I thought that my life experience was enough and I had no problem communicating with people, but it turned out that it was not quite so. At work, I have a colleague on whom I depend in connection with my current tasks. I found out that only I have a problem with it. Maybe because I'm direct and direct - whatever I say - it's still bad. I decided that I would try to cope on my own, but things are connected and horror - I have to look for help again. The work does not weigh as much on me as the effort I make to ask myself the problem, to look for it, to find it, and to have the patience to know when the thing that depends on it is over. I decided - I will watch what others do and I will do it. Yes, but no - I make politics for him - he doesn't catch, I try to turn him into humor - he still doesn't catch. I have no conflicts with him. Some time ago, it seemed easier for me to talk to him. Now not only is there no time to talk, but there is nothing to talk about. I don't have a personal relationship - it's not unpleasant to me, nor is it embarrassingly pleasant to me - in the sense that it makes me worry. He has a sense of humor, but he treats me pretty badly. Maybe I'm the "weird bird" and I don't fit on the list of people he likes. I don't understand what to do anymore. I think personal likes or dislikes should not affect the relationship. Moreover, I have nothing personal to this person, but it turns out that I am a victim and I can not find an adequate approach. He has a sense of humor, but he treats me pretty badly. Maybe I'm the "weird bird" and I don't fit on the list of people he likes. I don't understand what to do anymore. I think personal likes or dislikes should not affect the relationship. Moreover, I have nothing personal to this person, but it turns out that I am a victim and I can not find an adequate approach. He has a sense of humor, but he treats me pretty badly. Maybe I'm the "weird bird" and I don't fit on the list of people he likes. I don't understand what to do anymore. I think personal likes or dislikes should not affect the relationship. Moreover, I have nothing personal to this person, but it turns out that I am a victim and I can not find an adequate approach.
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That's right, personal relationships have no place in the workplace. There has to be respect between two people and from then on they don't have to be super nice!
You may like it and this tension arises between you! I think you need to talk, conversations almost always work in a situation like this.
I support number 2 and I'm sure he has dirty thoughts and no courage to share them. This sends him to the other extreme, something like self-defense. Good luck and bold.
Nonsense! Bulgarians are hypocritical !!! During socialism, religion was denied, and from there people learned to lie. There is nothing you can do with this individual :) Just don't argue with him! If you do not like in Bulgaria that people are hypocritical and do not speak openly you know where to go ... this is the situation in our country now, after 50, 100 years there may be a change :)) In Bulgaria you live, realize it: PPP !!
Just politely ask him what the problem is, have you offended him with something, etc .... this may not help you like yourself more (not necessarily), but at least you will clarify to some extent.