I Abandoned Him Because He Is Poor

   :) You did me a disservice .... and not only towards him but also towards yourself. And what will you develop when this choice suggests that you choose the easier ... And how do you know what your future will be with him? Aren't you a clairvoyant? But don't worry, whatever you do, you will always die, and he will die too. I hope you become my developed and rich, and he will soon fall into poverty :) If this happens, will you still think that you made the right choice?

   Love means loving the other not yourself!

   Don't think that if you have MONEY you will buy everything. NO! If you were in his place, how would you feel? BAD! You don't LOVE him, Yes, because he's POOR. Well, if he is RICH, you will not come down from his neck, then you will be in the seventh heaven. If I am your friend, I will never, never forgive you. You acted mean and mean.

   You played the boy a lot, and you're a big egoist. Maybe one day you will run over your ex with your Mercedes ....

   The man is the head and the woman is the neck. So what's the conclusion - make it what you want. PS. I am a man.

   How can you not be ashamed to share such a thing at all? Money is not the most important thing in the world. Remember this!

   I suggest you become a saleswoman in a grocery store, so you will be happy but poor. You have chosen the life of the rich - you like it and do not think it is worthy of you - you are a complex. You think of yourself as a wolf, not a sheep. Stay with the wolves - rich and lonely!

   What if he wins the TOTO jackpot, then what are you going to do, huh? You forget the most important lesson of life - today you may be POOR, but tomorrow you may be RICH and vice versa! Your act is extremely stupid, but it also shows something else - today's mercantilism of women and another proof that you see men only as ATMs through which to satisfy your desires and because of this fact the word LOVE do not mention it at all!

   I HOPE MY FRIEND DON'T HAVE SUCH A "GENIOUS" IDEA IN TIME.

   I FULLY SUPPORT YOU! A MAN EXCEPT TO PULL YOU BACK DOES NOTHING ELSE. It is neither the first nor the last, you try to arrange your life, and you will find a person at your level. Congratulations!

   Women have become very selfish nowadays. You let them be materialistic, but also selfish. Basi men how are we going to get married ...

   I was beaten by someone like you, ie. destroy me mentally in a particularly painful way. Now I am nothing and no one can get what I was and could be before - I am disgusted by all women. I spent my best years in insane suffering. I hope there is hell and she gets there, because I experience it on earth. I no longer love her (whether), but I continue to suffer madly because the poison she sowed crushed me forever and made me cynical about everyone. For me, there is no more love in the world, only hypocritical people with interests. You pretend to be saints as he takes you out. And then you turn everything 180 degrees .........

   Money is not everything, but without it nothing can be done. And men are not few, but you think of only one thing. People also say that health is more important than money, but when you don't have money, it loses its meaning. So, one should have less of everything. You have to have money, but not just think about it. You should have a person next to you, but not throw everything away. Everything has to be balanced for you to be happy people ... I think in both versions you will be unhappy for the simple reason that you don't know what you want ...

   Never forget that everything in this world returns. Sooner or later. The wheel of life is spinning. Today he may be poor, tomorrow he may be very rich, and you may be poor, and then he may not want you because you are poor! But don't despair! When one door closes, another opens. I wish you success in life, darling!

   one thing I can tell you "happiness is not built with money" - money is a nasty thing for me, but love is everything!

   Abe, you're not well, why are you attacking the girl so much? I would also choose the money! What kind of love are you talking about, people? Why don't you reach into your pocket and buy your bread with love? Why not buy your child sneakers with love, not money? Because it is impossible! Honey, it may be hard at first, but then you'll suffer. You made the right choice. So do realists and people who are firmly on the ground. Love goes away over time. Do not believe in love. THERE IS NO SUCH MIRACLE :)

   The very fact that you left the dude for that betrays that you neither "love" him nor care about him. And in the end, since you are the big capitalist and make so much money, what's the problem with you that your friend wants to do something he likes. That is, neither the reason for leaving him, nor the statement that you "love" him are true :)

