IF I'M HERE, SO I've TRIED EVERYTHING! I WAS ALONE IN LOVE FOR A LONG TIME, I STILL DIDN'T FIND THE RIGHT PERSON AND I WAITED UNTIL ONE DAY I MET HIM! HE LOVES ME, AND I CANNOT DESCRIBE HOW MUCH I LOVE HIM, I LOVE HIM! HE IS MY MAN AND I WANT TO SPEND MY LIFE WITH HIM! IN THE BEGINNING HIS PARENTS MN. I RESPECTED MYSELF AND WAS VERY NICE. ONE DAY I REFUSED TO DO SOMETHING ACCORDING TO THEIR WILL AND IT HAPPENED AS IT HAPPENED. THE PROBLEMS BEGUN. I STOPPED HEARING AND SEEING WITH THEM IN ORDER TO REDUCE THE TENSION, BUT THEY DO NOT STOP SPEAKING NON-EXPERTS AT MY ADDRESS. HE WAS ANGRY AND WENT OUT, HE IS NO LONGER ALIVE WITH THEM AND THE PROBLEMS DO NOT STOP. THEY CALL ME BY ANY NAME. ABOUT ABSURD THINGS ARE TOLD ABOUT ME. THEY WENT TO A WITCH AND THE WITCH WAS TELLING THEM THAT I WAS MAGICIZING HIM, THAT I LIE TO HIM, THAT I USE HIM, THAT I HAD A STORMY LIFE AND I WAS INTERESTED IN INTEREST. BUT NO ONE GIVES ME A CHANCE TO DEFEND MYSELF. ONLY HE KNOWS, BECAUSE ONLY HE WAS WITH ME THAT NIGHT AND HE BELIEVES ME. I AM HONEST WITH HIM AND NOTHING IS ANYTHING. I HAVE THE VIRTUE AND I AM READY TO FACE ALL THEIR QUESTIONS AND ANSWER. MY CONSCIENCE IS PURE AND NO ONE IS DISCOVERED BY ANYONE. HIS MOTHER DOESN'T WANT TO HEAR ABOUT ME. I WANT TO MEET AND CLEAR, BECAUSE THIS CANNOT CONTINUE. HE LOST ALMOST 15-20KG, MY HEALTH ALSO WORSEN. WE CANNOT HAPPYLY LIVE THE GOOD YOUNG YEARS, LIKE EACH OTHER WHILE WE ARE YOUNG AND STILL WITHOUT CHILDREN. AND WHEN I SAID CHILDREN ... ONE DAY HE SAID THAT I WAS PREGNANT AND SHE ASKED HIM "FROM WHOM" AND HE SAID, "FROM ME". AND SHE TOLD HIM, I DON'T INTEREST, FIX IT! I DON'T WANT MY CHILDREN TO BE UNWANTED, I DON'T WANT THEM TO BE LOVED BY THEM. HOW WILL I SIT AFTER TIME WITH THESE PEOPLE AT THE SAME TABLE, HOW I WILL MAKE A WEDDING, HOW I WILL LIVE WITH OMARAZ. I WANT EVERYTHING TO DONE SOON. SOMETIMES I THINK, I DREAM AND I WILL WAKE UP SOON, BUT I HAVE DREAMED FOR 3 MONTHS AND THIS NIGHTMARE DOES NOT STOP. I DON'T WANT MUCH NOW I AM AT THE CROSSROADS. HE CONSTANTLY TELLS ME "YOU DON'T DESERVE SUCH A LIFE, IF YOU DECIDE TO BE WITH ANOTHER, THERE IS NO HELL TO STOP YOU". SOMETIMES I HAVE BAD THOUGHTS IN MY HEAD. TO BREAK, JUST AND ONLY TO CALM THINGS. I WILL START, I KNOW, I WILL START FOR MY LIFE FOR MY BOY AND ANOTHER MAN I WOULD NOT LOOK AT IT, BUT IF THIS IS THE DECISION I WILL MAKE IT, HOPE I WILL DISCOVER IT. AND IF YOU HAVE ANOTHER SOLUTION, WRITE TO ME! I DON'T WANT TO SEPARATE, IN THE END I WILL SAY THAT IF I END OUR RELATIONSHIP I WILL DIE SLOWLY AND SUFFERINGLY, BUT IF I END MY LIFE, WHICH IS EQUIVALENT TO THE OTHER, AT LEAST WILL NOT BE PAINFUL AND SLOW. AND ONE MORE THING, BE YOURSELF AND MOST SINCERITY!
