Hello. I have been reading your stories for a long time, I share them, I experience them in my own way and I understand a lot of you, dear ladies, because I have been married for 8 years. In this type of relationship, I think that advice is completely unnecessary, because these are very delicate relationships that are completely individual and I think they do not tolerate other people's opinion. So here's my story. Well, at the beginning of our relationship I was driven crazy by a bunch of questions to which I had no answers. I cried all night that he couldn't be by my side. I woke up clutching the empty pillow, and outside, among the people who knew about our relationship, I was like some unfortunate woman breaking up families. I was humiliated and rejected by society. But I loved it. Did I break up a family - answer: not at all !!! If I hadn't shown up, would they have been in family harmony - of course not ! He had a seven-year relationship with another woman before me, so the conclusion is that the family has long since broken up. But I did go through hell for him. In order to cope and overcome the pain of his absence and not to be vulnerable to people, I isolated myself from everyone. I only went to work because the company is mine and no one dared to take up the subject. I was depressed for a long time, I felt very alone, although it wasn't because of his behavior, I just wasn't used to being second, but I wanted him more than anything and I was ready for anything .... My friend was carrying me in his arms, the sweetheart tried in every way to make me understand that his marriage did not bother us and helped me to overcome all my torments as painlessly as possible. In the interest of truth, we were not inferior in points to a married couple, but the empty ring shone in my mind from time to time, of course, to land my illusions. We were together almost everywhere and we were really happy. When he had to go on vacation with his family, his heart was broken, but I smiled inhumanly and told him to go and that very soon things would get better. He admired the strength I showed and the compromises I made with myself to be with him. On our third anniversary, I told him that I had considered things very thoroughly and soberly, and that I had decided not to commit myself, but to wait for him, or at least to be with him, even in a secret way, because he really was the man for me. He cried and thanked me a thousand times for being so strong and patient. In fact, I'm neither strong nor patient, I just don't know what happened to me then, I just changed without realizing it. Perhaps my great desire to be with him and the thought that we would one day be together strengthened me and showed me to acquaintances and relatives as a complete stranger. Of course, I couldn't lie to my mother about how happy I was. I could see him watching my artificial smiles, and I was very sad that he was tormented by me. She often tried to talk about him, but I was adamant that this man was my life and I would be with him, even though I was second all my life. I tried not to show him that I was suffering, because I knew that he also suffered a lot and was terribly confused. I didn't want to disappoint him, I didn't want to press him, I was just trying to convince myself when I told him that we had to suffer a little more to be very happy. He has a wonderful daughter who loves very much. We decided, that we would let her live a normal childhood with both her parents and then whatever came. He felt good when I supported him for the child. By no means did I want to drive him and think for a moment between me and Sandy (his daughter), because that is already mean and ugly. Still, the weather was really a drama for both of us. We waited for something to happen, but we both didn't know exactly what was going to happen, how Sandy would ever react, and the tension was great. My love for him helped me to some extent to overcome the pain and loneliness, but my desire to have a child with him grew by the minute. I didn't dare tell him about my dream, because I didn't want to make him nervous and I didn't know exactly how he would react then. And time passed .... On my 25th birthday and Sandy has a birthday - we are on the same date, she then turned 17 years old. His wife had moved out once again, without the child, and he decided to celebrate together and then introduce us. I was numb as he told me, scared to death. A long-awaited meeting, and now I'm wondering what to do. We agreed on the phone that they would both come to pick me up. And ... They were already at the entrance. I barely got to the car. But to my surprise, opening the door, a beautiful young lady handed me a bouquet and greeted me for the holiday in a very kind tone. I cried and hugged her. I didn't know if I was dreaming, but no, it was all real. I went up and we went to dinner. The child did not stop shaking my hand, he begged me in 5 minutes to go to the toilet, and there through tears he thanked me for making my father happy and did not stop repeating to me how beautiful I am. I was amazed by Sandy, I just fell in love with her. I had the feeling that