   Bass! That's just not true! That you're rubbish is clear, but I wonder how you could make it so low and disgusting, on display? Why didn't you hide your little soul, or do you take the advice of a few other bitches ?! Why do only we men have to make money? When you "take out" so much money, why don't you live with them, or do you spend it ?! What prevents you from being ambitious, to change it, meekly and calmly, and to have love, money and happiness? I have no words, but I will write a poem that is by Stanka Pencheva and is a cornerstone in the summary of life, and everyone should draw their own conclusions: As long as we are young, as long as we are beautiful, love always revolves around us! Our eyes meet the eyes of lovers, our ears listen to sweet lies! But when my eyes turn white, when brown spots appear on my hands, when my hair merges with the snow and, she became just an old woman .... Then, of all those who loved me, only one will remain with me .... For him, I will always be beautiful - irresistible, as before! He will caress my hand old and ugly ... He will lead me slowly, with a good smile, and I will think with tenderness, for the one with whom I will grow old! Simply the comment is superfluous! Be happy, laugh, rich and ..... alone!

   I think you were wrong and you will regret the pain you caused him. Why do you want to have money, career and everything else when you will not have the most important thing - the person with whom to share all this! Have you ever wondered if you would be happy without him, and you really love him ???

   I think you did the right thing. After he refused to help him - it's not your fault. My girlfriend supported me, now I make more money than her. We were happy with BGN 400 per month, we are happy now with much more. We still have no money left at the end of the month - a person spends as much as he has :). Being with someone who pulls you back is a big mistake. He has to adjust to your standard, not you to his in this case (in my opinion, one has to go up, not down). Don't be sorry - you tried to help him. And love is transient, no matter how much you believe people;)

   23. Instead of advice I will remind you of a poem by the priceless Damyan Damyanov: "What a huge home-like theater, and it seems that everything is theater here-carpets, armchairs, flowers and all these rags-coziness! And all these expensive little things bought with rivers of human sweat, eh, as cheap as they are dumb, so they are worth half a life! That a home piled in vases and carpets is a beggar's brothel, though new, when all but one has TRUE LOVE! "

   Hmmm, everyone has an opinion on the issue ... this is my first comment, simply because I was provoked, mostly by the answers ..... and what I have to say - from the position of a woman who has always been used and you come across incompetents who expect someone to 'pull' them and take care of them .... and have something to fuck .... and to take everything from you at all, giving nothing of themselves - that's right, baby. You made the perfect choice !!! You have nothing to regret even for a moment ..... look ahead and achieve your dreams ..... losers as much as you want - especially in Bulgaria !!!

   What you did was your biggest mistake. I will give you an example. I worked a lot until a friend of mine took me to a dance bar, I made a lot of money, I had everything, I could afford expensive restaurants and clothes, I had everything I thought because I made a lot of money without having sex, I just danced. I set aside money and returned to my city. I met a boy, I loved him very much. However, the money I had set aside was over. He gave me money from time to time, he helped me as much as he could, I was really sick that he helped me and that I burdened him with my problems, but I had no other choice. I thought that if I left him and went back to my previous job to make money, we would at least indulge a little. I left him under the pretext that I didn't love him anymore and left again. I thought he would be waiting for me and we could get together again. It hurt a lot but I thought I was doing the right thing. I went for a month and got a lot of money. I looked for him so we could go out. I told him that I already had money so I could help him with his loans and he told me "money is not everything" he got up and left. We stopped seeing each other. I went back to my old job because nothing kept me in my city. Well, darling, I have everything, I have money, I live quite well, I drive a nice car around me, only rich people, but I'm not happy. I miss him, and why do I need all this when I miss the most important thing. You have yet to understand it, but believe me, money is not everything! he got up and left. We stopped seeing each other. I went back to my old job because nothing kept me in my city. Well, darling, I have everything, I have money, I live quite well, I drive a nice car around me, only rich people, but I'm not happy. I miss him, and why do I need all this when I miss the most important thing. You have yet to understand it, but believe me, money is not everything! he got up and left. We stopped seeing each other. I went back to my old job because nothing kept me in my city. Well, darling, I have everything, I have money, I live quite well, I drive a nice car around me, only rich people, but I'm not happy. I miss him, and why do I need all this when I miss the most important thing. You have yet to understand it, but believe me, money is not everything!

