It all started 3 years ago when I met him. He was older than me and had a serious girlfriend, and he only used me when he had nothing to do. But I fell in love with him, I don't know why everything attracted me and drew me to him. I didn't last a day without seeing him, though he paid me no attention. A year passed and after so much effort he was already with me. After a few months, he was already swearing love to me and repeating to me that he loved me. And it really was. I could see it in his eyes. But the fact that it was already in my hands and I owned it killed the thrill, and it seemed to interest me. He started talking about a very serious development in our relationship and I got scared. There was a period when I didn't want to see each other and then the other one appeared. Everything with him was much better than with my friend. I avoided him, we quarreled and after a while we broke up. I stayed with the other boy and eventually forgot about him. But now that 6 months have passed, I realized that I still love him. But I can't be with him, he hates me and says he doesn't want to see me. Help me do not know what to do.
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If you don't know what else to tell you? You have done it so complicated that no one but you can help you. Look ahead.
Do not imagine nonsense as you swear that he loves you after years before he only used you. The fact that "you already hold it in your hands and own it" becomes "uninteresting" to you is a fact that proves that you don't love it either. To you he is a thing and nothing more. There can be no question of love either on your part or his. Things are very simple - you want to have a friend, but he has not yet appeared on the horizon. There is no need to hurry. Do not press so as not to sit on a hot stove.
And I myself in the same situation ..... calm down. I know from experience that if you really saw the love in his eyes, he doesn't hate you.