I found a solution to this age-old problem with women's lies, what they really value in men. As any more mature man knows - this is appearance and demeanor. But 99%, if you ask her directly, she will throw you on the willows like - I want her to love me, to be honest, to have goals in life, to be caring, serious ... but bali ... No, never and ask this question directly. Ask this question, “How long does it take you to judge if a man is for you?” If he tells you that he understands it right away, or almost immediately (it takes most women about a minute), you know you are. you are dealing with a woman who DOESN'T CARE at all about who you are, and everything is appearance and what primary impression you leave. It is perfect for one night, but do not try to create a long-term relationship with it. As much as she "fell in love" with you in a minute, so she should "fall out of love" with you. In my opinion, this is 98% of modern women. Only if she tells you - I need time to get to know him ... then she can really appreciate something of your character and qualities. And they mean something in a long-term relationship. But if she's "ready" in a minute, with whatever justifies herself - chemistry, magic, kindred spirits, intuition ... rest assured - it's just looks and performance. Not bad, but it's the most superficial and signaling way to evaluate someone.
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Beauty, Author, fades with each passing day you look at it. This is the situation, people change on a par with our feelings. You probably know people with strange looks who you didn't like at first, but over time they started to look nice to you. The opposite is also true in full force. You meet a terribly beautiful woman, but the more time you spend with her, the less you notice her beauty. She is beautiful again, but you are no longer impressed. Nobody talks to you directly about your appearance, because no one can evaluate it in the long run. I don't mind if a man is overweight, if he wears glasses, has acne or something else that changes his appearance. Anyway, after 3 weeks you get used to the weight, glasses, muscles, eyes and everything in the other. Things like that quickly stop making an impression, you accept them as part of the other and you don't really care. I care about attraction, and I feel attracted to the radiance of a person. Not his vision, but his radiance, his energy and his usual mood. I don't like frivolous people, but I like to be around people who are cheerful, friendly, cheerful. I don't like gloomy men, I can get depressed on my own, I don't need to do it in groups on a first date. I like men who are polite to others who speak well of friends / relatives / exes who remember to open the door in front of me or take a heavy bag from my hands. I like men who help mothers take their strollers down the stairs, things like that make a terrible impression on me. If a man is willing to help a stranger, imagine taking care of his loved ones. If a man buys a pie for a beggar, I will accept that he is merciful and prudent. It takes me 10 minutes to feel someone's broadcast, a meeting to start forming an opinion about him, a month or two to judge him quite well and to get to know him completely all my life. And as long as its radiance is warm, I will feel physically attracted to it. This is a fact, this has been happening to me all my life since puberty, it is not a fabrication of my imagination. I left a meeting with a handsome man because he only talked to me about money, tossing a big watch in front of my face, showing pictures of the car that his father must have bought for him with not very honest work. I went out with a very, very thin and tall boy, with acne on his back and face, because he was nice, funny and made me feel great in his company and our relationship was great. And on our first date, he was not only good to me, and with all the people around. My current boyfriend was overweight at the beginning of our relationship, and he is such a unique person that I wonder how he was alone when we met. He does not believe in male-female stereotypes, he does not live in a framework, he does not believe in the boundaries of personality invented by society, he accepts everyone as he is and does not want to change him. And let me tell you, while he was fluffy, I really liked him hugging me, I had the feeling that I was in the safest place in the world, I was lost somewhere in it. The attraction between us then and now is the same. Usually, when a woman tells you that she judges a man in minutes, she means that she quickly gains an inner feeling for him. We are emotional beings, for us the feeling that the other makes us feel when we are with him is important. You know if a person is nice to you in minutes,
I've always said that appearance matters.
With these considerations, you can come across a woman with psychopathic tendencies and torment you quite seriously. Trust your feelings when communicating with someone, if you feel that something is wrong, then it is not and there are no schemes to help.
Regarding the appearance - you don't even need to go out with the person, if I've seen him somewhere by chance before or in photos in a second I put him in the column - friend / or potential boyfriend. And what's wrong with that? You want to catch some ugliness and say how you fell in love at first sight with her character? Of course, it is important to be caring for each other, good, romantic, honest, to get to know each other, to surprise, to educate, but there is no way one person can be with another if you are not attracted at least a little. As for getting to know each other - it takes you a few days (at least for me) to get to know the person. And the fact that I'm not romantically interested in one person, I don't do it for two cents. I just develop a friendly relationship with him, if he doesn't like it - no problem. If he wants more - I'm honest without offending him. This doesn't mean that I only rejected ugly men, I didn't want beautiful men either - I just didn't like them as people, they weren't my type. If I send you a 100 kg 150 cm chick or skinny without ass and breasts and with pimples, what will you give her a chance? Ha, ha, I don't believe it at all. You judge women so much by how they look, and you are so much more pretentious than us, that's why there is another topic related to how there are naturally beautiful women with ugly men, even those who have no money.
