Hello! Our problem in general is this: about a month ago, our niece (15 years old) started dating a boy who we later found out was shaking quite often and was a peddler. Since they kept in touch, our niece changed her attitude towards us, towards her parents, became impudent, arrogant, started going out late at night and coming home in the small hours despite our prohibitions. From a mother of a drug addict, I learned that a change in behavior is the first sign that you can tell that a certain person is shaking. We have talked about this topic many times and she assures us that she has not tried drugs, but we do not believe her. We try in every way to separate her from the boy in question, but she is adamant. What to do, how to act ... how to separate them ... how do we know if she has used drugs Thank you in advance for the advice!
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She herself, if she doesn't understand her mistake, won't stop and I was just going out with a drug addict, but I realized and left him ... The more you forbid her, the more she'll be upset. A person will not stop until he hits his head on the wall several times and hurts. Success though
Move them away ... It's summer, she doesn't go to school, go somewhere on vacation for more time. Talk to her boyfriend, maybe he's making her take drugs.
Hello .., I don't want to blame you, but what does it mean that she is "15 years old and despite our prohibitions she is coming out again". So she does what she wants without any control. You, as her guardians, hold responsibility for her, there is no such thing as doing what she wants, strict control, punishment and communication. Because she is still 15, and in 5 years how will she be. If you do not take measures now while she is still a minor, there will be no salvation in the future. I do not blame you, but the world has become very bad and if we do not pay attention to our children, the temptations that lead to their failure are many. And unfortunately they start earlier and earlier. It is possible for me that the discos and bars are full for 14-15 years. children, and in most cases the parents are to blame. How do you sleep peacefully and your child is 15 in the discos.
Well, very simply, if he claims to be telling the truth, take urine for a test, do it ...... I think that in a medical academy, or there may already be some tests in pharmacies, if you give a positive result you have full power to forbid everything, and who doesn't comment 2 about the holiday also happens; I don't want to be a pessimist, but I think he's doing everything you don't even want to think, I hope I'm wrong
Buy tests sold in pharmacies for marijuana and heroin I think report 100 percent. If she smoked weed less than a month ago, she will report ... the test is done with urine. And number 1, don't talk like that, the child is still 15 years old and if they let him just "realize" ... you don't know ... I'm 22 years old and my mother did that when I was 16 (my test came out positive for the grass), caught me in a serious conversation, but without yelling at me or arguing with me ... and we talked for hours. The next day she introduced me to a boy about 28 years old (an acquaintance of hers) and left us alone in a cafe ... it turned out that he was a former drug addict. We talked a lot, he told me things I still can't forget ... I was afraid of the thought that in another year I might find myself in this trap. Try it .... Good luck!
Number 5, on the contrary, you really have to realize yourself. I also went with such a person with the difference that he could not be called a drug addict, he spread weed, snorted from time to time, I only tried weed and nothing else. And my parents did not like him and constantly forbade me, this generally encouraged me to be with him even more ... And to tell you, along with him I met many drug addicts who are really drug addicts, Hertz, Amphet and his various others. shit. This disgusted me and I have never touched such things. I smoke my weed, although rarely. I don't think it can drive you to addiction. And yes for the tests is a good idea. As for the boy, everything with his time. Still, at 15 she won't marry him ;-)
It's like I'm listening to myself haha. And I'm 15 years old and I went with a dealer and hung out with him. There is nothing you can do to stop it. I say it from my point of view, because I am like her. You can go to the hospital and ask it has drug tests and blood take. however, if you punish her and shout at her, you will only make her angrier as she is irritable and she will go to shake again. That in the end I can tell you what you could have done ... I know it sounds a little dumb and it's hard for you to stay indifferent to it, but leave it for a while. She will get into big trouble with this drug, as I did. I realized that I had to stay away from them and from such people, because I was in great danger, both me and my family. Sooner or later she will realize that it is not good to move in this environment. I understood it. Now I try to stay away from them, but I still continue with drugs from time to time. If she doesn't understand for herself how serious her problem is, there is no one to pour it into her head!
