Hello, I hope there are people who can give me some hope that things will get better .. A week ago my grandmother had a very severe stroke, later she suffered a brain death, but her heart was working, but yesterday she finally left .. A lot It's hard for me, and it's hard .. so I saw her the day before, it was good, no one ever thought that such a thing could happen .. I try to look at things more philosophically and to encourage my mother, but it's hard for me too, some small things and memories ruin me .. I still can't understand that she's gone and she won't come back .. She's still here for me .. I see her things, and I try to think it didn't happen .. I'm very sorry .. can someone who sent a loved one say how he overcame it .. I'm hesitant to go to the funeral because I want to remember her as she was,and not for the rest of my life to have the image in the coffin ... I suggest to myself some things that it is in a nice place, together with my grandfather, but I miss it ... How can I cope?
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My dear. :( And I still think all my life that I will not overcome the loss of someone in the family. And my grandparents are old and I still think. I do not want to think what's wrong with you. The truth is that "Everything passes and time heals. It's just that one day things will get better, but time must pass. My friend lost his father and eventually got used to it and overcame it. But it was hard at first.
My condolences, I am very sorry, one of the hardest moments in life is to lose a loved one! My grandmother also died soon, I dream of her very often that she is around us and other things, she tells me that she is very well, but we are very much missing. In principle, I have never believed in such things, afterlife, but now I understand that maybe something is true. Make sure she is in a better place, probably with your grandfather and her parents, and looking after you, helping you. It will take some time to realize it, but your mother also needs you, go to the funeral to support her and be by her side in this difficult time. There are herbal sedative pills, valerian, some other little pink without a prescription, but I forgot what they say - ask at the pharmacy and be sure to take, give it to your mother, your father. I don't know if such a thing can be overcome, but it takes time for everything. cry, tell about your grandmother, remember her, talk to your loved ones about her, cry your grief, don't keep her to yourself, that's how I've heard it's better. If she lived with you, make a move over time, buy something new if you have the opportunity. Go to church and cry or to the cemetery. once again my condolences, I wish your whole family a great deal of unity
Hello, the loss of a loved one is the worst. I know it from personal experience. I lost my father when I was 7. My grandfather, with whom I was very close at 12, my aunt and this year my best friend. The truth is that it still hurts and it's really hard for me. But one must move forward. Experience your grief and do not suppress it, in time the pain will decrease a little, at least the shock of not seeing the person again will disappear. Courage! As for the funeral, think about whether you want to go or whether you want to remember it and you will be very upset by the funeral. It is not for everyone and is a difficult thing. Your grandmother knows for sure that you love her and wants you to be happy. Remember this. :)
And I lost my grandmother 2 years ago and I didn't have the strength to go to the funeral. She had raised me, and most of my childhood memories were of her. It's hard and you can't help but be hurt by the loss, but over time it will become easier for you. Think about the fact that wherever she is now, she will always be with you in your heart, and maybe she is watching you from somewhere, from a better place. There is no way to prevent the death of loved ones, but in time you will be able to cope with the pain and lack of it. Be strong and remember that your grandmother would never want to see you sad, so remember her with a smile - that's me said my grandmother a few days before she died. :)
I know it's very difficult. Even an object, a photo and anything can make you cry. It's hard, even 5 months have passed, on January 9 it will be half a year ... it still hurts, but you have to continue .... not even for yourself, but for your grandmother :)