this child is mine. We went back to my apartment. Sandy literally fell asleep at my neck with so much emotion, she was like a baby. We moved her to the other room to be alone and talk. He told me that before they took me and he told about me, and she was very happy - surprisingly. We went to bed and he told me that he wanted to give me something he had been waiting for for 8 years, namely to have a child. Indeed, this has already taken me out of all reason, I cried, I was mad with happiness ... IT HAPPENED - GOD REALLY WAS THROUGHOUT THIS HELL WITH US “I am pregnant !!! We are currently waiting for the court decision to take Sandy with us and we will really live normally. This is my story. I don't know if it will help anyone, but I want to tell everyone who has such connections: If you think it's a temporary hobby, experience it and don't waste it, but if you really believe and love the given person - FIGHT, Grit your teeth and BELIEVE, BECAUSE NO ONE MORE THAN YOU DESERVES TO BE HAPPY AND LOVED !!! Sincerely yours: Ani
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What you write is wonderful. I smiled with my heart when I read you. I share with you, I am in exactly the same situation with the difference that I am the man. I cannot describe to you how strong a father's love for a daughter is and how strong the clash is if he has to choose one or the other love. And a lot of time passed with us, (5 years old) I managed to prepare my ex-wife and daughter that I really love another person and that does not necessarily mean ruining their lives. This, of course, hardly diminishes the feeling of betrayal. The fact that the woman I love loved as bravely as you, no matter what it looks like to others, allowed me to maintain my self-esteem and now we work for children. Of course, I am absolutely aware that these are two very rare cases and we should not be deceived in any way that in most cases such relationships do not have a happy ending. Where does the so-called negative definition of "mistress" come from, which in practice should mean the woman I love-love, and from there to sound proud and wonderful.
From: Ani - I'm really happy when I read similar stories, which by no means means that I belittle others. It is good when a person fights for his feelings, of course everything should be moderate and unselfish, because despite everything there is no way to go smoothly and no one is hurt. The question is the man who likes to be patient and stay afloat, truly believing that things will happen. The biggest mistake in such cases is the pressure. And it is he who must be limited so that everything can fall into place in the most painless way possible for both parties. That is why I appeal to all who have such stories to be patient and strong, because after all, nothing good in this world is easy.
Your optimism touches me! Well done for such devotion. Don't you think that at the age of 25 you are a little young to have a 17-year-old baby who falls asleep in your arms and to wait for another one? Don't you think that Sandy just needs a home and wants to run to her father. You obviously started a relationship with this married man at the age of 17, when you are now 25 years old. Apparently you have no idea how to build a relationship, a home, what love is without lies and without benefit. It's just that while you were in love with a man much older than you, you didn't have a chance to meet true love. What will you do when the burden of family life is transferred to your home, when you realize that you do not want a peer for a daughter, that he is of another generation and does not partner with you, and your loving lover falls in love again and decides to try again ? If you've been so stubborn, you have no choice, you'll have to understand,
Thanks! Stories rarely end like this. But did he have to wait that long? Rejoice, it is time for joy !!! :)
To comment number 3: You're terrible. Can't a person be happy? Apparently this is the true love of this woman. I can't help but wonder at aunts like you. Evil, envious. The fact that your husband is cheating on you is precisely because you are. If a woman respects, supports and knows what to do, she will keep her husband and he will not even look at another. The girl who wrote this story did not steal anything from anyone. She "fought" for her happiness and got it. She just knew what she wanted and waited patiently. I'm really outraged by the rude comments of "old witches" ...
Run darling, this is not your life.
From 1: Number 3 You are very bad. Please do not shake our shallow negativity, which, when I feel malice, has given you a result and a harvest. There is probably no love in your life. And for you it is easier ........ the idea is that you should never stop fighting and look for what you want and think about the six, and not who will take what from whom. Yours sounds like an oath, fuck you.
№7 - this is not about negativism. Annie's story is very beautiful, but it reflects a brief moment. Then this happiness will have a bunch of problems that she would not have if the man was free, and also if he was not so uncharacteristic and weak-willed.
