems with teachers or parents. They were happy with me. I was enrolled in 3 clubs organized by teachers at the school. Clubs that I joined of my own free will and I liked. It was a very good decision, I won several certificates and diplomas, I gained a lot of interesting knowledge, we visited different sites and the director released us from classes sometimes. The latter is a big bonus in high school. These activities took from my time, but it was there that I met many of my friends, and I can say that it was more of a relaxation than a study. I found myself in a good environment. I participated in various projects, one took me to Spain, where in addition to internships, I also had a lot of time to explore. I had artist friends in the 21st century. They played guitars, sang, painted, knew places where you felt comfortable and the waiters were nice. We may have been outsiders, but they took me to places where being an outsider is great, you blend in with the situation and there are many like you. I definitely didn't miss anything. I was not closed, I was studious. I gained a lot by taking time for lessons. I'm young, I can't say I'm successful, I'm still a student. I'm evolving, which doesn't mean I don't have social contacts. I am a human being like everyone else, I am not better, but my choices make me happy. I do not judge those who have partyed more. They, on the other hand, have benefited from something else and have also had a good time. When the others are lying down, I read, so we can see each other again the rest of the time. And I'm fine, there is some dynamic in my life, from one action, I jump to another. I did not miss love, but in this respect I was much more meek than my classmates. In the sense that my experience is based on several likes and three relationships, the last of which is not over yet. There have been times when I have left development in the background, but it has always been part of the picture. There were also many difficulties, dramas, problems. There was a time when my nerves were about to break, but that too passed. It's not just pink. I may not get far, I may not find a good job and never buy my own home, but I do not regret anything. With each choice you gain something and lose another. I have personally lost rest and sleep.
It's all about social skills. It helps to be literate, it helps to be capable, it also helps to know your interest. It's not either-or. The other model is to be a genius in one area. But how many geniuses fail to market, we will never know. So, make contacts, be confident, back it up with skills and don't wait for success to come, but achieve it goal after goal.
“And one more thing - what is happiness for you?” It is different for everyone, but do not think that you will find happiness at the bottom of a bottle or between the legs of a woman. You will find only temporary relief from your social and sexual needs, but you will gain self-pity, addictions and long-term depression. And that's especially true when you're 20.
You still haven't realized that in addition to the snooty-scholarly and stupid (according to estimates) -break-thugs, there is a third type, but maybe it's out of your sight. They are both smart enough and learned at least as much as they need to, and breakthrough. Whether they are thugs - rather they are not, but it is a matter of perspective. Is Bill Gates a scholar or a bully? He didn't sell drugs, he didn't graduate from university - you'll count him among the thugs, but he doesn't seem to be one of them. You're just trying to look at both extremes. He who is overwhelmed and strictly fulfills the requirements at school will not flourish - he will always be a performer. Whether high-ranking or locked in an office, he will still be a diligent student. Most to burn his fuses and hang or shoot random people. Drug gangs and discos look enviable to you, but you have to see how far they are at 40-50 and say "no,
It's different for everyone. In my opinion, in the open (I'm not talking about drugs and drinking) but there are just people who know how to adapt to the situation are better. There were all types in my class. One was the most deranged since he was a child, but even then it was obvious that he was a guy with a very violent temper, so now he works somewhere in Alaska as a general worker, as far as I know his life is not very rosy. The other two more poisoned, but moderate and smarter are developing very well. One successful doctor and the other his own business. Personally, I was also one of the more open girls, I got drunk and smoked, but without debauchery. I have never been an excellent student, but I finished with 5:30 success. I studied, got a master's degree. To be honest, I copied a lot, but I always managed to take the exam. While I was still studying, I started a good job. My best friend at school was the typical dentist, thanks to her I went to high school. He did not drink or smoke. She got very low grades in the exams and was not accepted. He missed the first year and then went to study in Varna. Now she works as a cashier ... That's why it's important to be poisoned and to be able to adjust. Success!
Extremes are not a good thing. There must be a balance in life. Therefore, to be a bully and to be successful in life, but at the same time to be simple and without a desire for intellectual progress, will at some point turn against you. And if you are very literate and intelligent, but you do not know how to arrange to live well, well, in the end you will live badly and others will take advantage of you. I think that one should strive for intellectual development in all areas, to improve, and at the same time one should be practical and able to deal with any situation. Happy are those who value what they have and are not greedy. Happy are those who enjoy life in general, not just achievement. Those who carry the flame of hope in themselves. Those who know how to laugh in the bad moments. Generally, happiness consists in the ability to enjoy the little things in life. People who are greedy, envious, eternally sullen and dissatisfied are people who do not appreciate what they have and still think they have little.