She's shaking !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hello. 5 is right, it is not possible by force. You need to speak calmly and gently. otherwise it is a new stimulus for new doses. You can also look for a psychologist to talk to her. Those who write that nothing can be done to watch their work. There is no dispute that she has to realize, but why should she wait to do it herself, if she succeeds !!! Hey 7 doesn't pretend to be a heroine, that you realized and understood it - if you realized it, why do you take it again? Tree lost, why leave the girl "for a while" - how much? "Sooner or LATE she'll find out" - duck crazy, but if it's too late, then ... Don't inflate like a turkey because you'll burst like a balloon. Apparently your brain is polished. I know two drug addicts, one ex, the other now went to Spain for treatment. The first has no teeth and the other half. 7, if you have no teeth how will you feel, even though she was beautiful after a while? If I could meet them - the girl with the ex, just seeing him, would not offer her billions. When she sees his chin ... and she's a girl. Look for a former addict with whom to talk, but not who is written as aware as 7. She obviously has an even greater need to be aware and has not understood anything.
Strict control until the age of 18, if necessary, and fight! We as children also ate a slap, but it was for good! The child is dizzy, misled, so she has not yet built a value system, do not expect her to make the right choice, because she may not do it! Take matters into your own hands while it's time !!
10, don't be fooled, but remember when you were a child and they beat you for something if you didn't keep doing it. I'm 9. If they beat her, what will happen? He will turn 18 and then what, he will say - that he can now do whatever he wants, right? Even after a while, she will start slapping if she is beaten now, if she does not realize it now. The question is what, how to do to realize it. There is no awareness of a fight. Ask a psychologist whoever you want and he will tell you that anything is not possible by force. When he talks to a former drug addict, he will be startled by what he hears, and again ask psychologists what stress is. Are there positive and negative stresses and what are the results respectively.
I THINK YOU SHOULD DO THE FOLLOWING: CHECK IN THE HOSPITAL WHETHER SHE HAS BEEN DRUGGED AND IF ALL POSSIBLE BOOKS AND OTHERS HAVE BEEN FINDED, THAT'S WHAT EVERYTHING SAYS !!! IF SHE IS SMART, SHE WILL THINK !!!!! IF YOU DON'T LET HER CRUSH HER HEAD !!!!!
Well, do tests if you want a secret only from the orina, or a blood test. It will show 100% because the tests show if you have been taking it in the next 6 months. When I was her age, I experienced the same story. My parents and relatives were very worried. I literally shortened their lives, which I am very, very sorry about now. But in no way will you separate her from him or their company as a whole. One day I woke up and said goodbye to here. I don't want to fail. And for 5 years nothing, I haven't even smoked weed. I stopped everything completely and I'm glad I did. In no case do not impose strict parental control will become much worse than now. When you are at that age, it seems that no one understands you, and the forbidden is sweeter, I think you are aware of that. When she decides for herself, then she will leave. If there is no self-awareness, whatever you do will not help her. Even if she goes to another city, she will still reunite with tissues. Addicts sniff from afar. But as nasty as it sounds until she decides for herself, nothing will happen. But the mind comes with age, for some it is earlier for others later. I hope your girl manages to get out of this mess. Good luck !!!
Take a test and there are some that are for all drugs and you will see if you really take it. Take the books by the author Jose Silva, the book is called, "The Silva Method" - it describes everything about these things how to stop. You act while it's on time, otherwise things can get rough. She is too small and will be easily manipulated, she will be lied to that she is good and so she will harm her health without knowing that she dies less every day. If she has a phone taken and it, keep track of what she does and where she goes. If there are friends, ask them. GOOD LUCK!!! If you can go far (for example abroad). You can understand many things in the way you think. Don't let her out, check her clothes and see if there's anything, on the eyes and you will also see (if her eyes and pupils are shiny and she has dilated) if she sniffs around the nose and the cavity will be red there are many other signs. Act while there is still time, and say that life is not that. I've encountered these things, I know it hurts. She doesn't think she's ruining you like that.