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DEAR GIRL, IT SEEMS TO YOU THAT YOU ARE A VERY GOOD MAN. I HAVE FELL INTO A SIMILAR SITUATION ONLY IF I HAVE ONLY MY MOTHER-IN-LAW, MY MOTHER-IN-LAW HAS DIED. YOU DON'T DESERVE TO WASTE YOUR LIFE TO PROVE YOURSELF TO PEOPLE WHO DON'T DESERVE EVEN TO TALK TO THEM. I WAS THE SAME NOT TO SAY SOMETHING, NOT TO HURT SOMEONE, EVERYTHING IF MY MOTHER-IN-LAW AND MY INFLUENCE AFFECTS ME OR BULLETS ME. BUT I'M ALREADY TIRED OF HIDING EVERYTHING IN MYSELF AND CRYING WITHOUT SOMEONE TO SEE ME. TELL YOUR PERSON THAT YOU SHOULD TALK SERIOUSLY AND DISCUSS YOUR FUTURE. TELL HIM IT'S TIME TO CHOOSE TO LIVE WITH YOUR PARENTS OR CHOOSE YOU. THIS IS HOW YOU WILL UNDERSTAND WHETHER THIS MAN LOVES YOU ENOUGH AND WHETHER HE DESERVES YOU AT ALL. IF HE WANTS THEM TO SIT THERE TO CHANGE HIS DIAPERS. DON'T WASTE YOUR LIFE TO GREASE YOURSELF AND TIGHTEN YOUR DIRTY DART. I KNOW THAT EVERYTHING IS VERY EASY IN WORDS, BUT LOOK AROUND AND YOU WILL SEE THAT THE WORLD DOES NOT END WITH YOUR MOTHER'S SON. Ultimately, IF HE DOESN'T APPRECIATE YOU - WHY SUFFER FOR A LIFETIME. UP HEAD AND SUCCESS.
The solution is very simple, take him to another city without telling anyone where, break up with friends and relatives and you will not care what his parents think. If you continue to fight like this, you will not get far - the parents are in time, and you will live with this person for life. Either live with him abroad or in Bulgaria, but miles from his parents, or break up with him. Sooner or later the man begins to listen to his parents - keep that in mind. I would advise you to go on vacation without him, but also without hearing each other, to experience your feelings and if you really can't do without each other - do what I wrote above. Good luck. P.S. The biggest nonsense is to commit suicide for a man.
Take your life in your hands, not the last man on earth. You don't say how old you are, but you're hardly too old. Do you know how many mothers and how many men want an honest woman. If he doesn't appreciate dignity, he pulls his jester and goes to push himself around the scum, to make him rubbish. To pluck his mother's hair. Look at them, let them marry him. Outdated conservative understandings. Watch your life and pull the trigger! Good luck!
Hi, I don't know if it will reassure you that you are not the only one in such a situation. My mother went through a similar journey, my uncle (only she with her own parents), my friends, now me. I try to look at things philosophically, because I see how over time these relationships have developed with my mother, for example. Everything is supposedly forgotten and they gather as guests, as if nothing had ever happened. I am annoyed by this because my mother has a bad memory and she will always have "one thing in mind". And I get even more annoyed because there are such things at all - as if the parents do not want their child to be happy - does it matter what you are, what you did - it is more important how their child feels with you. But, no, they say, they create tension and problems. It is not enough that our problems are not small, but also this. And it hurts a lot ... I know, I'm not surprised, that you have lost weight ... just hope you survive. Don't let such thoughts of separation pass you by! This is your man and you have to fight for him. I'm sure they'll squat - there's nowhere to go. And you will put on a hypocritical smile if they want to. What you sow you will reap. Head up and don't give up!
People say, "Is it from a matchmaker? -As much as from a plinth vessel." So if you want to be a family, stay away from such relatives. Let him visit them. You look after your house and health.
/ author / Thank you for the advice! I made a decision, I will be with him, he took the same thing a long time ago, I don't want us to separate, he separated from them and we are together! Tell me how to deal with them! :( Help me
Congratulations. Be with him when you love him. I advise you the following: Go somewhere where no one knows where you are and what is happening to you. Don't get any information about them. At least in a year, call them and give things a chance to get on track, but do not rush to say where you are. I know a woman who is almost 80 years old. She did not allow her son to marry a gypsy, and they loved each other. They went to another city. She has not seen her dream in more than 30 years, and is now suing for property to remain his legacy. I am with you.
hello number 7. I can't leave the city I'm in, nor can he. Here is our job and home, I have not yet completed my higher education. We thought that too, but at this stage it will not be possible. Probably in a year, and by then many will happen. things. By the way, let me share that in the beginning my parents were also against their dear daughter having an affair with an unknown boy, but I got up and said: "I don't care who likes whom, the important thing is that I like him and not you and you. (you-my parents) YOU WILL NOT LIVE WITH HIM AND I! I CHOOSE! I HAVE THIS PEOPLE, I AM READY TO SWALLOW ALL THE OFFENSES, TO CARRY THIS LOAD, TO CARRY THIS LOAD. I LOVE HIM! I DON'T WANT HIM AND I WILL NOT GET USED TO ANOTHER! UNFORTUNATELY AT THIS STAGE, WE CAN JUST CHANGE THE QUARTER OF RESIDENCE AND THEY DON'T KNOW WHERE EXACTLY WE LIVE AND WE DID IT! I WISH YOU EXACTLY ON THIS DAY 15.8 HEALTH AND LET THE VIRGIN PROTECT YOU AND HELP IN YOUR DEEDS! THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO WROTE TO ME!