   I can tell you that you did very badly. What if years later you are poor and you have a rich friend and you love him and he does that to you? How will you feel?

   I understand you very well, don't regret what you did, if you did that, then you didn't feel good. Try to settle down, because love passes with time anyway. It is completely normal to have some demands, do you guys have a little bit of us - to have big breasts, to be thin, to be stuffy ............ True, money is not everything, but there are a LOT !!!

   Number 26 ... you did the same! The conclusion is that even if you loved him, that was not enough and you know this very well !!! Love is a temporary phenomenon .... and if you had stayed together it is not clear how long you would have lasted, sinking into misery ... 25 is my previous statement;)

   26 did a completely different thing. She didn't leave him, he left her. They did not clarify each other. Author, a person who is not from your environment and does not have your understandings will be like a stone around your neck. Just try to imagine it. For example, if you are the head of a fashion agency, how would you say that your husband is a plumber, say? And who will you convince that water pipes are the meaning of his life? You will subject yourself and him to painful experiences, which will eventually end in separation again - only then you will hate each other. You did the right thing. You just don't fit in - at least your outlook on life is different. He is not looking for money, he wants to meekly dream in the corner of a bright tomorrow, and you live in the real world. Don't give up your own life for anyone! If you feel so guilty — and don't — give him another chance. Talk to him. But in the meantime, he must have realized that you have no future together. Greetings!

   It is a pity for our society, full of peasants, who prevent normal people from living according to their values ​​and raising their children. I think I will run abroad again .....

   And I abandoned him, even though I loved him because he was poor, and I, too, did not imagine any future other than complete misery. However, things suddenly changed for him, he found a way to cope and now he is rich enough, with a great business. And the most ridiculous thing is that he still wants to be with me and love me after what I did to him. I don't have the strength to look him in the eye.

   This is what you do when you listen to your mother and father!

   Author, this is a lazy person, you did the right thing, because only love cannot be eaten.

   Once he has refused your help, you have nothing to feel guilty about. You're right. You can't live without money. Or rather, life is terribly miserable. You are always tired, you can't go anywhere, buy something. You have no self-confidence, you do not feel human and you are crushed mentally and physically. And to know that those who pretend not to hold on to money are the most disgusting and mercantile people, but they don't admit it. And love, as we all know, is a temporary state of mind that lasts a very short time. At best 3 years. You did very well. The important thing is to be safe and calm. You can always find temporary chills. Success!

   HA HA Bulgarians are the cheapest, while the self-confidence .... I know many people around me who departed from this world and no one was buried with the car, VILLA House or yacht ... And by the way WHAT certain level ... WITH SUCH THINKING, THE LEVEL OF YOUR MIND IS 000000000000000000000000000000000

   I knew him, like you / that he is poor and we are not on the same level of thinking /, but I stayed with him. Results after 6 years: misery, 1 nice child / not interested in his child at all /, loans for bills and what not, he stole a few gold rings / not from him, from my prom, from my mother /, owes money to all my acquaintances. You never know why so many incompetents "fall in love" with him.

