An injured young lady, almost 25 years old, writes to you. I have a very good education and a good job. I don't miss friends either. I have a great family, dedicated parents. I live in a big city, I have a lot of social contacts. I myself am a strong, dynamic and ambitious person, I do not lack charm either. My life is pretty well organized. I also met the dream man, the man we love and we are ready for anything for each other. You are probably already wondering why I am writing, when here people mostly share their problems. I have one too. It's about my friend's parents, whom I respected, and despite the cougar (sorry for the expression) that was poured on my address, I still respect it. They keep telling him to leave me, that he won't be happy with me, that they will make his / her life hell if he doesn't lose me. They want to go to my parents, tell them I'm unwanted and, that I intrude. I'm not ready to leave him, I feel that this is the person I've been waiting for all my life and with whom I want to share my antiquities. I tried to tell him the end, but I can't, I'm dying without him! We got along very well until his parents intervened and began to set him against me. Now we also understand each other well, but the tension and anger that are around us do not allow us to smile at life. In fact, the whole thing seems to me to be about money. Because since he has been with me and since he ran away from them and moved out, he doesn't give them a penny. He admitted to me that he gave his entire salary without spending a lev for it. His older sister, although she rarely dares to comment on the situation and supports us, she also believes that money is the problem. They think he's giving his money to me, but it's not. They insult me and say I use it. I have a good job, my family has a serious business and it can't be like that. Once when I heard his mother on the phone, I heard his father stop insulting and cursing me. His mother told me a lot of nonsense about me not giving birth to a child, that I had an abortion and he wouldn't see me in broad daylight. The truth is that I have not had an abortion and I think medicine can prove it! NALI ?? They will never let me in and the war will be over. To stop her, I have to leave him, and I can't! They tell him everyone else, no matter what she is and who she will accept, but not her (for me), and I feel that they are ugly and I know why they do not want to be me. Because they are guilty before me, sinful and do not have eyes to look at me. Because they exposed themselves a lot, not only to the people, but also to me and my family. I want to get along and live normally and calmly. Tell me how? How do I stop the war? Thank you for "listening" to me! Thank you for your time! Know that both a row is a support and a beam of light in the tunnel! Or as they say "the drowning man also grabs a straw"! I know that there are many others with a story similar to mine, and by giving me support, you are giving to many others like me! Thanks!
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LEAVE HIM BECAUSE HE WOULDN'T TAKE CARE OF HIS PARENTS! OR HE HAD TO DO IT SO FAR!
Leave it!
/ by the author / hello, I forgot to mention that I am a lawyer by profession and I could sue his parents for the insults, I work in a prestigious office, but I do not want to go into trouble. In response to 1 and 2, at the risk of repeating "I'm not ready to leave him, I feel that this is the man I've been waiting for all my life and with whom I want to share my antiquities. I tried to tell him the end, but I can't, I'm dying without him!" Unfortunately, I can't dictate to my heart! Thank you!
Abe, are you crazy, how come "Leave him!". The girl says they are happy together and love each other. It is only a matter of time before his parents stop this nonsense, in years to come they will realize that there is no point in this war they are waging. It is only a matter of you being strong and united until this moment comes. Be strong and do not pay attention to them, do not quarrel with them, on the contrary - be good and kind and let them eat from the inside, but in front of your boyfriend, you must be a friend who respects his parents. Encourage him to help them financially so that he continues to have a good opinion of you. There are many people who are on the principle "You don't respect my parents, so you don't respect me!", They are not guilty of thinking that way, they are just brought up that way. When you visit them, fill the bags with gifts so that You may be good, and may they be a little ashamed. Good luck !! !! And you know ... don't leave your friend you love just because he didn't hit mom and dad !!! F 22
You wrote a lot! From the few sentences I read, I will only tell you that you either abandon him or he abandons his parents for you or you continue with him and poison your life !!! Good luck in poisoning your life and a lot of Courage!
Leave it to you to tell? Chukunduri! This only shows how much they understand your bubbles :) Mom, your man has come to step on them and tame them. In fact, he should have taken care of it himself, but he obviously needs support - it's naughty to deal with parents in any case. But if it's just for money, I think he can tighten it. From there, reduce communication to a minimum with his kind and have fun. Even if they bark, they can easily be ignored. The dog is barking, the caravan is going, you know :) I wish you success ... and if you like this dude so much, DO NOT abandon it, definitely!