Try talking to his parents, sit down and clarify things. But keep in mind that they will find it difficult to accept you, not because you are bad, but because you are right and they are wrong. You know the truth always comes up, so wait for it!
If you don't have children, leave it until it gets worse! They may start harassing you and threatening you! BEWARE!
Hello, you are not the only one, we are 300 km away from my boy's parents, but it is as if we are under one roof. All you have to do is ignore them. At the beginning I was harnessed too, but alas, it dawned on me in the tunnel, if I stopped paying attention to them, everything was fine. Do not worry. Fingers crossed.
I am the author - up to number 12, we are literally 3000 (2800 km) and the harassment is relentless!
Ignore them, what do you care about them? Change phones, don't pick them up, they don't exist for you. You will not invite them to your wedding. It's as if they died. Cut off all contact, do whatever they want. You don't care. If my parents behaved like that, I would never look at them. Your life is yours and it is too short - live it, fuck these peasants! Boronia
Watch the movie "Mother-in-law".
Believe me and I am in the same situation. I wanted to leave him, but he said the others didn't interest him. And I want everything to calm down and find someone for him. I know I will suffer, but for God's sake they are his parents, how will he live like that. A wedding, baptism and any other such holidays or just meetings?
hello number 16, i am the author. It wasn't worth it ... after all he suffered, he dumped me and got engaged in 4 weeks. Not worth it! There are no irreplaceable people. It is overcome! Success!
what I will write may seem excessive to you, but before you have children, you may be wrong, but I think so, otherwise you judge for yourself
Hello, I'm glad that I finally found a site where I can share my grief. And yes .... Unfortunately I have the same problem. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years, and they don't accept me. He lives with his father, I with my parents, because I am still a student (last year). He decided to go abroad to drive a truck because we are very bad financially. So, from the very beginning, they were cold to me. Until a while ago, his father was more or less nice to me, and now he has started talking against me, because my school is far away and my friend gives me his car to go with her. I do not understand what is wrong. Until recently, he didn't mind, and now he seems angry. I constantly collect my money from snacks to put gas, and he suddenly began to take into account my friend that he had given me the car .... " why did he give it to me, he was walking, because of me ... I just feel very bad because I don't think I deserve such treatment, because whenever I need I help my friend with what I can, I make him eat because I don't I always have money, I take care of him and I love him so much, and on the other hand I don't see any good attitude from them. I know he loves me too, but I can't stand being attacked by theirs. Yes, he protects me, but he is not ready to continue with me without being influenced by their opinion. Please give me advice on what to do - I don't want to lose it because of them and throw away 5 years of my life. because I don't always have money, I take care of him and I love him so much, and on the other hand I don't see any good attitude from them. I know he loves me too, but I can't stand being attacked by theirs. Yes, he protects me, but he is not ready to continue with me without being influenced by their opinion. Please give me advice on what to do - I don't want to lose it because of them and throw away 5 years of my life. because I don't always have money, I take care of him and I love him so much, and on the other hand I don't see any good attitude from them. I know he loves me too, but I can't stand being attacked by theirs. Yes, he protects me, but he is not ready to continue with me without being influenced by their opinion. Please give me advice on what to do - I don't want to lose it because of them and throw away 5 years of my life.