   "In the United States, especially among more professionally employed people, dating ads are very popular, because one that Americans have a tradition of meeting (almost) strangers and second, that with a 16-hour workday you will find it a little difficult to find time to social contacts. So the story goes that a 25-year-old girl posted the following question on the forum of an elite dating site: Where am I wrong? I'm tired of trying in vain. I am a beautiful (actually extremely beautiful) 25 year old girl. Intelligent and sophisticated. I'm not from New York. I am looking to marry a man who earns at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that making a million a year means being middle class in New York, so I don't think I'm aiming too high at all. Are there men in this forum who earn 500 thousand and more? And are there women married to such men? Will you give me any advice? I used to go with a businessman who earned about 200-250 thousand a year. But I hit a rock with it - 250,000 is not enough to live in Central Park West (note Longanlon - this is a prestigious neighborhood in New York). I know a woman from my yoga group who is married to a banker in an investment bank and lives in Tribeca (another expensive neighborhood), and she's not even as pretty as me, nor is she particularly smart. What does she do and what can I do to reach her level? Here is what I ask more precisely: - Where do rich unmarried men go? Bars, restaurants, gyms? - What are they looking for in their partner? Be honest men, you will not offend me. - Is there any age limit to aim for? (I'm 25). - Why some women, who live extravagantly in the richest neighborhoods are so dumb? I've seen real dumb, boring ducks married to incredibly rich men. And I've seen deadly beautiful girls sitting alone in dating bars. Why is this happening? - For men, what professions should I look for? Everyone knows about lawyers, bankers, doctors, but how much do these people actually get? Where do they go out in the evening? - How do you decide whether to marry a woman or just keep her as a mistress? Because I'm ONLY interested in MARRIAGE, not dating and boyfriends. Please keep your insults - I ask honestly and honestly. Most women think the same way, but they hide it, and at least I tell myself what it's like. I wouldn't look for this type of man if I didn't think I was more than worthy of them - like appearance, culture, love and household skills. . So far, nothing seems scary - another dumb duck, decided to have ......... it is necessary and sufficient condition to get all the luxury in the world. We have a lot of them in our country as well, although they don't write such ads. Interestingly, the answer left in the forum by a broker from New York, who met her conditions: Here is your mistake: I read your post with great interest and seriously thought about your dilemma. I'm not wasting your time, because I qualify according to your criteria - I earn over 500 thousand a year. But the way I see it, you offer me, quite simply, a very rotten deal. Therefore: if we remove all the nonsense you have said, what you are offering is a simple exchange - you are offering your charms for my money. Simple and clear. However, there is one more important thing - your beauty will diminish over time, while my money - no. In fact, it is very likely that I will earn more and more in the coming years, but it is absolutely certain that you will not become better. So, economically, you are a depreciable asset, while I am an asset with increasing value. And not only will you be depreciated, but your depreciation will increase every year. You are 25 and you will probably stay pretty sexy for the next 5 years, but less and less sexy every year. Then your beauty will begin to fade and at 35 you will probably not be worth anything. So, if we talk in a brokerage, it is not profitable to buy you for a long time (which you actually offer), but rather to use you for a short time and sell you quickly. If you think I'm being rude, I'll tell you this - if my money disappears, so will you, so I have to have an option, when your beauty evaporates. It's simple - as you set the conditions, it makes sense to be just my mistress, not a woman. Apart from that, at the beginning of my career I learned a lot about market efficiency. That's why I wonder why a girl like you, "intelligent, stylish and extremely beautiful", has not been able to find an uncle-money so far. It's hard for me to believe that if you're as cool as you say, the man with the 500,000 a year hasn't found you yet, if he wants to just try you. I hope I helped you, and if you think about it and start leasing, call. " stylish and extremely beautiful ", she has not been able to find an uncle-coin so far. It's hard for me to believe that if you're as cool as you say, the man with the 500,000 a year hasn't found you yet, if he wants to just try you. I hope I helped you, and if you think about it and start leasing, call. " stylish and extremely beautiful ", she has not been able to find an uncle-coin so far. It's hard for me to believe that if you're as cool as you say, the man with the 500,000 a year hasn't found you yet, if he wants to just try you. I hope I helped you, and if you think about it and start leasing, call. "

