I am 28 years old, I have never happened to a man, my family, my relatives, my colleagues keep telling me that it is time to start a family. I want it too, but not just to get married but to be happy. All this pressure discourages me terribly. I can no longer really judge what is right and what is wrong. Have I really missed the last train and will I be alone for the rest of my life? All my friends and acquaintances are already married .... the fact is that most of them are about to divorce and do not live happily. How do you think my path is destined to be alone forever.
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You are still so young! What is this nonsense about the last train? Do not think that it is very nice to get married young, to give birth to 1-2 children, to divorce and to look after them alone. This is by no means an easy task. You better wait to meet the right man - to look you in the eye. I divorced a long time ago, raised the children and now I will marry the right one. For information, my son is 20.
I am very desperate, there is not a gram of mercury in me. I'm tired of looking!
Hi, I'm 27 years old and I'm not married. And quite often I hear the question - Won't you get married anymore ?, and I answer - Well, I will get married when I meet the person I want to do it for. I have girlfriends - peers who were worried about growing old on their own, and only because of that they married men they had known for months. And three of them are already divorced at the age of 27. My advice is to live your life, do a good job that you can support yourself, have fun and be sure that this person will appear from somewhere and with whom you will be together in time. But be with someone you will be happy with and feel good about, but bond with someone just because someone tells you you missed the train. This is complete bullshit. I'm dating a boy who is 4 years younger than me and we just can't start a family now - he's 23 after all.
Calm down, I know one, 35 and still a virgin.
To number 3. That's exactly what I want and I don't want to marry anyone just to calm the family.
I'm a man. You haven't missed anything. I'm about 40. I'm big but I got married after the age of 32, I hope you have enough experience to judge men. Unfortunately, this attempt does not accumulate in school. A stupid generation grows up educated to think only about money, but you choose a man for yourself according to 1. REASON and 2. Your heart. You will not go wrong. Good luck !!!!
Oh no, this is nonsense, when you feel that you have found the person and that you are ready, then do it, not because they tell you so! Listen to yourself!
Try not to make this a fixed idea, because it will start to show, and this certainly repulses men. There is a fear planted in men's heads of the One who wants to tie them up, put a yoke on them, and so on. For a man (and for women, I guess) it is insulting when he is seen as a potential groom. It is different for a lady to faint for you, to love you, to offer her and for her to accept ... Enjoy life in this form, make connections and contacts so that you feel good. If you can't find close people, try to change the environment, go back to old acquaintances and companies, maybe ... Don't think so, the Prince will appear! Success!
Hello, I am 29 years old with an 8 year old daughter, and I have been happily divorced for 6 years :))). And they started pressuring me to start a family again and to file on my head, but the truth is that I don't pay attention to them! So calm down, let them talk whatever they want. As for your age, you are not too old at all, so we still have the best moments ahead of us.
Don't be enslaved at all to the stupid, imposed, worn-out traditions that if you see "a woman, if she is not married and with 2-3 children up to 30 years old, she is useless". Hey, you will only be wrong if you succumb to such stupid provocations! I'm as big as you, I've been married for 6 years, with a child ... and I'm about to divorce, so I'm even a little jealous that you've lived more than me alone and in peace ... So don't hurry! If it is written, it will not happen by force or because this or that person gives you intelligence ...
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Horror is simple !!! I am also under pressure from everyone, and I am 28 !!! Just a nightmare !! In addition, they come up with various arguments that if I do not give birth to my first child by 29 !!! it is already becoming very difficult and dangerous for the baby and me !! And this totally scares me, it started to become a fixed idea for me and I can no longer enjoy life as before !! I just went crazy !! I do not know...
I don't think you're too old, you're not even old. But there are people who live with other ideas and understandings, and those who envy you. I have such a problem and I am being urged to get married all the time. I'm 26 years old and I didn't think about it until a year ago. But now, because of these hints, it has become a fixed idea for me. And accordingly, as already stated above, this repelled my friend. I even gave him a time to think :) In the end, I decided not to put pressure on him or myself. I don't even know why I am enslaved to other people's opinions and make movies that prevent me from living my life ?! Everything with your time! It is better to enjoy the present moment so that we do not get angry later.