In principle, a lot has been said on the subject, but some basic ones have been omitted. First, as cliché as it may sound, happiness is not about money. I know a lot of very wealthy people who are still not happy. Marriage, family, everything for the people. Not that they ski in Switzerland and drink expensive French wines. It is the same with people without opportunities, as there are happy among the rich. Happiness, however, is not in money or things. Otherwise, yes, those who start drinking, smoking and do not leave the discos, very rarely manage to arrange their lives in general, simply because they treat everything irresponsibly. But it is not said that you have to be a super bison to be good. I know quite a few people with secondary education who have mastered a certain craft and earn a pretty good income, much better than people with higher education who work in low positions, that even middle positions. In addition, the concept of "tarikat" in the topic is a bit distorted. A tarikat is a person who simply looks after his own interest and benefit, and at the same time it is at the expense of many fucked up other people. However, one sooner or later pays the bill. There is no such film to be a constant bully. You always drink your bitter glass. By the way, I very much agree with number 1 that the youth "friends" as much as you want. I'm 36 and by 28 I thought I had friends, and not a few. In just 1-2 years, however, almost everyone seemed to evaporate, without us arguing or anything like that. It's just that they're obviously out of interest and useful. At the moment, I have two friends in all, and I rarely see one because he lives in another city. the subject is a bit distorted. A tarikat is a person who simply looks after his own interest and benefit, and at the same time it is at the expense of many fucked up other people. However, one sooner or later pays the bill. There is no such film to be a constant bully. You always drink your bitter glass. By the way, I very much agree with number 1 that the youth "friends" as much as you want. I'm 36 and by 28 I thought I had friends, and not a few. In just 1-2 years, however, almost everyone seemed to evaporate, without us arguing or anything like that. It's just that they're obviously out of interest and useful. At the moment, I have two friends in all, and I rarely see one because he lives in another city. the subject is a bit distorted. A tarikat is a person who simply looks after his own interest and benefit, and at the same time it is at the expense of many fucked up other people. However, one sooner or later pays the bill. There is no such film to be a constant bully. You always drink your bitter glass. By the way, I very much agree with number 1 that the youth "friends" as much as you want. I'm 36 and by 28 I thought I had friends, and not a few. In just 1-2 years, however, almost everyone seemed to evaporate, without us arguing or anything like that. It's just that they're obviously out of interest and useful. At the moment, I have two friends in all, and I rarely see one because he lives in another city. at the same time it is at the expense of many fucked up other people. However, one sooner or later pays the bill. There is no such film to be a constant bully. You always drink your bitter glass. By the way, I very much agree with number 1 that the youth "friends" as much as you want. I'm 36 and by 28 I thought I had friends, and not a few. In just 1-2 years, however, almost everyone seemed to evaporate, without us arguing or anything like that. It's just that they're obviously out of interest and useful. At the moment, I have two friends in all, and I rarely see one because he lives in another city. at the same time it is at the expense of many fucked up other people. However, one sooner or later pays the bill. There is no such film to be a constant bully. You always drink your bitter glass. By the way, I very much agree with number 1 that the youth "friends" as much as you want. I'm 36 and by 28 I thought I had friends, and not a few. In just 1-2 years, however, almost everyone seemed to evaporate, without us arguing or anything like that. It's just that they're obviously out of interest and useful. At the moment, I have two friends in all, and I rarely see one because he lives in another city. I'm 36 and by 28 I thought I had friends, and not a few. In just 1-2 years, however, almost everyone seemed to evaporate, without us arguing or anything like that. It's just that they're obviously out of interest and useful. At the moment, I have two friends in all, and I rarely see one because he lives in another city. I'm 36 and by 28 I thought I had friends, and not a few. In just 1-2 years, however, almost everyone seemed to evaporate, without us arguing or anything like that. It's just that they're obviously out of interest and useful. At the moment, I have two friends in all, and I rarely see one because he lives in another city.
You are all very right here! I am from Varna, I have a diploma work ahead of me, I graduated in "Radiocommunication Equipment and Technologies" at the University of Shumen, now I am graduating in "Alarm Systems and Technologies", and from the spring I will be looking for a job! I also have two favorite hobbies - I go to concerts and ceremonies and shoot them with my camera, record interesting shows and movies on TV! I do not die to walk thousands of kilometers from my homeland, as long as I buy a ticket for a nearby village or town and get on the train, enjoy the silence, because even if I get on a ship, what I can see from the train, from the ship I can't see it - for example the train passes through forests, fields and villages, you can see trees, hills, rivers! You don't need thousands of dollars to get on the train, only a few levs! Whoever wants, let him travel far! This is not mandatory for anyone! Everyone decides for themselves! I don't want to work for 600 leva and not be able to watch TV! For me, it comes first! I don't need coupons, I'm not looking for them! It has no one to go with, and that's not my goal! Everyone decides for himself, no one drives him by force! My social contacts are enough to go to the store / pharmacy / bank to shop / buy medicine for my mother / to pay my insurance! I don't want to hang out with all sorts of rascals, because as Number 3 mentioned, they now work for meager money, they don't have time for TV either - they just have to sleep and sleep! Because they are the ones who make fun of the bison, they don't know what they have to do to rise in society! Because they missed the train! And the bison have caught him! I also used to stay as far away from the rascals as possible! And I did not become like them! You know " In clothes they welcome, in mind they send! "