Hello! I am 15 and live in a small town (about 5,000 people). I've always wanted to be the best version of myself. I have many friends, but they are from other big cities and I can't see them. And from my city most people behave like peasants, or they are bad and I go out with 4-5 people only. Many people know me from the internet when I was 13, due to the circumstances I became famous on the internet, but I don't want to give a lot of information about my life, because people like me and if they find out I'm from such a small town they will stop. I'm just ashamed to know where I'm from. And here comes the problem that since I am a "family" people have to think that my life is good. I always try to show my life in the best light. And while at some point I'm happy, I suddenly think and realize how nasty my life really is. And what's the point of having fame, good financial status after living in such a small town. I have never had a boyfriend, I recently wrote to a boy, but he is from Sofia, I hope to see you one day. The problem is that every day my city depresses me more and more. It's just that I'm not for such a small town. I need to go out with friends, to have a boyfriend, to go somewhere, to develop. I want to live in Sofia or at least a bigger city. But my parents don't want me to be alone. And maybe I won't move from this city (which looks like a village) until I'm 18. But by then it's 3 years. I haven't come out of this depression in the last 1 year. I go to school, go home and stay at home. Our people have opportunities, they buy me expensive things, but they don't make me happy, I want to do something, to travel, not to stay in my city, but they work all the time and can't take me. Not in the wording, but I hope you understand why I'm depressed. Please publish my story, because I have had this depression for about a year, I am sad every day and I don't know what is happening to me, how to deal with it.
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You can see for yourself that people's love is conditional: - "because people like me and if they find out I'm from such a small town they will stop" Then why should you live for people's opinion? !! What's the point of liking you, given that if you don't do something the way they think it should be done, they'll just stop liking you. Separately, people themselves have different views on how things should be done, and so it turns out that whatever you do, for some it will be good, and for others it will not be as it should be. Hopefully one day you will understand that human opinions are absolutely and always based on incorrect judgment, and the more objective a person becomes in his judgment, the more he refuses to judge, knowing that he cannot put all the pieces together in part of the puzzle. Unfortunately, in the whole world we know, people are not ashamed to judge, considering his opinion ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. I can guarantee you that you will never be happy like that if you follow what people want from you. However, let's bring out a hypothetical situation in which you will be perfect: Hellishly beautiful and with a mind that is proven, recognized by all; with outstanding achievements in science as an inventor. Fluent in languages and wrote books. Moral, found the love of her life and living with only one man. - This is a hypothetical situation that is rare, but here you can play 2 roles: One is to be proud. People are annoyed by such a pattern of behavior and always try to belittle, but in this hypothetical situation they will not be able to do it - they cannot tell you that you are stupid, nor can they tell you that you are ugly because they do not have your achievements and beauty. However, they would be happy to enjoy information that would discredit you in some way to humiliate you. They will never love you, nor will you have their approval, but you will be able to crush them - if someone is proud, be it a journalist, an actor or a politician - you can prove to them how much they are below you with facts. The other is to humble yourself, to be modest - everyone knows about your mind and beauty, but because you do not place yourself higher than them, they will not want to humiliate you. They will say that you are a very good person, they will praise you, you will be in their mouths with good, but if you say something that does not correspond to their truth, they will not agree (even when said from the mind, like you) - then you you will suffer again because you will not have their approval. They will love you, but you will not be happy about it and the desire to be constantly liked will lead you to say only things, with which people would agree. These are the two main models that people (not only in Bulgaria, but also in our entire familiar "civilized world") follow. This was a hypothetical example, but let me give you real life. You have playmates that people don't like very much and usually enjoy watching them expose themselves. They ask them about capitals, knowing that it is very likely that the playmates do not know, and when the assumption turns out to be a fact - people judge harshly, insult with the blackest words. However, the capitals are a memory, and if tomorrow the girl who was laughing until yesterday learned all the capitals, then what? Will she be recognized as smart? No. The other model is to be modest, not to show pride, then vice versa - they glorify, give you positive qualities. They say you're smart, you're a good person, they like you. And man gets drunk, not knowing that people will not always agree with his opinions. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people is worthless, but an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. They say you're smart, you're a good person, they like you. And man gets drunk, not knowing that people will not always agree with his opinions. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. They say you're smart, you're a good person, they like you. And man gets drunk, not knowing that people will not always agree with his opinions. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. that people will not always agree with his views. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. that people will not always agree with his views. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. That is why human fame and the fact that people appreciate you costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion.
You are not depressed, but spoiled :)
1-I wouldn't say that I care about other people's opinion, because I know what I am. I am depressed that I live in a small town, and I want to develop, to be in a big city, but I can't. And one day I see how many followers I have and I'm glad that people know me, and the next day I get angry because I'm from a super small town. I don't know exactly how to describe how I feel. 2-Why should I be spoiled? Author
Find a hobby! Play sports, play, have fun! Now is the time to enjoy life, not to suffer! Why do you need a boyfriend? You have a lot of time for boyfriends ... Your life is just beginning! Don't worry, I'm from a very small town, almost like a village. The city I live in, I guess, is up and down with as many people as yours ... If not a little more :) Don't grieve for what you don't have, but enjoy what you have until you have it. lost! This is my "motto";) Do not suffer, but rejoice, smile and learn! I know that learning may not be your idea of 'fun', but think about how you can leave the 'village' where you live and go to Sofia (for example), and fulfill all your goals, and only by getting good grades. and learning, and reading! I know there have been too many 'and' dads, which I'm sorry about;) Good luck!
Author, do you realize why you are "" "" "" "depressed" "" "" ""? No? Well, because it's for nothing. And what if you're from a small town? What's wrong with him? Cleaner air? The fact that drunken complexes will meet you there and rape you is many times less than in Sofia or another big city. That you are with your family? That you don't have to fit into another, completely unfamiliar environment? Think about it. I really can't understand you. You have built a vision of the "faem" and hid behind it. And the saddest thing is that you have nothing to do with this vision. You were expected to have a good life there. Do you realize how selfish you are? Yours give you everything. I'm sure they love for free. And you what? You want to get away from them. You lie to them that you are fine. Or you tell them in your eyes that you are unhappy because you were not born in New York. You also lie to your "fans". Girl, your whole life has become a lie. And you stand and create more lies. I am personally from a village. Yes, the village. Which is very little. If you were in it by now, you would have cut your veins. And I like it. I am proud of this. I am proud that I am not a citizen like you. I have been living in Sofia for a year or so. And not because the village brings me depression, but to work and help my parents. Do you feel the difference? The comment became quite vicious, but that was not my idea. I don't want to judge you (strange as it may sound given what was written above). I want you to realize how causeless your depression is. You are from a small town. And there is nothing wrong with that. And I like it. I am proud of this. I am proud that I am not a citizen like you. I have been living in Sofia for a year or so. And not because the village brings me depression, but to work and help my parents. Do you feel the difference? The comment became quite vicious, but that was not my idea. I don't want to judge you (strange as it may sound given what was written above). I want you to realize how causeless your depression is. You are from a small town. And there is nothing wrong with that. And I like it. I am proud of this. I am proud that I am not a citizen like you. I have been living in Sofia for a year or so. And not because the village brings me depression, but to work and help my parents. Do you feel the difference? The comment became quite vicious, but that was not my idea. I don't want to judge you (strange as it may sound given what was written above). I want you to realize how causeless your depression is. You are from a small town. And there is nothing wrong with that. You are from a small town. And there is nothing wrong with that. You are from a small town. And there is nothing wrong with that.