From Annie: I don't think I've mentioned anywhere in my story that I need help or advice. I just decided that I could pour out my soul to you and share my feelings and emotions. I do not want to kill anyone, on the contrary, I have the feeling that these connections are so frequent and there are so many hurt hearts that need to read, hear, see something good to feel more confident and strong. Personally, I sat in front of the laptop for hours and read stories, I cried a lot, but I also laughed and rejoiced a lot. By no means do I want to convey that I recommend for the mother to be inactive. No one can say what will happen tomorrow, I can't know how long we'll be together, whether he won't disappear with someone else tomorrow as I stole him, but still our life is one and why should we bother and worry about what might happen. As I mentioned, I love this man more than my life, I carry his child and I look forward to the moment when I will take him in my arms. And why I chose a married man, already divorced because of me - the answer is very simple - because I love this man, even if he had not divorced I would be with him because I am alive with him. Again, I say I may not be right for many from you, but everyone has the right to say what he thinks. Thanks to everyone who read my story. even if he hadn't divorced, I would be with him because I'm alive with him. Again, I may not be right for many of you, but everyone has the right to say what they think. Thanks to everyone who read my story. even if he hadn't divorced, I would be with him because I'm alive with him. Again, I may not be right for many of you, but everyone has the right to say what they think. Thanks to everyone who read my story.
Annie, I'm number 5. Your story is so real and touching. I was a little rude to some other comments, but I hate people like that. They cannot enjoy the happiness of others. It is not important for them to be good and others to be bad. I really congratulate you. I hope you have a great baby, but I'm sure it will. Because this will be a child of true love. I've been in a very similar situation to yours before, but whatever I do, I'll never be with "my married man." When you give birth to a baby, write again. I'm sure your life with this man will be great.
FROM ANI: Thank you number 5. I wish you with all my heart to be very happy and not to be influenced by other people's opinions. Be who you are. Live your life the way you want to live and know that everything will be fine. Just believe in yourself and show the whole world that you are in control of the situation. And that "NEVER" I have never heard it more than you. You are too strong to handle everything alone. Honey, believe me. I don't know exactly what your situation is, but I'm sure there is a way out and you can be happy. GREETINGS !!!
I'm number 5 again. I can't help but answer you. Why aren't all people like you. Strong, good and optimistic. Just reading everything you wrote and smiling. Thank you for your kind words and wishes. You're right. Everyone manages their own lives and I know I will find my happiness. It's just that in my case it's better to overcome myself and my feelings for "my married man." Let him be happy with his family. It will just be a little difficult for me, but I won't complain now. You definitely manage to inspire courage and cheerful mood of each person (or at least of decent people). Thank you for all this! Greetings from me!!!
Hello again to number 5. In principle, I can not give advice, I'm just not good at it, but I'm glad that you're more confident. At least that's what it looks like written. I'm glad you're uplifted. I don't know why since I found this site I am very excited and I open the page every night. And now when I saw that you wrote I was very pleased. I am not used to talking face to face openly, because while my husband was married I was detached from everyone and found that I'm better that way, without unnecessary "friends". Maybe I miss this communication at times and that's why here and now I get excited when someone tells me that he feels good.
Number 5: Dear Annie, you are absolutely right that sometimes it is good to "escape" from the real world and false friends. But on the other hand, without friends one is not complete. Sometimes everyone needs to be alone, to think carefully, to cry ... But at other times it is much better to share with a real friend, to enjoy together, to listen to you and if he can give you advice. So, in my opinion, everyone should have friends, even 1-2. There are people for entertainment, but there are also those who can be relied on. I have real friends. They are my support in difficult times. They are the ones who sometimes pull me out of the hole in moments of weakness, inspire me and I thank them. It is not easy to find real people, but when you succeed, you feel really happy. I am very pleased to communicate with you, even so - strangers. Remember from me that sooner or later your husband's love and affection will not be enough. You will somehow miss the friendly spark. But you are definitely a sincere and good person and would easily join a friendly environment. I wish you to be surrounded by loved ones soon - friends, acquaintances and of course your husband and the baby you are waiting for. To find friends with whom to "push" strollers in the park and enjoy the first steps of your children. All the best from me. Lots of smiles and have a nice day !!! S. acquaintances and of course your husband and the baby you are waiting for. To find friends with whom to "push" strollers in the park and enjoy the first steps of your children. All the best from me. Lots of smiles and have a nice day !!! S. acquaintances and of course your husband and the baby you are waiting for. To find friends with whom to "push" strollers in the park and enjoy the first steps of your children. All the best from me. Lots of smiles and have a nice day !!! S.
