I have a relationship with a married man, whom I love very much and the feelings are borrowed, but it's about something else. I recently found out that his wife cheated on him with his best friend and now I don't know what to do, I don't want to tell him because it will turn out that I almost waited for that and you see now is the time to separate them ... but it's not like that, I learned it quite by accident, in principle I don't want to know anything about her ... But his best friend is also involved here, so I want to open my eyes to him in some way. I once asked him if he trusted him, and he was adamant. But maybe something felt and he started asking me why I was asking him such questions and what I had learned ... I only told him that I doubted the sincerity of his friend and that's it. But he started questioning me and began to suspect that I knew something. Please, how would you act in my place, I don't want them to do it to a fool, and I don't want to tell him. Give advice.
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I think at least you have the right to "open his eyes" because he's cheating on his wife with you. She must have found out about you and now she is taking revenge - so he will lose his wife and boyfriend.
Tell him. There is no point in being silent. The truth will sooner or later come to light, and by then things will probably get worse. Personally, I think that one should always know the truth, no matter how much it hurts, yet the idea is to live in reality, not in some fictional worlds.
Hi. darling, i read your story and my world is, no matter how sad you are for him and no matter how much you love him, tell him, explain to him how you understood and what you don't want him to think about you and just talk see how he will react to your words and then think again about you and your relationship ...... I wish you success ....
I WOULDN'T SAY. AND IF YOU DECIDE THAT YOUR GOAL IS TO SHARE IT WITH BOTH AND FROM THE WHOLE HISTORY YOU WILL BE GUILTY. SO YOU ARE STILL WITH HIM, THEN WHY SHE WASN'T HAPPY AS WELL. YOU REMEMBER THAT NO ONE IS ESCAPING FROM THE GOOD - THEY ARE MISSING SOMETHING IN THE FAMILY. THE FINAL DECISION IS YOURS.
How can you have a relationship with a married man? If you were his wife, how would you feel? Give up while it's time, tell him to choose you or her and don't waste your time. This is just my opinion. And if you tell him, it's very clear that you have to tell him. F24
How do you start a relationship with married men? I will ask you after a while when you get married how would you feel if your husband has a relationship? What about his children, his family, everything goes to hell? Come on please answer me how did you afford them?
To number 6. You ask how I allowed myself to have a relationship with a married man? I'll answer you well ... we don't decide who to fall in love with, the heart doesn't ask if he's married or not ... or maybe you think I've decided to make my life harder to make it interesting. .? So please stop reading morals, if you want to give advice come, but without confusing the two. From the author
Talk to her, don't spare him anything, because tomorrow, if he finds out that you knew, and you're so close, it will turn out that you lied to him too, you didn't have the courage to tell him. He wouldn't blame you because it's not your fault. And when you love him, experience this connection, and those who have not loved unreservedly will never understand you. Because such a relationship gives as much as it gives. I have had and know from experience, but I do not regret anything. So Mila found the right moment and explained to him what and how you understood. Good luck.
I think you need to clarify everything! You sit and talk openly. This situation can otherwise go on indefinitely .... Good luck
Hello, I support number 4, don't interfere, in the end believe me - you will be to blame, they are not small children, get well! Come on up and good luck :)
My advice is to tell him how you learned. And that you don't want him to think he's the only one in sin.
Abe, many women have come here, where they write that they are very much in love with married men and that they cannot separate. Why, when a friend of yours rightly complains of infidelity, you don't go to her and tell her what you're doing now? Tomorrow, when your husband cheats on you, will you complain? Won't you sing the song "all men are like that"? I wonder what women of your breed are. Will you ever admit somewhere that as much as men cheat, so do women? And if the one you are with now finds another one, God forbid another, which song will you sing? Won't it be the same? Won't you cross to the other side of the front? If you don't want his wife and boyfriend to make a fool of him, pray that he made a fool of you because otherwise it means you're just like that. You want advice - pick up your hammer and get out, change the phone number and never allow any contact again. There are also your "competent colleagues" like you, according to whom others do not understand what you are going through, but ask yourself what you will experience when he finds out about you, as you understood about his wife. Do you think there are no such cases? True, no one has written here that they found out about her and no one will write. But don't be fooled that this is not happening. Who told you you wouldn't be blacklisted? And a treasure? But don't be fooled that this is not happening. Who told you you wouldn't be blacklisted? And a treasure? But don't be fooled that this is not happening. Who told you you wouldn't be blacklisted? And a treasure?
From the author to number 14: No one is insured that they will not get on the "black list" you are talking about, just as I am not insured, you say IF, IF .. as long as, if we live here and now, what it will happen in the future only one God knows. By your logic, let them do it to the monkey, because you see, he can do the same to me ... And how do you know how he will treat me when you are not familiar with our relationship? I respect this man ... and whether I will be on his "black list" time will tell ...
I'm sorry, darling, but yours is based on the principle "He laughed at the stump." Who are you to tell who his wife is cheating on after he cheats on her with you. Are you a little ashamed? And then there is something else - I wonder how he understood such piquancy, these are very personal things and you were not in their bed to be sure. And if it turns out to be a big gossip, intrigue or lie, what will happen - YOU WILL BREAK A FRIENDSHIP AND RUIN A FAMILY (which you have already done). In general ... press your rags and watch your life go like this, in the role of a mistress. This will be your greatest punishment.
From the author: I have no intention of explaining where I learned this from, I wanted to know how you would act in my place, and how my life will go and what role I play is my personal job ...
Are you okay? Not only are you a slut, but also impudent ... :))))))))))))
It is difficult to make such a decision, but I think it is good to tell him for the simple reason that you respect him and surely love him. Then let him decide for himself how to deal with his wife and boyfriend. If I am in his place, I will not tease my wife, because I myself am cheating on her / the reasons for not going to the family only they know best /, and I would turn my back on my friend and I would never look for him again. If he pretends to be interesting and asks for an explanation for my behavior, then I would explain it to him. It is only a matter of time before they find out (better not to know) about your relationship, and maybe his wife already knows, so why should he be in ignorance?
Abe, what is there to think about ... tell him how you learned that his friend fucks his wife and then tell him that he makes his mouth fuck you too - (a small flirtation on your part with his friend accidentally over coffee somewhere in the city) ..... can I explain elementary things to you? - with one bullet the two rabbits, you clear your way and ... from then on everything will depend only on you ..
I just want to tell you that you are with a man who has a wife - a real woman who has given birth to his children and to whom he returns every night - not for anything else, but because he cares for her. He returns to her, and who are you? - You're just another one. Whores, his wife is only one.