Hello! I am writing here to share how I feel at work, asking for advice. I am new to the team, the work is specific and although I have always done flawlessly in previous places, here I have to be specially trained. My new colleagues are understood, all of them (except one) help me to master the technique at work. When the colleague in question trains me, the situation becomes a nightmare, both for me and maybe for her. She is restless and terribly nervous, she doesn't explain anything to me at all - she just tells me to look at her and act like her. And what he does and why he does it ... the details are many and specific, the sequence cannot be remembered if it is not explained. He yells at me about everything, puffs and doesn't let me take anything away without demonstratively checking my work, even in front of clients. And if I do not collect the work to check it, he is angry why I didn't put it away ... On the second day after the "training" he told me that he would sit on a chair and watch me work ... I save annoying details, but as a result of her tactlessness, in such moments I even forget my name ... I get confused and wrong, which for her may be incompetence. I tried to explain to her that it would be so hard to learn, and she justified her nerves with illness. He began to monitor my work and harass me even for things I had already mastered and worked perfectly. What should I do? Should I share the situation with the boss? I'm afraid that if I keep silent and make mistakes out of anxiety, nothing will make me incapable of doing my job. I refrain from sharing all this with any colleague, I just don't trust anyone, because I don't know them well and I don't know what might happen next. I stick to normal relationships and I don't like any conflicts. I like all the other colleagues, but this woman is harassing me and that interferes with my work. What should I do?
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Well, he's just a naughty man. If you can, don't deal with it, avoid it and that's it.
If they put her to train you, then she is a trusted person and she may have overtaken you with the complaint. And she may be right about looking at her hands, because that's how I looked at my colleagues and because I went through a lot of training, I managed to take the best of them and build a slender system - fast and accurate. Once you're new, be very careful with intrigue, you don't know who's who.
No, she's not a trusted person, she's just the only one in the place right now and there's no one else to train me. The work is extremely responsible and requires maximum concentration and attention to avoid a minimum of mistakes. She is a pensioner, with the only long experience only there and is automated in the implementation. There is a problem in life and I show understanding, but this constant nervousness and constant disapproval of everything, even insignificant things, upsets me incredibly much and hinders my absorption. Even if I am not with her, in her manipulations, she lurks for me and in the roughest way checks things that I do normally and well assimilated. What I learned from the other, tactful colleagues, I do like them, but it's just awful with her. I shared in good faith and the answer was that she was like that - she loved to impose herself on everyone. Ok, but how will I learn in this tense situation? Today I intend to talk to her to keep her nerves with me so that the work goes better for both of them. I'm just more determined not to let her treat me like an idiot, because we have the same qualifications, education and opportunities. My nerves are not for one day, I have to learn to work flawlessly and it should not prevent me from doing it.
This movie I played Escalation or in our language report to the boss. The fact that she is more optimistic and even superior does not give her the right to behave like that with you. Act and don't think.
Your workplace is sexist because you are only women.
I had the same problem. What I did was the following: I went and talked to the boss. So things got better, but only for a while. In general, whoever is a naughty person stays the same. .Good luck
Hi, Yes, really, you shouldn't let her treat you like that. The bad thing is that you're obviously more cramped, and she senses this and attacks. Try as much as possible to show character. Don't be harsh with her, because it will make her even angrier. But also show character. Talk to the boss if he looks like a reasonable person.
Hello, thank you all for the advice, I really benefit from your opinion. I shared with the boss and to my surprise, he expected this. They knew she was like that, but at the moment there is simply no one to train me in this place and he even apologized for the inconvenience! At the first convenient moment I will work with another colleague. And I, of course, am infinitely grateful for the understanding shown. No, don't think I'm shrunken, I'm definitely not. I just stick to normal human relationships, including work. I'm new here, I don't know their characters, but I already have enough impressions - I don't want to and I won't get into any intrigues, conflicts, etc. situations that embarrass me. I have an impression of everyone, but it is based only on what I have heard or seen. No one is able to set me against anyone, I have my own opinion and it remains only for me. I have worked in several responsible positions, with cultural colleagues and relationships and let it not sound immodest, the truth is that I have never had trouble, we were left with excellent impressions of each other. But here, this woman, excuse me, she disgusts me with all her behavior and not just me.
She only worked here and only knows what she needs to teach me. During work she shares business things with complete strangers, passing by us for minutes, and even now I realized that she has different pants for work and at home ... She was arguing with her neighbor, who forbade her to go outside, so as not to drip on her clothes ... And more, and more, but I risk becoming annoying. Excuse me, but how else can I describe the picture so that I can be understood? I couldn't stand it today and I resisted her, because it's too much and if I hadn't stopped it, I don't know how far it would have gone. I was told that I was doing something slowly, which is definitely not true. It just piled up a lot of people and she went wild. I told her that my hands would not grow and she would stop treating me like a dog, because as much as she is a specialist in ..., so am I. At such moments, let me not forget that this manipulation has been working for 42 years, and I only for a few days. I told her I couldn't wait for her to yell at me, sit on my ass, and conform to my tone. Hahahaha, well then he wouldn't train me? !! No, you will train me, but culturally, as others do.
He asked me to name those who are so cultured here. I wanted her to be calmer in the name of work, because maximum concentration and attention are needed. I also told her I wasn't mad at her, but my patience ran out, and it came. Of course, I did not achieve anything, but at least she realized that there is someone to oppose her, because everyone is silent, incl. and the boss, in the name of work. I dare to call her anonymously a "simpleton" here, because before we left, at the end of the working day she didn't come in "to check on me", but shouted like a gypsy from afar to ask me if I had left everything in its place. Like an apprentice ... I'm already sorry ...