How do I stop looking for it In short: We have known each other for 10 years. 5 of them I was happy, feeling his love and care. The other 5 are soaked in my tears for him, the feeling of deception, the false words that he loves me. For 4 years he masterfully avoided asking me what I was to him. I have known for half a year that there is another. I tried to forget it, I cried my tears, I ruined my health. Life has lost its color. I started calling him again sometimes. Only in his office because he changed his phone number. He was nice to me, we laugh, the communication was interesting and intelligent, but he doesn't give me his phone number? I understand perfectly well that I am completely stupid and my dignity has disappeared somewhere. After each meeting, I ruin myself and look for him again. Today I found out that he dumped the other one, but you liked the new one last month. Hurry to marry a second time, that passes 50. And I'm married (another question whether happily) and I'm not getting married to him and he doesn't want me. How can I be so blinded and keep looking for love from him? Shouldn't I be treated for such an addiction? How do I erase it from my life?
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"And I'm married (another question whether happy)" From this line of yours and from the point of view of a boy with a lot of experience in the field of soap operas in real life I can tell you directly WHY DOESN'T HE WANT YOU: If he knows that you you are married, but not happy, so you think that you are not serious and that if you go with him, in time you will consider this relationship frivolous, because, I hope it does not sound conservative - marriage is something SERIOUS, you can not swear at someone in fidelity, and after a while to hesitate and want another. I'm just telling you directly why he doesn't want you from a man's point of view. Men do not like to feel like FAVORITES.
There are many good antidepressants on the market :) the mother of a colleague was depressed and as far as I really understood life and got along with a good dose of sedatives :)
Hello! You know, one of your sentences intrigued me. "He had a good time with me, the communication was interesting," but he did not give his phone number. Why doesn't he give his phone? Why did he change it? I can tell you from experience - so you don't look for us. and AS MUCH as it hurts, I know it's hard because I've been through it, don't be humiliated anymore, because I'm sure he and the other one are laughing at you after you, and maybe they even feel sorry for you. Don't let them feel sorry for you, but raise your head. You will overcome it if you have to go to a psychiatrist to consult you, to prescribe sedatives, but humiliation is the ugliest thing. He just doesn't care about you and you have to let him live his life the way he knows how. What's more, you're married, and maybe he's avoiding you because he's sensed where things are going. But have dignity and try not to look for it for 1 month. If you are still something to him, he will look for you. Success!
You are not a good party for him because you have a husband, and his man passes the years. He wants a woman with children, and what can you offer him besides naked sex ?? There is the answer you are looking for. You're wasting his time, and he's obviously fed up with you already, so he changed his phone so as not to interfere with his new connections. Think about whether it's worth pushing him?
I absolutely agree with number 4. Have you ever thought about what you can give in the future (let's leave the past 10 years) to this man? If you want to give him something real, you have to divorce and marry him. You can't play with the feelings (or expectations) of the other like that, thinking only of yourself. And did his first marriage end because of you? It doesn't matter to us - answer yourself. And IF so, I fully justify it.