   Look at the comments they made. Author, I fully support you! So first, it is true that money does not buy happiness, but this is not about happiness, but about survival. I recently broke up with someone I love - not because he is poor. And because he was a man without a job, without a desire to work, without ambition, without a future. A 28-year-old man who smokes weed all day and thinks only of scams. What future awaits me with him, what family will we build? He will be in prison, and the child and I will visit him. I am very combative and ambitious, I study higher languages. I want to develop, I want a lot of life and I struggle with teeth and nails. And he didn't have enough of that, he interfered with my teaching. It's not just about money, it's degraded people with no incentive to live. It satisfies them to be the bottom-ok, but to find their own kind. It's a cliché, but it is true that it is not important for lovers to look each other in the eyes, but to look in the same direction. 24г. Ž

   You offered him help, you shook his hand like a close friend - to work a job from which to earn a good income, to develop. He has once again refused you on the pretext that he wants to do something that gives him pleasure, ostensibly something just for fun, without straining too much, lazy and a day to pass - another to come anyway. Well. to work for pleasure then. What are you mowing. It's just not a person on your rug, it's not for you. And it's better that it happened now, not later. When you will have to carry it on your back purely financially and be the man at home and responsible for the family and not feel help and support from him. For me, the most unacceptable behavior in a man is if he is not ambitious, enterprising and resourceful. It's just that all his masculinity collapses in front of me ...

   You did the right thing. 41 he said it very correctly - it is not a question of whether he is poor or rich but of the efforts he makes. In this case, author, I think you mispronounced. You did not abandon him because he is poor, but because he does not want to do anything to change his situation. If a woman sees that her husband is doing everything possible to ensure the happiness of her future family, then she will support him, whether he is currently poor or rich. Let's not forget that a woman always thinks about her future children, they are the most important thing. And if she is with a man who does not give indications that she will fight to provide the child and the mother with a decent life, then the woman has the right to look for another man or just work hard so that she can provide a decent life of your child.

   Everyone attacks the author, but I will support her because I have already gone this way. For 2 years I supported a man who wanted him to work for pleasure, and I to repay the loans made with his ex-wife. I worked 14 hours a day, I traveled 2 more, there were periods when I didn't have 1 day off, and he was having fun. We were cold, we were starving so that he would have money for cigarettes, while for 2 winters in a row I went to work at -15 degrees with torn boots and stood all day with wet feet, because I didn't have money to buy some elementary boots. I was sick, but I didn't stop working, I got up at almost 39 degrees and went to work, because if bread depended on it, we wouldn't have it on the table. The other things also started to limp, he didn't even hug me. I finally got tired and left him. When I did it for half a year we had not had sex because of him, he was still "tired" or something hurt. I'm fine now, I can't complain, my self-esteem has risen many times, I don't feel so overwhelmed and lonely anymore. I would not go back there.

   You ask do you do it? Yes, I would say awfully low. You want a better life, why do you think you will be very happy with money? You both love each other, you both suffer, what do you do then? I will tell you what will happen when you find richer. You will adjust to his habits and desires, you will not want the moment to come to bed, if you close your eyes to you will always be "poor". You will cry quietly and secretly from everyone and you will play the role of "happy". That's not how you live. There is only one true love, if you miss it now, you will never love again. Don't make this mistake, don't give up on the person you love.

   Quite a number of female waste pits have spoken out on the issue. I will only say that money and work are there, but you can never buy happiness and love, as you have a lot of money and what, will you carry it in the grave?

   I can't understand why you're attacking the girl !? Don't read, it clearly says that she tried to help him fix his status and he refused! Well, let me tell you, I'm a man and I also don't like being with a woman who dresses like she came from a melon to the village yesterday! It is normal! Or just sprinkle nonsense! And in this particular case, the fault of this woman may be that she was not more insistent, but the man in question, not wanting to develop his problem, is his. And it's not just love, after a while love passes, respect remains and then what !? To rejoice at the worm lying on her back and waiting for everything for her because he didn't like it! There is no such film. I fully support her act. And all those who accuse her of simply putting themselves in the place of the other side, because it is easy to judge from your belfry! Good luck from me!

