I am a young man of 21, for the first time this year I had a girlfriend, I had not had before. I went out with the girl for a month and a half until I found out what she really was and broke up with her. I've been a different person ever since, looking for women's attention like never before (literally). I met this girl naturally through Facebook, and now I'm trying this way again. Of all the girls I had sent invitations to, 10-12 had accepted me, and none of them worked, so the problem was that they either ignored me, or were slimy, or the communication got nowhere. It worked with my first girlfriend because she was so communicative, she wrote to everyone, and she was looking for me in the beginning. Don't blame me for looking for a girlfriend on Facebook, it can't be otherwise with me, because with the company I'm dating, girls don't date us, I can't change the company, because there is no other, and I'm not looking for another. The more important problem is that I don't have an approach at all, and as for the vision, I don't think I'm ugly, but I wouldn't say I'm beautiful. I would say I'm different from most people, but women don't like that. Are you good with them, are you gentle with them, or the friend zone or are you just not good enough for them. So after so many failed attempts to meet a girl, to chat with him, not to exhaust the story of the third sentence (literally the third), I despaired, seriously even. I was depressed before my first girlfriend, I went out slowly because of her, now I think I'm going back there again. Apart from the approach, as I said, communication is also a problem for me, I don't know what to write to them. I start with hello or hello, I ask them if we can meet if they accept the invitation or say yes,
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I'm 20, girl. I think that there is no definite strategy, but it is a matter of matching interests and characters. It is important to quickly move from general talk to something specific to discuss -
"I've been a different person ever since, looking for women's attention like never before (literally)." Haven't you been told that these are the types of men who are the most repulsive? !! How can a girl trust a man who seeks the attention of women as a desperate man? !! That he may always be like that ... that's what we think.
Hello! When making contact with another human being, of course, the greeting is mandatory. (I mean "hello" in all its forms) "Can we meet" is one of the dumbest questions that revolve in our lives, in my opinion. Personally, I would like more "I want to meet" or go directly to asking for names and so on. And as for the issue of online dating, I have always been more interested in those that start directly with a discussion. It doesn't matter if it's a playful (or not so ...) comment about something that impressed you in the profile or a topic that is relevant at the moment. One of my best friends at the moment "met" him for the first time on the net. We started the conversation with a comment like, that I don't have a single photo outside in nature, and according to various posts and pictures it seemed as if I loved it or at least I said so. But he had written it in a very playful way, which automatically led to my interest in his personality. We remained just friends because of huge differences in the direction of the future, but a friendship plus is never superfluous. Another person, with whom I did not keep in touch after we parted, but she had real and infinite respect for him, started a conversation about life. I had quoted something, and he disputed the fact that it was valid for the present. And we just wrote out of nowhere for hours, discussing the issue, moving on to a number of others in the meantime. So ... these are two examples. I can dig up 3-4 more from my memory, but it's unnecessary. As for the conversations that started with "Hello! Can we meet? "... there are dozens, if not hundreds, but 95% of them have not led to a meeting, let alone a relationship.
Well, there is nothing else to expect, then things start that way and usually then they can develop. Give yourself a little patience! People are shy at the beginning of dating and try to be restrained, but each person is a small universe and if you try to find out if there is interest in you you will rediscover it in more detail through a longer contact! The most important thing is to make things real and with heart, artificial things wear out your emotions meaninglessly.
Never strain. This is like the beginning. If you enter a chat, don't feel obligated to ask her about trivial things, because that way she will either become dumb or feel like she is being interrogated. Ask her questions that you feel would have a sequel. He sensed her interests and directed the chat in that direction. Once you start writing nonsense for more than 1 hour, invite her out. He may refuse you, of course, but don't despair. If you feel that you are interesting, but you have to be sure, you can afford to pull her lightly. So he will start wanting you more. You just have to hit the moment. And try delicately and with different. Not everyone knows what you're looking for and ignored you before you even asked for an invitation. Good luck until the end of July with a new girlfriend.
What kind of love, my friend ... Consumerism and mercantilism have irrevocably conquered the Bulgarian people and especially the younger generations ... Become a millionaire and you will have as much "love" as you want.
Dude, you have a problem like a lot of other young men, but with a little advice and a change of approach, everything will fall into place. The first thing that comes to mind from what is written is that you should stop asking the chicks if you can meet them. You just get to know each other, introduce yourself briefly and clearly and say that you enjoy it. It is your fault that you seek permission and approval, and this is unbearable for women. They want to see confidence in the man because they themselves are insecure and seek support and support from the man. When you ask them about everything, you indicate that you are looking for approval and permission, that is, you do not like yourself enough and do not have self-confidence. This repulses women, especially younger ones, who definitely like much more cocky men, even slightly arrogant ones. After you say (or in your case write) "hello, how are you, nice to meet you" and say your name. Look for common ground, find out what excites her and look for some common interests. So, it's stupid if you're a metalhead, let's say to chat with a crazy chalgargka, because you just have different preferences. So after you meet, start a light topic that excites both of you. I like Facebook dumps because I can get information about her from her profile and understand her interests, preferences, etc. By the way, in the course of the conversation with a woman, she constantly gives you topics, just listen carefully and LISTEN! Never rush into romance from the beginning, but give it a go. For example, I never give flowers at the first few meetings, unless by chance she has an occasion (birthday, March 8, etc.). Don't ask her where she's going, just tell her you'll take her where you are. Women die for a man to LEAD THEM, to know what he is doing, to be responsible and manly! In addition, each young chick tests the man to see if he will be tied to the numbers and how submissive he is to her. Paradoxically, he's a dude, but I think you're repulsive to women with your servile behavior. Remember that women like masculine men who know their price, have self-confidence and are bold and even slightly arrogant. Of course, there are boundaries that you should not cross and you do not need to become a simpleton, but your behavior should radiate confidence. After all, you are the man who has to take their electricity. A common trick of the maldite is the babe is in the course of the conversation to introduce the topic of sex. Here many young and inexperienced men fail because they are embarrassed. If you don't show sexual interest in front of a woman, you eventually become ... just friends. And you don't want that, do you? You want a boyfriend and it's cool, sweet, young boyfriend with whom to have sexual experiences and of course your relationship to develop why not to something beautiful and beautiful (marriage, children). However, many young men are crippled by their mothers or by silly movies or social clichés. When you go out with women, you don't think everything is logical. Many boys your age think that if they do this and that for her, she will tie them, but then the opposite happens and they wonder why she chose a simpleton, for example. Emmy is simple, women are emotional and their "logic" is different. It's just that over time, as you learn to unlock emotions in women that make them FEEL good with you, you'll become a machine with women, you'll gain confidence, and you won't write about despair. Until then, first start liking yourself and loving yourself the way you are, and the changes will come slowly !!! M31
You make a major mistake that I notice in most desperate searchers - you have the attitude that the object of acquaintance owes you something for the attention you pay them. No one owes anything, especially on the Internet. Nobody cares how you feel, what you experience, whether you suffer, what you want - these are movies in your own head. You have to be interested in something to get your attention. Or with vision, or with manners, or with money. It is best with all three, but sometimes compromises have to be made. See what you can improve from these things and act. M
We made such acquaintances at mIRC when the Internet came on. Now I don't know if anyone will get seriously involved. You say you have a communication problem. Well, you can't have any interests - music, movies, sports, books, etc. Just look for girls with similar interests, and dating will start on its own.
Abe man, he has dating sites. Diamond for example. You just have to learn to distinguish normal from geeks. That's how I met my husband and now we are together and have a child. At that time I had met a lot of decent people. He who knows what he is looking for finds it.
I absolutely agree with number 8! Woman, 22.