I am very annoyed by the hypocrisy in society. I speak in the context of friends, girlfriends, acquaintances, etc. I'm annoyed that at school there was this pressure to be what you should be, or the cool ones. You have to walk properly, talk, behave, dress, be friends with cool people, be "right" in general. If you are not, they do not treat you with the necessary respect, they have prejudices because other people have spoken to them behind your back. Instead of wondering if it's true or not, they believe like morons. They won't go out with you, or at least invite you out. The girls won't be very interested in you, but you'll have to pretend to be a clown to be noticed. And they will be busy going out, at least they are busy for you, as well as for everyone else like you. I'm annoyed that after school I gave so much of myself, socially, to look good, to be punctual, to understand what the movie is like on dates, how to talk to girls I don't know, how to successfully get them to date me, how to treat them and what not. I'm annoyed that, despite everything, these people don't sleep for you at all. I am annoyed that I was told that "No one is obliged to behave in the same way as you, he can behave as he pleases." So why do you require me to be there? Why did a girl come to me one day to tell me that I should be more open, not so shy, but they don't have to behave anyway? Why on this nice, warm day no one wrote to me or called me to tell me to move outside, just for fun. And they were busy, maybe later. I feel like a backup. Why does a girl write to me, I invite her out twice, and she's busy both times, given that she tied a tin can to me the second time? And a few days later, when I gave up doing it, he wrote to me again? And now I had to approach I don't know how I, some special way, to take into account her and her free time (actually a girl if she tells you she's busy - don't believe him - she'll always find time if she wants) to we can just go out in good weather and go for a walk and have fun. And it's not for people anymore, but I wonder in my mind. Why do I put so much effort, why do I wonder which way to approach, to act tactfully, to be one way or another, in order to take time in the end. Why won't anyone try to get into my situation, to think about me? And then why should I do it for them? After all, no matter how difficult,
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Because you decided you needed something. Watch how others have fun, and you try to like you, to change, to look for what you are to make something happen there. You have turned all your attention to them and you are angry that they are not asleep for you. Well, they can't sleep, you're not your friends, and you don't need to sleep for them. The more you push someone to like you, the more you will repel them. Stop looking like a niece and don't care at all, focus on your interests and you will become curious about others.
Ha, it's like I wrote it. I understand you completely, most people do. They communicate with you only if they have some benefit from it, and in general they do not realize it. I have observed the relationships between them, as well as their attitude towards me over different periods of time. When you are on the crest of the wave - everyone wants to be your friend, to see you, they are interested in you. You bring him some value - he is in the company of a person of high status. The moment your life goes wrong - these people disappear, give busy, answer you with 1 word. Think about whether you really want to have anything to do with such people. It is similar for women. It is a game of supremacy - whose time and attention is more valuable. When you play her, you raise the value in her eyes and she wants your attention again. When you give it to her - she will give you busy again (tested). What's the purpose? He's probably texting someone else and keeping you as a backup. It is your choice whether you will be satisfied with being the reserve, I personally play them. I also think that if someone has a desire - they will find time to see you and if they start giving busy and do not offer an option to see each other - I just stop doing and go on with my life. Since I stopped putting so much effort into the social plan, my life has become much calmer at least. Don't invest so much, be more large, so unfair people won't irritate you. School is a rather exaggerated environment where you are forced to walk and some things do not correspond to reality. People don't change, of course, but I've noticed that then we lose much less importance to these children's things. I also didn't move with popular people, I couldn't change myself, to go into some frames just to please someone. It is better to preserve and develop your character than to merge with the crowd. At one time I tried things that you too - for me the result was not good either, because for me this is a fake job - exaggerated - does not come from within and is not worth the time. From now on, once you realize this, you begin to value your time and effort and select people.
This is not your environment. As bad as it sounds, we are animals and every frog knows its goal. Greetings! MM
Today, profit is the alpha and omega of human relationships, which, of course, is pork, but we must, in any case, comply with reality. Don't try to please others, let alone at any cost, but we live in a certain environment and we have to follow certain standards. They will give us peace of mind and confidence in front of others, because otherwise you simply cannot escape from society, or fall into isolation and lose. You have to be cool, baked, neat, confident. From now on, you can now start playing those who are trying to play you lightly and finely. It's a bit naughty that you become like them, but there is no other way - this is your protective reaction to the environment. Otherwise, try to preserve your human nature internally, because, although vulnerable, it is the most valuable thing in our country. About the chicks. They just look like some lovely fluttering creatures, otherwise they are extremely simple - so much so that you can't believe it ... But if you always remember this, you will save yourself a lot of trouble. Your task is to choose the most acceptable option, the most readable one, from all those superficial women you meet. Don't play the bagpipe for her, because they themselves do not know their interest, but act on instinct. Once you let her manipulate and humiliate you, she does.