Hello! My story is as follows. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months now. I'm 16, he's 19. We love each other a lot, besides boyfriends we are also best friends. I am a virgin. The first 4, 5 months did not make me do anything. We talked about sex quite often, but we didn't. In time, however, he began to want a little less and to hint at me, but something kept stopping me. We tried it for the first time somewhere 2 months ago, but I was really scared, I don't even know what. I even think that the pain didn't scare me so much, but then I don't know what the reason was. I cried and we stopped there. From then until now we try almost every time there is an opportunity, but it hurts and it still doesn't work, something stops me and I don't know why. I want him to be with him for the first time because I love him, I trust him, but I don't know what to do to overcome that feeling. Every time we go to try, I come up with a reason to stop. And he already likes it very much and the only reason why he is still waiting and with me is that we are very close and he loves me. But patience always runs out and if I don't do something it will leave me, and I don't want it to happen. I'm not ashamed of him, that's not the reason. How can I help myself to do it once and pass, to stop all my thoughts and worries and irritations between us ...
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"if I don't do something he will leave me" ".. and he loves me" He loves you, aha.
Hah, yes, he loves me and he proved it to me. :) He didn't say he would leave me, but I think every boy deprived of that much time is likely to get tired of it
Don't worry, no matter what happens emotionally, everything is experienced and better moments come - remember that :). Now on the topic - it is normal to feel discomfort, I will not go into details (read about techniques and practices for sex for the first time and apply some of them, you will see that you will like it). It is important that whatever you do, you are ok with it, and not do it because everyone else is doing it or because your friend wants you to. Think, read on the topic (there is a lot of material on the net about this) and do not worry.
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Aren't you young for such long relationships? 9 months is a lot!
Hello :). I'm up and down at your age, I'm 17. I don't think you have anything to fear. If you've been together for 9 months and haven't had sex, then obviously he really loves you. If you're sure of him and want him to be your first, I don't think there's anything to worry about in that case. It's not that painful, it's not a dying pain. After all, every woman goes through this. There is no point in adjusting that it hurts. Just the next time you try, think how nice and tender it will be. How both of you will like it. Number 5, I don't think is very small for a long relationship. I don't think it's better to be 30. and then to look for a serious relationship or to be like 12-13 year olds, with an excuse - whores who sleep with everyone! If they have been together with the boy for so long, then they are well and it is hardly too early for such a commitment. Everyone has a head on their shoulders and can judge every single thing on their own. As for you, dear author, I don't think you have anything to worry about! Just relax. I hope I was helpful. Good luck! :)))
I think he really loves you very much! ; d My girlfriend and I will do 6 months in a week. I'm 16, so is she. Although we have not had sex, our intimacy has advanced. Ours are abroad, so we can always get together here ... Well, a few days ago I had a birthday. We met early in the morning for a while. When I returned, I noticed in front of the door that my key was missing, but the door was unlocked. When I entered I could not believe my eyes. She was cooking. Since ours are not here, I was used to cooking on my own. Everything was great (as I always overdid it: e). She cooked everything I love. Everything was wonderful. Then she told me it was time for my gift. He said he would bring it to me and went into my room. When it came out, I was really surprised. She was wearing very sexy lingerie and holding a teddy bear that was even bigger than me ... When I asked her why she dressed this way, she replied that today was my day. Her voice trembled slightly. From this I understood that she was not ready for sex and I asked her directly why she was doing it. "Because I love you and because I know you love me," she replied, but her voice began to tremble even more. Then I took her hand, kissed her, my hands were already in her ass (as always; e). After kissing and hugging, I asked her to stay with me tonight at least. "And without asking me, I would do it," she said, and so we moved into my room. There the bed is narrower, so we would hug all night. :) She was still in her underwear, and it was too late, it was cold. I told her to get dressed, but she wouldn't listen. She told me to warm her. I haven't had pajamas since I was a child, so I went under the quilt in boxer shorts. She caught me, and I withdrew my hand and told her that I would wait for her to be ready. I hugged her tightly and so we started dreaming about the future. Then we got up to eat pasta again; e ... Well ... I mean ... this isn't the first time I've stopped it. If she's not ready, you have to wait;) I mean, if he loves you, he won't tell you about it. Men generally want sex, but the first time is an exception;) I don't believe it's so dumb as to leave you for such a thing. :) ) I don't believe he's stupid enough to leave you for such a thing. :) ) I don't believe he's stupid enough to leave you for such a thing. :)
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Well, if he loves you and is a man, he will wait on the spot, no matter how long it is, as far as your fear is concerned, there is no need to worry, relax and everything will be fine, the boy tells you. Good luck and all the best.
Are you still wondering, it's already been 10, not 9 months. Sex is an integral part of a relationship between two people who love each other. If you don't feel ready, no one will force you to do it and you shouldn't! There are two options - you have sex and you keep the relationship or you end it and enjoy your childhood. No one can make this decision except you, everyone feels differently when they are ready for this step. If you are not really ready, which is evident from your statement, I really do not advise you to do it, the pleasure in sex is mutual, if one does not like it, it is obvious. Personally, I was your age when I lost my virginity with my then boyfriend, our relationship was good, but honestly I don't think that at that age I felt much pleasure from sex. If you try to overcome your fear, and if your friend has the right approach to you and predisposes you to a nice intimate atmosphere, why not enjoy this pleasure. But really the most important thing is to be careful, proper placement of condoms, possibly contraceptives. Success, whatever decision you make, there is no right or wrong, there is a decision that will satisfy you, you know what it is.
thanks :)
Bravo 9! you are great! If you want to do defloration, they do it in a lot of hospitals and clinics. It does not show much and is painless under anesthesia.
we did it :)