Hi, it's probably going to be a weird story, with an even weirder question, but that's the way it is. My husband and I have been together for 6 years and he flatly refuses to brush his teeth. He said that they were fine, one chewing gum was enough for him and he was ready, at one time people didn't have toothpaste and didn't brush their teeth, they had healthier teeth, of course I don't agree with that. In my opinion, this thinking is completely windy. We have a child to teach him. Since there are hygiene products why not use them. I bought him a brush, a nice paste for BGN 10. Well, there is no option to make it. I don't want to tell him that when he talks he smells, not when he gets close, but from afar, even because he will be offended, I know, I tell him, for example, brush your teeth or start brushing them already, because they are terribly yellow, accumulated and black. He is still a smoker. He washes them once and for all. I can't follow him and do this in the morning and in the evening, to deal with his hygiene. And it really smells awful, we go out with friends, acquaintances, he talks to them, and his teeth in the light are just shocking, I see how people are staring there and see that really these teeth are not washed. We don't even have any contact with each other anymore, neither intimate nor any, I can't kiss or lie down next to such a person. It literally smells like a toilet. I'm sorry to put it this way, but I'm already wondering what to do. While I'm the exact opposite of this, I have such a need to brush my teeth and hygiene in general that I can't go out without doing it, I don't feel comfortable. On top of that, he told me that he had never brushed his teeth since he was a child, and now I'm sitting and whining about how I didn't notice it when we met. Maybe it didn't feel that way. I don't know what's going on, we're talking about a 26-year-old man. Please give advice or opinion and without unnecessary negative comments, if I write here, then I have judged why. Thanks!
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As a 26-year-old man, I was constantly wondering if I was doing enough for my hygiene, and at the moment I'm standing and shocked at how masochistic women are. If you are with this man, according to your criteria, I have to pass for a model from Milan, because of the care I take for myself. Nothing special, just daily brushing and bathing and various men's cosmetics .. Now seriously, I'm still shocked, but I don't know how you can impose it on a person who doesn't have such a habit. Once upon a time, when I was very young, my mother had given me a game, and the more I brushed my teeth, the more rewards I received. It was fun, and then it became a habit. So try something similar, as funny as it sounds. I don't know why I write on the subject at all, but I'm really shocked by both of you. Even more than you are with such a man.
This is not true. Tell him what he will be angry with, if he is not angry he will never take action.
Tell him directly at the risk of "insulting him." I don't understand how you can be together for 6 years and not be able to say such things in your eyes.
Experience has shown that stubbornness is not taught until it sees lasting consequences. In his case, this will be when he will no longer have to open his mouth to pull. Watch the child, do not kiss the man.
For me, since a person is a smoker, from then on it doesn't matter at all whether he brushes his teeth or not ...
They had no contact with why you were with him or this story was made up.
Horror, I can't believe it. Send him to the dentist if he can influence him ... How did you even get in touch with this one?
Many ideas have been submitted, but have not yet been "approved". I will also give my own: "... once upon a time, when people did not have toothpaste and did not brush their teeth, they had healthier teeth" Find a cob of corn. If nowhere else, buy boiled, if you do not feel like eating - feed the birds with the grains. You hide the toilet paper and leave the cobs instead. He can't help but ask, "What's going on?" This is your star moment. You answer: "Well, once they didn't have toilet paper, they wiped themselves with cobs and ... they were healthier again ..." You should realize. Success!
Take him to the dentist. I guess then he'll be a little startled about his oral hygiene. It is true that he does not brush his teeth and this is a good explanation for bad breath, but usually I associate bad breath with caries and in a large percentage of cases there really are. There is no option for this person to never brush their teeth, to be a smoker and to chew gum regularly without having decayed teeth. By sitting in the dentist's chair for a few hours and you will find that it is better to spend 2-3 minutes in the morning and evening for your teeth. Even if you explain yourself, nothing will change. He has to startle himself and think things over, others talk to him, they just make a wind in their mouths. He is already a big man, he is not a child, it is difficult for someone to convince him of something if he himself is not willing to believe and think.
My grandparents once had no brushes or toothpaste in the village, but they rubbed their teeth with soda, salt and other things every day. Both of them did not have fillings, fallen teeth, etc. in their old age. My wife's grandfather used to drink vodka every morning, and again he didn't have any dental problems. That is, despite the lack of toothbrush and toothpaste, they took some care of their teeth and breath. So your husband with some chewing gum, which is also harmful not to sprinkle nonsense. I don't know how to make him brush his teeth. Take him to the dentist and see for himself how much damage he is doing.
Didn't you see what you were taking, bride? Why you keep roaring post factum I can not understand.
This happens when parents have not developed a habit in their children. It is not normal for a 26-year-old man not to be supported. Buy him an electric brush or at least mouthwash.
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With a hint, obviously nothing happens. If you continue in the same way as before, the result will be the same as before. You have to tell him straight in the eye - what if he will be offended. Isn't it more insulting for people to stare at his teeth and pull when he smells kenef. Pay attention to him in any such situation. At least he will begin to notice and feel. For now, because you and the people are tactful and no one tells him and he thinks that everything is fine and not noticeable. Tell him directly that this is why you don't have sex - reward him accordingly when he takes care of his oral hygiene - this should at least motivate him to brush his teeth and use mouthwash. Otherwise, it is quite strange, indeed, that you have not previously noticed that you married and gave birth to a child of a man with such dubious hygiene habits.
"Once upon a time, people who didn't have toothpaste and didn't brush their teeth had healthier teeth" - "Once upon a time" the microflora was unchanged and there was nothing to spoil people's teeth. Not only were there no "chemicals" in the food. There were no pesticides, herbicides, pollution of water, soil, air. Today this is not the case, the bacterial composition is different and the only solution is the paste and the brush. This is the explanation, tell your husband.
I'm number 15. I thought I could actually give some more proven advice. The case is not exactly identical, because my husband brushes his teeth regularly and has always done so, but he is afraid of dentists and although his teeth are healthy he is prone to tartar formation, so when we got together (he was still 22) although if there was no bad breath, there were a lot of stains on the teeth. It was a big struggle to make an appointment to clean the tartar - but after the first time he saw how the stains disappeared and that the cleaning didn't really hurt, he really liked white teeth again and the next time the initiative to make an appointment for cleaning was his. But I had to take him by the hand, persuade him and save the time and sit with him for the first time - that is, just by saying what should be done or by hinting there was no way. It has to be shown and done with it. Fear is fear - it is not rational, it is left after an unpleasant incident with a dentist in childhood. The other thing is - I noticed that whatever I buy - a new kind of paste or mouthwash, sticks with a thread instead of just a thread, an electric brush - he bypasses them and uses the old ones he is used to until I explicitly go to the bathroom with him. to show him what I took, to praise the new purchase and to encourage him to try. I do it, asking for his opinion on the purchase, to test and say what he thinks so I know if it makes sense to buy from the same next time. So you both caress his ego, he becomes curious to try, he feels competent and in a position to give an authoritative assessment (you still ask him what he thinks, because you can't judge for yourself and the decision depends on him).
You won't hint at anything to him, you just tell him he smells disgusting and take action. If you are going to be offended. Did you get married on the second date because you failed to see his level of hygiene?
How do I hint? If you hear what you are saying, tell him directly so that he will be offended as much as he will.
This is the most basic thing one should learn as a child. Tell him directly, no twists, or get clean, or kick his ass. What an aborigine he is, as long as he doesn't brush his teeth, let alone bathe, he probably smells sour.