Hello, I have been attracted to one of my colleagues at work for some time. I notice that he is not indifferent to me either, he makes jokes, jokes that are not harmless at all ... but until then, as if he is afraid to do something more. I, for my part, also treat him with an idea more freely than is permissible, throwing playful remarks at him, but since he doesn't do anything more, I'm ashamed to take the first step. And I want it, really. And I think that so far I have repeatedly shown unequivocally that I am not indifferent to his jokes. We've had dozens of convenient cases where you could ... remember. Many years ago he worked with my mother - sometimes I wonder if this is not a reason not to do something more - in the sense of feeling bad that he would fuck the daughter of a former colleague and a good acquaintance ... But still I I'm not a kid, I'm not a minor to have such considerations ... I think so. I would like someone to advise me how, without being too vulgar and vulgar, I can hint to him that I do not mind ... being intimate. I specify that every day we are together at work, we sit next to each other, we have time in which we are left alone for a long time - all prerequisites for action are there, but the action itself is missing. I'm waiting for advice.
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I think the story is made up. But if it's true, you're there to work and make a living.
He wants to fuck you, but not for once! Are you alluding to love !? You have it, I think! You don't want it to go wrong, if you like the tried-on pants or leggings, you will surely attract his attention, for example with tights or long socks underneath !!! Find yourself in the toilet (supposedly by accident), having previously improved in a feminine way ... lipstick, hair, décolleté-tits. That didn't work! For example, tell him that you bought new sexy lingerie and ask him if he should see it and evaluate it properly !!! Obviously, you get a lot of sex, once you get provoked. Why don't you go out together?
If the work is just to "knock out" - there should be no problems. But as I look - you want a serious relationship, which would probably cost him friendship with your mother.
Author - I do not understand at all how I came to the conclusion that I want a serious relationship with a colleague - I read my post and found nowhere a hint to do so. And I didn't even think about it. The difference in our years is significant, it is very clear to me that I have no future with such a man. But it's attractive to me, I see that he likes me and I don't mind having fun together - that's it. I neither want nor can offer him anymore. I know what I'm working for, I've been working there for 11 years, I have the authority of a serious employee and I have no intention of publicizing my possible affair and failing my authority, as well as that of my colleague - I just want to have fun. It is not necessary for commenters to try to guess what I want, what I can do, and so on. I asked a specific question, if you do not have what to say better skip it, attempts to originalize are stupid and unnecessary.
If he is much older than you (over 7, 8 years) - this may stop him.
Is he free first? By working together and then if things don't work out, you won't be able to watch each other. And how old is he?
It can just hang. He may be bound to do nothing about it.
Wasn't he with your mother and that's why he should stop?
To numbers 2 and 3 ... but are you serious? First you are at work and the work must remain the same (you are paid for it). Second, whatever work you do, you have to be a professional (this is for unprofessional bastards when you do what you are paid to do). How much you are paid is separate (you have agreed to work for some money and then grumble that they are small and see how and with whom to beat the number). And lastly, even if the colleague is not bound, think about the consequences (after fucking he can tell you all, your boss can ask for you or you can quarrel violently). So be a professional and don't wear it with your colleagues. It is true that it is difficult, but still we are great people who are paid to do something other than to swing it / her left and right.
There is no chance it will happen at my workplace. Unless I work in a rotten environment. I will build a place, authority and position and then I will go to bed with a colleague ???? I must be sick. I have been at work for 8 years. As an intern, I now lead teams in 4 countries ... there is no sex that is worth the risk of losing my name.
My advice is not to take any download actions. I think there's something holding him back, but you don't bother to study it. Do not mix this kind of stories in the workplace, you will suffer and it is not worth it.
See what a 50-year-old man's radio sings to you :) Shorter skirt and high heels obligatory Silicone socks or socks with garters that carelessly show up as you cross your legs. Airy blouse and transparent bra Quality perfume "Accidentally" conversation about sex. Something like: "if you know what dirt I dreamed last night I'm still ashamed ':)) or" my girlfriend bought a vibrator, I don't know if I'm not takes "You can also insert something for him about the male fetishes, for which you" accidentally "came across the net again. You can also say about masturbation: "I don't know why all many women pretend to be muffins and don't admit it" :))) For a start, try this and don't look too much at the pants so as not to put him in an awkward position because of his erection :)) Good luck!
I leave aside the fact that you are a 30-year-old single lady who has embarked on a career and is experiencing the natural emptiness of intimate relationships for this age. Your colleague, as a more mature and restrained man, has long noticed this fact and has considered for himself that he cannot give you what you need. You need a full-fledged relationship with a full-fledged man next to you, not half a colleague. Dumps and flirting at work are a way to diversify the day, scratch the ego and have fun - no one takes them seriously except you. If it was just for sex, he would have long ago created a situation in which to possess you and end this issue once and for all, but my opinion is that he is aware of your expectations for something more serious and at least at this stage not is ready to offer it to you.