We have had a happy relationship for 12 years. Child of 3 years. The problem is that since the child was born, the mother is more of a mother than a wife. We sleep in separate rooms. I separately, the mother and the child in another. We rarely have sex 1-2 times a month. No personal time for the two of us. At first I felt rejected, gradually the feeling gained - indifference. I go to work. My wife is unemployed. We have some financial problems. For my wife, the child comes first. He accuses me of not dealing enough with the child. We stopped eating together, each eating separately. Everyone does their own thing. The woman on the computer in social networks and a child. I at work, in the evening a movie, a computer, a child. My wife is constantly nervous and mutters and shouts that she has no time for her own life. There is no time for social contacts, you have been constantly at home with the child. We sometimes quarrel when we are both guilty and blame who was to blame for what. The quarrels end in silence. All this gained a kind of monotony and silence and indifference. How long are we going to drive it like this? How to warm the relationship?
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Try to take more care of where you are with her and so get closer. It helped me.
Why is this child sleeping with his mother? Separate it. If he comes to your bed from time to time it's ok, but it's always out of place. Not just for you, but for himself. You have to learn independence, fearlessness, security, etc. For the record, I separated all three of my children when they were one year old, and until the year they slept with me and my husband. Accordingly, we had sex in the living room before going to bed. Consider the options, but do not give up intimacy, because you will fail your relationship. Teach your child to go to bed early and try to spend an hour or two at least before bed together! Without social networks and so on. Make yourself some cool tea, laugh, cuddle up and watch a romantic movie (at least until the middle :)), kiss your wife, tell her she's beautiful and want her, and so on. Do you know how her soul will warm up and she will gradually change her rhythm and habits, in favor of good mutual evenings. I would hardly give them up! Isn't there a way for a child to start a kindergarten, to socialize, and your wife some work, enough to kill her boredom at least? F28
Well, in our country, everyone eats at different times and no one complies with others. In us, someone eats at 18:00, another at 20, a third at 21, someone does not have dinner and everyone eats when he wants. F16
What do you expect? It is normal for a child to change everything. There is no way your wife can abandon the child and take care of you too! From now on it will be so. And imagine that the child is not 1? Are there two or three? These men are big grumblers. You both want to be a father, and then she doesn't have time for me, but she's not sexy ... so how come? Do you know how to look after a baby who roars all night long? And a sick child? And how can a mother be sexy after nights of waking up? You come home after work and expect everything to be six. And you don't think about what's wrong with her. I apologize for being harsh, but I am very angry with such men who forget what a responsibility it is to be a parent and, accordingly, that they are no longer at the center of the universe and their wife has other priorities. Suffer a little, the child will grow a little and your wife will have more time,
COME NOW He's crooked. Didn't the man go to play cards all day? How come women are still victims? №4 It's like listening to a woman. I am a man of 38 and I look at the children and look at us and make money and when the woman returns from work more nervous and we grab each other by the throats. It's not so hard to look after children, I tell you from personal experience. That's right, dude, family relationships are tough. You can't stand the child growing up. The more you keep quiet, the harder it will be, I say from personal experience. Put the cards on the table: you wanted a child - thank God you have. You look - She looks at Him. If you gather the problems aside in the evening, pour yourself brandy while the child falls asleep and talk. If there is effort on one side only, it does not work. Abe, it's easy for a person to come to their senses if you know how many times I've come here to write for advice.