I write to ask people how they feel while communicating in front of acquaintances, strangers, in front of groups of people, because I myself feel uncomfortable and I am quite intelligent. I see that my communication is lame due to a number of delays and this somewhat hinders my development. I'm not an extrovert, I'm more self-sufficient. I think the problem originated in my childhood and school years. I know that there are many people with a similar problem, so to speak, and I would like to share if they have realized the problem, how they deal with this thing and how much it hinders their lives.
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The easiest way is to start asking - this is how you let the other party take over the conversation. For example - What do you do? - hence the questions "Yeah, sounds interesting, what exactly are you doing? .. then you can say what you do if the conversation stops., Cool bag, where is it from?, time and the obvious things are also a good topic for conversation with not very close ones, such as "Do you know what they are building on the corner? "," Will it rain? "," How are you, do you look tired? " etc.
Hi, this comes from a big Ego - we think we are great and we don't need other people. Today's culture feeds the human ego even more, and such outsiders are becoming more and more.
I used to worry a lot when talking to strangers, even friends. Especially when she meets a boy: D. I have always had only a few close friends with whom to communicate more. Now things are different. Over time, one gains more experience. But I think my anxiety disappeared along with the fact that there was an indifference to everyone else no matter what they were before I met them, if that happened at all. I've always defined myself as a person who can find a common language with everyone, but I've never done it, maybe because I'm just enough or because there are too many simpletons and I've only come across such. Now I accept most of the character simply as "objects" whether beautiful or not, because the character is much more important, and why should I worry about meeting just some PP? Even if you think you're smart, don't write it. This always makes people think that this is not the case. So what intelligent person says to himself that he is like that
I'm like that, it bothers me and I don't like it, but somehow I've overcome it, partly because I have to work with a lot of people. You just don't have to think so much about what others think of you ...
I also had this problem (I still have it to some extent, but it's much better than before). It worked out for me over time, it took me years and periods when I was just forced to communicate otherwise my situation would have been quite unpleasant. Perhaps the biggest hurdle I had to overcome was trying to please everyone. And now there are people with whom it is more difficult for me to talk normally, because they are not close to me, but I like them and I want to be friends. But most of the people I have to talk to don't bother me at all anymore - they're just not interesting and I don't think they're worth it. That was the key for me - to weed out the people who are really worth trying. With others, if necessary or you are bored, you can exchange a few stories. That's it - to practice even. Basically, intelligent people have your problem, because they think more, look more at themselves and their mistakes, and therefore judge a lot. It is not good to be very careful in this world where brute force and audacity are best rewarded. I will be curious to read and experience the others!
The number 2 comes closest to my conclusions. Everyone wants to surpass the others and this is helped by the provocative videos for all sorts of achievements flooding the internet. Apparently I'm like most people cluttered with unnecessary information garbage. If I kill the habit of watching all sorts of videos with successful and successful people, I will give a chance to my spirit to manifest, and now it seems to be pushed out and overwhelmed with the information garbage in question. It is a pity that we have all become slaves to information and the Internet. I will brag that I managed to stay from Facebook without Facebook and spend hours rummaging there. The author