Maybe that's your fate, not to be married. But what is fatal in such a fate? I am a man of 33 and I am not married and I will hardly ever be. But I have accepted my destiny and I look for and find good things in non-family life as well. So baby Spoko, Spoko, Spoko.
Hello, I wonder if the facial expression of 28, which should already be 30, is still alone. And if so, did she find a way to live without the obsessive thought "I don't want to stay an old maid" :) I'm 32 myself and honestly until a year ago, two of my relatives didn't dare to mention marriage. They know me, they know that such insinuations irritate me. I felt good and alone, I had a dynamic job, still unattached friends, and maybe that was also a reason not to raise this topic. For a year now, however, I myself have started to worry a lot, I even feel fear, which is an emotion unknown to me. I try to run away from this thought, but it really starts to become a fixed idea. It also hurts me at work and affects my self-esteem. I am consciously struggling to regain my self and optimism, but it is very difficult for me. My last thoughts are not to say "yes" to a very dear friend of mine who is obsessed with the idea of being together. Is the reasonable, not the emotional approach, the more correct one, when you are in the situation of an aging and frightened by loneliness woman .....
If I leave you coordinates, will you call me? this is a joke, of course, do not tie yourself alive and it is widespread in the older generation it is planted that by the age of 30 you will not get married, you are almost UNSUITABLE, of course this is not the case! so that .....
Hihihi not to think that I am not harassed with this woman, no, I am a 27-year-old man and I am not getting married yet, although they find me candidates for this marriage, and I drive them out of my head with the pretext that I will call; ) ... I read your problems but I will tell you that be yourself for everything there is time and do not worry about marriage and children;)
Well, that's why there are so many failed marriages. because you MUST get married. there are not a few unsuccessful marriages ... the dream of the "peasant" (the peasant woman) - I do not mean the place of residence, but the mentality ...., who / who does not have a child at 30, can't! examples thousands!
I dare say that this is particularly pronounced in our latitudes, I'm 25, I've achieved a lot of things as an education and I have professional success even in 2 different areas, and lately I've noticed that after I turned 25, it suddenly seemed like a magic wand I felt old and I don't see what's better for me, everything always comes to an end, I don't feel happy, and when I add that I'm constantly told that I have to get married, it's like these things happen, I've lived in France for a long time and I can tell you that there are NO such stereotypes there, not to mention the fact that our society is wrong, so a person is shaped by the age of 24 and this is medically proven, but not only the shape that I am talking about is also as a person I often think about whether not to go back to france again here everyone is hooked on 11have sex at 13 give birth at 17 get married at 25 get divorced and at 30 wrist and die crazy country with crazy society
19, 20, you are absolutely right ... I come from a small town and I have witnessed how many people close to me destroyed their youth and the future in general with such marriages. At 30, they are divorced with two children. The strange thing is that rural society is more inclined to encourage these Turkish series and customs, and women like me, who openly declare that they will either not have children or are 30, are crucified on the cross of "moral patriarchal values" and they even try to convince us that a woman over 30 is almost an infertile grandmother! I often hear jokes like "A woman without a child is not a woman." I don't sleep, but there are other women who, because of such nonsense, give birth to children they can't take care of adequately. Thus, the "benefactors" have another object of ridicule and gossip. Watch your life and make choices only by respecting your interests and those of your partner, the family. Not the neighbor will come to look at your child to take your exams, not she will buy your child's clothes and study it! I recently fucked the 27, had a few parties in my new apartment. I adore every year on top, I would never want to be 18-25 again - terrible years! Both university and work, you have no money for anything. It's perfect for me now, we're up to 50 young. Then just mature and I think life gets stronger! A. that life is getting stronger! A. that life is getting stronger! A.
