Hi, maybe your title made it clear what it was all about. I am 21 years old, until now I have lived with the thought that I have a very strong character and very few things can break my spirit, but now that moment has come. I was not with this girl for a very long time, about a year, but during this period we went through a lot and she became an integral part of my life and dreams. I've never loved before. I've been with girls, but I've never been able to love them, which I once hated myself for. And then she came. We've known each other since we were little from the same city, we started our relationship a little jokingly and from a joke it became one of the most wonderful things that happened to me. I completely changed my life to be with her, I do not want to say details because you will call me an idiot and rightly so. I'm a person with a slightly different mindset and I thought that she is such a person. Everything was fine from 4 months ago. Since then, I have felt her looking for a reason for quarrels and separation and at the same time she claims that she loves me. Suddenly he started telling me that he didn't want to talk to me much, to write to me, and finally he told me that he didn't even want to be intimate with me. Then we broke up and after 2 weeks he apologized again and we continued. It's been a week, a week that was unique everywhere. And then she told me that she was very cold to me and did not want to be with me. I've done a lot of things to keep her cool. I have never lied to her, betrayed her, neglected her, I have always done everything possible just to be good. I left my dreams to make hers come true, I loved her, God, there is no word to describe it, I carried her with two words in my hands. There were things I objected to. But you can't say YES to everything after all. And she was obviously cold from that, or she was just looking for a reason to separate. I saw her lately, she was online late when we weren't together, she wasn't looking for any reason to talk to me and she told me again that she had no desire for anything, and this time she even told me that I hadn't sexually attracted her and not at all. it was obvious. But anyway. It's been a month since we broke up, I don't stop thinking the same thing from morning to night. No matter what I do, nothing can distract me at least a little. It turned out that she was not honest with me about many things that I will not describe, I know that this happened for good. And yet I do not stop thinking about the time we were together and I'm like garbage all day ... I tried with other girls, supposedly to relieve the pain and it became stronger and stronger.
Answers 7
It is difficult for you to continue, it feels like you have strong feelings, but it is right to continue. It's good that you treated her the way you describe her, but she has burdened you with such things and I think you should try to look ahead. Many girls with too good manners just start to overdo it and vice versa, examples abound. There are exceptions if you look ahead with this masculine care that you have described, it is no wonder that you meet someone.
I'm in the same situation. 1 to 1 with what was written .. I hope that everything will be fine in time.
You said it yourself - you started your relationship a little jokingly and it gradually became one of the most wonderful things that happened to YOU. Was it the same with her? You mention that she lied to you for a long time, I wouldn't be surprised if she pretended to be more in love than she is. Or she quickly lost her temper and waited for another branch to grab. Her behavior is inappropriate and disrespectful to you. Once you fall in love, you will fall in love again. Don't expect to find a replacement for her in the second month, when the time comes, the right one will appear on its own. It's hard, it sucks, it doesn't come out of your head, but it's surmountable. Keep going and that's it. The more you delve, the harder it will be for you to get out of the situation.
We can't erase a person just like that, and when there were feelings that are truly sincere and not fleeting, then we have to keep the small part, the most beautiful part of the memory with the beloved, and continue.
If she loved you, she wouldn't make you doubt her feelings
Sometimes lying helps not to hurt the person we love, but there is a big difference from lie to lie. There are lies for which there is no forgiveness. Sit down and talk and everything will be fine My opinion
Give yourself time. I know what's wrong with you, believe me. And as ridiculous as it sounds to you, as impossible as it is - just leave it to time. It will solve everything. I will not guess what were the reasons for things to develop like this, but if two people are for each other, their paths will cross again.