Hello! I am a regular visitor to the site and I often write comments in certain stories. So I decided to start a story, hoping to get a glimpse, because I'm quite confused. Here is my so-called problem: There are so many things I want to do, I believe I can succeed, but at the same time something stops me, and I don't know what. I realize that I don't lose anything if I try, I can only win, but I never act. Wondering what exactly I'm talking about? Here are some examples: I want to train boxing, I know that if I start I will succeed, in fact nothing prevents me from enrolling in a gym, but I just don't do it. I want to find a girlfriend, but I've never tried. I'm attractive, I'm not shy at all, I know I have a real chance to succeed if I try, but no. I stand alone and wonder to myself. I finished 12th grade a week ago, my friends went abroad, I'm alone at the moment, I have no one to go out with, I have so many acquaintances I can call and say 'What's the matter with you, we haven't heard from you in a long time, let's have a drink one beer. ', but no, somehow something is stopping me from within. Do you think that I do not have the opportunity to go abroad? My brother has been in Germany for 10 years and he has told me hundreds of times to come there after graduating from high school, my grades are good enough to be accepted to an elite university, but I will still not go. And many, many more similar cases. I realize I'm 'capable' of so much, but maybe I'm misinterpreting the word when I'm not acting. I have never lacked self-confidence or parental support. How can I miss so many opportunities? What is the reason for all this? I'm thinking of going to a psychologist soon because I'm worried about laughing at myself, but as always I'll give it up, haha. Help me if you like, because I'm just laughing.
Answers 6
The same problem I was recently asked what I need to be happy. I answered a nice boyfriend, to move out of the house and find a better job. It wasn't long before we liked each other very much with a boy. He is a man to be exact, very handsome, from another city and is the head of a very prestigious company. An amazing person by nature. He told me to go straight to him. He would hire me in the company and we would live with them on a family basis. All I want. But I did not go and nothing happened between us. Why? I lacked courage, initiative, I don't know what it is, but my feeling is painfully familiar. And it's hard to describe. To have many opportunities and prospects, but not to take advantage of them. To know how many things you can do and how many qualities you have, and to do nothing. People with half of my qualities achieve a lot, why can't I ... I think that we lack courage and initiative. I will be happy for someone to help us
The author and №1 - maybe your spiritual experience (something we are not aware of at all) tells you not to take the steps desired by your conscious mind ... And in general, think very well - are these your dreams (boxing, boyfriend, abroad, eviction from home, etc.) or do you think these things because everyone your age does so and dreams about it? Maybe you are something different, something unique. Or the Lord (or the forces behind this concept in general) may have very different plans for you. For example, the most successful people in a given field that I know do not have children (they are in the range of 40-50 years old), have only some similarities of families and constantly invite them outside Bulgaria (as well as in Bulgaria) to get involved in various activities, developments, creative events, etc. (in this line of thought - what does "abroad" mean to them? ? ) It may just be a lack of initiative with slight hints of apathy and laziness.
I don't think you want these things badly enough if you don't do anything. And so you are fine. Or it may be some unconscious fear of the new, of the unknown. My advice is to think and set a goal. It is good for a person to develop, because you never know what tomorrow will cook for us. If you tread in one place, you leave behind the others. Take advantage of the chances you have while you have them. Then, even if you're sorry, this one.
hello, I'm Gabby, I'm 13 and I still understand your problem, you're still not so big that I don't understand you :) life without risk is not real :) find a girlfriend and new friends, and when the time comes and you're ready, you can go to your brother :) this is my advice. if you want write to me by e-mail. gabuun @ abv. bg is my mail, I hope it will be published :)
I don't know what's stopping you, but there's definitely a problem. Think about it and you can find the answer. For example, I know the things that stop me and one day I will overcome them. Still, I think you lack courage for some things, because if you really, as you say, were so confident, nice, etc., I just don't know what your problem is.
I used to have the same problem. You are stupid, you have just finished school and you do not have a specific goal right now. You want to have fun, you have a lot of ideas, but you don't know which one you like the most. In the end you say to yourself "I have a lot of time, I will start doing something" but laziness catches you and you can't move. You don't want to go out with friends because you're not interested in them. I suggest you start doing something you haven't thought about before and this way you will find a hobby, you will quickly regain your enthusiasm for other things ... if you still want them.