how to meet such Now even if I go out .. I just don't know where to go .. and what to do .. I hope you help me .. I will be extremely grateful! :)
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In your case, try dating sites. If you have internet then;)
He goes to galleries, museums and cultural events
Hello, the best option for you is to make friends with a few girls from your university courses and form a group. Be friendly, show interest and something can come out of you when you get to know each other.
You can try Tinder - an application that is gaining popularity in Bulgaria recently. I do not guarantee that you will meet extremely good girls, but there are many well-read, cultured and decent ones there. It depends on what you come across and what you choose. Sometimes a photo even shows which product it is. It costs you nothing to try, since it is so difficult for you to meet live. However ... there are already different methods. Just be careful and open your eyes online. There are all kinds, unfortunately. But ... I guess everything has its risks. I wish you all the best and soon find "your people" in the new place! - M. R., 18
Looking for friends - it doesn't matter if it's with girls or boys. Everyone knows someone and when you have had several friends, they will introduce you to their friends and so you will make contacts naturally. Don't focus on being shy and talking to people without analyzing what they think of you and whether they like you. You are still young, very young and the situation is not lost at all. It's also not aimed at a certain type of girl - cultured, educated or one-of-a-kind, because that's how you limit yourself. I'm not saying you're talking to idiots, but just don't rush to judge people. I was like you when I came to Sofia to study, with the difference that I am a girl. I was very worried, but I had a lot of requirements for what kind of people I want for friends, let alone for a boyfriend. I refused to communicate with anyone, just because he listens to certain music, for example. And accordingly I stood alone. Not that I was stupid, but I had misconceptions and thought that people should meet my expectations. Over time, I realized that they are not one-sided and I should not be so critical. The more open and friendly a person is to others, the more they look for him and want his company. You have to be active and make calls yourself. If you wait for someone to come and express a desire to get to know you, you will stay with the wait. Find a company of girls and boys, and special acquaintances will come on their own. You sound like a smart boy, you must be a nice interlocutor, you just have to relax and not care so much. Over time, I realized that they are not one-sided and I should not be so critical. The more open and friendly a person is to others, the more they look for him and want his company. You have to be active and make calls yourself. If you wait for someone to come and express a desire to get to know you, you will stay with the wait. Find a company of girls and boys, and special acquaintances will come on their own. You sound like a smart boy, you must be a nice interlocutor, you just have to relax and not care so much. Over time, I realized that they are not one-sided and I should not be so critical. The more open and friendly a person is to others, the more they look for him and want his company. You have to be active and make conversations yourself. If you wait for someone to come and express a desire to get to know you, you will stay with the wait. Find a company of girls and boys, and special acquaintances will come on their own. You sound like a smart boy, you must be a nice interlocutor, you just have to relax and not care so much. Find a company of girls and boys, and special acquaintances will come on their own. You sound like a smart boy, you must be a nice interlocutor, you just have to relax and not care so much. Find a company of girls and boys, and special acquaintances will come on their own. You sound like a smart boy, you must be a nice interlocutor, you just have to relax and not care so much.
First of all, I think you need to find friends, ie people with similar interests. Your problem is deeper after not talking to anyone for three weeks. You always have some interests, you don't like bars, sign up for a sport or something and communicate there. Forums, chats, etc. are also good training, but only for a start. There is no guarantee that the girls you will meet will be decent. There is no specific place to find them. It is as if some stand in a certain area and are separated from others. It's funny. A person is evident in the appearance, the way of expression, the manners and again there is no guarantee that your partner is sitting opposite. At 19, find a way to have fun. Which girl will want to be with an antisocial type at that age. My thought is, first work on yourself and then look for a mate.
I'm a 19-year-old girl, and not in a bad text, but how can someone reflect or like you when you don't communicate? Talkative people, smiling people, funny people with the most friends, so you become unnecessarily avoided, because out of modesty, shame or I don't know why you don't talk to them. First in the 21st century, when everyone is constantly meeting on social networks - you add them, write to them, get to know each other so you can relax more easily, get used to communicating, be more relaxed and if you are looking for a connection you have to you are the man, you are a gentleman and so on and not they talk to you, they compliment you, you smile or you write you meet and if it happens and to those who are the most not everyone binds them it should not scare you :) Just relax, go out in companies so you will meet girls with you more often, around you there will be a way to talk to them yourself and you will relax, but not among people with a similar problem that you create with this wall, so to speak, you share, you are not like the others only that there is no girl to talk to you at so many guys talking to them. There are normal girls in the discos, and you are 19, isn't it too early for you, as well as a modest boy, I see you and you're just different, one day you'll meet her, but you can change instead of waiting and you feel that way. Companies, outings and so to speak discos and people you can't stand, and when you have a girl you meet her most politely and kindly and not to be disrespectful you behave nicely, but also men with one thing in mind or just write to them if you is easier. Also, if you study or study there, you will meet something you have not heard, understood,
I am a similar type of person, introverted and difficult to socialize. I guess you have some hobbies and interests - try through some interest group on Facebook, for example, or at all - you can try dating online. I think this will be the most painless way for you, because in virtual dating it is far easier and there is no such element of "shyness". Well, if things get worse with a girl, you will have to take the initiative anyway, to invite her to a meeting, and at the meeting itself - to put into action your charisma. I sincerely wish you success!