FROM ANI: Number 5 really very kind of you, all these wishes are really very nice. But I am a very strange person and I think that in all these years in which the relationship with my husband was incognito so strongly influenced my character and of emotions and especially of my communication. I'm far from thinking that I don't need friendly support, but I meant that there were a lot of fake and hypocritical people around me then, and that's why I isolated myself from everyone. And it became even more evident when we got together to live with my husband. By then, I was convinced that it was perfectly right for me to back off. But it does not matter. Whatever it was. I am also extremely pleased to share with you, maybe the fact that we do not know each other, but we liked each other as interlocutors hides some charm. I think you are a very good and intelligent person, and I like such people.
Hi Annie, your story excites me a lot (in the pleasant sense) because I myself am experiencing what you have experienced and it is very difficult for me, but you give me hope that everything can be arranged. I also have a relationship with a married man for almost 4 years, I love him and I will wait for him as long as necessary. I am strong, but this seems to be not enough, it is very difficult, it hurts ... but I know how to wait ... And I wish you all the happiness in the world and a wonderful and healthy baby, the fruit of your great love.
Dear Ani, My joy is great when I read stories so similar to mine !!! I've been through the same thing, darling, with the same outcome. After 7 years of secret meetings and hiding games we are together! For two years now we have been building a common life, building our home and realizing our dreams !! As for various malicious comments, such as the one on number 3 - I listened to them !! And I do not pay a gram of attention to them, because in my opinion these are comments of people who have not touched happiness, precisely because they have not fought for it! And when I say "happiness", I definitely do not mean the wild reality, based on the incredibly low quality of life that our dear Motherland offers us. Happiness is something much more that can exist in a not so easy everyday life. I am very happy for you, and I wish you with all my heart to be still happy, loved and smiling and to become a wonderful mother !!! Holly
Hello I'm glad for you that you are happy I am very intrigued by what you wrote, I also have a relationship with a married man, but it's just a hobby I would like to talk to you and give me some advice I will leave you my email [email protected] I will be glad if you contact me.
Hi, Annie. I am in a similar situation, only on the other side - the side of a mother who cannot decide on a divorce (for 4 years now) because of her child. That's why I fully understand the waiting on the part of the man next to you - even though it seems like a weak character and softness, in fact it was just a manifestation of great paternal love! Because a small child in a divorce stays with the mother - usually, and he would be unhappy to live apart from him. My child is on the verge of puberty and adores his father - the thought that he may decide to stay with him after a divorce through my fault, terrifies me. I love her very much and I would be unhappy without her. That's why I haven't taken this step yet - but I still don't live with my husband anymore - I think it's more honest than lying to him. She spends most of her time with me and her father. She is still hoping to get together. She is trying to manipulate me (she is a child and I can't be angry with her) and instill in me a sense of guilt - she is aware of the situation and has even seen the other one, but the reactions have been terribly negative. But I know I won't be able to go back to my husband. My heart is elsewhere. My husband knows that too. I am very happy with the man who truly loves me and with whom we like each other, but the thought that I may lose my child stops me. I realized that I could not enjoy a day of love if the price was that. And so I live-torn between motherly love and my love. I'm balancing - how long, I don't know. I have accepted that this is my destiny. I want to tell all critics that it is easy to blame and very difficult to understand the other's position. Or rather, you see things only from your angle, and those angles are many. This father is not weak-willed, but extremely loving his child (and the author will confirm this). I understand it. And I congratulate her for feeling all the nuances in his soul, for understanding and supporting him, despite everything. A mother
Very poorly composed story. You don't become a writer. Little Sandy (17) cried and shook hands to make her father happy. And she fell asleep from the fatigue of her breasts ... Very bad ...
My story is similar in that I love not a married but a committed man. He was divorced once, has one child by her, but is currently with another woman and has a child by her. We've known him for 7 years, but life has only just met us. I don't know what will happen to us, but we both love each other. He doesn't want to promise me anything because he's already suffered, it's that he makes a lot of money and most people they try to use him, and he is a good person. He is very kind and good. This made me love him so much that I can't imagine life without him. But I don't know how long I will have to prove my love, it torments me, I miss it constantly. This story made me believe that sooner or later, things will get better. When people love each other, things happen. I will fight, for your love, for him, not for money, because it is foolish for some people to think that money can buy happiness, it is not possible.