God, girl - are you crazy to do such dramas and get poisoned like that, because of some scavengers? My husband's parents don't like me either. As we walked, everything was fine - the moment we told them we were getting married - drama and rejection. Well, we cut off contact immediately, at my husband's initiative. Because if they don't respect me, like the woman he chose as a wife, then they don't respect him either. He stopped seeing and talking to them, and in less than two weeks they apologized when they saw that he would not give in and that their behavior risked losing him. Since then, they have been polite to me and there are no problems. It all depends on how your husband will react and whether he will definitely protect you. If they see that there is no firm reaction and they can put pressure on him, they will give and continue to insult you until they separate you. They test the limits, and he obviously gives in after he continues to communicate with them and endures being insulted in his presence! He just has to say categorically that you will be the woman next to him and if they can't accept him, then they have no place in his life. Any other manifestation on his part for them is a sign of weakness and that they may be necessary. But everything is in his hands anyway - if he does not take a firm stand, I do not know if it is better to continue alone. What kind of life will you lead with a man who allows his relatives to harass you in this way, even in his presence? And do you need one? If he can't protect you and doesn't have the strength to choose to cut off contact - you better run away from there while it's time. that you will be the woman next to him and if they cannot accept him, then they have no place in his life. Any other manifestation on his part for them is a sign of weakness and that they may be necessary. But everything is in his hands anyway - if he does not take a firm stand, I do not know if it is better to continue alone. What kind of life will you lead with a man who allows his relatives to harass you in this way, even in his presence? And do you need one? If he can't protect you and doesn't have the strength to choose to cut off contact - you better run away from there while it's time. that you will be the woman next to him and if they cannot accept him, then they have no place in his life. Any other manifestation on his part for them is a sign of weakness and that they may be necessary. But everything is in his hands anyway - if he does not take a firm stand, I do not know if it is better to continue alone. What kind of life will you lead with a man who allows his relatives to harass you in this way, even in his presence? And do you need one? If he can't protect you and doesn't have the strength to choose to cut off contact - you better run away from there while it's time. who allows his relatives to harass you in this way, even in his presence? And do you need one? If he can't protect you and doesn't have the strength to choose to cut off contact - you better run away from there while it's time. who allows his relatives to harass you in this way, even in his presence? And do you need one? If he can't protect you and doesn't have the strength to choose to cut off contact - you better run away from there while it's time.
unfortunately you can't change his family's opinion. why they think so is not so important, accept that the situation is so. there are people who would not like any of their son's girlfriends if they were to be golden, whether out of misunderstood love, a desire for control, jealousy, or something else. the only thing you can do is, once you're done, move out separately. then the influence will not be lacking, but will be greatly reduced. F43
the author tell us in detail how it became to part this topic is an extremely valuable topic for six years if I'm not mistaken AND YOU CONTINUE to follow it !!? M 28
Not that anything, but did the author graduate? And the main thing?
G19 Thank you for the tips G20 and G21. I talked to him, set him certain conditions and I hope he will not succumb to their provocations. I warned him that I would not continue with him if he did nothing to keep me and stop listening to theirs. I don't know what he's looking for from them at all - his mother abandoned him as a child and went abroad, his father stayed to look after him. I don't understand what interests her so much. Now they have stopped contact. She obviously understood that I didn't allow him to look for her, because I opened his eyes - that they only use him when they need him ... but we'll see how long he will last. As for his father. . Some time ago they hit the car - his father immediately blamed me, although at the time of what happened I was not at all next to the car, but anyway, my friend then believed me and opposed him. Now I'm not sure he would. The other day I was the one who sponsored him with a considerable amount to get his documents, but this, as always, is not visible. He knows he can only count on me ... unfortunately. And even when he told his father that I was the one who helped him again - he just told him "Yes, look - she gave you BGN 100 and you are already happy, I paid you 700 - to get your book - what did I get ? "... And my friend claims that they quarreled. I don't know if I should trust him at all anymore, I don't think he will have the strength to fight his parents. Sometimes I even think you would choose them over me, but that will be clear. If that happens, at least I'll know where not to go next.
Hello. I see that the post is old, but I will write. I have the same problem. I met my boy 2 years ago, just before our prom. Months after the ball, we lived in a room downstairs under his parents' apartment. At first we went to them, I communicated with theirs. While they stopped looking for him, giving him some money, in the winter they even stopped our heating. His grandparents seemed to support us, but recently they started spitting at me too. They aim to separate us. When my friend saw that his parents had abandoned him, he left them and cut off all contact with them. I read a similar story and after 2 weeks the parents apologized, but alas, his 2nd year is not looking for him, and we are only 20. These are not parents for me. I don't think I'm mentally harassing them at all. If they can't stand that their son is happy, what are we talking about. Unworthy people .... To dump their son, in the most difficult moment, when he climbs the first step of the ladder of life. In my opinion, girls, let's not mess around, our boys have made their choice.
Yes, 25, in your case they chose you, and in many cases the woman is neglected. In my case, it is more than clear to me that they neither accept me nor like me, so they do not show any desire to see me for so long. On holidays their son is with them. I was never called. For me, this is a demonstration, but as far as I understand, they do not speak against me. In the end, it turns out that I imagined and thought nonsense. Because some are silent and the person seems to be gone, and I show him that I am hurt and for me this is not normal. The man is to blame here. If the man is a man on the spot, he will say - this is the woman next to me, holidays, everything together, as usual. Instead of leaving her and going with her family, this is a very small example. Everyone has the right to an opinion, but the man decides whether to act like a man or not.