Number 2, going to cultural events for dating will not bring success to the author. Maybe if he's a super open guy - yes, but obviously that's not the case. People rarely go to exhibitions and concerts alone, and he will find himself in a situation where, if he wants to meet someone, he will have to intrude on a company. It is clear from the topic that he is not very self-confident and such "intrusion" will not be successful until he has gained some experience in communication. Going to cultural events is great, but not with the idea that you will make contacts there. Rather for fun, enriching the general culture. Just imagine the situation - two girlfriends have gone to a concert and they have a boy who after "Hello, how is it" does not know what to say. Not because it's stupid, but because he has no experience. They will play it immediately. Such things work only if the person is confident, has a certain charisma and does not care. Author, in order to get acquainted with events, bars and in general in places where people are strangers, you must first get used to communicating with acquaintances. You can't ride a bike all your life and get into Formula 1. I'm not saying to be discouraged and stay at home, but ride it step by step.
I think you need live communication with women, not online. If you are a student in the capital, why not at a dormitory in Studentski? There you will have neighbors, you will be able to invite them to parties in your room. Another option: sign up for dancing. I went to folk dances in Studentski, we were a group of 15 girls and 2 boys. I've been going to swing dancing for a long time and it's a lot of fun. Third option: sports, such as boxing, tai chi, etc. Fourth option: yoga and the like (I do not recommend, because yoga is considered typically female and men who practice yoga look feminine, but if you are stable, it's ok). Tinder is a complete shit, I do not recommend you to deal with it, but it does not prevent you from creating a profile like this for variety, it costs nothing (do not give them money as they ask, wait 12 hours).
From the author Thank you very much for the useful tips! I was left with the impression that .. there is no other way but to relax and try to be more ... confident .. direct .. and that I have to socialize .. unfortunately .. Honestly .. I do not like to intrude .. for me it is not so much the problem to make contact .. as the disappointment when they cut me off ... that is .. this goes without saying if they do not show interest .. and of course .. I am a social invalid .. I imagine what a pain it is to be someone else face and talk to myself .. I have no problem in my free days to appear at various cultural events .. I love exhibitions .. but there are many strangers .. it depresses me .. and especially when I'm alone .. number 9 explained it very well .. instead of me .. just as I would say By the way I did not expect that .. I will get so many answers and without a single hate Thank you very much once again! :)
From the author Thank you very much for the useful tips! I was left with the impression that .. there is no other way but to relax and try to be more ... confident .. direct .. and that I have to socialize .. unfortunately .. Honestly .. I do not like to intrude .. for me it is not so much the problem to make contact .. as the disappointment when they cut me off ... that is .. this goes without saying if they do not show interest .. and of course .. I am a social invalid .. I imagine what a pain it is to be someone else face and talk to myself .. I have no problem in my free days to appear at various cultural events .. I love exhibitions .. but there are many strangers .. it depresses me .. and especially when I'm alone .. number 9 explained it very well .. instead of me .. just as I would say By the way I did not expect that .. I will get so many answers and without a single hate Thank you very much once again! :)
Sign up for dancing or the Red Cross.
Hehe, I think I'm your girl version. If you are sure that a girl is decent, just be nice, if she is, she will never send you away. Try the quiet girls, and the conversation will be easier for them.
Number 14 made me think. Instead of looking for quiet girls, look for noisy, extroverted, open ones. The same goes for boys, if you are looking for friends, try not to surround yourself only with people like you. Communicating with extroverts will be more useful and easy for you. They talk a lot, they often dictate the conversation, that is, you will not wonder what to say; they are surrounded by many people, which makes it easier for you to make new contacts. There was a phrase that introverts did not find friends, and some extrovert adopted them. : D There is something true.
This is the moment for male philosophers to say how nothing will come to you, how you should try and do things - all the wisdom they have written in other topics to women .... or they will play it as a passive male solidarity