Ani, your story is great! I myself dream of something more suitable, because I am in the same situation and I know how naughty it is to wait and live in insecurity! We have a relationship for almost 5 years, at first he did not speak to me for divorce, but we fell in love and now only his daughter, who is already in 3rd grade, stops him! I don't know what will happen to us, but I know that I love him, he behaves perfectly with me and loves me, but I'm very sad when he is not to me! I want to believe that I will be with him, but sometimes it is difficult for me. I dream of my story ending happily like yours and I wish you a nice baby for what I dream of and a lot of happiness!
Ehhhhhhhhh darling I'm glad you experienced your happiness I also have a relationship with a married man but ........... he has a daughter older than me I love him infinitely I have been with him for 10 months and I pray this relationship to continue for a long time but fuck I'm 17 and he is 46 Why do I love him? This is crazy nonsense over the years but just looking him in the eye and trembling I adore him! maybe you will curse me you will say that I am not normal but I love him please understand me only a woman who is my situation knows what is wrong with me !!!
Number 23, this is not crazy, I also have a relationship with a married man, I'm 25 and he's 47. I'm scared and I feel alone and I, like Annie, in the evening hug the pillow and grit my teeth and keep quiet, but she gave me confidence that maybe there is hope for me and one day we will be together. Ani is happy for you, besides my name is Ani, I really hope you write how are you again? Number 23, I know what's wrong with you, but I still don't know what the outcome of our situation is and I'm looking for it, but I also don't know if I will have the strength to find it. Write how you are? The hard thing for me is that he travels a lot and is almost gone, and when we are together we are born for each other. How to overcome this loneliness?
TO NUMBER 24: Never imagine that one day you will be together. Because you won't want to ... One day after another year, when he yells at you that he's waiting for a grandson, you'll feel where you are and how wrong you are. Believe me, you will feel very bad - then you will realize that he is not for you and you have no place with a grandfather. I'm telling you from the position of a mature woman, I'm not like you at 23 and almost double and I have a relationship with a man about ten years older ....
To number 25: I'm number 24, you're probably right, that's how I realize it, but obviously he's afraid of it too because he told me we'll be together until you leave me, and yesterday he told me he wants a child from me, and I just went dumb. I wander between heaven and hell, heaven when we are together and hell when he is gone and I think what to do. I can't decide on almost anything, because in the beginning everything was fun at least for me and for him but Suddenly things took a different turn. Besides, we are both in the same profession and it will happen I do not think. I know it's all over, but I can't, at least for now.
Well, what can I say ... You fought with your teeth and nails for a married man. You even pinned his child to get under his skin. I hope one day you will not find yourself in the role of his ex-wife and your child. does not fall asleep on the neck of a poop. The husband, when I look at him, is fickle ... And there is no cure for that. Happiness is not built on someone else's misfortune.
To number 24! I'm number 23 How to overcome oh dear is not easy for 1 year. and I have been with this man for 4 months since May 8, 2009 we are together we have no choice dear this love is very beautiful but forbidden, enjoy the moments with him love him, be happy do not think about his wife, with us it is more complicated because his wife knows about us but despite everything we keep going! If you want to leave the mail or Skype can talk to me, no one would understand one mistress better than another mistress!
I'm number 24-right, no one would understand you better than a mistress. I don't think about his wife, they hardly see each other, but he travels a lot and is often gone, and that kills me. Sometimes we travel together and it's great, but when he leaves again my heart turns, it's been 6 months. I wonder how long it will last? I remember the day I saw him for the first time, and I said to myself, no such man can exist - yes, but exists and is with me - the worst thing is that we fit extremely, perfectly. The worst thing about us is that he is famous, with a reputation and everything, and even if he is not married we can not show up almost anywhere together, except hidden resorts. The tragedy is complete, we can not eat a dinner without looking for journalists and the like. Hardly anyone can give me advice, there is no solution,the question is can i put up with it and live with it? - is it if you answer before me please tell me! Maybe our story won't have a good end, right? We are the lovers, the nightmare of wives, those whose names they remember only the men were with us!