To have a bit of truth in your words, but not exactly. I give you the following analogue, will you give a chance to a girl who is fat, not so attractive and has the radiation of an old radiator to get to know you and be with you? No! Because now you would be happy and you wouldn't have to write about how superficial women were. Of course, appearance is important as well as behavior. People have said it: "You greet with your clothes, you send with your mind". First you like the look and then you look for the qualities. It is clear to me what your problem is, but you are exposing something that is already apparent. And everyone can determine the other person whether or not it happens within 1 to 2 minutes. How? Well, very easily, each of us has certain visual and behavioral requirements for the person on the other side. Very soon after the first is on the face you can understand the second. From the first two sentences I can see if my purely visual attraction can become something more. Not that I'm picky, but from acquaintances like you I see that you have huge pretensions, although in reality you are the same. I define you by your passive-aggressive statements.
Haha you are somewhat right, but not quite! I like your tactics otherwise, but you make a terrible mistake that it's about appearance. The truth is that this is not so important for women. Especially considering that beautiful men are rare, and they are looking for super beautiful women. As an average woman, I can tell you that I am not looking for a handsome man, I even prefer him to be a little less attractive than me. As we know, handsome men are more likely to cheat because they are watched by other beautiful women, also ... one day a woman becomes a mother, runs away or just time speaks for itself and is not as beautiful as 5-10 years ago to say what we know very well and accordingly hardly any reasonable woman would want to look like a scarecrow next to her husband .. Anyway .... let's get back to the topic. However, every woman has some requirements for her future partner. For example, I like tall men, I don't know why ... I just always fell in love with them, maybe something related to my first love (he was quite tall), I have no idea, psychology can answer this question. So, which means that at first glance, a woman really needs a few minutes to decide if she wants to, not be with you, but if she can just let you go to the next level, so to speak. This is in case she is looking for some distinctive feature in her partner purely physical yes, but still may not be specifically related to someone's beauty, such as height, dimple, skin color, etc. Let's move on anyway .. the other aspect we can look at is that women, no matter how much they don't admit to themselves, are mercantile or at least look for the man next to them to be able to take care of them, not in the sense of taking them on trips, but still if he becomes their husband and has children, not to live next to someone container. So this can also be easily noticed at the beginning, the way you are dressed, etc. Another very important thing - the way you speak, the timbre of your voice .... if you come and start softening towards me and you behave rudely or rudely, it will immediately impress me and accordingly you will drop out again .... I can give many more examples, but it took too long, my thought was that the woman believe me, at least she looks if you are beautiful or not . Love is a very wonderful feeling that cannot be achieved with various tests and hasty assessments. Believe me, when a woman loves you and wants to give you everything she can, she wants you to be her partner in wealth and poverty, to be the father of her children ... this can't be played, the way she looks at you and treats you can't be imitated, she's hardly such an actress. Success!
I quote the author "she is perfect for one night", but no. They don't know how to have sex at all. They do some things there mechanically, but without energy. Sex can even be just a touch of the ears (there was a movie like that) and still be many times more sensual than the brutal shaking of 4 tanned Africans. Otherwise yes. You found hot water. Well done! They said people were greeted by clothes. It's the same for men - and we are impressed by heels and short skirts. There is nothing wrong with that, but it is bad, as you have rightly noticed, that there are women (and men) who only stay there. To the outside. And they even dare to claim that they already know the man
A woman determines if she would sleep with you for the first few minutes. It's not just about appearance, but about confidence, charm and what status you radiate (financial and social status). Appearance is part of the equation, but it is not everything - female criteria are more than male. Women look for alpha qualities in men - domination, leadership, nepotism, arrogance even - this attracts us at the primary level. You may not like it, but it is and is the result of evolution - our brains signal that a man who dominates others will be able to protect us if necessary. This is determined in the first minutes of dating and becomes unconscious. However, smart women know that this is only the minimum, and is not a guarantee of compatibility or connection at all. You were obviously dealing with the other guy.
Each person looks first at the other's appearance. Now, whether this is the most important thing for him is another question.
It took me 6 years to realize that I wanted to have a relationship with the man I am with right now! Before that we were "friends", we saw each other often and we had slept 3-4 times during these years, but I never thought we could become a couple :)