Hello!! I am a man of 35, more or less good looking, with a good profession. I have or have had 13 years of living with a beautiful woman - the love of my life. We have a wonderful 7 year old boy. Over the years we have had both good and bad moments, but love strengthened us. There was an infidelity on her part, I forgave and then three years ago I had some stupid scribbles with her friends, which she found out about and we became more estranged. Over time, because of everyday life, my problems and other things, I became estranged from her, both emotionally and sexually. She kept telling me and I was blind. And things happened ... Last month I felt that she was different ... and I did some things and I realized that she was writing to others. For now, there seems to have been no real sexual contact, but I think that will happen. I said it and it became a scandal. First I followed her, secondly, that I have no right, provided that I have not paid attention to it. She felt that she was liked and that it was normal to look away, that she did not know what she wanted from our relationship. That he doesn't trust me and we'd better separate .... For now we still live under one roof, but I feel TERRIBLE. MY SADNESS IS THAT I DON'T WANT A SEPARATION. I love her and I don't want to lose her. I would forgive everything. I am really horrified by the possible loss. I can't sleep, I can't eat, I go crazy because I know it's my fault. I say these things too, but she tells me they are melodramas. I stopped watching her because I will go crazy ... WHAT to do .. I have no idea ... I LOVE HER ... HOW TO WIN HER ?? I don't even know if I have a chance ... That he doesn't trust me and we'd better separate .... For now we still live under one roof, but I feel TERRIBLE. MY SADNESS IS THAT I DON'T WANT A SEPARATION. I love her and I don't want to lose her. I would forgive everything. I am really horrified by the possible loss. I can't sleep, I can't eat, I go crazy because I know it's my fault. I say these things too, but she tells me they are melodramas. I stopped following her because I will go crazy ... WHAT to do .. I have no idea ... I LOVE HER ... HOW TO WIN HER ??? I don't even know if I have a chance ... That he doesn't trust me and we'd better separate .... For now we still live under one roof, but I feel TERRIBLE. MY SADNESS IS THAT I DON'T WANT A SEPARATION. I love her and I don't want to lose her. I would forgive everything. I am really horrified by the possible loss. I can't sleep, I can't eat, I go crazy because I know it's my fault. I say these things too, but she tells me they are melodramas. I stopped following her because I will go crazy ... WHAT to do .. I have no idea ... I LOVE HER ... HOW TO WIN HER ??? I don't even know if I have a chance ... I stopped following her because I will go crazy ... WHAT to do .. I have no idea ... I LOVE HER ... HOW TO WIN HER ??? I don't even know if I have a chance ... I stopped following her because I will go crazy ... WHAT to do .. I have no idea ... I LOVE HER ... HOW TO WIN HER ??? I don't even know if I have a chance ...
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You are so mean that you and your "girlfriends" find yourself humiliating her. And she's obviously really the envy of her "girlfriends" once they've taken over. Choose a "girlfriend" and you will look like two complexes. Leave her for a man!
First, calm down a bit, the situation is really not rosy, and I think the chances are that you immediately take a long vacation (at least 20 days), book a vacation and go with the child and her, during which time and give all your attention, if REALLY you want to keep her. But, not only on vacation, but also after that - ATTENTION, CARE! Don't go with flowers, gifts and similar nonsense, the trick won't work, because as far as I felt things are serious, but you still have a chance to fight for you, don't miss it, that if you truly love her, you will have very hard years from experience I tell you). If you are thinking of cheating on yourself in the future, you better separate, this is not a pure and real relationship, but a bullshit.
I'm sorry to have to say it, but whatever a man does to himself, no one else can do it to him! The woman is right that after you have become emotionally and sexually alienated from her, she has the right to seek her happiness elsewhere. Moreover, this time she is not hiding, and she offered you to separate - this will no longer be infidelity, so whether she has reached a sec with another or is still in the process of writing does not matter. Sometimes in her affect a person says things she doesn't think, but in this case she has probably really lost her trust in you, and I don't know how to regain lost trust, it seems to me that it's easier to gain someone's trust, than to recover what was lost. You still have a small chance, remember how you took it off years ago, put in twice as much effort and be honest, don't forget that she already knows your canines, so it will immediately catch you if you lie and hang around or just try to gain time. Only as a last resort, when you have tried everything possible with good and no result, you can use the old rule that attack is the best means of defense - recall her remark some time ago, turn things around so that she feels guilty for your alienation afterwards, offer and once again try to fix things and forgive each other. In fact, I don't know what her infidelity was and how you managed to forgive - probably even then the trust between you was seriously shaken. Whatever happens, don't let her go before you've clarified your relationship, who cheated on whom and why - if you let her go with her nose up, all the negatives from your rotten relationship will remain for you, not only will you not eat and sleep, but you will not be able to create and build a new relationship. I tell you again, the attack is only a last resort, only if things don't go well or you see that they are attacking. In the interest of the truth, if what you describe had happened to me a long time ago, I would have kicked the whore, I would have released her from my presence, and not to allow there to be claims that I dig in the chats - the infidel sounds once there are claims that and a loss of confidence to speak. You decide, but get out of your head that it's all your fault - you both contribute to the alienation, only the two of you can get closer again, but whether it makes sense is a separate issue. only if things don't go well or you see them attacking. In the interest of the truth, if what you describe had happened to me a long time ago, I would have kicked the whore, I would have released her from my presence, and not to allow there to be claims that I am digging in the chats - the infidel sounds once there are claims that and for the loss of confidence to speak. You decide, but get out of your head that it's all your fault - you both contribute to the alienation, only the two of you can get closer again, but whether it makes sense is a separate issue. only if things don't go well or you see them attacking. In the interest of the truth, if what you describe had happened to me a long time ago, I would have kicked the whore, I would have released her from my presence, and not to allow there to be claims that I dig in the chats - the infidel sounds once there are claims that and for the loss of confidence to speak. You decide, but get out of your head that it's all your fault - you both contribute to the alienation, only the two of you can get closer again, but whether it makes sense is a separate issue. that and about the loss of confidence to speak. You decide, but get out of your head that it's all your fault - you both contribute to the alienation, only the two of you can get closer again, but whether it makes sense is a separate issue. that and about the loss of confidence to speak. You decide, but get out of your head that it's all your fault - you both contribute to the alienation, only the two of you can get closer again, but whether it makes sense is a separate issue.
From what I've read, I don't think she respects you anymore. Neither feelings for you, nor anything. Had he appreciated her when you had the chance. I don't think you have a chance.
From the Author ... Things happened. We are already separated ... And the blame for the separation has been transferred entirely to me ... and there are so many unexplained things ... I want to know .... and I'm sure, the other is much longer ... We see each other every day , because of the child .... but I can't stop being torn apart by anger or a desire to get together. But I have to keep going ... P. S Never forgive infidelity .... there will be other times. I forgave years ago and burned ... My happiness is only the child.
Author, you are right about the infidelity. If there is one, the relationship is getting expensive and it is only a matter of time before it ends formally. Don't be sorry, but don't make such a mistake in the future. I'm sorry for what happened. I'm number 3