Hello! I am married and have a happy marriage, but the problem is that for the last few years my wife has gained a lot of weight and I try to explain it to her without offending her, because I love her. I hope you don't start spitting on me, I just like her tighter (not that I want her to be a model). I just want to lose weight. Please advise me how to proceed!
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Suggest that you both exercise and follow a diet together.
Don't you talk freely with her about everything, without worries? I am not committed, but it seems to me that in a serious relationship everything should be said frankly, without childish prejudice. Otherwise I understand you - it's normal that you don't like the visual change in it - when you chose it it was different. If it is not her fault for gaining weight, then you must reconcile, but if it is the fruit of overeating, you have every right to resent.
Firstly, if she has gained a lot of weight in a short time, she may have a hormonal problem, secondly, I think she also has eyes and mirrors and knows for herself that she does not look like before. So you have nothing to explain to her. If you want to help her so much, sign up for a sport, ostensibly with the motive of spending more time together. But don't even think of buying her a fitness card just for her, because it's going to be like you're right in the face. "You're fat!" and accordingly you will rightly be offended. You better say something like, "How about we go dancing on Saturday? Some friends go in and say it's fun." Or "Abe, we both lead a pretty sedentary lifestyle, let's go swimming on Sunday!" Whatever idea you come up with is to be with her so she doesn't feel like you're fat. That's not that he wouldn't understand anyway, but it's not that offensive. However, I tell you again, if she has gone up for too short a time, it is not bad to go to an endocrinologist, that sometimes a person can eat normally, but have a thyroid problem.
This is something that every man must achieve in his own life! Otherwise, if you can't make your fat woman lose weight, you're no man. Or you didn't judge it correctly in the beginning and you have to dump it.
Tell her directly. Either way, it's unpleasant and she won't like it. You better be open and say you will help her.
Emmy, if a woman can't lose weight, and before she was weak or she was always fuller, if her nature is like that, and someone becomes even fuller after years, you have to accept her as she is!
I don't see what the problem is if you really love her, as you say. the other thing I don't understand is how you are a man and a woman, and you can't talk openly with each other. give her an incentive to lose weight, suggest that you go running together, or go on a diet together, to see that you support her in this. in the end, she also has to think, because when something is missing in a relationship, it is in a third person. don't tell her that, just talk openly. we women understand from your surroundings, and it gets worse when you don't speak openly. the family is mostly built on openness. ж22
Start exercising to eat healthier, tell her you feel so good and she can get excited about it.
Start exercising to eat healthier, tell her that you feel very good and she can get excited about it.
Well, you don't have to tell her, she certainly realizes it herself. There is no woman who can gain weight and not feel it. Otherwise, in my opinion, you can offer her to go to some trainings or dances together (even better, because it's romantic). The point is to be with her in this endeavor, at least in the beginning. Once she gets used to it, she will already have the desire and will to support herself. Success!
Say it directly. I told my husband and he told me at a certain period of our marriage. The effect was positive, there were no averages or anything like that.
Thank you very much for the advice! I haven't talked to her in the open, because of my fears of offending her, and I'm sure that the weight gain is from the stagnant life - at work - at home, unhealthy eating ... I'm sure I will encourage her to play sports and we eat well.
As for gaining weight, it used to be great - I would say great, and gaining weight is not something shocking, just spoil its beautiful shape, as number 2 says I'm used to seeing it in one way (sorry I couldn't give you 6 stars) In the end I love her and if we don't succeed - I will accept her as she is! However, we are not the first youth and I have something to be desired ... Thank you again!
Accept the woman as she is !!
You ask quite reasonable questions. The probability of a disease is small, statistics show that only 3% of obese or obese people suffer from a disease that has led to excess weight, everything else is from lifestyle - diet, exercise, quality of life. Just tell her that in your opinion, over time and this naive life, you feel that you have both lost shape and would like to change that together. She will understand your hint and if she truly loves you and holds on to you as you hold her, she will make the necessary efforts, especially if you put them together. There must be teamwork in a family and problems and tasks must be solved together. Success! M, 38
You can go to the Lazer tag with friends a few times, if you like and have the opportunity, you can go more often, I personally get very tired, and it's a hell of a lot of fun, there is adrenaline. Take her for walks more often, go camping. Say you want to start eating and living healthier.
She must want to do something for her body herself. I'm telling you from experience. I had gained a lot of weight when I first gave birth. I was fat for two years. I didn't feel comfortable, not at all. Your husband didn't tell me anything, he didn't want to offend me, but I realized that he missed the weak and tender girl I was. In the summer of my sophomore year, I got back on my feet and started a diet. It was not easy at all, but I lost 15 kg and from 70 I became 55. I changed my hairstyle and clothes. My reward was his admiring look. During my second pregnancy, I did not repeat the mistake of cramming indiscriminately. Now it happens sometimes that I gain a kilo, usually in the winter, but I wake up in time and take measures. I would advise you to talk directly to your wife - it's okay, you are a family. Personally, the surrounding insinuations irritate me much more than the truth told outright. She herself will feel much better by getting rid of excess weight. Good luck and wishing!