I'm number 23 to number 24 Darling, it's hard to reconcile, I also can't reconcile, but we have no choice, enjoy the moments with him, try not to love anything else, darling, don't care about his wife, because if he was happy with her, be with you! If he is happy, why is she his mistress? The mistress is a holiday and the wife is a weekday. But do you know there is a cruel truth on holidays when everyone is around you he will not be me so on New Year's I cried this is our destiny but still be sure that he wants you more than her otherwise he would not take the risk to go out with you knowing that they can see you, in order to take this risk, it means he loves you and keeps you, be happy, enjoy him, love him and don't be at all controlled by various evil opinions because you yourself know how difficult it is to love a married man !!!! It is more complicated with us because his wife knows about us and my daughter too, but NOTHING CAN STOP TWO HEARTS IN LOVE !!!! I will be glad to write!
We are obviously strong, otherwise there is no way to withstand this tension. I do not understand women who know that her husband is with another but they are sitting why? Mine has not even lived with his wife for 10 years but does not divorce because of the property, and it is a lot. I do not want to divorce, there is no need. Mine has two children and both are abroad and have taken their way, and this is not our concern. The problem is that in front of people he is married and in front of society he is with another image, although everyone in our guild knows about our relationship and most of them are in this state. It can be said that his wife is his job, with all its disadvantages. And the age difference? For the first time in my life with such a big man and I know that few people will accept him. The good news is that my mother supports me, at least she. How are you? How did his wife find out? How did his daughter react? Kisses!
I'm number 30 Well, his daughter didn't take him well but that doesn't stop us :) despite everything we continue the feelings are very strong, And his wife found out from his daughter, she followed us and informed her mother :( :( :( !!! number 31 how old are you and how old are you how long have you been together how are things with you I will be happy to write!
I'm number 31, actually 24 days. I'm 25 and he's 47, I wrote this above, for 6 months but it's hard. Today I'm alone again and I'm waiting because soon we will go somewhere far away in a week, but I don't know coming back again how will I be. And the daughter of how much she remembered to watch, horror. You're like a nightmare. Oh, I want to know how it will end. I miss her a lot when she's gone. Kisses, write how are you?
Up to number 33 I am number 31 or more precisely 23 My daughter is 24 years old, she is even older than me :) Darling, you say that you miss her, I don't want to despair you, but it will always be so, the lack is felt, I hate when I sleep alone at night; (He calls me every night to say "I miss you good night, kisses until tomorrow" but the words are not enough I want him to me but alas with her I know that he does not love his wife I know that he is with her out of habit but ... ...... there is no way.You say you want to know how it will end do not think about it because it hurts more live for the moment enjoy him be happy with him without thinking about anything.Kisses, I will be happy to write!
Hello dear, I am number 24, at least you know that he is with his wife, mine travels constantly and is far away and he is also very busy, and when we are together he has four phones that ring constantly. I want to know that he is with My wife, at least I'll know where she is, but that's his job. I miss him very much, at least I know that when he comes we will be together and he will hug me like no one else. I can't tell anyone, and we are for each other and when he says it, I just die. We've had a very bad time, for us it's probably too late and even impossible. Here and now it kills me. we will love him and we will drive him anyway.
Hello dear, I am number 23. My dear, she works here in the city, I am convinced that she does not love her wife, he himself has said and shown it, I know that he loves me, if he did not love me, he would not be with me, the bad thing is that I know his wife (he teaches me chemistry). I study chemistry this year she has always been friendly with me even though she is a teacher but when she found out about me and her husband, it became scary in fact she is not sure that I have a relationship with the man and because his daughter only once saw us together and in a friendly situation but it's naughty again! Mila doesn't think that life has made a joke with you not every woman can be like us we are strong women because in order to have such a relationship you have to be a strong and confident woman be like that love him, enjoy every moment with him be happy !! Kisses write how are you?
Until №36 - Chick, you're wrong .... He wouldn't be with his wife if he loved you. Isn't it insulting to be a "second violin"?
To number 37 I am number 36 IF HE IS HAPPY WHY IS HE HIS MISTRESS? IN ORDER TO CHEAT, SO SOMETHING IS WRONG AT HOME AND AT 25 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, HE HARDLY LOVES HER, EVERYTHING IS JUST A HABIT AND NOTHING ELSE.
I am №37. I do not write anywhere whether he is happy or not. I was talking about love. And if you make him happy, why doesn't he exchange his unhappy daily life with his wife for a happy one with you? Why do you share it? But what do I ask ..., still - Blessed are the believers ....
I read the story and all the comments below it and I can't help but shout - God, how many simple women there are in this world, God !!!! Tanya, 21.