   I will not repeat 40-43, it says almost everything important. I will only add a few things. half of the comments are inspired by soaps and are forged with clichés :-) people, don't you really think? to love someone is one thing, to live with him is quite another. it's easy to write sublime phrases on forums, but real life is quite different. I am sure that at least half of those who attack the author, in her place, would do the same. I can't understand why you go to both extremes: a mercantile bitch or a good, honest and loving but poor girl. life is much more colorful and yes, people have to be on the same page. if they are not in some way, they are simply not for each other and separation is the best solution for both.

   "Soon I thought about what my life would be like if I married him. I saw in my imagination poverty, misery. I work and earn a lot of money" These sentences do not bind me? !! How so much money is earned, and there is poverty and misery all around them. If the boy was valuable, I see no excuse for him to be abandoned. Besides, there is nothing better than sharing success with a loved one.

   A lot of pseudo-romance emanated from the comments. :) Otherwise, the author has the mentality of a typical Nashenka, I have nothing to be surprised about. :)

   I understand you. If you are not at least more or less on the same level - intellectually, emotionally, financially - sooner or later disagreements will arise. Not to mention how for men the woman next to them is richer or makes more money is a sure prerequisite for the emergence of complexes. Not that it is impossible to get a stable relationship, but at the cost of a lot of compromises. Of course, we are talking about a big difference in classes. The opposite option has a greater future, but again at the cost of great compromises, but necessarily on the part of the woman.

   Apparently you don't love him when you left him for something material. Girl, I would sell my soul to the devil so I could be with the one I love. You just don't know what you want!

   Hello. Your thoughts are yours and I am hardly the person to sit down and tell you that something is wrong. However, the fact that you are posting a topic is indicative that something is bothering you, otherwise you would not have written here. The most important thing is to clarify with yourself. Now I have seen a couple who have absolutely no financial problems, who are on a walk abroad in a month and the two are terribly prosperous and ambitious and the relationship falls apart, simply because of so much ambition and thoughts and work, at the end of the day they make it out. each other in a struggle for supremacy. I have also seen a relationship in which both are in dire need. They can barely make ends meet, here and there they want a loan to patch up the month. The difference from the previous incident, however, is that they have accepted that this is their life, with their dreams and of course with their problems and the strangest thing is that with such a colorless picture they have been in love for more than 5 years and are probably the healthiest couple I know. if you ask me why I'm blabbering on like this, I'll just tell you that the chance for happiness is not rooted in great opportunities, aspirations or desires, but rather in small things. Of course, understand this as you wish, but given the fact that I have seen many rich people reach a begging stick for a year, for example, or just a sharp decline in social status, I can tell you that it all comes down to a person, not money, although to be important, they are not everything. Otherwise, I thought you were right, because it's better for this man to find a woman who will accept him as he is, including the fact that his clothes are bad, the hairstyle is not neat and don't blame him for going to the Spin City chalgoteka regularly. So, on the other hand, you will be able to look for a man worthy of your expectations. Good luck.

   You did not abandon him because he is poor, but because he is irresponsible, impudent and lazy. It's not called POOR, it's called FAILURE - these men have a devastating hobby for them - voyeurism and masturbation, it's their entertainment, while someone else pulls the yoke and puffs twice for them. In this line of thought you have abandoned him because he makes no effort for you, therefore it cannot be a matter of feelings and any intentions on his part.

   The story as I look is quite old, but there was no way to hold back - Rockefeller started buying an apple for 5 cents, washed it and sold it twice, so you don't know what your friend might be like in 5 years ... But people have said to themselves - greedily rubs his head :)