Hello, I am a 20-year-old woman, I have been driving for a year and a half and my nerves have been ruined. To clarify, this is because I started it in Bulgaria, but later I went to study abroad and it was assumed that by the end of last summer I should have taken it, but I was torn on the practical. Now, a year before the leaflets expired and I had to reappear, I quit my job and university and went home to try again. They didn't come correctly from the company, I wanted to have the opportunity to try at least 2 times before the expiration date from the leaflets and I warned them long before I went home, and in the end it turned out that they reserved an exam date just before the end of the year. However, different situations experiencing, it's all largely a matter of luck. My biggest problem has to do with my instructor's behavior. I know I can't do it, I make mistakes, but overall I'm doing well most of the time now. However, the moment I get confused or hesitate about something, he starts shouting at me "Come on, come on, come on, horror ... what are you doing ..." etc. and when I try to explain the reason to him for the mistake and to ask him a question, he interrupts me with the words "Shut up, only the guilty are explained." I am more tender and vulnerable, I am kind to everyone and I expect good treatment in return, yet I do not pay so much money to be beaten. I know that the person is probably tired, he works under a lot of stress, he may have personal problems, but I threw everything away to get home earlier to pass my exam, I sacrificed a lot, from here I try to do most of my homework, I have to stay in the hospital, but I use every opportunity to take a class and improve my skills. He keeps his distance, I think he likes his other students more than me, for a reason unknown to me. The moment he starts yelling at me, I get distracted, all desire passes and I have no confidence that I will succeed in the exam. Please give me advice on how to deal with this person and how his psychological attacks do not affect my self-esteem and my confidence that I will succeed. Thanks! I have any desire and I have no confidence that I will succeed in the exam. Please give me advice on how to deal with this person and how his psychological attacks do not affect my self-esteem and my confidence that I will succeed. Thanks! I have any desire and I have no confidence that I will succeed in the exam. Please give me advice on how to deal with this person and how his psychological attacks do not affect my self-esteem and my confidence that I will succeed. Thanks!
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You change the instructor and that's ... why waste your nerves with him ... complain ..
According to my observations, over 70% of the instructors are similar nerves who try to crush your little self-confidence. I first enrolled in a course in 2011 and the instructor was super nervous, they broke me twice and I gave up. In 2013, I enrolled again with a female instructor - much calmer. At times it erupts again, but much less than the previous instructor. I took it the first time. So - if you do not have a problem, change the school and the instructor. If you don't want to pass the theory again, talk to them and see how things are, go straight to the exam.
I also took a booklet while I was in Bulgaria and I had a similar instructor who just called me and because I am more sensitive, I became stressed and started making even more mistakes. That's why I was always insecure and driving was something I avoided. The most logical advice I can give you is to talk to the company and change the instruction. You explain to them that he is a more nervous person and ask for an instructor who is calmer. I'm sorry now that I didn't do it then, but I had to, but I was worried that the instructors knew each other and would break me on purpose. No one will have the right to shout at you, he must teach you to drive, not to crush you. I just don't understand why, for God's sake, you dumped the university for one book and didn't wait until next summer?
In a normal society, neurotic beings like your instructor will be prohibited by law from doing any work that involves contact with people.
I have the same problem. M 27