My question is a bit thoughtless and we all know that there is no cure, but I still want to share. I'm too jealous of my girlfriend for nonsense. She has proven to me many times how much she loves and cares for me. She is 21, I am 20. Without asking her, she told me about all her friends before me and everything about them. I start by saying that I was jealous of her first by a boy she told me she was, but he didn't want to be with her because he loved another. This boy is my friend and we have known each other for many years. She doesn't even talk to him unless we're in company with him. Sometimes when we are not together and we write to each other and she tells me that she went out somewhere with a lot of people, but he is there, I go crazy, I don't know why I don't want to tell her, because she has nothing to do that he is there. When she tells me she's next to her and I start to think they're just looking at each other, hang up and so on. I am also quite stupidly jealous of her on social networks, namely because she likes pictures of other boys. I also have confidence, but the truth is that I consider her naive. She has been with about 10 boys since before me, although she has not had sex with any of them because I was her first, I consider her naive. I know how stupid it is, at the moment I'm angry with myself I can't say how much. I don't realize that I will lose her with such jealousy, because if I tell her all this, it's as if I want her to shut herself in and not contact anyone. When I ask her what she's doing and she tells me she's out there somewhere, and when she starts telling me the people she's there with, she always starts with his name first, and I think nonsense again. I don't know what advice I want, I know what I have to do, namely give her freedom, and if she loves me as much as she says, even though she proves it all the time,
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This is not jealousy, but paranoia. Don't you think that at 20 you met eternal love? Enjoy the relationship without unnecessary emotions. Because one day this paranoia of yours will be used against yourself .... when the girl finds another she will justify herself with your negatives. You will get angry and earn it every next time until you never find true love.
Friend jealousy is the poison, in a relationship. Apparently you love your girlfriend very much, and you hold on to her. But jealousy shows distrust of the partner. I was jealous for the first time when I was about 13/14 years old from a boy with whom we are many today. good friends . I am now 30. Although there are 2 people in the relationship. Remember that You are the most important. But also let your girl breathe when you love her, I know. Otherwise, at least she will be angry with you. And for this boy, he's your friend. So no problem. Bye
Dude, it's so naughty! I know what it is ... I don't know what advice to give you. Live your life as if you don't care. I find that women, the more you chase and jealous of them, the more they get on your head, and the more you ignore them, the more they are in love with you and the more they want and try to prove to you how faithful they are (we talk in certain limits, not completely). And I have and have had problems with jealousy. I am my ex-girlfriend and I stole the passwords for Facebook, I was jealous of her numbers, chats, at least I was nervous and I got into nervous crises, but if a woman wants to be with you, she will be with you , if she wants to put it with another, no matter how jealous you are of her, whatever you do, you will put it with another and you can't change anything! Even if she is the most faithful, she still has a chance to do it. Trust within certain limits, keep an eye on things, but don't go too deep. Now I go out with another girl and show this weakness at times. Her colleagues take her down, she hasn't slept with them, she won't sleep with them, but she is quite beautiful and somehow she likes to be liked, to be winked at, to have a slight flirtation and that irritates me. One of her colleagues wrote a comment the other day - hey top colleague, she thanks him and some emoticon, he replies you know and a kiss. Emmy, I was nervous, I wrote a comment under the photo, I wrote to him, I told her and she shouts what happened so much, nothing happened. It annoys me. He openly admitted to me that when he broke up he and his girlfriend took her off, but now he tells me that he was numb, knowing about us, and these emoticons and hugs and jokes irritate me, but do not irritate her. I'm not saying she'll sleep with him, but I just like the woman being inaccessible to some side idiots. So I can't be cured of jealousy either
Usually, the partner's behavior causes jealousy and insecurity in the other. I know that now everyone will jump, that many people are jealous in vain and harassed, even. That's right, but there are people who behave in some ambiguous ways, maybe naive, who distrust their partner. The case with this boy - well, I would avoid him, is it still so mandatory to be in the same company? Liking in the nets of other boys and men - until when for God's sake, with these baby, infantile activities !!!! Where it is said that when you see something you like, you must write in black and white. I'm not saying you have to be hypocritical, just a little tactful.
I don't know how to drive it, I'm dying of anger at myself. When we're not together, I'm just sick thinking nonsense. WHY, WHY I do it, it will probably cost me the relationship. The worst thing is that she proves in every way how much she cares about me and how loyal she is to me, and I keep thinking nonsense. I'm not so bad that I constantly imagine kissing someone or doing something else, I obviously have a mental problem. This jealousy will cost me not only the relationship but many other things. I am currently at a stage in my life where I need my full mental capacity for a lot of work, and I can't concentrate on thinking anything nonsense. I love her very much but this thing is disastrous for me and I don't know what to do, there is no cure. It's easy to say calmly if she loves you she'll be faithful to you, let me know, and yet I keep thinking nonsense. We are not from a very big city and there are not many companies to choose from. But when she's in a relationship with guys who annoy me a lot or where they like the pictures, I seriously want to go and gnash everyone's teeth, and I'm a person who hates violence very, very much, in my life I haven't touched a person except if I didn't have to protect someone. This jealousy of mine takes me to all extremes. In my opinion, it's best to end this relationship as much as I love it, I'm just hurting myself and her. I have never attacked a person in my life unless I had to protect someone. This jealousy of mine takes me to all extremes. In my opinion, it's best to end this relationship as much as I love it, I'm just hurting myself and her. I have never attacked a person in my life unless I had to protect someone. This jealousy of mine takes me to all extremes. In my opinion, it's best to end this relationship as much as I love it, I'm just hurting myself and her.
As long as you are a friend, you get nervous and gossip about nonsense. If a girl wants to be with you, then she wants to be with you;) Okay? !! And you were worried about nonsense. When you think of all of them, you do it yourself! That's why she would be nervous. But I tell you calmly again;) You're fine, you're just jealous of her brother. That means you don't trust her, but you don't trust her at all. Is that nice? !! After all, the foundation on which a relationship is built is trust. Why is she with you because she trusts you. If you want, just go to a psychoanalyst and talk to her, or at least to someone close to you who is older than you. Talk to you a little bit like that. And you don't care at all. For the small town syndrome, I fully understand you. You all know each other, it's boring, and so on. But jealousy is jealousy. Haide success :))
I am the author of the topic. To number 6, dude thank you for the advice, I realize all this and that's why I'm dying of anger at myself. I just don't control it, trying not to think about it, the subconscious doesn't stop thinking about it. The truth is that she is super cold with almost all the other guys except me, I have even seen her touch them when she feels that they are too vulgar not only towards her but also towards others. From before I met her, I always thought I was an iron-minded person, and I really was, there was nothing to shake me off the rails. I'm really going to seek help from a psychiatrist, I don't think there's anything shameful about that.