I'm a woman of 28, I don't consider myself beautiful. Rather good looking, I have a friend. But my problem is that I have a health problem. As a child I did not hear well and to top it all off I was prescribed Gentamicin and this made my situation worse. My hearing is reduced and I am terribly ashamed. I don't want to put on a camera. And I'm very uncomfortable being with my friend's parents. I am very ill, I do not share this problem with anyone. Here I pour out my soul. EVERY TIME I DISAPPOINT HIM WITH NOT ACCEPTING AN INVITATION. We met and I saw them but for a while. For, if I take dinner, I will spend more time with them and that scares me ... On top of that, I am terribly worried. They all noticed that I have the problem but I say I deserve another girl, I'm not worthy of them.
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Well, if you are unworthy, go away ...
Here's your advice - ACCEPT. The way you are. With all your positive traits, with all your "defects". Everybody has something he doesn't like about himself. When you accept it, you will be able to be truly liberated. Accept the invitation, tell the people. You will see that everything can be so much better if you just don't put limits on yourself. Brother.
Hello. I am 32 years old. I have been wearing a hearing aid since I was 3 years old. Every day ... and believe me, the device is for your good. Take it, you will feel better :) And deafness is not a reason to be complex and ashamed ... there are people with glasses and other shortcomings. Take her in your arms a little and tighten!
You are a great woman, you are supposed to be sensible and responsible. Don't freak out, please. Your health is a priority and you should put it first. It's not a shame you can't hear well. If you have to put on a device, put it on, then your anxiety will probably decrease, because you will hear normally and you will be able to participate more actively in the topics of conversation. It's not embarrassing. Almost every person has a small or big health problem, our bodies and organisms are different. I can't eat hot. I once visited my ex-boyfriend's parents, they invited me to lunch, and most of the food on the table was spicy. Yes, but I really feel sick to my stomach after such a meal, I put only one clove of garlic on the tarator for luxury. I had hardly touched the food, and I was very worried that I would offend them. Eventually I was asked why I didn't eat normally and I was so worried that I couldn't answer anything. In general, I felt very uncomfortable then and realized that I had to tell my friend in advance about my sensitive stomach. I told his parents that I was not particularly hungry. Then my friend raised the issue when we were alone and I told him the truth. I was 19 then and I was expected to behave normally and be adequate, but, here it is. Such bastards happen to everyone. When people around you are aware of the oddities of your body, they really accept them well and comply. No one will make fun of you for your health, you are not in fifth grade to worry about such things. Take responsibility for yourself. I felt very uncomfortable then and realized that I had to tell my friend in advance about my sensitive stomach. I told his parents that I wasn't particularly hungry. Then my friend raised the issue when we were alone and I told him the truth. I was 19 then and I was expected to behave normally and be adequate, but, here it is. Such bastards happen to everyone. When the people around you are aware of the strangeness of your body, they really accept them well and comply. No one will make fun of you for your health, you are not in fifth grade to worry about such things. Take responsibility for yourself. I felt very uncomfortable then and realized that I had to tell my friend in advance about my sensitive stomach. I told his parents that I wasn't particularly hungry. Then my friend raised the issue when we were alone and I told him the truth. I was 19 then and I was expected to behave normally and be adequate, but, here it is. Such bastards happen to everyone. When people around you are aware of the oddities of your body, they really accept them well and comply. No one will make fun of you for your health, you are not in fifth grade to worry about such things. Take responsibility for yourself. Then my friend raised the issue when we were alone and I told him the truth. I was 19 then and I was expected to behave normally and be adequate, but, here it is. Such bastards happen to everyone. When people around you are aware of the oddities of your body, they really accept them well and comply. No one will make fun of you for your health, you are not in fifth grade to worry about such things. Take responsibility for yourself. Then my friend raised the issue when we were alone and I told him the truth. I was 19 then and I was expected to behave normally and be adequate, but, here it is. Such bastards happen to everyone. When people around you are aware of the oddities of your body, they really accept them well and comply. No one will make fun of you for your health, you are not in fifth grade to worry about such things. Take responsibility for yourself. to worry about such things. Take responsibility for yourself. to worry about such things. Take responsibility for yourself.
And how did they notice about the problem did you tell them?
Hey, girl, what weight do people weigh - you're complaining about a hearing loss. I am angry at those who whine and their problems seem the most terrible. What if you have an amputated leg, an arm? If you have lost your sight and do not see your loved ones, the sun, the sky - then? If you have cancer and tremble at each check-up? Nobody cares about honey and butter if that's what it looks like. Finally, I'll tell you so you don't think I'm writing nonsense - my husband is absolutely deaf in one ear. As a result of constantly turning on the air conditioner in the workplace, he developed inflammation of the middle ear, became seriously ill and became deaf. We look at it from the merry side - at least he doesn't hear me sing about it to him. I know it's not good, but if you take a person to delve into your problems - write it off. Who likes you, who really wants you - will accept you with all your flaws.
If you do not accept yourself, how do you expect others to accept you? Take care of your health, put on your device and that's it. Even a few days ago I bought my grandfather glasses with a hearing aid built into the handles, so that he doesn't lose them separately. He who clings to you will accept you as you are. Men are always aware of their babes' problems, and once they are, then they have accepted them, usually women are the ones who are always staring at such things ... not only do you film, but you also infect others with your worries. .See the boy's parents, be kind, natural and smiling and calmly remember at one point that you have hearing problems, so that's why your husband yells at you constantly :) :) people respect those who can talk with a smile for your problems. No one respects whining helpless ..
I'm next to them ... It's noticeable. Sometimes I want to break up to be with another. But my heart breaks. I wonder how our acquaintances and relatives view this relationship. I am the author again.
And I've always been a little deaf. Sometimes they repeat it to me 5 times and I still can't hear and in the end I just nod my head, as if I understood. I explain it to all my relatives, I remind them regularly, I even make jokes. I do not care. Sometimes it's a little naughty at work when I have to talk to customers on the phone, but what to do, I took my hands free and I'm fine. These things that you think about, no one thinks about you, and even if they thought about them, it is very bad. Stop self-winding, your friend doesn't mind your hearing, but eventually your moods will start to interfere and this will ruin your relationship.
People already know you can't hear. It is not something that can be hidden. I had such a boss years ago, it's unpleasant to shout at someone to hear you or to keep saying something to them. In the end, he bought a hearing aid and it was very good - especially for him. Get a device and you will improve your communication with people, there is nothing shameful about that. You are enslaved to some vanity, but believe me you will feel like a completely healthy person with him. It is not normal to stay away from people, do you always think of hiding and isolating yourself?
Look now, if someone rejects you, hates you, etc. for the reason that you have this problem, then it is stupid shit - a very crazy and complex person who does not deserve your presence. Another thing - you are 28, not 18, I guess your boyfriend is much older than 18, you are not children. In this line of thinking, why do you do any such meetings with parents? Well, maybe that's your understanding ... more simultaneous. Then just explain to your friend everything you wrote to us. And again, if someone throws you at such a thing, then he is unworthy of you, he does not deserve you, not the other way around. Remember that you have the right to self-confidence and you must respect yourself, no matter what your problems are. ж31