When I was little, there was no one to protect me, which made me fight injustice. I am a single mother and I try my best to teach my son that he must assert his rights. But my dear readers, tell me how to teach him that in life he will meet people who look after their interests and will not care that he is a child and has some rights. My son will now be 11 years old. He asked to go to the pool, you paid a one-time usage fee of 60 minutes. So far so good, but at this point comes to a group that is trained by the coach who took his money before, so the child begins to interfere with the training and the coach sends him to the corner not to interfere with their class. But when the child starts swimming, he makes him leave. The child comes home upset.
Once I understand what happened, I go to ask for an explanation. It is absurd. But I felt guilty for wanting to know when my child could go to the pool without being chased and use the 60 minutes he paid for. Our money came back, the explanation was that there were days when you didn't have to walk freely because there were trainings on the board. I wonder why the children's money is taken then and how many of them are expelled.
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Personally, my advice is to enroll him in some martial arts first and leave him to fend for himself :)
I think it's important for him to learn on his own from here on out, of course with help, but not to constantly tell him what to do but to convince him why he should do it. And don't blame yourself for everything you did wrong or just go wrong, and don't pay attention to all the little things. Well, that's up to you !? AND STILL REMEMBER THAT NO ONE CAN TELL YOU WHAT IS BETTER FOR HIM BETTER THAN YOU! (this above is just a boy's advice)
The child will sooner or later learn to stand up for his rights, do not worry about it, he is still 11 years old and life is ahead of him. You can hardly teach him what you want. Only he will learn, and if he does not, life will teach him that. Know that you can never prepare him for what lies ahead. If I were you, I wouldn't let him go to the pool alone, it would be better if he was with some friends and if possible more. And for the fact that they took your money in vain - you are not the first, you will not be the last. After all, this is "Bulgaria". There are always such people. You don't always have to defend your son for every injustice. Let him learn how to handle himself, you only guide him, but do not solve his problems. If you've been solving his problems all the time, that may be the reason. I tell you again DO NOT PROTECT HIM, leave him and understand that there will not always be someone to protect him. And you probably know from experience that no one has protected you, and yet you have become a "man".
I agree with 3, and I raised my daughter on my own. Yes, it is true that sooner or later he will have to take care of himself. But he should be given an example of how to defend himself, not to guide him with advice. In my opinion, you should have taken the child by the hand and gone to the head of this coach. To tell him more sharply that you are a client and you pay, and what is this coach there for and he is paid ??! Not that it will have an effect, but the child will feel protected, so you will give him an example ... If we do not protect our rights, there is no one to do it
Hello godpojo, I did not understand how old your son is, but if he is in puberty - advise him not to give up, if he makes this mistake and will remain as a big, I was also raised by a single mother, my father died when I was child, in the beginning when I had an argument with someone, my mother kept saying - give in, he has a father, I didn't listen to her :), I always stand up for my rights - but there is a difference - when you are without a father from a child you have to grow up childhood, sometimes I still get tired of listening to colleagues that he helped his father, or his father helped-I think that father's communication can not be replaced by anything, but sometimes we have to deal with ourselves-such is life-advise him to is not given
He will learn in time. After all, he is only 11 years old, he is still a child and now he is about to move from childhood to adulthood.
I understand you completely, author. But be careful not to overdo it. There is a very thin line between standing up for rights and unforgiving, impudent treatment. And he's 11 years old to understand that limit.