Hello! :) I want to share something with you for a very long time and I will be very happy if you can help me with something that has been tormenting me for many years. The first of these things is that I have no friends. I am not a conflicted person, I always want to be at peace with others, I never try to quarrel with anyone, I respect the opinion of others and I do not know why they do not like me. The situation is as follows: until the age of 12-13 I imagined many things and told them to everyone. I said that I was a National Swimming Champion, that I was a very good taekwondo fighter, but in fact I was short and fat and what I was saying made no sense. Also, I did a lot of mischief in class and I was often chased. My classmates didn't take me seriously and made fun of me. But I knew I deserved it. I was accepted into a new school 3 years ago. In the 8th grade it was the last year when I was proud of my success (respectively the first year in this new school): then I said that I had practiced all kinds of sports for 10 years and pretended to be a connoisseur, in a word I was on every pot. Everyone in the new school started making fun of me because there was no logic in what I was saying. I didn't have an athletic body, an athlete, I was short, maybe about 160 cm in eighth grade and I was fluffier. But I changed, I stopped bragging and started giving the floor to others, in each conversation I aim to ask the other person, because I know that I create pleasure in him when I ask him about his endeavors and give him a word to brag, no. I know if it's the right word. I have become 182 cm tall so far, I am 15 and I have been training volleyball and fitness for 6 months, I have done some body work, but there is still a lot to be desired. But no one reflected this change in me, they made fun of me again and again and still continue .. I don't know what to do .. My other problem is with my self-esteem .. I've been small since I was little, I don't offend others .. usually in companies, in which I am often teased with chicks that I would fish them and that I would do 360 on the skis some such nonsense, but I can not answer them with words or strength and physical contact .. I have problems in that I don't know how to respond to friendly jokes, and maybe that's why others think I'm an easier victim to be able to rise higher by teasing me. I'm not trying to annoy anyone .. I would give anything to have friends, but I just don't know what to do and how to change .. What can I do to avoid being teased? Well, I still have two good friends who are quite respected by the audience,
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I'm a girl your age. You boys know how to understand each other better, there is no such malice, envy and hatred, as between the girls and to some extent I would say that you are lucky. I was also mocked a lot in the old school, but I didn't talk, I was super quiet and shy and I guess that was my problem because I was an easy target for very angry and complex girls. They insulted me personally, it was sad, unpleasant, but I have only one friend for 10 years and no matter what happened, we had never quarreled seriously. And out of malice, the others had once caught her alone without me and said terrible things. That I was trumpeting everywhere, how ugly and fat she was, that her mother didn't look like anything, that they were dirty, that I couldn't stand her, but she had clung to me and I didn't know how to get rid of her. .. and my friend assumed that she had severed all contact with me and had been passing me on the street for several months. And I had no idea what was going on, the school moved out of our rank and those witches must have been celebrating and rejoicing, but I did not understand. From time to time they would throw me something like "Hey, what happened to you two, you got along so well" and they would say it to me with some joy, some complacency in my voice, but I had no idea that they might be guilty. So, after a few months, my friend spoke to me, explained to me what had happened, we clarified things and so far we are our best friends. I guess the fact that we were so close irritated those and made them jealous because they were a big group of friends, but it was all hypocrisy and competition which was the best and they were angry I guess they were jealous, that they too do not have a girlfriend who is a true friend, but only hypocrites around them. This happened somewhere 5-6 grade, we are already 9 and we are in the same school again, in the same rank again and again we are our closest friends. And they no longer remember each other. So appreciate those two friends you have, you don't need them anymore. They can't make fun of you and make you do anything, trampling you and wanting to be your friends. Drop them. I was also very naughty, I saw people going to a big company for coffee, movies, etc., but I realized that they can not relax, constantly watching what they will do and say to be part of the group and be liked. As they say "have fun". And while we both talk whatever comes to our mouths and it's generally very cool. Remember, it doesn't matter how many friends you have, as long as they are real, even if there is only one. :) I wish you success!
I understand that as a child you invented your own world in which you are the better version of yourself. You are probably a very sensitive person, which is confirmed by the fact that you keep your distance from others. I guess that your parents had / have great demands and ambitions towards you and that you still continue to live in your own world, but only when you are alone. Don't worry about what you told your classmates, there are just children (also adults) who can't limit the imaginary from the real world. The good thing is that you realized in time. Regarding your self-confidence, I would advise you not to worry and, no matter how banal it may sound, not to try to change. Give up your decision to adapt to others and be yourself. Think about whether it's worth adapting to others, in years to come, you will again have to accept the peculiarities of other characters, which will lead to the loss of your identity. But if you want to be cool to attract the attention of the chalgars, who may not have deserved it at all (except maybe with the extensions is the make-up), then be prepared to accept the vulgar chalgar religion. Greetings, Kiki