I have a problem very often when I meet new people it happens that I just start to behave paranoid. I am 17 years old from Sofia and except when I am with new people and also with girls, I close myself in and I can't say a word according to my friends, I am very shy and I have to relax. But I don't think that's the problem because even under the influence of alcohol I'm the same. Please help me.
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Oh, I'm the same ... Only with certain people who are really close to me can I relax and talk to myself what I want and be myself. But if I'm in a new company or any other people at all, I'm still worried about not saying something stupid or I don't know ... and then I always go out shy, etc ... I'll watch, I'm curious what advice you'll get, thanks for the topic btw :)
You have to realize that life is not long enough to worry about everything - whether they will like you, etc. The universe does not revolve around you - even if you make a mistake, hardly anyone will notice, it happens. Remove the worry. Sid
Don't worry, this is normal. When people meet someone new, they start thinking, "What if I do that, how will he react?", "What if he says that, will he get angry?" I don't think you should get drunk to relax, just think about whether it's worth being different for someone? Most people are like that, and so am I. When I'm with a new company I don't talk, I listen to them, I get to know them, but gradually you get used to them and on the 3-4th date you are a little more relaxed. Another tip. DO NOT think that you are closing in on yourself, this will make you even more paranoid and closed. When you meet someone new, smile and join the conversation from time to time. :)
Apparently you think you will say something out of place that others. they won't like it and things like that, or they won't like you ... you're just uncomfortable in front of new people ... so you don't have to care what others will say about you ... what can I tell you .