Look, they don't leave their wives because they're comfortable - it sounds nasty, but it's true! .-inevitably it is better for him there, otherwise he will sit with the woman, you know, even more so if it is not something for 1 time but a relationship, he definitely wants and wants it, otherwise why is everything to him. And the woman ... is not going to leave her that who will change his diapers in a year.
Ok, all this is somewhat logical and understandable, №41. BUT another question arises for me: And so loving them and making them happy lovers, can't they offer the same care? That is, "two in one" - passion, emotion, unrestrained sex, etc., plus the care that their otherwise crazy wives take for them? In what, ajeba, is love expressed for the lovers of married men, then? Or, perhaps, should I call them mistresses?
To 42: And they can do it no worse than wives, with some exceptions, of course, but .... men are not 100% sure about it, they are not sure about everything regarding lovers and from there is also the great thrill to everything, not in all cases of course, but in general security causes carelessness, so the old people said that a woman should not share everything with her husband, to have secrecy to be interesting, to provokes slightly - that's not what most wives do and that's why they lose their husbands
The truth, dear lovers and deceived wives, is that such men live very well at your expense. His wife creates home comfort, looks after his children and suffers infidelity - one, two, he will endure ten more. The mistress is the "beloved", always available and waiting. It can wait and be available for ten years. And if she doesn't wait, this man will find another to "love". Of course, there are exceptions: with the author of the story, for example. But did anyone notice that the wife had moved out once again. What if she hadn't left him? They would probably still be waiting for something to happen. I think such men love only themselves. It sucks to. Now you can attack me for being mean. I'm not. I sympathize with the wives - some simply have no choice / finances, children, etc./. I understand the lovers too. I know what it's like to be in love. But I hope I never understand what it's like to be used. F43
I don't understand them (the lovers). I don't think they were used either. They just lack self-esteem. And if we do not respect ourselves, we cannot expect those around us to respect us. I also share the opinion of №43, although this "they are not sure" is not very convincing (but, on the other hand, they are sure that the mistresses will get sex passions and "Lakta" candies ... why not for the rest? ??) №44, yes! Hopefully to you, hopefully to me, hopefully no one had to understand it!
Number 43, write down somewhere what you wrote, and after 15-20 years read it. Only then will you realize how naive you were.
Well done on comment 44. I totally agree, it's just like reading my thoughts written. And that's exactly what I thought as I read the story ... about the wife who moved out "once again" - if she hadn't moved out, the author of the story would still be waiting. Right? I love you very much, but I will not come to you. However, I love you very much. But I will not leave my wife. Or your husband. I don't know under what number this will come out, but 44 said exactly what things were. I will only add that this is not love. It is a physical attraction, but it is a different thing from love.
Why only judge women like me (lovers) think a little If he loved his wife he would not be with me. Why are we still bad lovers, is the wife better that she failed to keep him in 26 years of marriage, not knowing what the man likes, what he likes to eat; where she likes to go is she better if she didn't tolerate her husband's infidelities no one makes her tolerate if she doesn't like to leave as long as you reproach the lovers. These men also have the right to be with the woman they love and maybe this woman is just in love. Why don't they get divorced? Because of the children, being married does not prevent him from being happy with his mistress and loving her !!!
Oh, please, №48, enough with that "for the kids" cliché. Believe me, children are much more unhappy living in such ... say families. His wife? Hah, what is she guilty of that man? won't the "ta * ats" clarify their relationship and possibly make some decisions? I'm not looking for fault in you, darling, or in his wife. I don't comment on it at all, but if that calms you down - ok, it's all his fault! I'm not judging you - I'm rather sorry for you. And you, and everyone like you. Entangled in the webs of your beautiful illusions, you waste invaluable and irretrievable years of your life, you draw with love and in the end ?? What's left for you? What have you done for yourself? Nothing, dear! Except you were pads!
Many comments on the topic, I could not read them all :). This story is one in a million with a happy ending, just do not know until when. But another thing I want to say, for some with bigger than them boyfriends, lovers ... I I am a man, I am 35, I am not married and until 1 month ago I had a girlfriend of 19 years. Well, it is not possible for people to have such a relationship. You are just deluded that there can be something long and beautiful. I no longer want to go to discos, to go out all night ... the girl cried a lot, a lot, but better now than after a year to ruin both our lives.