Hello all friends, I dare to address you with the title Friends! Thanks for the support! In response to 4. They do not allow me to call them, and for guests - absurd! I encourage him to help them financially, but he doesn't want to and says "so far with them, I want my family, they no longer exist"! Until recently, I believed that the problems could be solved, but alas, every day I lose hope and become depressed and grief destroys me! 5. I didn't understand you very well. He has abandoned his parents for 6-7 months and does not live with them because of me. And whether I will poison my life with him, only God can know! 6. He has no strength anymore, what he has not tried, he will not be tamed. There has been no communication between me and them for 6-7 months since he left. He talks to them, I don't mind, even if he visits them, I even asked him to come back, but he is categorical and says, that he will not return! When he calls them on the phone, it's because I begged him and cried for several hours. After the conversation he was broken, again the same ugly words, again insults, again oaths, again threats, again cougar! How long! He wants hell to end his life, I'm already afraid of him! I'm tired too and I don't feel like living. I dare not tell my parents, because they will tell me to stay away from these intrigues and if they intervene, it will not be a war, but an Apocalypse. I'm losing strength, I feel it! I can not recognize myself! People who know me know that my motto is BARBAY! He writes it on Skype mir jiesema starts and writes "BELIEVE" again! I don't know if there's a chance anymore! People help me! Please! Pumia again! How long! He wants hell to end his life, I'm already afraid of him! I'm tired too and I don't feel like living. I dare not tell my parents, because they will tell me to stay away from these intrigues and if they intervene, it will not be a war, but an Apocalypse. I'm losing strength, I feel it! I can not recognize myself! People who know me know that my motto is BARBAY! He writes it on Skype mir jiesema starts and writes "BELIEVE" again! I don't know if there's a chance anymore! People help me! Please! Pumia again! How long! He wants hell to end his life, I'm already afraid of him! I'm tired too and I don't feel like living. I dare not tell my parents, because they will tell me to stay away from these intrigues and if they intervene, it will not be a war, but an Apocalypse. I'm losing strength, I feel it! I can not recognize myself! People who know me know that my motto is BARBAY! He writes it on Skype mir jiesema starts and writes "BELIEVE" again! I don't know if there's a chance anymore! People help me! Please! He writes it on Skype mir jiesema starts and writes "BELIEVE" again! I don't know if there's a chance anymore! People help me! Please! He writes it on Skype mir jiesema starts and writes "BELIEVE" again! I don't know if there is a chance anymore! People help me! Please!
it's me again - number six If everything you write is true - naughty, VERY naughty. Now, in principle, suicide will not solve anything, so calm down =)) Total ignorance - this is your real way out - stop encouraging him to contact his parents. Since they are such a difficult and irreparable case, they do not deserve the attention of your friend, absolutely nothing. Cut them everywhere, FORGET about their existence and live your life. That otherwise there will be only blood and snot, which is absolutely meaningless. To say again: TOTAL IGNORANCE and TOTAL SEPARATION from the people in question. That's it - there is nothing else to do according to your description of the picture. Good luck
Hello Friend, Why are you tormented, sweet girl? That there is no one happier on earth than you. :) What bigger proof do you want that he sincerely loves you after he went out with you? I am not married, but I have warned our people that even if there is a conflict between me and my girlfriend (she is not there yet), they have no right to interfere in our affairs, and that I will deal with them first even if she is not right. . So, dear chick (don't be angry) you won't poison your life with it, you will put cream on it;) And you don't interfere in the affairs of God who will ever die. He knows! He gave you life, be grateful to Him and live it! And I want to ask you, treasure, why do you create your own problems? I can't help but wonder. He doesn't want to come back, he doesn't want to call, why are you driving him? He chose you! See if it's not so bad, but it's not with you: ) The outcome is clear. Out for everything, don't look for them for anything (there will be no problem if he doesn't want to) and the only thing that can happen is for them to look for you one day :) That's it. Sing and rejoice. I send you a lot of kisses to both of you. :)
Thanks to all! Good luck! We made a truce. How long will it be like that, I don't know ?! I continue to be on thorns and in full combat readiness. Thanks for the advice to all of you! It was useful! Good luck! And now let me tell you how I achieved it! I STAYED AND WILL BE WITH MY BOY FOREVER! I'm more in love than ever, I'm flying! God, let everyone test it! I paid the high price and I have the most precious thing in this world - the love of the person I love! We stopped paying attention to them after making several unsuccessful attempts at a normal conversation! We broke up! My parents supported us. My friends didn't betray me either! One day his parents called us for a conversation. They apologized for the bitter words! They admitted that they were wrong and everything went in the right direction!
Hello! In my opinion, if he cares about you, everything will be fine in time. It was the same for me, but we even got married and the parents were not present with this signature, and we didn't even care that the important thing was that we were together, because we loved and held each other. Then we had a lot of problems with them, the war lasted six years, we already had a child, and now they come to us and regret everything. So my advice is if he sticks to you, do not give up fight together, but listen to them better run while it's time. What I forgot to say is that we were forced to buy a house with a mortgage and we didn't have a stable job, we risked a lot, but we have been together and happy for eleven years with a wonderful son. I wish you from the bottom of my heart this happiness!
Hello, I'm the author and number 10. I hadn't been here for a long time, but here I am again an active clerk. No truce, they continue to harass us! People, help with advice! :(
And how does your friend react? Is he on your side? If he's firmly behind you, why do you care about these old bandits? Fuck them and that's it. To do their circuses somewhere else. What the hell did you need to get close to such geeks for? Watch your life and ignore them. As such peasants - isolation and total ignorance. They don't deserve anything else. Don't poison your life for them, you will get some disease. Play them and that's it.
I couldn't read all the comments, but I was angry AND I WONDERED AND YEAST - WHAT DO YOU CARE ABOUT THEM AFTER YOU ARE AWAY? I wonder you very much. TIGHTEN UP MOMICHEEEEEE !!! Will you spend your whole life thinking about them ??????????
The author: We fled abroad from a miracle and problems, but they still did not stop. My parents are already grumbling and they are just mad at me for not ruining my life with him, that I deserve a better boy. And you know how hard it is for me to tear myself apart. Everywhere everyone tells me how wrong it is to be together and how unhappy we will be. And let me tell you, I'm in a fairy tale, my life with him is a movie - a romantic drama. Great attitude and respect from him and AD from his parents. Everything affects me, I have no contact with them, but they always find a way to remind me with their evil deeds that they are stalking me. I think we will never stop loving each other, we have been together for almost 4 years and we are still united and kind to each other, despite the anger. It is very tough for me!