I am 19. NUMBER would add further that puts us (Us Women) in a very complicated situation in which makes us feel old almost, and respective parents (mainly mother) of the opposite sex THEIR intrusive same opinion, IN WHICH THE "MEN" IN QUESTION REPLACE US AT ONE MOMENT WITH SOMEER LESS OR YOUNGER ... OUR SITUATION IS UNFAVORABLE. WITH SMALL EXCEPTIONS, IN WHICH THE WOMAN IS OLDER THAN THE MAN, FOR WOMEN OVER 30 AND A FEW YEARS OLD, THE CHOICE IS LIMITED, BECAUSE OF WHICH IF YOU WANT, THEY CAN TURN THE HEAD OF SOMEONE MUCH YOUNGER THAN THEM ... EXAMPLES AS MUCH AS YOU WANT! AND IN CONCLUSION, I WILL ADD THAT MY OBSERVATIONS ESPECIALLY IN OUR COUNTRY ARE THAT MORE MATERIAL WOMEN LIVE BETTER. IT MAY STUPIDLY SOUND, BUT THESE ARE THE FACTS. THEY FIND ANY Buddha TO THEM ARE IZDARZHA..TE just behaved, do not put much emotions and feelings, and at least more relaxed in their marriages with questions fools who buy their love with their money. I DON'T WANT TO OFFEND ANYONE, I DARE TO SAY THAT I HAVE SUCH A CLOSE FAMILY, IT'S NOT A BAD GIRL, BUT IT'S ONLY 22 YEARS OLD , THE MORE REBELLIOUS ONES, WHO NEVER INFLUENCE ANYONE AND DEFEND THEIR POSITIONS, ARE MUCH MORE DIFFICULT FOR US! THE MEN THAT WE MAY DESERVE - THE GOOD AND THE PRINCIPAL ones, ARE "BUSY", EXACTLY FROM THE WOMEN WHO LOOK ONLY AT THE PORTFOLIO ... ... THIS IS MY VIEW ON THE PROBLEM, IN GENERAL! moderator - please do not write about the future in capital letters,
I'm number 18, question number 19, why do you think almost all men change ???
Number 23, number 19. well, that's my impression. almost every relationship I know is related to infidelity, almost every wedding girl suffers while material women drink the brains to pieces. in the end, the one who takes seems to win, not the one who gives. I am almost 25 years old, and thinking honestly and honestly, I always take care of my longtime friend, and to tell you the truth, I have not seen a return .. but I see what my acquaintances around me do, and how men take care of them .. what did i win? I think nothing .. I'm 25 years old and nothing. on the issue of 23, I don't think it's only men who change what everyone calls "pieces", those who care like men and are really worthy, but because they're too good, we don't appreciate them. and when I think about it, I've been with my friend for 9 years, whom I take care of as much as I can,
Pffff, what can I say when I'm 32 and I don't have children and I have a boyfriend, but I don't want to get married and even lately I'm starting to wonder if it's the man or maybe I'm wrong. It only occurs to me at times to drop everything here and start all over again.
Hello unknown girl. I am a man. My parents put a lot of pressure on me to get married. Not that I didn't want to, but just like you, I wanted to find a partner with whom I could feel happy, have common ground and unanimity, not for everything but at least for the important things on which the future development of our lives depends. I've always dreamed of children, not one, but at least 2 or 3, and more to be, even better. It so happened that to this day I am left alone. One thing is for sure. Dont be scared! It's never too late! I'm not worried about being alone. I believe that when the time comes, everything will work out on its own.
I see that the topic is old, but there are others in the position of the author, I will write about that. People, we live in the 21st century and there are millions of opportunities ahead of us, so it is absolutely simple to try to live like in the time of our great-grandparents. Yes, it's great to have someone by your side, but even if you haven't found it by a certain age, be healthy! There are so many other things you can fill your time with instead of wasting your best years in Prince / Princess sighs and dreams, or worse, committing to the first one you meet just because Aunt X thought it was time. !! This is nonsense! Not to mention that as many friends as I have who got married young, all of them divorced. And now they are single mothers. Is that cooler? So live your life and don't care! When the time comes, you will find the right person. And until then, travel, have fun, learn new things ... that then when you become parents you will not have time for such extras.
I want to tell you that those who offer you to start a family do not know another life. This is a first-instinct instinct, as in animals - to create a home, to be able to provide food, to create a generation, to raise it and .... to die. But we are not simple animals, but intelligent beings! AND WE HAVE FREE CHOICE !!!!