I just want to share and ask if I'm the only 18-year-old who's being beaten? In fact, not only me, my sister beats her too. He knows that his sister has epilepsy, he knows he shouldn't do that, he knows that mom would give his soul for her, but alas, he keeps doing it! I know some of you will think this is normal and discipline measures ... blah blah! Yes, but there are limits! It's as if I'm so used to these slaps and fists that when it happened and this time I thought, another incident in which my sister and I sit hugged on the bed and cry while she breathes heavily, and he continues to threaten us that he will it broke us from a fight. Then I realized that this was not normal. I read articles on the internet about violence against children. We had both and more than once scars on the body. I'm really tired already! The worst part is that we still love him! In fact, I can't say he's a bad father. He also loves us very much and has done everything for us, but I can't stand these beatings anymore! We are not bad children, I have not had a boyfriend so far, I do not smoke, I do not go out. My sister is the same - the sweetest and smartest creature in the world. Anyway, I thought about what I could do about it. I was thinking of going to "Child Protection" or running away, but I'm already so confused ... I want to do something about it THIS TIME! I don't want to talk to him for a few days and then again as if nothing happened (as it was before). If I try to talk to him, nothing will happen - at most he will fight us again. I would like to know if there are others who are in my position. I haven't had a boyfriend before, I don't smoke, I don't go out. My sister is the same - the sweetest and smartest creature in the world. Anyway, I thought about what I could do about it. I was thinking of going to "Child Protection" or running away, but I'm already so confused ... I want to do something about it THIS TIME! I don't want to not talk to him for a few days and then again as if nothing happened (as it was before). If I try to talk to him, nothing will happen - at most he will fight us again. I would like to know if there are others who are in my position. I haven't had a boyfriend before, I don't smoke, I don't go out. My sister is the same - the sweetest and smartest creature in the world. Anyway, I thought about what I could do about it. I was thinking of going to "Child Protection" or running away, but I'm already so confused ... I want to do something about it THIS TIME! I don't want to not talk to him for a few days and then again as if nothing happened (as it was before). If I try to talk to him, nothing will happen - at most he will fight us again. I would like to know if there are others who are in my position. I want to do something about it THIS TIME! I don't want to talk to him for a few days and then again as if nothing happened (as it was before). If I try to talk to him, nothing will happen - at most he will fight us again. I would like to know if there are others who are in my position. I want to do something about it THIS TIME! I don't want to not talk to him for a few days and then again as if nothing happened (as it was before). If I try to talk to him, nothing will happen - at most he will fight us again. I would like to know if there are others who are in my position.
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I was in your position. and when I turned 18, I left the home of violence. There is no need to run away, you are already an adult, you find a job, you find a place to live, and you go to live there alone, and in peace.
You are an adult, so you write a complaint directly to the police with your sister and demand that he be taken out of the apartment and you refuse to leave the police while he is in the apartment and if he then attacks you you go straight to a lawyer and forensic medicine for 40 BGN to issue you a medical certificate if necessary, even with money on loan and you file a case for violence and want a restraining order, and if he goes to persuade your mother and you in any case do not surrender your abusers remain so to the grave.
My opinion is that you have to enroll in martial arts in order to be able to defend yourself. No one should beat you - at least your own father. Aggression has accumulated in you. You have to get her out. Stop being obedient and good. Start listening to metal and learn to be bad and scary if necessary. You can try to shout at him and raise a scandal. Sooner or later, the aggression you have accumulated will erupt anyway. Be strong. Don't give in to him. What if he's a man? You are already big. A 35-year-old man
Drummer! Dear girl, you are 18. Finish and find a job. After the apartment. Better a poor horse than no horse at all. Your sister has epilepsy, damn it! I know how scary this is. No strong emotions are needed - neither positive nor negative. If she is 18, grab your luggage and your mother and you will not smoke. You will manage. Even tell him, just when he comes back from work he can see that you are gone. Not that you will stop loving him. But you have to love yourself and your mother more ...
Very often victims of violence justify the perpetrator and believe that they are the cause of the beating. But they are not. The fault lies with the one who clenched his fists. It is not normal for your mother to tighten up and go to a psychologist, to allow your children to stay and stay. There are already organizations that take care of such women and children. Your father is a drummer and your mother is weak. In time, you will find a man, and if he turns out to be a bully, will you still allow him to beat you and your children? At least you have a character, to live in fear and helplessness is not life, but a miserable existence. Better a poor house than beaten and crushed in a palace. Talk to the school teacher, if he is a decent person he will help you.
Does he beat you every time for no reason?
Be sure to take your sister when you leave, because otherwise you will blame him for not having you, he will torture her until she tells him where you are. The perpetrators are getting worse, the violence is always escalating, you must have noticed it yourself. If you do not have the opportunity to escape, as advised by number 2 - to the police, write a complaint, you demand that something be done.
And why is he beating you? Does he drink or because he likes it that way. The man is fed up with you. 18 years only with your problems. It comes to him a lot.
It's not normal for your father to beat you. Do your best to get away, from there, or he from you. I know what it's like to have epilepsy. But to beat you, and your own father !!? Disgusting. Let your mother take you Take action! Or talk to your grandparents, and at all costs complain about child protection!
Where is your mother in this situation? Why not threaten him that if he beats you, they will divorce! Otherwise, what is the reason for this harassment, does it offend you?