People, don't insinuate nonsense to yourself, but help as you are real parents, talk to the girl and most of all trust her. I think that 80-85% of the young people in God are shaking, but it is important what. If you are in a normal environment your family is ok and you believe drugs are not dangerous. And I take but people please just do not heroin from this do not run away, and you know everything is useful and nice but in moderation. And you family, talk to her and you may learn something.
Did you know that you parents are our greatest enemies? I'm 16 and I know what situation he's in. Talk to her that she can be with him if she just wants him not to go his way! Do not do nonsense and do not forbid! it will get worse! Follow her some time on the way out if you see that something is wrong then and forbid and punish her not to go out with him because you will have evidence if you do not let her live her life!
Abv why are you, the elderly, such annoyances ??? Is this critical? Leave the girl alone, if she wants to shake there is no way to stop her! She is hardly a drug addict. Just leave it to her to decide. Being a parent does not give you the right to enter your personal life so brazenly. This only makes the situation worse and you lose control of the situation!
16 and 17, I wish you to have several children and then I will ask you "who gives you the right to enter so privately into her personal life". I hope then you will remember my words and you will understand what I told you.
You are late with upbringing and control, you will hardly be able to cope without the help of a psychologist. Visit it, it will certainly be useful to you.
Going with a drug addict ok is not so bad, but to start taking drugs believe me the reason is in the family, you deprive her of something, maybe love, you do not prove enough. I went on her way I went with a drug addict, no one in my family was interested in what I was doing and with whom they gave me money and so on, and I don't need to tell you that children need love, now I don't take drugs my boyfriend and it stopped - we were 15, and my parents still don't care and they didn't even understand that I took it, you know why I stopped - I found out that life is ahead of me, that the boy and I love each other and it doesn't make sense. So think, parents, and stop with these punishments, nothing is achieved with them, just try to show her that you love her and it means a lot to you to make her feel loved and that someone thinks about her and she will be lucky. f-17
What psychologists ??? until a person realizes himself, it is not possible - she is not abnormal - she just fell in love but not with the right person ....
Number 21 educate yourself a little! Psychologists are not for abnormal people, but for completely normal people with stress problems. Hey, with this limited thinking we will always be last in everything. And as for the girl, those who say are self-aware are most likely teenagers thinking they are very grown up. Don't interfere while it's time. hours a day and is now a former drug addict but the fight was very difficult. Good luck.
Well, if she is small, you have the right to do a drug test for her. If it turns out to be positive, decide for yourself what to do.
Girls at this age are so stupid and deluded. I'm not surprised he'll go with a drug addict - and then they raped them. That's how it will be - I think they do it themselves. Therefore, be strict - and may God help her. But if he goes with a drug addict - it is very certain at this age that she will imitate him. In general, I don't understand the female sex, I know a 20-year-old woman who started with a guy - a pimp, a people's commissar who is in prison. When she is 15, you can still command her. Stop it, and separate it from this - addicts are the greatest evil.
Well, whatever you get together with .. that's how you become..my idea is to enroll her in some training, no matter what ,, swimming athletics..it would be something useful that would take up a lot of time and not waste it .. aa and it is advisable to change the school where he studies because mainly everything comes from there;) and one more thing..if you give 10 leva pocket money you are not surprised by the positive results of the tests between 3 and 5 leva a day fix a 15 year old ;) and if she wants to pretend to be big, try to work somewhere if you can arrange for her to see how they make money and is it worth giving them for drugs ..
To find out if the girl is using drugs .. Just take a drug test .. Only it must be done by blood !!! Don't despair. Try talking to her ... But not the way you do. For a moment, stop being a parent or some kind of guardian. Just talk like that, it's like you're her age. Try to find out what is missing in this girl's life or in other words - what she is trying to escape from. If you have any questions, skype - bloodtear666